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DailyNews: When I see a thread that says:

Men are polygamous in nature, I don't argue it cos I know its true, but I only find solace in the fact that I know myself.

Same with when girls say: all guys want from a girl is sex, I also know its true cos majority of guys are victims, so I don't go abt arguing but I also find solace in the fact that I know who I am and what I am up to...but not to start arguing or disputing what the poster said, and that's how a reasonable human ought to behave in life.

The world has all gone astray, don't argue anything u hear or read or try to justify it becos u happen to fall into the group being talked about...just be yourself and know who u are and u don't need to bother...unless u are being tortured by ur conscience.

So to say, majority of today women have gone wayward and astray, period! If u are good, proof it to any man u meet and not by arguing here cos it proves nothing but makes u look guilty as accused!

Majority of today men are sex-driven! As a man, I don't need to argue it or justify it, all I need is to proof who I am to any woman I meet, period!

That's how people should behave and stop insulting and attacking people for voicing out their mind on a topic.

Are you a Christian or a moralist?

The reason why this thread will not achieve much is because of the views of some male posters

How would men believe that they have the right to sleep around and still condemn the women they sleep with?

How would the men believe that sleeping with a girl belittles her and still begrudge her for collecting money? You say 'you use and dump' and cry foul because the girls want to have something to show for time spent?

Until we tackle the issue from the grassroots, threads like this will just be created and achieve nothing.

When we realize that men and women are equally guilty, the problem will never be solved.

Docii001: I hope you really mean all this you have typed. I must say any woman with this understanding is truly blessed. That is what I keep telling my little sister; don't jump on a guy because of his money but because of his brains,ambition and drive and most importantly because he will do anything for you(you can shape him as you like). I have an aunt married to this very rich man,they live in the most porshe part of lagos,have fleet of cars but she's only allowed to drive one of the cars(which is the smallest),the only time she ever goes near other cars is when he's away on a 'trip'. My Dad on the other hand doesn't have a house worth a billion naira but we have properties in middle class areas in lagos and the very house we live in now, every member of the Family contributed to it in some way,I know how much of my mums money went into the windows and decking and that's why my Dad always tries to give her whatever she asks because she's very supportive and helped him build from scratch(they started from the bottom). There's nothing wrong in marrying a rich man(infact money is very good), what is wrong is when the riches blinds you to his damaging faults and corrupts your decision.
We all know the story of GEJ; Patience used to feed him from her mum's canteen while he was in school while they were dating. She saw something other than riches and now its visible that she has a strong hold(forget sambo, she's no2 in Nigeria) over the Grand Commander of The Federal Republic of Nigeria; "the man who had no shoes". My advice is don't be that woman watching Tv and wondering if I knew; shine your eyes properly!

Dear, I don't say what I don't mean. You can check around for my previous posts.

Thanks at the compliments .

Don't you notice how GEJ is anytime he's around Patience? I think it's because a lot of women don't have ambition for themselves. They see the men as their ticket to 'financial freedom' forgetting they can only be as free as the man wants them to be. Money can come/go anytime but true love endues

mdsocks: True...
Only in the home do women have to submit to their husbands. All humans whether male, female or hermaphrodite are equal before the Almighty.

[3:195] Their Lord responded to them: "I never fail to reward any worker among you for any work you do, be you male or female - you are equal to one another. Thus, those who immigrate, and get evicted from their homes, and are persecuted because of Me, and fight and get killed, I will surely remit their sins and admit them into gardens with flowing streams." Such is the reward from GOD. GOD possesses the ultimate reward.

You mean the bolded is in the Quran and Maclatunji keeps dancing up and down that men and women are not equal?

deols: Uplawal matter, I try to avoid. You wouldn't believe she used to be a Christian with her attitude towards non Muslims.

That woman/lady has a bitterness in her that changing religions cannot solve. I see the way she interacts with even fellow Muslims.

How are you?

[quote author=baby_123]O gb'ede are india. Naija ponbele ni e. Ku ise omo dada. Ko lo sori oke, ki olorun gbo adura e. [/quote]Lol!

