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biolabee: i read your post well and i replied wella....
u bring up western men as models of good male behaviour but convieniently forget that immorality is the meat and bread of the self same west

maybe u have forgottem the feminism thread where ur kind make nigerian males to be Neanderthals and western white males are the epitome of maledom

rihanna displays her punana n goodies on screen
KK uses a sextape to become a diva
teen girls send nude pics too each other on fone...

no need to blow off... its just a discourse

yes its civilisation... indeed?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2325673/Pregnant-teens-yanked-high-school-yearbook-showing-baby-bumps.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2123450/Student-charged-having-hundreds-images-videos-teens-performing-sex-acts-school-laptop.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1352243/Mobile-phones-Teens-use-look-porn-swap-revealing-photographs.html

biolabee: This is true, all well and good

So let me ask u one q

Do the westernised and so called 'well behaved' 90s men u n ur ilk play up as a model of male behavior not also sleep with their teenage counterparts

is the explosion in immorality we have in afrika not a hige result of these same western influence

in the old days if a young man messed around with a girl... na marriage be that

all these sezzual license u see now... wetin cause am... same ol same ol feministic ish coupled with 'enlightenment'

davidylan: Well before the fall God had decided to make Eve as a "help meet" for Adam who had already been placed as lord over all in the garden.

Your summary here is unbiblical.

biolabee: Happy sunday
All kids are equal and should be discouraged from immorality but a gender is more important than the other

Pity it's the female one

Ish

benedicta0: pls o I mean that is not enough reason for the wife to disrespect her husband infact try and organise one marriage seminar and invite me since u know about marriage too much

Meddler: Pls I need to understand what this whole submission business I keep hearing means. Its on NL, in my office and social gatherings. What is it really?
I'm not married lemme quickly put it out there but why are ppl so adamant about this business of a head and tail. What ever happened to patners and being a team because that's how I feel marriage shud be. Raising a family shud be a team efforts where views are aired and decisions are made jointly as one. Off course there's bound to be disagreements from time to time but that's just the dynamics of social interaction. And yes once in a while someone has to back down and let they other person shine. That's just how the team works. It must not always be one person dng the backing down.
A marriage is team effort so when one person falls the other can pick up the slacks. When you co-own a business with someone else both individuals are required to give inputs, make decisions jointly for the good and growth of the business. Both individuals have to pull their weight accordingly and when either of them falls or slacsk off the other person is around to pick up the pieces.
So I ask again what is with all this submission business?

davidylan: You seem to not understand the Adam and eve story. As far as i am concerned, a man who wishes to enjoy a good marriage should not marry a woman who does not understand the power behind a submissive praying wife.

alutacontinua: Bukatyne, but you have to agree with me that a teenage girl getting pregnant and a teenage boy impregnating a girl are two different things, right?

This is not trying to be equal or unequal or hypocritical or play different rules, I think it's God himself that already planned the different rules in this situation. No matter how hard we try to make the female get over it, it can never be like for the male. I don't see this as playing different rules, it's facing reality and calling a spade a spade.

biolabee: Madam buka I no get pawa ooo


wheter you like it or not... it is the way it is
the consequences of mistakes made by the same age, adolescents are different in magnitude
the guy walks away and marries later in life

the girl is left with baggage... reduced partner pool, raising a child alone, stigma

spin it anyhow you like

biolabee: Ok keep on blaming the boys
The wise parents will ensure their girls do the needful

coogar: rubbish, if the girls are well-trained, they wouldn't become preys for the boys. how can you be well-trained and still fall victim to the predators?

biolabee: Well it may be double standards but the fact is the consequnces are greater with girls than boys

If a man abandons his seed he is termed a player
If a lady aborts she is called a witch

A lady then has to suffer single parenting for years until by hook or crook the man changes his ways and starts paying child support
meanwhile she has missed oppotunities to get married to others who dont want baggage


That's why it's better teen preggies are not encouraged at all

See the societal expectations are different

jidegirl12: *looks down* notice who?

Buka the 'pseudo- renowned' NL feminista?

don't get ahead of yourself missy (oun kangaroo) ,

I only laugh at all your stylish stup idly displays on numerous equal rights campaign threads and arguments you litter here with .....you no fit do e fights with me pfttt mba you're just a crunchy termite I use as appetizers you no fit.

Hey you don't have to refer to me, you dey sleepwalk? I get to say whatever I deem fit whenever and you're the last person to tell me how to say it ,you hear shogbo ?
Remember what Kelly told Bethany at the dinner ? .....Ehnnn oh Exactly (go look it up)

Boojie #2

Mtcheww

alutacontinua: Sweetie, we're all just getting real here. How many 17 year old ladies are out there today without a boyfriend? Some have even had like 5 sef...There's no point making it look like it's a crime, it's REALITY.

Maybe it's against our "moral codes and ethics" but it doesn't change the fact and CANNOT CHANGE IT.
So, that your comment was a lil bit harsh. At least baba Oyo or his son did not force the girl to start going out with him. She made the decision herself, I guess.

Also, the fact that they're dating does not mean they're having s*ex and all that.

