₦airaland Forum

Dizzyyish:
To get started we need to see how men and women are not just different but polar opposites, so here are a few examples of the polarity between men and women:

Men are order; women are chaos.

Men must grow to have value; women don't need to grow to have value (wonder why they hate men who have standards..)

To upset a man tell him a lie; to upset a woman tell her the truth.

Men marry hoping she'll stay the same; women marry hoping she'll change him.

Men bottle up their problems/emotions so women don't use it against them; women offload their problems/emotions to men to relieve themselves.

Men are overt; women are covert (Side Note: often will one see/hear a statement that conflates female nature with human nature. One should probably ask themselves.. if one had to choose between an overt evil often seen from a mile away and covert evil mostly seen when the damage is [being] done, which would one prefer to deal with?)

Men tend to attack physically (unlikely against women); women tend to attack verbally/emotionally (against men with reckless abandon).

Men aim to conquer worlds; women aim to conquer men.

A man's test in life is women; a woman's test in life is material things.

Man wants what he doesn't have; woman wants what she can't have (Eve - apple).

Men put their happiness after women; women put their happiness before men.

Men love women unconditionally; women "love" men opportunistically.

Men have strong sympathy and pity for women; women hardly have sympathy or pity for men.

It's very likely for a man to stand by a woman who has done good for him in the past (https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature#113575657); it's very unlikely for a woman to stand by a man who has done good for her in the past
("Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.
Even though a woman has accrued past benefits from her relationship with a man, this is no guarantee of her continuing the relationship with him." [Translation: What have you done for me lately?]
- Robert Briffault, Briffault's Law)

Artiiclebeast:
God bless you.

I enjoyed reading your comment...lol

It made me remember my Sunday school classes


Peace, bro.

Savagr:
but getting the Chinese and Russians
Isn't it another problem because with time they may even start milking
That is if they are not already doing that.
To me, I think only the Nigerians can fifth their demons
No one else can

Savagr:
you have a point there
But what's the possible way to achieve that? Coup?

MrWraith:
Allying with Russia and China will get Nigeria nowhere. There's no evidence that those nations have plans other than dislodging the west and getting resources for cheap. Saving this country and continent as an extension is left to us and us alone. No savior is coming from far away lands

Artiiclebeast:
It will take us all working together as a unit.

First, we need to work towards building our loyalty and allegiance to the entity called Nigeria first and relegate our tribe, religion, and region to the curb.

So long as Nigeria exists today and we are still inhabitants/citizens of it, it is still the only one country we have. Any other ideas and visions to the contrary should take a back seat for now.

The next step is for us to imbibe the culture of respect for one another as humans first and brothers in the common quest for a better country.

We need to do away with the culture of mistrust and mutual suspicion of one another that has been used as a tool by the demons controlling the country to keep us perpetually divided into all lines which are fuelling their continuous stranglehold on the country and her fortunes for while we get busy fighting amongst ourselves and demeaning ourselves with derogatory names and words they go on a plunder unhindered.

We need to accept the harsh reality and truth that so long as this Nigeria exists, the man from the North, East, West, and South is our brother.

We need to do away with the derogatory names we have coined for one another across the board and try as much as we can to begin to rebuild the long-lost trust and ensure to convince one another that we are brothers and partners in progress against a common enemy.

The list is long but we can begin with these and you'd see a foundation begin to arise.

When all this is taking shape, the demons will realize it and our way to the throne won't be a walk in the park though but it would be easier and less intricate as it is at the moment.



All these are possible.

Artiiclebeast:
I won't even descend this low to your level and begin to hurl insults at you, but I'll give you a little lecture that'd perhaps jolt you back to reality and possibly help you to begin to understand that no one nor entity has ever succeeded in building upon a faulty or non-existent foundation and succeeded.

Whatever is built on a faulty, shaky, or zero foundation will only give those building it a temporary glee and thumbs up before it gets shaken and gradually begin to crumble.