Nomski0: @OP In movies this might work but in reality.....not so much.

Why do you think it might not work in reality?

@OP: I agree with you fully that they truly work. No 5 is essential. It's lack of it that makes people do evil towards others.

As for the touching part, I no dey there o!

It's well

enky: money is not all but essential in a relationship ,she may feel comfortable but don't be deceive ...the raw truth is that she has not seen another guy more comfortable than you are ,if she do,love will fly of the window
every human being will always want to step up and ladies are no exception ....be wish

Madam, it will be good you don't generalize your beliefs across board. Some very wise people have discovered that money is just momentary while true love is not and they hold on fast to that love because they know money can come anytime. A poor man today can become rich and vice versa.

@mascot87, I wish you best of luck with your girl.

uplawal: Honestly who is trying to get married to MACLATUNJI?He still remain the best male poster on this thread,especially thread 5,He hits the nails on their silly unislamic coconut head,Sis Zayhal tried too,my advice goes to the corrupt feminist on this thread that calls themselves muslimas(Fellis,Deols etc)Pls soft your gra gra pedals,if you dnt real life marriage issues will either stop it for you or you live a single life(IYA NDAGBE).

PLS MUSLIMAS SHOULD BEWARE OF DEOLS SHE IS ENCOURAGING MUSLIMAS TO ENROL IN TAEKWANDO IN OTHER TO BEAT THEIR HUSBANDS,SAYING SHE CAN EVEN BEAT A LANKY MAN(HUSBAND) IF SHE LEARNT TEAKWANDO,REAL GOOD MUSLIMAS DON'T HAVE THIS CRAZY ATTITUDES,AND SHE FINDS IT OK TO INTERACT FREELY WITH BUKHATYTE bukatyne EVEN THAT ALLAH FORBIDS IT.

I am just seeing this and I must say your head is clearly in the clouds.

When did an healthy discourse btw muslims and non-muslims become a sin?

It's your type that become book harams

biolabee: Being cheap is about the mileage...

If tom, slick and harry sleeps with the same girl, her value is lowered cos her mileage is high
Its not about the remuneration paid

Whatever rocks your boat

biolabee: Well that is your personal POV

If a man places a premium on satisfying his needsn why begrudge him

Remember the principle of utility

If a punny is worth 50k to me, it is worth it

The same punny y be worth 3k to someone else

Beyonce's punny is being chopped for free by jay z while someone else will not mind to fly a private jet for a taste of it

That's life

I am not begrudging him but it will be foolish for that man to turn back and say that 'the woman is cheap or whatever'

maclatunji: I am sure it won't take a month of marriage for many of the pretty ideas running in your head to evaporate in the face of reality. Love thrives where there is comfort and withers where there is little or none.

Love means different things to different people.

If a man loses his job after 10yrs of marriage, what happens?

Don't worry about me, I know the kind of life I want and I am working towards it.

I also know that God will crown my efforts with success.

biolabee: But the man also gets pleasure wih the added effectof having an 'exotic' babe around

Does the woman not get the pleasure? Does the man not do all the work? Does the babe not have the added effect of having a cash money around?

It's a woman paying a man to eat her food

eze moses: all these girls and peer pressure. To me it seems they even talk about these nasty things they do when they are together. Even compare what whose man does for who. They are prostitutes and they can't see it. That is why when most of us have tasted and paid we just dump them . They then say men are dogs but they do not see what makes us lack respect for them. Even when married they still want to be treated like prostitues by their husbands then they wonder why we can even leave them for the other

The bolded puts you on the same level with the women you condemn.

If you have the choice of sleeping and 'dumping' them, they have the choice of sleeping around for the money.

The joke is really on you; you sleep with a girl, give her pleasure and still pay her for it.

maclatunji: Dear child, when poverty walks in at the door, love flies out of the window.

Really? And men keep complaining gold diggers abound?

I am sure it's because there was no love or the money was the man's only value in the first place

It is really lack of contentment and keeping up with the joneses.

