₦airaland Forum

MadCow1:
My reliable Sources informed me that Suen has been made an offer he couldnt possibly refuse to isolate the Muslim section from the rest of Nairaland..


So basically, you are free to enter any part of Nairaland except the area that houses the potentia Terrorists and Mujahadeens..



The Isolation of the Muslim section of Nairaland should be a cause for National Security concerns..

Na waya

pickabeau1:
no wahala..

Just chill on the anti naija diatribe

we have enough of it on this forum from the NIDs

I do not have anything against Nigeria; I am a proud Nigeria ( I am glad I was born a Nigerian .. Lara George)

I have issues against some Nigerian way of life

2 different things

I am sure other nationalities have their issues too however, I am only concerned with Nigeria

iykedare:
Nice thread. I`m in.
You guys need to know that faithful men could become unfaithful and vice versa. The steps to tacking this kind of problem is to find out why men cheat and circumstances which could push men to cheat. No man was born to cheat. Women are just being unrealistic and selfish when they refuse to understand that some men have genuine reason to cheat.
Its not just enough for you to want your husband to be faithful because you are jealous or because you made a marital vow. NA na na na .


Instead of opening hundreds of threads on faithful and unfaithful men every hour,ask yourself ``[size=14pt]why do men cheat[/size]``??

Please don't come to spoil this thread

If a man is NOT satisfied with the conduct of his wife sexually or otherwise, it is HIS duty to tell her where he needs improvement lovingly and if she does not bulge, report to his/her parents, pastors, elders, ignore, separate or divorce.

There is no excuse for a man to cheat; none!

I believe you do not realize women have 'reasons' to cheat too? or it is the sole rights of men? If the woman in that cheating tread decides to cheat, she is seen as a cheat whether her husband pushed her or pulled her. if she does not repent, she will be punished as an individual for it and vice versa.

I thank God that everyone will be judged individually and accordingly.

Those who are 'pushed' to cheat; carry go... You may be 'lucky' to be judged with your pusher

pickabeau1:
ok...whatever works for u..

The nigerian man you married just happened to exist without any roots...

He is not one

MadCow1:
True That!


SO basically, ehn wife just get bad character.

Exactly!

Wat's up with the Islamic section on NL? I wanted to compliment some dresses on one hijab thread and I saw confess you believe in Allah abc and I ran

pickabeau1:
Have u gone to other forums aside NL

have u interacted closely with other nationalities

A prophet is not welcome in his home

Bros,

I rebuked and rejected a 'Nigerian' man and God in His infinite mercy answered my prayers.

I have neither the strength nor time to cope with one

MadCow1:
Whats your point exactly?!


The guy say ehn wife dey hala for am, you dey talk about neighbours.

He should not blame it on feminism

Even some of the women who existed before the advent of feminism were disrespectful to their husbands.

saucechilli:
My dear, you can say it again. Mothers married to their sons instead of husbands. Once their sons have a baby, they pick up their Ghana must go bag heading for omugwo. Leaving the wandering blokus man of a husband. That kin life.

Pathetic

Very frustrated and jealous women.

Odutodaiwa:
Madam mutter, may your days be long. I have a non submissive woman in my home now. Infact, I would be better of marrying an illiterate. You actually made so much sense with your advice on how to treat her husband. A lot of these our 21st century girls are made about these their women's right today. Very soon our communities will collapse like the african american community.

A white feminist woman teaches our girls that men and women have equal rights. Dem white feminists get back home and shower love on their husbands only for you black mugu to be shouting on your man. you say 10 things before he says one. Tell me any man who is will willin to cope with a nagging wife today.

So equal rights = shouting competition?

Do you shout at your mates at work or school?

If you are a tenant, all tenants have equal rights and obligations, do you scream at your neighbors?

majekdom2:
cheating is not a Nigerian thing.

I have never heard it justified any where else like this

Nigerian men (with Nigerian behaviors)! Tufiakwa!

SirShymex:
And when did broke nyggahs start cheating? The only thing broke nyggahs have and use for stress relief is their wives' pum...cos there ain't no one checking for broke nyggahs out there.

However, these women have the world on their feet...and they could have opted for divorce, and run off with half of their husbands' wealth. But they never did that. They're classy women who understand the fact that imperfection is what makes us human. And that thought their decisions through, by looking at the bigger picture.

