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walearoy:
I don't know if I'm posting this in the right place.

On saturday 15/11/14 I would be having my Msc Convocation ceremony at ibadan.

I am that kind of person who like to have friends and family around to join the celebration and snap picture.

Most of my friends would be present but the only brother I have won't reason being he said he wants to go and meet his girlfriends parents.

I convinced him that it can be shifted while my convocation cannot but he remained adamant.

Now my question is should I get angry with him or just let it pass?

NB
He also missed my matriculation and Bsc Convocation

thorpido:
That's true.How can we help some of these young girls?

iceberylin:
Lol...y u hate me ni

Swizdoe:
L
And what if she doesn't

tupacshakur:
Doing it with prostitutes is kinda like mechanical as one is mostly restricted to limited sex positions and certain parts of their bodies...Some no go even commot their bra. Some go commot, dem no go let you press bre@st. Some go let you press bre@st but you dare not suck!

Besides, some men, like me, love them young, fresh, inexperienced and GREEN...with no hairs in-beTWEEN, you know what I MEAN!

Meanwhile, I think r@pe and paedophilia are evil acts and should be condemned in all ramifications...

By the way, so if dem leave you with that man, one-on-one, you go fit kill am? You get gun? Abi you mean say you go kill am for bed?

iceberylin:
Imagine when she says stuff like "i wish your my man " to her EX

Then u'll know how it feels...


she sef na Human Being

aisha2:
I am going to be very harsh with you
you need a reality check.

Grow up. Why is it everyones fault but yours? You want another pity party.

First of all your parents even in their lack sent you to south Africa to school, you got involved with a violent criminal, dropped out of school and he was even trying to love-vendor you out. You somehow found your way back home, oya follow your mother to the market so she can help you learn the trade and hopefully have your own shop so you can grow and fend for your child that was war.

Now you are complaining about her life choices and her life while she is feeding you and her baby, clothing you and giving you money when you still refuse to work abi follow her to the market. You are over 18, what she does for you now is not your right and yes you are disrespectful to her, all your sibblings can not be against you but instead of facing the truth humbling your self and growing up you want to return to your ex convict love-vendor of a husband, later now you will come with another whinny post.

Grow up.

The only person I pity in all this is your innocent bab

Grow up, why dont you woman up and do something good with yourself instead of running around like a headless chicken. Women have survived and are surviving under worse situations enough of this whinny everybody hates me posts. Go and apologise to your nother learn a trade and do something good with yourself. Go back to that man at your own risk

thorpido:
It's so important to raise young girls right.Mothers,please spend quality time with your daughters and feed their minds. Some girls just grow up d**b.

Young lady,this abuse will continue cos you brought it upon yourself.What you have to do is get a job,no matter how little.That way,you will become less dependent on your mum and you will be able to save enough to get an accommodation of your own later.

cococandy:
right?

Tiredwify:
Uhmmm....

Just like some of you suggested, i went on my knees to beg him. I apologised for locking up his shirt and every of my action that might have gotten him upset. Meanwhile, he stopped eating my food and sleeping in our room.

He said he knew my intentions were right but my approach was wrong. I told him that if he had answered my question that night maybe there wouldn't have been need for quarrels.

He apologised for beating me and that he didn't mean to.

Okay! Quarrel settled. I have resolved to do the following:

1. Speak to my pastor to arrange counselling classes for us
2. I will ask him for monthly upkeep and whatever he says becomes the rule for that month.
3. I will never ask him how he spends his salary again.
4. I will start saving on my own (massively)
5. I will ask him for every need in the house, i will assist in meeting the ones he cant meet.


Please chip in one or two things concerning these resolutions of mine.

Thanks for being there always!!!

dein77:
If a woman decides not to forgive her cheating husband, she's seen as not doing enough to preserve her home. It's the way it is.

Somehow, the capacity of women to tolerate some extreme nonsense seems a wonder to me.

Forgiveness is a choice, and I don't think I have sufficient grace to forgive a cheating wife...

Happy Sunday, dear.

Innunique:
She gave up many tins 2b wit dat guy, so I kip 1daring y he treats her so,and we are d closest relatives she has in dis west.

