₦airaland Forum

okotv:
that's how God has designed it

EfemenaXY:
Good morning house & Happy Boxing Day!

What better way to start the day than making my special breakfast treat...

Homemade pancakes served with golden honey syrup, sausages, scrambled eggs (fried without a single drop of oil, compliments of my non-stick frying pan), hash browns, cucumber slices, strawberries, lettuce, and Clementines - all in my bid to strike that 5-a-day fruit & vegs.

Drinks: hot chocolate and milk (for little madam)

edwife:
Thank you dear

Merry Christmas to you and yours

okotv:
as if both sexes are equal but deep down you know its not possible .

goofyone:
You know, you really aren't a feminist as such. At least from your arguments. You just reason a little differently.

okotv:
now I know why you argue the way you do...no offence though cause I respect you right of speech

okotv:
are you a feminist or do you support their ideas

Evina:
All these gender equality talks!

The westerners who introduced the subject, take on their husbands name. Do you have more money, success and fame than Beyonce? Who proudly calls herself Mrs carter on her tours?

The females in under developed countries who don't fully grasp the subject, are causing problems for themselves.

Property of a man, what is wrong in being his property? So long as that property is not being misused or abused, kini big deal?

Ilovenigeria:
Yeah you are right. I just decided to do something fun and dangerous for once.

lilmax:
religion? How?

CoCoLav:
I know my dad loves us and we love him too. Thanks for the advice

CoCoLav:
My sister went with him. She came back and told me how the man climbed upstairs and really surveyed the area meanwhile the MTN place is just on the ground floor at the entrance.

Ilovenigeria:
This Christmas, I told them I am going for Ashoebi, I hv already shown them the traditional attire my tailor made for me whereas I am going to spend two days with my sweetheart.

cocospice:
Merry Christmas all, forgot to snap.

cococandy:
don't mind me

ihedinobi2:
If Buky wasn't married....

cococandy:
oh really? I thought I'd seen you post a pic of it before . My bad.

We are fine dear.

cococandy:
you like banga soup a lot. Are you from delta state?

ihedinobi2:
Merry Christmas, bukatyne How's the chicken coming? (Forget turkey, it's a waste of good money and stomach space.)

So, do you know many men that accept such gifts from their own brothers? Or that give them?

silverdam:
That lady who sent that mail about sleeping with Wizkid
must be in pain now.Tania just doesn't care or its Wizkid's
words against an unknown side chick.



http://www.misspetitenigeriablog.com/2014/12/tania-omotayos-sexy-outfit-for.html?m=1

ihedinobi2:
@mployer, what is wrong with a man being proud and insisting that he has a responsibility to clothe his children and that he has not failed at doing so? He said that this cousin has never been to see them and knows nothing about their real circumstances. Additionally, how do you know the intent of this cousin? Are you omniscient or something?

@kingmorgan, how you feel is perfectly understandable. A man feels insulted by gestures like that. They don't mean the same to him as they do to a woman.

For a woman gestures like this are at least as much for bonding as for practical need. The fact that you don't need those things is only one factor in her eyes (and the less important factor at that). Bonding between the two cousins is another factor.

I would advise that since you can afford to provide for yourself, you should probably reserve some of the best of what she sends for your kids to keep fostering the good feelings between the two families and give the rest to those who need them. And you should probably invite the cousin over to visit for a few days so that she can get more familiar with your circumstances.

Timbuktou:
Oh, just basking in your bless-ed status as an extremely fortunate black woman. Congratulations.

smartigo:
Had to quote you. God bless u jare. Some women n fish brain,very irrational being. A man had defined himself openly,yet you live n endure shit.

TV01:
Ihe, hi, hope all's well. Saw you shout-out, thanks very much. Just beeen chillin' and chasing down other things. Wishing you a merry x-mas and a most fruitful new year.

@Bolded, a worthy sentiment, but very few are capable of living up to that. Be it a social construct or due to our wiring, men are designated providers, priests and protectors. Any imbalance there is liable to cause issues in their relationship.

Take the priestly role for instance, in instances where men fail here or are simply weak/uninterested, many wives look to pastors or other spiritual icons - and lots of marital convo's are typically initiated with "pastor says".

Even yet to marry girls sef - after a few knocks, I studiously ignored those ones - I suggest single brothers do the same or at least make it very clear who is pastor in their home, and if the MOG oversteps the marital mark he may be met with a head-butt !

It's a mans pride to be able to provide wholesale for his family, and typically both parties feel absolutely comfortable with it. And society rarely questions that - a woman thrust into that position will feel resentful - and more so if it's a struggle to make ends meet.

On the whole women want men who can lead them, and that can be difficult without a solid financial footing, as provision is somehow implied. Even women that want to be able to control their men, don't necessarily want to have to feed them to do that.

Women typically marry up, and that is not something that I have a problem with as there are clear biological and social drivers for that. Ask any of the female high-earners here if they would seriously consider marrying a man who earned 50% or so less than them? Not unless a desperate situation warrants it.

The number of homes where men provide the bulk of the income still far outnumber the relatively few instances where women provide more, let alone all. The economic landscape nowadays typically means both parties are required to make a monetary contribution.

@second bolded, again that is actually best IMHO,but it demands you shoulder that burden to provide for your household, not something that would easily swing in the reverse .

@Post, why are financial troubles in marriage now reduced to "men not being able to provide/secure an income"? It's worth touching on, but that can only ever be a relatively small number of homes. Even if the wife contributes more, it's relatively rare for a man to bring in absolutely nothing on a long-term basis, or even less over the course of the whole union.

There can still be monetary issues/dilemmas regardless of the split or source of income, especially where resources are limited - as is the case in most homes. Perhaps the discussion could touch on communication and creativity around agreement and utilisation of resources. Deadbeat husbands have taken a beating already on this thread .

Absolutely agree with Bukatyne re headship - or at least I think I do? Headship is the mans by default and not predicated on his financial capabilities, however, a facet of his husbandly role is provision.


Off to season my turkey.

Merry crimbo everyone


TV