Only nasty and needy women think about wealth as the on glue that makes marriage work. Sometimes you just have to look at the bigger picture and what the institution represents, including the kids involved.

What advise do you have for men whose wives cheat?

cococandy:
no they will spend it looking for the love the husbands didn't give them from their sons. Frustrating their daughters in law and generally being a nuisance to the young couple because they spent their youth and the age they should have been loving up living in bitterness .

I always say that 95% of bitter MILs are women who were unhappy in their marriages.

Doncolio:
Really! If you check us out, you will find some of do. But at that point, its hard to tell the kind of person the advice is coming from. So we fall in the multitude.

I always long to see such comments but they are scarce

roWzayy:
@bukatyne he cheated while we were dating....I thought maybe it was because we lived apart (distant relationship)dat was d reason y but now dat we are married he is still doing it#i didnt marry him to change him even when I complain den d advice I ll get is dat all men cheat & I shouldnt bother mysef as long as he is taking care of me..the tin now is dat how long will this continue

Hmm...

Nobody can change another roWzayy....

If you were not married, I would have given you an earful.

You are and I believe it is wrong for you to divorce/separate because you knew exactly what you were getting into.

Try Daresh's advice and see what gives.

Also try to understand why he cheats

Goodluck

RollingFella:
Lol. Not entirely true in my own case. I do comment occassionally on marital issues, but do not frequent NL due to time factor. But i understand your take on this...lol. Kudos to you on your effort on this thread.

@Italics, Thanks

@Bold: It is not my thread O! However, the question always play in my head. We have 3 trending cheating threads. Take a look at them.

RollingFella:
For more than a decade of marital bliss, i have never cheated on my baby. She is da bomb and rocks my world! 'Baby, i just can't wait for our xmas vacation....'

Oga, I don catch you

See my post below:

bukatyne:
Just thought of a thread like this but in different dimension
My grouse is all the faithful husbands on NL (according to them) rarely surface on all these cheating threads to set things straight.

I want an answer now

jennykadry:
I am stateless and countryless



I have given up on cheating thread since last year. I am not prepared to go through the long epistle again lest I give myself high blood pressure.

I grew up with a father who told me each time that I should see myself as a woman a man will Be lucky to have and not vice versa and back in the day, many nigerian men did not understand this. I was called rude and arrogant. Even my uncle once told me that no man will marry me with my I TOO KNOW....

I think leaving the shores of Nigeria has helped shape the lives of many nigerian men. You can tell sometimes when you are having a discourse with a nigerian man in Nigeria and nigerian man in diaspora......educated ones I mean. I'm not trying to be rude but I spend atleast a minimum of 6 weeks in Nigeria everyday and I can tell the difference

Honestly, it is terribly depressing

When I say my husband is not a Nigerian man, I know what I am talking about

It is well for our sisters.

Just thought of a thread like this but in different dimension

My grouse is all the faithful husbands on NL (according to them) rarely surface on all these cheating threads to set things straight.

jennykadry:
90% of nigerian women are stewpid

jenny don vex

That is what they saw their mothers do so what do you expect?

Tomorrow their children will ask the same questions.

[quote author=iykedare post=28124568][/quote]Let's assume all women who get cheated on were immoral in their youth (a very false generalization), are the husbands 'God' to determine their punishment? Do we say that all men who are cheated on played the field while they were young?

And dress sexy, cook etc. are advice to combat cheating? I guess wear silk boxers and develop 6 packs will do for men.

And please, do not reference my family going forward, I did not refer to yours.

If it makes anyone have an heart attack, please do: not all women would tolerate cheating

roWzayy:
seriously I dont know what to do....I think I ll just go along with what daresh wrote

OK

This is the post below:

Daresh:
My sister I tire! I have asked this question before, why in heavens name will you seek such attention to jeopardise your family? Wetin? My dear OP, NO GIVE YOURSELF HEADACHE! You see this tin your husband is doing, my own did it well well. I wish I had blanked him, I was there giving myself headache. It's when I stopped sending him and blanking him ehn, he started behaving himself. It's going to be very hard, but just blank him.
Phase 1
Don't try and look at his phone, don't check messages or call records just blank him.
Phase 2
Put a lock on your own phone. Go out with friends, come home late. Receive and make phone calls and be happy with your life. Don't even act like you notice his bullshit. Keep a positive and happy attitude I promise you he will start to fear
This worked for me and many other women, don't fear, be strong. In this life, it is only you that can make yourself happy my dear only you. And at the end of the day, you are on your own.