If you think Nigeria had been a prosperous country until this present administration I won't blame you and so many others because it is purely out of innocent ignorance.

I enjoy speaking the truth and boy, it has been setting me free and seeing me through life. If you expect me to be a member of a bandwagon just for validity and likes, hell to the no.


Now, let me give you a bit of a lecture and this will be difficult for so many like you to take in and accept, but my truth, and what sets me free.

Before I begin, I need to plead with you and anyone reading to please, bear with me and read on because my posts get so long and comes from deep within for reasons I just can't fathom.

As much as I am a huge critic of this present administration and Buhari, would you believe that this administration has been the only one that has actually attempted at setting a foundation upon which a true government of the people, by and for the people can truly be built? Ironic and sounds stupid, yeah? But kindly read on.

I'll take you on a bit of a ride on how this present government came about.

You remember how everyone was tired of GEJs administration and had all sort of derogatory names for him until the Alibabas congregated, took advantage of the name Buhari and how he could deal with corruption to market him to Nigerians in the hopes that when he gets to the seat they'd be granted access to the coffers and subsequently get him to a annoint and handover to one of them at the least?

They met a shocker when they found out Buhari wasn't going to play the ball he had agreed to before they decided to prop him up. This was what led to their almost immediate decampment and such cries as Emilokan and what have you.

I can tell you here for free that what Buhari has achieved for you and I today which we hopefully would do well to leverage upon to begin to build a new country of our dreams wouldn't have been achievable if Buhari was personally vain, greedy, corrupt or cares about his personal image and people's perception of him.

It can only take a man in the mould of Buhari whom we have come to know as one who doesn't listen to any cries and hues, nor media criticism to get to work without distraction and deliver on what he has delivered on. This is just to give you an insight to how rotten the system is.

Yes, things are terrible under this administration, economy-wise, security-wise, and there are loads of thieves in his cabinet.

It is easy to understand if you will allow yourself not to get biased to see that if Buhari hadn't decided and chosen to face one major issue and deliver upon it, he would have ended up trying to do everything at the same time and ending up not achieving one single thing and these complaints would have still subsisted anyways, and there would have been no such enthusiasm amongst the youths in getting involved in the election process and the current Obidient buzz wouldn't have been this loud.

The buzz is this loud and gaining grounds because Buhari set the groundwork and decided not to meddle in the electoral process. The recent gubernatorial elections should give you an idea on this and how he refused to annoint any particular candidate for his party.

The people who worked to bring him on and his party members aren't happy with the fact that he doesn't use his powers and the machinery of state to influence elections as had been the norm.

I would have loved to tell you more about the demons of the land who feel disenfranchised about how Buhari goes about his thing without listening to anybody and running amok in their sabotage as had also been the norm before now. Keep following me, I'll try as best as I can to write more and also use my main moniker whenever I get unbanned.

Nigeria is so beat down and rotten that a President who feels he can face and handle all of the issues holding her down at the same time would end up failing on all indices, but here is a Buhari, who decided to face one issue not minding the names he'd get called and the general perception of him and went on delivering on the electoral reform which is truly what a country prepared for progress deserves and needs.

The electoral reform has given you the right and audacity to believe that you can register to vote, cast your vote, and your votes will count towards your preferred candidate.

The electoral reform act has given you the audacity to hope and get Obidient as it is.

The truth is, no one amongst those currently parading could have done and succeeded on this either due to their deliberate consciousness of media and public perception or their inherent greed and penchant for accumulating the entire world for their personal pockets.

There is a reason why Buhari can be called all the names in the world but a thief or corrupt one isn't one of it. Go ahead and point out assets or businesses linked to the man Buhari.

If he had the penchant and inate greed inherent in most of the kleptos parading today, he'd have gone on to annoint his successor to ensure his party remains in power for as long as possible and used the machinery of state to ensure this happen and nothing go happen. Everybody go grumble for a while and continue as usual.

