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crackhaus:
Lol...you don't get it yet, read the OP again.

Buka is one of the many sneaky and coy females that litter this section.. Her entire post was to mock and have fun at the expense of posters whose POV she doesn't agree with.
I could go there and quote the exact lines for references, but if you were objective enough as I'm sure you were seeing that you already joined in on her idea of fun, you would see that this entire thread was premised on ridicule.

Can you imagine she typed at the end that she doesn't need bashing or nonsense, after doing the exact same thing by starting the topic?

She doesn't know how to take back that which she gives, and that is what makes her easy target - there are about three/four other females like her on this board, very easy to confuse and made to look silly.

I won't gain anything, neither is it a mission - I'm just hounding her, but if she really started this topic with good intentions she wouldn't be getting angry over my simple question.

Despite the fact that her OP and a few subsequent posts of hers were choked full with the 'laugh' emoticon, Buka suddenly got mad because I asked a simple question.

Isn't this thread about feminism, feminists, and anti-feminists?
So how then is my question unsuitable?

bennyrazz:
I really don't know what bukatyne is trying to achieve by opening a thread like this when we all know where it would lead to.

VickyyB:
Most Nairaland Male are filled with hateful vibes.
Ask them meaning of feminism and they would tell you; UNSUBMISSIVENESS, MEN HATERS, WOMEN THAT NAG, WOMEN THAT FAILED TO CHANGE THEIR SURNAME, FRUSTRATED DIVORCEE AND SINGLES, LESBIANS ETC

Foooools! Google is your friend.

damiso:
Hi Bukatyne..

Compliments of the season to you


I actually agree with most of your original post. I too think its boring the way feminism is dragged into everything I.e. 'my bro wife refused to give me meat' next thing 'the wife must be a feminist' I also dislike the way everything must be adjudged according to gender lines and as such issues that are sometimes peculiar to a couple have to turn into pages upon pages of gender wars.

That said the part I disagree with in your post is when you made a mention of homo.sex.ual people.Britain(will use that cos I live there and have studied this subject academically) actually has a legislation called the Equality and Diversity Act and the underlying premise is that Everyone is equal regardless of race,GENDER (I bolded that for a reason), age, religion, se.xual orientation, disability etc etc.

See definition:
Equality and diversity is a term used in the United Kingdom to define and champion equality, diversity and human rights as defining values of society. It promotes equality of opportunity for all, giving every individual the chance to achieve their potential, free fromprejudice and discrimination.

That definition is almost the same as that of feminism only replace with women's rights.So in essence like feminism it seeks to say that we are all Equal which is what most modern feminist tend to agree with.To say you dont agree with gay people means you have a prejudice against them. So in essence if you agree that gay people are not like everybody else like it is in Nigerian law you are actually don't believe in an Equal society for All. If you discriminate against a disabled person or think an older person might not necessarily be good for a job based on their age alone (not based on skills experience and readiness to do a job) you don't believe in a truly equal society.(note those ifs are not second guessing your beliefs pls clarify where you think differently).

I used to think that society should treat ALL people equally and have an interest (both academically and profdessionally) in Equality and Diversity but the more I study it as well as experience real life I see that a truly EQUAL society is an Utopia that sadly does not exist.

Some of the principles of TRUE EQUALITY (not just gender equality) also go against my faith in some aspects. So all in all its a very subjective topic.

Note also upon all the legislation (which am sure was to pander to some certain groups ) Britain is still a largely inequal society in certain respects.

Chillis:
The same way you fry rice .
Boil you beans until soft.

Fry your pepper, onion in Palm oil. Then mix with the beans .

Voila. Fried beans

Herzumpther:
Lol. Oya na move in but it will be turn by turn o, I always want to have a taste of all the delicious food you post here too.

dinachi:
Nothing more to add you have adequately exposed yourself from your post. It is now confirmed, you are a man hating pseudo feminist! As for leaving your thread, I am sure that your feminist addled brain should at least know the meaning of the word PUBLIC forum. Do something about your blood pressure, before you collapse one day from HBP!

AfricanApple:
of course they can't stay away. you know what they say? the truth is always bitter. when you spark a cord in them they can't just help but type

omicron:
Lol, all of the above

Herzumpther:
Abacha for breakfast. ogbono and amala for dad's lunch since he doesn't eat yam and then yam and egg sauce for others.

dinachi:
You are dense! I never expected this to be a meaningful thread coming from a biased man hating pseudo feminist like you. Sensible people will always resist that idiocy. I don't expect you to agree, common sense is not common after all!

dinachi:
Though I think this whole thread is a subtle lame attempt by the OP to resurrect interest in feminism. The truth is most members now avoid feminist threads like a plague knowing that the word is hate filled. No sensible decent human being worth their salt will waste their time supporting that idiocy, especially as practiced online by some female clowns like the OP.

bukatyne:
You must be really slow...
Is the OP about feminism/defining it or that posters should stop wetting their pants at the mention of feminism/sight of feminists and move on if they do not like them?

dinachi:
That's what I am talking about! Don't mind the OP, hypocrites everywhere!