Pedro JP: U are trying to make me deviate from the topic. Women have influencial emotional powers that men can't build through out their whole life. Powers that emanate from their mind. Once a woman gets hold of this potential, u hardly notice a fall out btw her and her man hence a successful union. I'm not saying men do not have their roles to play but i think 80% of the burden falls on women

Anything that rocks your boat sire.

lorretta u: this part I totally agree with.God bless Bukatyne.

God bless lorretta u also

Pedro JP: @Lorreta


When u write apology letters u don't make suggestions. U acknowledge ur guilt totally. I'm not against men writing apologies to women but Mam. This is more than an apology,more like venerating,worship,obeisance,adoration. Mam, Women no deserve dis type i beg

@bolded, but you are expecting this from a woman?

Pedro JP: My dear, i guess i shud say u just narrated a fantasy rather than an ideal thing. Watch every successful family, u'll always see a patient and understanding wife. There must be times of fall outs in marriage,a woman detects its state(mild or rage). Do i xplain further ? Not saying cos i'm a man but saying out of xperience

And for this supposed success, a husband doesn't need to be patient and understanding? A man cannot detect the state of fall out and fix it?

I am not narrating a fantasy but an ideal thing. What is fantasy in husband and wife should make their home work? Am I missing something?

Anyways, successful marriage mean different things to different people

AngelDina: OMG its indian rupees and here prices on high huh ......! and m giving my turst trust my whole life and loyeltyloyalty, honesty and all my love to him... i'll be always der there in high or low time ..!

Madam OP,

You are proposing to give the supposed wealthy man your trust, whole life(like you his savior), loyalty, honesty and love in exchange for his wealth. Cool

1. Does this mean that you don not expect this qualities from him since he is bringing the wealth or do you still expect all these in addition to his wealth? If yes, what additional thing are you bringing to the marriage?

2. Are you saying that if you married a poor man, you will not bring these qualities to the table since he is not bringing money?

maclatunji: b[There is absolutely nothing wrong for a woman to want a husband that will love and care for her[/b]. I am convinced that if you remove all the superficiality. That is what 99% of women want.

They may not always get it, but it is what they want.

I wonder why we always love and care to be financially related.

How many women married to wealthy men felled loved and cared for esp. if they did nothing to contribute to the wealth?

Can't a man love and care for his wife with little or no money?

Ama28: Why do I feel this writer is a woman? Is it just me or does anyone else feel so?
I didn't see many characteristics of male writer in this!
I saw a whole lot of female characteristic like humility, loads of love and romance, admitting guilt and enough empathy to fill a car trunk!

The empathy was my give away character!

All the characteristics are not female but human. There are men who have them also

obi2012: Why do you think a black man can't write it? Don't generalize.. I am a black man and I agree with this message..

God bless you. May He bless you with a real woman.

Anvaller: Garbage Post...
This is to those who might be taking this seriously

U dont just copy and paste bulshit from anywhere. Even though I don't know the site u got this from but I am sure this is written by an american and more a black american woman and if it was ever written by a man its sure going to be a a stupid SIMP who lives on women. This is their mentality, they write this kind of bullshit and U Nigerians are embracing it.

Tell me, how does this apply to a typical Nigerian man? It is known worldwide that we are hardworking, family oriented and provide for our women not our women providing for us except in very exceptional cases. This is for black american men not us... Ppl be careful with allowing what u see online to cloud ur mentality and subliminally change ur perception of ur ownself, we are not like this pls, we don't have the black men vs black women divide that they have which necessitates them to be apologizing to themselves, our men are hard working and our women are responsible and take care of their husband and their kids we don't have the issues the black americans have in their community so why do we have to identify with this.. ? I don't know how many Nigerian men that are not willing to do what a man should do, like go to school, get a job, get married and take care of his family even in the face of hardship.

Total BS!!!

Dear,

I think this is where we are missing it.