I stand for the truth and nothing, but the truth no matter how bitter or hurtful it sounds to the ears.

I've made some writings on these and more which the mods chose to delete and subsequently banning my monikers for whatever reasons.

If Peter Obi is the one the majority sees as the Messiah and eventually gets elected, I pray he takes up the baton and finds the next critical sector ailing Nigeria and face it squarely for the next 4 or 8 years as the case may be. Only then, will we begin to see an atom of light. Itherwise, na the same vicious circle.

And mind you, while he'd be busy with his chosen ill to correct, other sectors will get worse and the outcry and criticism will get even worse than today's, but all he needs to do if he truly has the best interest of the country at heart is to pay deaf ears to the hues, cries, and lamentation and keep focused to achieve his goal.

A lot of Nigerians will naturally get disappointed, frustrated and hopeless, but it will only get a little bit worse before it begins to get better.

You see all those names mentioned in my initial post and intertwined by marriages, those are just a finger full of the demons. The enemies are much with an even larger war chest to do and undo.

I don't know where most of my narratives are coming from but they come from the heart of one who loves and believes in his country and hopes to see her arise from the claws of those holding it down.

The art of gratitude is yet something I would love to encourage more people to embrace.

Just get grateful no matter what the situation is and to whoever, no matter how much you despise him or her. There are a lot of Blessings attached to the act of gratitude no matter the situation.

Let's be grateful to Buhari. He isn't the best, but he has done his bit and this generation and posterity will remember him when he is gone and left the stage.

I wish you and every of my fellow Nigerian youth well bro, there's no place for hate inside of me.

Peace and love..

Artiiclebeast:
My dear brother, Peter Obi seems to be the better of the lot contesting no doubt.

The truth is if he wins, will he be able to stand up to the demonic people holding the country down like Atiku whom he has high regard for, and concentrate on delivering on what the enthusiastic electorates are hoping for?

If he's able to tell them all off and dares to better a lot of the citizens this will translate to him depriving these rogues of feasting fast on the nation's resources as they have been used to and they will all gang up as usual to unsettle and fight him.

Does Peter Obi have the qualities and coordination to repel these gang-ups because these guys won't fold their hands and watch Peter Obi or anyone interested in bettering the lives of Nigerians deprive them of their source of livelihood and crown it all up, these guys are a front and the ones holding Nigeria in trust for the original owners of the business (the UK) otherwise, the UK has the wherewithal to support any government that truly desires to work to better the country and nip in the bud any potential sabotage to that effect?

But you see, the UK see Nigeria as their company and would only support anyone who makes the business profitable for them, and in that process, the ones taking care of the company for the UK can run amok and corner some loot for themselves without any reprimand.

The truth is, no matter who wins next year, things might even get worse than they presently are, and hopefully, it would get worse before it begins to get better.

As it stands, we are left with the 3 major candidates to choose from. I'll urge you to follow your heart, listen to them speak, and check out their history to know who you are confident with more and exercise your civil right of voting.

Peace and God bless.

My

Light999333:
Some of us actually discovered the redpill because we never wanted to experience again the pain we did experience. And I'm talking about that pain that comes with being betrayed, used, and abandoned by a female. This was my reality at some stage in life, and in my bid to understand why I was cheated on, used, psychologically abused and abandoned by some female who swore never live life without me, I got to know about the redpill.

what did I understand about why I was abandoned and abused?

When choosing a woman, you want to pay attention to 2 things:
1.The financial/material condition of her family from her childhood till adulthood.
2. Her religious conditioning

1:
When choosing a girl, you really want to avoid women with a developed "survival instinct". From my observation, women who grew up in poor families, who saw and know the face of struggle and poverty, whose father/parents could not provide the basics of life they needed usually have a developed "survival instinct". I do think this is so because the conditioning of these women has taught them to optimize hypergamy, so they don't experience again the sufferings they did experience. These women can't love altruistically, they are mostly ruthless. For them, it's their interest first. If such a woman has an opportunity to leave her current man for a man that provides her the opportunity to optimize her hypergamy, she would dump her man and rationalize her reasons for doing so.