Champella:
Ever since i joined this forum in 2013, i've noticed that some persons here have in one way or the other helped others with vital information to better their situation in times of need. They dish out information that would not have been heard or found by an ordinary person like myself.


These people have helped to shape the lives of aspiring Students, Undergraduates, Graduates, Job seekers, etc by offering words of advice to better their lot. They have a few things in common. They are intelligent, hardworking, sincere, humble and their oral and written communication are top notch. They seem to know almost everything.


Without wasting much time, i'll reel out their names in no particular order. They are:


1. Jarus - He is a First Class Graduate of Economics from the prestigious Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU). He's a Financial Analyst in one of the Oil & Gas firms while also doubling as the CEO of www.jarushub.com, a portal which focuses on management and career guidance for young Nigerians.

He has the following threads to his credit:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1984762/does-undergraduate-course-study-really
* https://www.nairaland.com/1439338/how-break-into-oil-gas
* https://www.nairaland.com/1245277/common-interview-questions-answer-tips


2. Xfire - This man has been firing on all cylinders since 500BC. He is a Chemical Engineering graduate of a Nigerian University. He is a practising Engineer in one of the Multinational Oil & Gas Companies. He exudes class, confidence and style. He has rendered his selfless service to humanity by creating the following threads:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1870828/top-10-most-demanded-jobs
* https://www.nairaland.com/1576265/achieving-dream-career-story-lessons
* https://www.nairaland.com/1886746/3-misconceptions-fresh-graduates-make


3. 2sexy - This is one guy i can vouch for anyday anytime. He is a Petroleum Engineering Graduate of the prestigious Petroleum Training Institute (PTI). Having met him in person earlier this year, i can proudly tell you that he's sincere, hardworking, intelligent and smart. He gives in 100% in anything and everything he does. He never hoards any information. He is more than a Nairalander. He is a brother, a friend and a mentor. Below are some threads to his credit:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1795408/jobs-total
* https://www.nairaland.com/1799429/hnd-vs-first-degree-battle
* https://www.nairaland.com/1080644/vacancy-baker-hughes-recruiting-ond


4. Davide470 - He is a Chemical Engineering Graduate of the University of Benin (UNIBEN). He is currently working in one of the Financial firms. He also doubles as a Moderator in the Jobs/Vacancies section of Nairaland. Believe me when i say that this young man is smart and intelligent. He has helped out where necessary with vital information on this forum. He has these threads to his credit:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1835625/baker-hughes-2015-graduate-field
* https://www.nairaland.com/1448199/total-nigeria-plc-application-process
* https://www.nairaland.com/1550916/odd-jobs-did-during-nysc


5. Tanimola22 - So many people on this forum have benefitted greatly from his posts. He is very intelligent, humble and smart. He seems to know almost everything. He offers words of advice to admission seekers at home and abroad. His analytical skill is second to none. These are some of his threads:

* https://www.nairaland.com/768160/total-oil-gas-workers
* https://www.nairaland.com/733669/investment-banking-mergers-acquisition-raising
* https://www.nairaland.com/695034/european-union-nigerian-job-hunters


6. Ajanlekoko - He is an Electrical Engineer in the Telecoms industry. He is someone i respect so much on this forum. His words on this forum in times of distress calm lots of nerves. Here are some of his threads:

* https://www.nairaland.com/287216/telecommunications-professionals-zone
* https://www.nairaland.com/1259723/nigerian-students-generally-study-wrong
* https://www.nairaland.com/1053999/doing-phd-often-waste-time
* https://www.nairaland.com/750574/how-much-should-entry-level


7. Jpphilips - He says the right thing at the right time. He is always on point. I really admire his intelligence. His problem solving skill is what wows me. Some of his threads are:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1953877/these-6-countries-screwed-oil
* https://www.nairaland.com/1812638/nma-strike-patientss-perspective


8. Ajahexcel - He is the brain behind www..com. He informs all students (Aspirants, Undergraduates, Graduates) on the latest scholarship available be it in Nigeria or in other countries. It gives me joy reading his newsletters on my mailbox daily. May God bless you for your selfless service. Some of his threads include:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1876045/2014-top-5-nigerian-schools
* https://www.nairaland.com/1908744/shortlisted-candidates-2014-addax-nnpc
* https://www.nairaland.com/2004489/apply-seof-scholarship-secondary-undergraduate


9. Imag5 - He is a Geophysics Graduate of Ambrose Ali University (AAU). He is always willing and ready to help out in anyway he can. He has created a Whatsapp group to help out with the latest information with respect to the Oil & Gas sector. He is a very kind hearted young man. His threads are:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1471516/geophysicists-geologists-petroleum-engineers-professionals
* https://www.nairaland.com/1582137/tutorials-solving-dragnetshlkenexa-hang-out


10. Scantee - He is an IT guru in the Oil & Gas industry. He is always there to help out the younger folks like myself with adequate information to enhance job performance. Words alone can't describe how helpful and generous this young man is. However, he has this thread to his credit:

* https://www.nairaland.com/1106896/oil-workers-zone



Honourable mentions to: Dailynews, Ideology, Oyb, Bizngr, Orikinla, Dustydee, AroOkigbo, Hndholder, Debosky, Conyema12, Timmy, GODAKPAN, Weselion, Edoblakky, Jaybee3, Sagamite, Darellrivers, MsSteph.

