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byvan:
About the bolded, i have heard something about brain/ destiny harnessing procedures carried out by a simple touch on a child's head .

Lol @ destiny harnessing procedures

Interesting thread

Six years later...

BABE3:
pastor ke?

that's why I said "little or no sèx".
The point of fasting is harnessing all of your energy and putting it on God by cancelling out noises (food, sèx etc).

I mean, is the couple gonna die without sèx for 40 days?

Considering that you and C are the champions of sex, sex and more sex in marriage, I find your views strange. But again, when we have a bias against a poster, we read What we want to read and not What the person actually posted.

40 days is a lot for couples who are not sick. That's 1/9th of a year. Throw in periods and not in tbe mood and that's a whole lot.

Happy new year

BABE3:
Coogar, When I say "beating", I'm not talking spanking or smacking; some.kids do need that at some point. I'm talking belt; shoes; koboko; pepper; iron kind of beating at every opportunity.

What brought about this topic was that I was on an African american forum and most of them didn't see anything wrong in what that NFL player did to his little man.

Overbeating is what is becoming the norm even in this day and age. I am very confident that a good 80% of african parents won't find anything wrong in what the man did. Isn't That a problem?

I gave examples of kids and people that weren't beaten and are better than the ones that were beaten.

My conclusion is It's easier to beat a child than to train a child; and since black people are generally mentally lazier, it makes sense that they overuse/overdo the beating. Any objections?

True

BABE3:
Fasting isn't focused of foods alone, is it?
Fasting involves depriving yourself of pleasure (foods, chatty friends, gossip, Facebook, Nairaland, etc), to have a deeper contection with God and hear from him. Those things I mentioned aren't bad, but they are forms of pleasure/distraction, and so is sèx.

Having sèx duing the period of fasting itself (eg, 6am to 6pm), is counterproductive. Coz I don't think it's possible to hear from God when you're under the sheets.

Little or no sèx isn't an option (for a couple that's serious about fasting). It's a requirement.

No sex is not a requirement for the duration of the sex. It depends on mutual agreement.

Pastor Babe, 2015 is a good year

@OP:

These are strange Yorubas

Good you guys have postponed the wedding

If during the time the lady doesn't see reason and stop being silly, your brother should drop her sharp sharp.

She has not acquired the wisdom to run a home

Billionaires are looking for how to cut cost.

hazureal:
Wow! This is really serious.
Where's Chaircover?
I'm not really experienced in tackling issues like this, but I would advice you meet with the family personally to iron out this issue with them (since they didn't listen to your uncle).
Honestly, something like this happened mid last year to someone close to me. After the bride's family demanded all sorts in the engagement list, plus payment for two different halls(one for engagement, another bigger for the wedding reception), they still told the groom's parents that they and their guests would not be catered for, so they should arrange their own catering (unbelievable, but true!).
Well, the groom's mum reached out to her relatives and they helped out when the expenses got too much to handle.
What if the groom's parents didn't have anyone to run to?
The issue really got me annoyed when I heard it, but I had no say.
Reading a similar story now makes me wonder........


That bride's family is irresponsible and greedy.

I hope the groom enjoys the marriage
Anyway, I'm very interested in this issue. A lot is going to be learned here.

The bride's family is irresponsible and greedy
I hope the groom enjoys his marriage

thorpido:
If they fast 6-6pm,then they can make love in the night.if the fasting is a 100days,I don't expect them not to touch each other at all throughout except dem be G.O.
If however they decide on a 3day fast or even one week of total abstinence,then they are welcome(by mutual consent).

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thorpido:
if a couple is fasting,they obviously wouldn't be having sex at that time.The choice of how long-how many days is subject to other factors,like mutual agreement,spiritual leadership and instruction they both follow e.t.c.
Couples will have intercourse when they break their fast.Those who mutually decide to prolong it can do so.I believe when you break fast to eat,you can also 'replenish' the body.

I think the mix up is What is classified as the duration of the fast:

Taking the last year fast as an example, the duration can be the 100days or 6 - 6pm they fast daily.

@OP:

Your parents are being responsible parents.

Lol @old by 21.

The wife must have gotten to her wits end before coMing to you.

Let her do trial separation for about 6months where both of them can think about What they really want out of the marriage and discuss it afterwards.

The discussion would determine the next step of the marriage

Pretty woman

@OP:

Don't pursue the money since she is not willing to pay however next time know if she wants to 'borrow', she will not pay back. It helps you to give her what you can part with.

If you were very comfortable and she does this, it might be painful but it would not as bad as now when you had to sell your laptop to source for the funds.

pickabeau1:
OK..

Ok

pickabeau1:
It was your post
Read the boldened part of your post i quoted

Yes we don't live in an ideal world
Does not mean we endorse deviant behaviours in the name of liberty


Your post again below

Do you know the meaning of endorse?

And yes, it is better those interested in Sugar or renting things do so than marry when they are clearly not interesting in staying married.

cococandy:
he moved on

Ok then,

It is painful but he has to move on

NO!