The kind of woman to choose
As a man you want to choose a girl whose "survival instinct" is mostly not developed. In my opinion, you get to find these kind of women in rich or middle class homes. I'm not saying this type of a girl would not leave you for a better man, ofcourse, there are no absolutes in life. But in our world we deal with potentialities, and the potential of this type of girl ruthlessly dumping you for a wealthy man, is not as high as that of a lady from the trenches.

2:
In my opinion, a man should go with a woman that has been conditioned with religion. The best woman for a healthy relationship is one that grew up being fed with religious massages from childhood till adulthood. The type and intensity of the messages a lady was fed as a child determines in a major way the outcome of her life as an adult. A woman who understands that there are divine consequences for disrespecting her man, or adultery, is better for you as a man than a female atheist, female agnostic, female freethinker who doesn't believe in the concept of divine consequences.

Before committing to a woman, understand her background - how religous was her childhood, how religous are her family, did she see her mum respecting her dad as a kid. These are important things many men overlook or don't even know about. Ofcourse, there are no guarantees that the girl with a good religious background wouldn't be promiscuous. But in opinion, I do think a lady who understands the concept of divine consequences would be hesitant about adultery compared to one who doesn't give a fucck about a God domiciled in heaven.

If our generation get these 2 correctly, the divorce rate would be reduced.

Persephone1:
Believe me Cave, I really do have little patience for people who try too hard... You are really trying hard to patch up the loopholes in your thought process. If you had put this effort into coming up with a good response to Pan's question in the first place, you won't be here doing some obvious damage control.

Persephone1:
You admitted to sex being the basis of a man and woman's interaction and went on to make other contradictory posts on what you stand for in romance section just to have epistles of words on a simple question.

Persephone1:
Even the person you responded to didn't bother to acknowledge your input because you were off. On this premise, I called you out.

Persephone1:
Your counter response only confirmed what I called you out for. I'm done with that, I've moved on. Accept your L and move on too, but I'd advise next be wise to give short response to simple question. That way you don't make your flaw too obvious

Ciao![/i]

Magnoliaa:
I don't want to believe you're dumb... because you didn't just insult both of us together here? Stop speaking big grammar you don't understand, this boy; you're not impressing anybody here. Now you have gone and agreed that your epistles are as a result of a slow mental processing ability.

Magnoliaa:
Cool story. Have you considered publishing on Okadabooks, though? I picked a number of lessons sha. Surprisingly. Don't feel fly, just yet. When you put things across in a particular manner, an understanding follows suit. Now that you've have elaborated, I can shift my perspective and form a new opinion due to the information and clarification you've provided.

Magnoliaa:
So let's analyse your story.

It is good to know that as a redpiller, you believe the below points:

- Women can be sensible

Magnoliaa:
- All women are not the same

Magnoliaa:
- There can be a purely platonic, professional relationship between men and women

Magnoliaa:
- Each gender can exchange values between one and another
- Women can be faithful

Magnoliaa:
- Men (in position of power) should not take advantage of vulnerable women or blackmail them

Magnoliaa:
- Men should be able to help women without expecting the puszy in return

Magnoliaa:
- A woman can open doors for her man

Magnoliaa:
- That you used that scenario would mean there is an element of reality to it: women have been doing such and more for the men in their lives
- A woman can see a guy with potentials and connects and not run after him, instead she can link her man up to that big boy...
- A woman can entertain a chyker for long periods without falling prey to fleeting emotions
- Women can hold conversations

Magnoliaa:
- It's good to know decent guys exists? Maybe? I wish more men are like Paul *in some parts*. It is very very very good as you portrayed the man as the one lacking in decorum and an understanding of boundary initially, until a woman had to get him to behave. Nice! As usual, men will want to be dogs, but the burden is on the woman to bring him in line ba? OK.