I have a younger brother who is not even up to that 17, he has a girlfriend and I can say with 99% assurance and confidence that they're not doing that, even though i'm faaaaarrrrrrrr away from him. I don't know what they're doing in the relationship and I can't help but laugh anytime he gists me about 'them' but they're not sleeping with each other. All I do is chip in my own bit. It all depends on the child involved.

jidegirl12: Do you have to be this rude?

People you don't know and you chose to run your cerebral mouth on her?

This is exactly what is discussed here day in and out, people like you just like chose out of the blue unacceptable demeanour to spite other people to please themselves ...

I mean where & what is it exactly on this thread that warranted this uncalled for utterance from you?

* shakes head with disgust*

Bloody feminist.



Mr Fhemmy , thank you, we have to accept the fact/ reality of things in this day and age ,

dating starts at 14 here, Baba / Mama Oyo try sef with the boy, and it doesn't have anything to do with upbringing,

the more you're strict with them or the old time 'iron hand' you use, the more and greater they will be rebellious and/or keep thing from you, the key thing is be, their friend as much as you can so they can open up to you and come to you for direction and advice.

My Dad will say 'Omo taye bi laye n pon, I say the finished product is the koko.

The world is changing, may God help us.

bellong: Take it easy sis.... keep the fire within

Witty07: You have just lied. Which submission was as a result of sin. I beg, please do not say that again. Before God created a woman he has created all and created Adam and gave him an assignment and an instruction as well as warning. Remember that God Has placed the authority of man over everything before he created woman. The creation of woman came when God saw that Adam was lonely and he never created Eve the way he created Adam but in a different way by taking the rib out of Adam. Even at the end of the creation, God did not name her, Adam did. Yes, male and female he created them, but equal in the eyes of God with different responsibilities God knew he created a system and the system must have a pattern. Read Numbers 30 you will know that Submission was not as a result of sin. And do not mock God by trying to say that submission in the bible have different interpretation from both testaments. Do you think God is human that he will be talking from both sides of his mouth. Whatever is said in the New testament was a light to the old testament and admonishments.
Remember God is everything except evil. He is a diplomat, an authoritarian, He decides who is and who is not.

coogar: men everywhere!
whyme22 kept his wife's infidelity to himself. if the reverse was the case, he would have been reported to AIT/CNN plus the area pastor.....

coogar: men have always been selfless - they tend to keep the secret of their partner's infidelity than the women on the average.

coogar: and you know that, how?
hilary clinton is a powerful woman - what did she do when she learnt monica lewinsky was polishing her husband's knob? did she flee? that's a sensible woman you have there - a selfless woman. the woman put her family first before her own selfish pride!

Xavier1976: Our God is a veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrryy patient God. Women submission has been defined as a curse ? With the rate at which Bible is being re-written; a time would come when Abraham, Moses, Jacob, Joseph and others would be discovered to be women and God would be referred to as "SHE" because saying God is HE would be gender discrimination !!!

Witty07: I hate to hear people blaming tradition. Life is about the good and the bad. In those days we have families that without been coerced the husband knows his role and play likewise the wife and the union was so peaceful even when the husband loose it the wife keeps calm rather than shouting and before you knw it she wins. Inspite of this we still have those who abused it. Back then we have both bad husbands and wife, no exclusion. So all this blablah tradition is a ruse to me. There are many issues today becos everyone is astray, women claiming equality, men trying to ascertain control, women not been humble, men been proclamatory.
Meeeen, I tired of talking self. Let's go back to the root. THE DEFAULT SYSTEM

benedicta0: There is nothing wrong in that is just that both the husband and wife are lacking manners how can you just pounce on the pot and you can see she is trying to serve you the food.Beside it is not a big deal for the wife to disrespect her husband

adanny01: Reading all ur post (except 1) gave me big smiles and a feeling that all will be well.

On my son, i believe all will be well. Reason being that a strong adult gets tired of hm in less than 10 mins. The boy jumps like crazy without getting tired and can go on for hours. He dances to all songs played. Old and fragile ppl cannot hold him. Our house help, a woman in her mid 40's prefer any kind of household chore all day than to be alone with him for 2hrs.

Besides, he walks but not by himself. He walks while his hand is held and can walk holding furniture. Just not enough confidence and balance to let go off anything he's holding.

Wislet: People are different, with different orientations and no one should be seen as odd because of it. Everyone on the planet can NEVER be the same. It is good to try to understand a character from whatever angle they may be coming from, and not act James bond 'all perfect' movie here. Some here criticizing her do worse.
As regards the op's question, let's see it from this angle.... Some women take great pride in their cooking. They get this satisfaction when,after taking their time to cook for their hubbies in particular, they get to dish it to him and watch his appreciation of the effort. I think what might have upset the lady was the brash manner in which the man decided she was 'wasting' his time and had to serve himself. That must have made her see it as unappreciation. The best thing would have been to tell her he was famished and ask for a speed up/at least get her approval to dish it. Men should understand that women are different. You don't just barge into her 'zone'.
As for those forming 'civilized', how many of your fathers/grandfathers ever went to their wives' kitchens to open the soup pot. They didn't because they respected it as their wives' 'office'.
I hope the ladies here trying to 'impress' men here won't be the types to tell their husbands to go serve themselves,''Afterall, it's a 'modern' world we live in''.

Shakslayer: Please, what is 'Abunna'? Is it a kind of soup too?