JEITO:
My dear stop giving yourself headache trying to prove that he's cheating on you.

What if your suspicion becomes true, what will you do about it?
You'll only spoil your marriage because you'll birth distrust.

My advise: if you think he's cheating on you (which might not even be true), look for ways to get the spark back into your marriage(that's what you should be concerned with sef) you don't have any business trying to know the other lady; your business is your husband. Get the spark back and other women will be non- existent to him.

Teespice:
I agree with your post.

however, you seem to forget that in this part of the world, a woman is expected to forgive and if she as much as files for divorce on grounds of adultery, she is blamed for not realising that a man has the wandering eye.

personally, I can't forgive a cheating partner be it in a relationship or marriage and the man should do same for me as well.

Sophyrocks:
Of course they dnt but they always expect forgiveness. They even use emotional blackmail to force the 'forgiveness' out like using the children as a bait. Thats why u hear some say that a woman has no choice but to forgive 4 the sake of the children. If the woman decides to leave, the cheating hubby hands off from the kids and assumes he has no kids.

DukeNija:
You can say this now that you are single, after many years of marriage, with so much financial, physical, emotional and spiritual investments, with children and pressure, i strongly believe you will not have this same opinion when the chips are down.

cococandy:
in naija,there are plenty married sugar mommies and daddies. In fact being married is a prerequisite to being a sugar anything to anyone

kilokeys:
its not unusual to feel awkward when ur lover just gets up and leaves after kpanshing. esp when there is no form of communication, cuddling and all.
they experience aftershock instead of the afterglow of just being intimate with someone.

jewel4Hiscrown:
Please elaborate



Thanks, @teeboo. Please elaborate; things like what? And how do you avoid too much familiarity with the in-laws without offending them/causing them to feel rejected?



Thanks @bukatyne. I agree that what works for A might fail B, and miserably so. However, if A and B both have strong marriages, I'm sure we will find certain common principles they both applied that stand the test of time.. those are the principles/modes of application I'm curious about ..

And I agree that a long marriage does not necessarily mean a healthy one, but in our generation where divorce is not a big deal at all, I think sticking it out says something..

smurfy:
Don't forget to show this thread to her when she finally shows up.

Sophyrocks:
So from the responses, men would rather not be told. Women una dey hear? Cheat but dnt get caught and dnt open ur big mouth. Men be hypocrites o. Dem no dey forgive but want forgiveness. Carry ur confession go grave o.
#catwalks out of thread#

dein77:
Seriously, the world isn't fair to women. I believe that will change in the coming decades.

I will never share my wife with any other man.

If I find out, e don be!

darisgod:
Tie gele sef



So na woman dey no fit forgive
if na man now na just ordinary begging
If na woman na family meeting

Mrsmansson:
During courtship whatever I wanted ,he would go for it
We said two,I have one now and maybe the other will come next year
It's not,even an issue of number of things
He says I feel too important,so therefore whatever he wants must not be from me

Icherishu:
Yea you are right everyone deserves that respect. But some people won't just let it slide. That is why I keep using me me word. I personally won't make a fuss out of it.

Icherishu:
Yea you are right everyone deserves that respect. But some people won't just let it slide. That is why I keep using me me word. I personally won't make a fuss out of it.

anthoniaz:
Thanks...no ooo, we don't live together, I visit once in a while, we live in different states. My fiance's tenant is more or less like a brother to him(fiance) because they all lived together back home so whoever visits his tenant is also a friend to my fiance and this particular guy in question is always around cos of job search though he has a job nw,2weeks off,2weeks in,so he lives with his cousin who's my fiance's tenant.

Truth is, he's tired of his friend's attitude but I tell him to just forget abt it.Last month he wanted to pick me from where I was so we could go and buy our rings, lo and behold, the guy jumped from the house that he wanted to follow him.I tire for the guy matter but I don't complain sha even when oga is complaining I just tell him to overlook his friend. Make e no be sey I no want him friends around

pickabeau1:
aisha2
Nashville
be long
TV01
subzidi
bukatyne


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