The OP is not talking of providing finances. Don't you see men who provide for their families and still sleep around or beat their wives? He was talking of connecting with one's woman esp. wife emotionally. He was talking of cherishing, respecting and loving one's wife which can be achieved with little or no finances. He was talking about listening to her and not just telling her what to do.

He was also talking about women esp. wives helping husbands become better by cherishing, loving and respecting them too.


Men should learn to increase their value proposition: a man that has only finance to offer his wife has failed as women are now earning equal or more, financially independent and contributing financially to the household. He should learn to love her, respect her, be her greatest fan, cherish her, be her pillar and support and be her best friend. He should also be a loyal, trustworthy and faithful friend. He must not CHEAT on her. These things have nothing to do with financial muscle

Women should learn to increase their value proposition: a woman that has only house chores to offer her husband has failed. In this age where men are now as domestic or more domestic than women. she should learn to love him, respect him, be his greatest fan, cherish him, be his pillar and support and be his best friend. She should also be a loyal, trustworthy and faithful friend. She must not CHEAT on him. These things have nothing to do with domestic skills

basilo101: This was obviously written by a woman. I dnt kw y they waste dia tym fomulating these thories. We I jst wanna get laid, deal wit it

Really? A supposed man saying all he wants is sex?

Once again, it's well

gothrones: I disrespectfully disagree. Replace the "men" with "women" and the statement effectively becomes true.

This thread is not a man woman thing. The OP is saying 'men should love and cherish women and women should do the same'

gothrones: Obviously this nonsense was written by a woman, disguised as a man. One of the primary characteristics of a MAN is that we have never and will never apologize for who we are. If you have a problem with us, take your case to God in prayer. Bow down bitches.

You obviously don't know what it means to be a man. There is a difference between been a male and being a man.

Where did the OP say he's apologizing for being a male? That's all you gleaned from the write up?

Oh yeah, it's only a low self esteemed b!tch that would stick around a male that has no regard for her.

lorretta u: @OP,what did u really expect?that the men will agree to this?the earlier you realize that they are not ready to grow up the better for you.
The basic guy today will want to be like a kid let loose in a candy store.they have no shame in that.they call it their Nature.

my sister.you have no idea how many times I've asked myself this same question.one thing I know for sure is that 99% of men in this forum didn't grow up in a home where their fathers loved their mothers.it tells from their speech.it seems like an impossibility to them.as if loving your woman is an emasculating act..u can't blame them.
Like some people say,WE GIVE UP

My dear, it is really scary to think that these are the men that wants to build new families tomorrow. For the sake of humanity, I hope they are just fronting with these personalities online

It's well

I have read the OP and I don't seem to understand what is causing the wahala here

That men should be learn to love and cherish women esp. their wives and treat them right?
That men should learn to be more matured and not selfish?
That men also want to be admired and cherished by women and women should learn to do so?
That women should forgive the men in their lives if they have not lived up to expectation and start afresh?

It's well with the kind of men we have here o

OlowoTee: Your faith in God is highly emphasised when faced with any unpleasant and pleasant situations #difficulties, #sickness etc. So people who chose not to take drugs, do so based on their believe in God for healing. It wasn't enforced that members should not take western medicine etc. Maybe, If you meant traditional medicine, I would have said a resounding YES! I don't know how "agbo" tastes till today I remember my pappa never used drugs until some 2years ago!!!! And he never forced that on anyone...

And what is wrong with normal agbo?

What were the Christians before western medicine came using?

lastpage: Try "Ijebu" Garri, soak in icy/cold water (on a hot Sunday afternoon), dabble enough roasted Peanuts/Groundnuts on it, put a little Sugar to 'season' .....finally, to completely detox without reverse,

Gather a small bowl of Beans with a lot of the water used to cook the beans (better if the beans is mashed a bit, dont use Ewa Agoin ...that one is over-matched!).

Settle Down on your best Mat and walahi,.....

By the time you finish, DETOX is your second name.


Lastpage!

Trust me on this one, l have been doing it in the forty-plus years ..and you need to see me in person to beleive l am completely "detox" like a fine-boy!

Emmm oga Lastpage, does it only work on sundays?