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kulyie: if you cannot go there and read up on your own instead of relying on secondary informations online,thats up to you.this convo is over babes

Take it cool missy

Jman06: Divorce is not wrong in this case,are u wiser than God? who said a man can divorce his wife on d ground of marital infidelity?.

What's your point Mr?

biolabee: Bolded.. true wise words\\if u cant trust yiur wife?
A man will literally wilt standing....

Now this is where i ll not be happy with you because you have always advocated women stay in adulterous marriages

[quote author=baby_123]Wonderful [/quote]Glorious

kalufelix: na simon okechukwu the don naa
u no knw the man??

Lol!

toshmann: Hehehehe
Una see why marriage na nonsense in this 21st century! This na man wey go arrange store for him wife o, working hard to set up his wife o. And she did this to him. And she even get supporters here
Message: e be like say adultery is going to be common in Nigeria as it is for here where I de live

She was doing it with a married man who couldn't drop money at home but could buy a pot of peppersoup for his womanfriend

kalufelix: yeah dats wat ah learnt 4rm him if yhu like. Even the wisest man dat ever lived was no different.
Wht do yhu intend to do abt it?
Cheat back??
Goodluck to yhu...
Am sure the husband have cheated so many times

By wisest man, I assume Solomon;

Did you read about his end in the Bible?

Don't worry, when you are cooling ya ass in hell, you will realize it's not a 'man's world!

murimoney: women are neva satisfied

What about the married man she was cheating with?

freecocoa: Walai I didn't see it o, na now I just see am.

Freecocoa, how you go see am when na free cocoa you dey find up and down

freecocoa: Lmao @ buying the whole pot of pepper soup .

Stup!d woman, no respect for her marriage whatsoever, its a shame.

Did you not read that a married man and a married woman were cheating on their spouses?

kalufelix: I'l leave yhu to ansa ursef buh if yhu cant then dias no definition cos dias no need 4 the definition.
U get ma jerk??
Its a mans world baby...

If I am to interprete what you said,

'A man is free to commit adultery because it is a man's world'?

Clap for yourself.

Is this what you learnt from your dad?

Policewoman: Wear sexy boxers? Abeg leave that matter joo. The woman is a HO.

If the woman is a ho, what is the man she was caught with?

Infidelity is very bad. The husband should call the wife and sit her down so they can have a heart to heart talk on what made the woman stray. The husband owns the wife, he knows the best mood to discuss with her. He should also check himself and endeavor he is romantic, wears sexy boxers and triple his action in bed. He should not worry, his wife would come back to her senses. He should also not forget prayers. There is nothing God can not do, fasting would also help.

The husband should remember that divorce is wrong. Marriage is for better for worse. These are the worse times, things will still be better.

It's well

byvan: If you went through my post, I never stated that we operate a joint account,i said I have free access to the incomes as I manage the funds . There is no privacy to our personal accounts as we jointly use them alternatively.I made it clear that I have no qualms about having a joint account with my husband if he initiates it(when I start working).


Because Because he has proven himself worthy worthy.Yes,the famous "people change "mantra comes to mind but then one can never be too securIe about life no matter the iron clad plans put in place . Life itself is a risk,we can't be too sure about anything but then being scared of living it is riskier.


I have decided to enjoy my life ridding myself of all stereotypes associated with marriage,until my approach to my marriage becomes ineffective,am stuck on it.I have made many choices in life and am yet to be screwed by them,the people that claim to be all knowing are the ones fumbling with theirs.



This earlier post is the basis of this discussion"The person you married will forge how you feel about this issue,if you are married to a man that wants to control everything and answers to non like babyosisi said please don't do it".One size can never fit all

The bolded is very beautiful

One knowing what he/she wants to be in life also helps very much (Vision or purpose). It automatically reduces the pool of eligible suitors.

'When a person has no destination, anywhere becomes his end point.'

If a single is not happy, he/she cannot be happy in marriage
If a single is not complete, he/she cannot be complete in marriage
If a single has no sense of fulfillment, he/she cannot be fulfilled in marriage

Marriage is NOT a status symbol! You are telling people that you have found a companion that together you want to fulfill your collective and individual purposes.

If you want to marry because:
you want someone to cook your meals get a cook
you want someone to wash your clothes/clean get a maid
you want someone to pay the bills get a job/rich maga
you want security get a maiguard
you want a change of name go to a court
you want kids adopt or get a baby mama/daddy

However, if you want a lifelong companion with all the above in the package .... GET MARRIED

it's well



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mentorken05: I’m happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort,which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.
This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

Lol!

She looks very beautiful

kulyie: go to the department for gender and women studies in oau,ife and read books on the philosophy of feminism if you want to know and if you are able to comprehend what i typed up there,that should gibe you a clue whether or not feminists are against marriage

And how does this post answer my question?

Sisi's post nailed it.

kulyie: the problem feminists generally have with black feminist is that they want to eat their cake and have it.they want to be feminists,yet marry and have kids.you want to be feminist yet collect money from men

so its more of a parochial thing than 'sisterhood' in africa.feminists support each other thats what they refer to as sisterhood,african women struggle with each other,slander,gossip,backbite and bring each other down because they are after a man,yet they claim they are feminists.even the feminist organizations we have here in nigeria e.g the nigerian council of women society,which is one of the many feminist organization was built by a man,i am refering to the one in lagos,v.i.i dont want to mention the name of the man but they received financial support from him.that cannot be feminism

Is the concept of feminism against marriage?

pleep: Oh shut up, good grief was i talking to you

I was repling to a comment from logic boy, read the damn convo before you comment!

You never disappoint!

If you were well mannered, I might have sworn that someone hijacked your moniker

coogar: which is why you should not make comments that show bias against other religious groups. #liveandletlive



i am updating this weekend - i have overused it. the weather of the past few weeks has been unusually cold!



thank you, jenny!

Can you quote any of my post that was a bias against other religious groups?

jennykadry: I guess there are happy polygamous homes. I remember as a kid we had this neighbor who was married to two women, these women loved each other like sisters. You dare not come in between them. Even their own siblings could not bring rivalry and jealousy into their home

Are you sure they are not in the same witchcraft coven?

biolabee: Husband... hmm... ok more like the fiery buka...

@mama jhyde... when u say ur father what do you mean...

Fiery Buka?

What is more peaceful that freeing someone who wants to leave?