Tallesty1:
Many people ain't cool with their parents.

True that

pickabeau1:
No problem
Its all liberty

Wait! You actually think the world wilbe better with licentious relationships, promiscuity everywhere And bed brethren....as against people working through conflicts and providing stable bedrock for kids to be raised...

okido..

Did you read that from my post?

The world will be better if everyone is good, play their part etc. etc. unfortunately we do not live in an ideal world.

Tallesty1:
There are times we need to ask ourselves questions and answer them truthfully.

What I’m talking about today is the reason some ladies will leave everyone they know in a state and go to the city to stay without a job or handwork.

Personaly I don’t see why anyone will love to leave his or her beloved family to spend time in another part of the country without a genuine reason.

Their(ladies) reasons most times are, They want money, spouse, They need to be free from parents and everyone they know, a job etc but they don't know that in so doing they have pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

Thats why you see them Being used in the relationships, Guys see them as spare parts element and not wife materials, the very unfortunate ones are being killed for ritual purposes.

It breaks my heart to see the pitiable life they live here.
You see them cooking and washing for guys. Some are even married without their parent's knowledge. On sundays they would be praying for a guy to ask them to cook for him so that at least their would be something to eat. Crazy things like that.

There are those that have moved into the permanent site(Prostitution).

There is one around here, the only time she sleep at home is when she is seeing her period. No job, oh sorry, she is got a job. Her job is her relationship, she is got more than five guys that are dating her.

And there some (gosh) that date sugar-mummies(lesbian sugar-mummies).

Typing the stuffs they do here just to survive will definitely give me keypadtriosis.

I know that some of them do succeed and make money but every other thing seems to be against them.

My questions are:

1: Why leave your village when you know that you don't have anything serious to do in the city?

2: Is the money worth what they pass through?

What parent would allow their daughter to go to a city where she has no relatives nor job (not job for mouth but with confirmation/employment letter)

Nice One

Especially the Principle of First Response and Mirroring

robosky02:
3.The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satano will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3–5

how does this apply

This clearly answers the question especially the bolded:

If the wifey doesnot agree with hubby, then it is a sin for hubby to deny wifey of her martial right

ileobatojo:
You're married. She's married.

What's your dilemma again?

Just what I wanted to ask

What really is the problem?

cococandy:
Where's your mom? She needs to teach your brothers how to help out in the house.

OP please answer this

pickabeau1:
If you dont think there is a difference from old rich women having gigolos and career women of marriageable age who should be in marriages having boyfriend experiences.. Then no issue

Happy new year to you also

Last I remembered, everyone has freewill and power of choice.

Having a 'boyfriend experience' is wrong however it is better than actually going through the motions of getting married and not wiling to 'be married'

We read stories that touch in the family board a lot; if the men & women not willing to stay married decide to have rented girlfriend/boyfriend, sugarchildren, bed mates etc. it will make the world much better.

My only grouse would be if woman wants rented b/f and boyfriend is thinking they are in something serious and vice versa.

cococandy:
His wife abandoned him with their two kids and traveled abroad.
Hearsay has it that she's hooked up with someone else now.
Although they are not legally divorced yet.

can he influence her deportation back to Nigeria?

Note:he doesn't want to continue the marriage with her just wants to punish her for her wickedness.

Is there a way to get her deported?

Any feedback/way forward?

pickabeau1:
Did you read the article at all
These are career women not some old women

It happens does not mean it was getting mainstream

Is there any impact the age bracket or what the woman does for a living have on the subject matter?

Happy New Prosperous 2015

cococandy:
Girls prostitute= feminists
Boys prostitute= fault of feminists.

Na wa. Is there space anywhere in all these for the blame to go to its appropriate quarters?

That is greed and love of money causing boys to sell their bodies for money to the highest bidders?

Death to the feminists

AZeD1:
Well that's my theory. Besides when ever people give you vague answers like "When you marry, you'll understand bla bla", it means they have no point.

I agree with you in most cases

Just like when you grow up bla bla

mployer:
I even do that in the restaurant sometimes

Used to do that too

Sometimes clean up an hotel room or the table I use in a restaurant To me, good manbers

@OP: All has been said

cococandy:
I wonder how this is news or what it has to do with feminism.

Even before my mother was born it has been in existence. Kini big deal?
Just like there are women who don't wanna do real work to make money,there are also men who don't want to do that either.

Easy money. Chop and clean mouth. No strings attached.

Nothing new. At all. at all

@Bold: you have time

Asewo, gigolos, pimps are as a result of feminism

Once you have a career = feminist

Enjoy

pickabeau1:
Yes

The difference is that it is now accepted and mainstream

Male escort service
Reality TV shows

Accepted and mainstream in our culture or abroad?

There is nothing new here; sugar mummyism or young boys sleeping with married men did not start today

I know a grandfather whose first child was from a married woman.

As to acceptance; who or What is stopping them?