I see you have already decided to stay with hubby (cheating et al).

Was he cheating or like this before marriage? If no, what changed?

I see her advise as treating the symptoms. why don't you dig deep to understand why he is cheating? (please note I AM NOT blaming you in anyway). That will help you know the way forward.

Why are guys suddenly hot under the collar?

The woman is doing what she clearly likes and enjoying herself so what is the P?

hehehehe!

iykedare:
What is really your point? That women shouldn't get married because you are not married? Or that there are no happy marriages? Some people eh. Single girls be beefing the married women.

And what is your point?

Any lady who doesnot consent to typical naija BS must be single hehehe

The same ladygogo who opened a thread on low budget & classy weddings and posted her wedding pictures?

Please note that NOT ALL Nigerian women (married & single) will subscribe or consent to the usual BS. NOT ALL Nigerian husbands are the same and some people actually took their time to marry the excellent ones and not the shaft we have around.

If you are not depressed, running from one church to another or looking sad, wearing red pant & pant about, you are not a married woman in Nigerian terms. If you do not give senseless advices on how to 'keep' cheats and abusers, you are single and 'jealous' of the 'married' ones.

I keep saying it, there is a man for every woman. Find yours and let others be.

Cutehector4u:
yes, nd she helped my curiosity by stating her rship status

Yes sir

Cutehector4u:
she says she aint married

Bros, did I say she was?

I asked you asked how you knew her martial status when you referenced it

Cutehector4u:
whre is bukatyne...are u seeing wat am saw...

What are you seeing?

youngice:
U never jam devil

I have heard of cases where guys date a lady for years just to access her honeypot and ends the relationship after the deed

youngice:
I observed that most comments were devoid of truth

the term use and dump most rightly refers to when the Lady in question is a novice , which means she is still a "learner".
A guy will approach her, caox her in to thinking that he loves her, he can even go as far a promising marriage, the guy then drains her emotionally,physically,spiritually some times financially
The guy now elopes or dumps her , leaving her a shell or Shadow of who she once was
This leads to the term " use and dump"

God bless you for this

I wonder who started the phrase...

Ok, let's be real... (What do guys mean when they say use and dump)?

FrancisTony:
Average Nigerian girls know nothing but marriage, that's why they sob whenever a guy dump them.
You will see a girl in her late twenties doing anything(both good and weird), to please a guy because of marriage.

A Nigerian girl would rather marry than to be hardworking.
It's cool that we now have women who don't depend on any man or allow what society would say get to them.

That's a perfect woman.

I think you all are not fair to Nigerian ladies...

The same people expect them to get married et al turn around and castigate them for trying to get married. Don't you see the amount of BS posters spill on Rita Dominic threads?

@OP: You guys are just being funny as usual. Who started the use and dump talk?

turasumon:
some women self. is dere gold in d front seat? personally I prefer sitting @ d back but u self no try ooh

What is some women?

Is the OP who expects the front seat be reserved for him a woman?

Cutehector4u:
the Op is not married...look at her profile...dat does not depict one who is a wife...

The OP stated the story was culled from linda Ikeji's blog


@Profile pix: How do you know that is the OP? How do you know she is not married?

Sophyrocks:
Now this is my problem with men like the one Op is talking about. You approached a lady and found out she has a child but you still go ahead and date her for years. Then when you start to see that the relationship is serious and leading to marriage, the same f00lish guy will start asking stup1d questions like 'What should i do' 'Should i marry her'? A guy that loves full figure ladies goes for a slim girl then he expects her to magically transform to a full figure lady, forcing her to overeat. Do you see such a guy as knowing what he wants?

Its very obvious a lot of people dnt know what they want. Why can't people just stick to what they want. You dnt want a single mother, then dnt go for a single mother in the first place. Now what does the guy want the lady to do? Kill her child so that she will no longer be a single mother? A lot of confused men around. I guess a lot of men prefer murderers or ladies with no womb as wives. A lot of hypocrisy going on.

I cannot wrap my head round this OP's "friend" too