You guys have been very wonderful and helpful to so many people on this forum. May God bless you all. Amen!

delishpot:
I think hubby is still financing most of the family needs. She is working for her own happiness, not cos family needs her salary.

Since hubby is still the main bread winner, she should relocate and go look for a job where hubby is.
So far, OP did not say the lady was avoiding any form of abuse from hubby by earning her own pay.
I do not know who the kids are with right now, as that will also influence my decision. If they are with mom, I will encourage hubby to let her have her own moment. Let him visit them every weekend. But all in all sha, if all is good and happy at the home front, she should go to where hubby is.

crackhaus:
Can everyone see how Bukatyne keeps dodging simple questions?

I do not think you are anything, you already helped me & everyone else avoid the pain of thinking when you declared yourself a feminist?
And for this reason, I keep asking you to tell me about the waves of feminism, and which of their ideologies you support.

I have respected you so far and have not used any words you would term 'insulting'.
You on the other hand keeps getting worked up over simple questions that give even simpler answers (same attitude you displayed on that your thread in the religion section.)
You're also the one who used the first insulting word here when you referred to my post as nonsense which I conveniently ignored, because it doesn't take long before you start crying wolf and playing victim when someone courteously returns an insult in response to yours.

It seem you have anger issues, or you just don't like being disagreed with... too bad.

If you want me off the thread, put a damn padlock or password over it and lock me out as it is now your exclusive property.


Now tell us what kind of feminist you are...

edwife:
I dont think it is always the case, nevertheless RESPECT is paramount .....

Compliments of the season....

AfricanApple:
@bukatyne, the most annoying part is when make any post that is anti-male you are labeled a feminist even when you are not one.
anytime they here feminism, their eyes will just pop out, why na

laplace19:
Curiosity....are you fat?

Fkforyou:
So this is the central theme?.....alright then.

alutacontinua:
I have said this over and over again and I still stand by it.
Feminism has no clear definition, it's a subjective word. The above totally captures my own PERSONAL stance. However, I also believe that in a man and wife relationship, hubby is the HEAD! Feminism does not entirely agree with that point. Feminism does not even like to embrace the differences that cut across both genders, irrespective of how glaring it is. Feminism does not believe in gender roles, I absolutely do! So, dear bukatyne, I'll be a bastard to the cause if I say I am a feminist. I am not a feminist but the man that will cheat me cos he has a diick is yet to be born!

crackhaus:
Is it nonsense because you don't like how the question exposes you for the pseudo-feminist that you are?

Answer the questions and convince your readers how much of a feminist you really are...simple!


I already know you don't like criticism, neither are you built to take it in good stride - keep running from the questions about feminism, which coincidentally is what you created the thread to discuss...or am I missing something here?

tron23:
Okay, I dont always do this. Here is my wahala. I am married, living abroad, my wife is 7mths pregnant. We are expecting our baby soon.
Now wifey isnt working, cash is abit tight. An owing some money, we haven't started buying things for baby yet.
I intend to clear my debt in the next 3 mths, and start buying baby stuffs. Now, as am the sole bread winner I want to stop paying my tithe, settle my debts and begin to live Within my financial means, wifey is insisting we pay tithe.
Also, we have Bills, rent and she aint contributing cash. I can't keep asking people for help, I don't like this life style. Presently wifey is vexing. She just went out. So what do you all think, an I wrong.

Please mature comments only.
I personally feel that I need to live within ny means this new 2015. No more extravagant living.

Fkforyou:
this is it....you just spoke my mind.
The truth is some people are actually here to learn,because this section is supposed to be comprised of individuals with a great deal of experience and wisdom.

sweettease:
I concur with the dad.
All these nigerian elder brothers and sisters, cheating us younger ones since 1700

krystal101:
Bukatyne God bless you real good

Edwife you took the words right outta my mouth, I just read & hardly comment. Children everywhere now in family section

Fkforyou:
Interesting.........
But what is the central theme of this this thread? cos I dont think it has any.

crackhaus:
Bukatyne before we go any further, are you a true feminist?
What ideologies of feminism (according to the categorized groups) do you support?

edwife:
Agreed but that's goes both way too,i just think family section was meant to educate,advice and support every issues concerning marriage, kids, family etc...but recently it has become very childish....romance section is no longer conducive for them, so many kids around here...

everyone is entitled to his/her opinion, and i also noticed anytime a lady speaks her mind which goes against a group of ladies posts, she is seen as an enemy or she is seeking for men to cheer her up? like seriously? We can't think the same can we? We all have different backgrounds. Same applies to the men, when a guy is on the ladies's side.

Family section isn't fun anymore, too many bias arguments and gang up.....SMH
I avoid commenting in most of the threads these days, no point really....

deeptesting:
Did you really write the bolded? SMH.. Because his father has a mistress he should not guide his children in the right direction? Jesus has to come quickly.

SAMBARRY:
Let me come back from ikoyi then I will reply




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