Magnoliaa:
Caveat: all women cannot be like Anita sha. What if your Anita is already established and okay and she doesn't need all that razzmatazz?

Magnoliaa:
Anita could be looking for hookup and flow along with the sex. Anita might not want to get hooked at all or need any help. And a Paul might not always been helpful... I get it. I get it. Different scenarios, but this is about a poor Anita in a relationship.

Magnoliaa:
For the record, I am not against the numerous points to the picked from that your short story? LMAO. It has always been the perspective of myself and some other other women, but it is MEN like yourself who always go about demonising women and making generalisations and saying XYZ, yada bla bla bla about them.

Magnoliaa:
Toor sha. That is why you are a redpiller and I am a feminist. Bash women all you want as you expect good Anita-like behaviour with a sprinkle of pickmeism from them, and I will address the bad men too, while expecting good men with a touch of simpism from y'all. Good genders and relations is the goal; aluta continua.

Magnoliaa:
PSP: Me I don't actually expect a Paul-like behaviour from most men. As a woman with a lived experience, and having interacted with other women in Anita's positions in REAL LIFE, not theory, we have a fear factor in such cases, but I don't expect you to understand this as a man.

Persephone1:
Magnoliaa

Good response! I read the Paul and Anita illustration and I asked if Cave is really getting the point?

He maintains Men and women relation will be intimacy centered and Men's help comes at a price, in Anita's case her friends and sisters are the bargaining chip.

At this point, I believe pansophist has the answer to his question as regards why DMS from opposite gender is always presumed to be Sexually motivated. We have a really long way to go in this part of the world.

Persephone1:
This Gaslighting is pathetic to say the least. We both know that 99% of the PMs is intimacy motivated.

Persephone1:
1) What does an average Nigerian guy think of a lady if not for sex. But you all turn this around when you are being dragged for it. You are being hypocritical right now. Any guy who wanted something serious would have asked for a permission or even state his reason openly before sending a dm.

Persephone1:
2) A very contradictory post, is this you agreeing to the fact that your number one post is just a shaming tactic? If guys want to smash all the time, a lady has the right to call out such guys who don't reason beyond their third legs desires

Persephone1:
3) So a man and woman relations must be sex centered? Interesting . If there will be anything of value that the relation must be it must come after intimacy. Interesting read from a guy trying to shame a lady who assumes the PMs are sex oriented

Persephone1:
4) Not all women live for attention, not all women will like to see thousands of messages on their chat space, and not all women get satisfaction from men with nothing in them. Do you think every woman wants to be noticed by some entities who are just after satisfying their sexual desires? Lol. The problem is most of you guys believe you know all women while in the real sense you know close to nothing about women

Persephone1:
5) Gibberish again, the end goal of all woman-man relations is marriage? Really? How were you able to keep up with these utterances without realizing you miss the point of your summon?

Persephone1:
6)Just as a man has the right to invade a person's privacy without permission, a woman has the right to treat your misconduct whichever way she deems fit. You don't teach a grown person how to deal with his or her situation. She also has the right to not want anything to do with anyone.

Persephone1:
7) Again with the women are emotional beings but a man who lost a sense of conduct seeing a beautiful image is what? Interesting definition of emotional if you ask me. A man of value seeking value will go through a way of value. Dumping a private message on someone is not something you will see a person of value do. Courtesy demand you get a go-ahead first.

Persephone1:
8 ) Ahhhhhhhh is this you supporting materialism, leeching, and gold-digging because you want to sound politically correct? Lol. When women see men as a ladder of success you call them all sorts of names and even write epistles to your brothers to avoid such women. But here you are condemning a lady who doesn't buy the idea because you want to sound right.

Persephone1:
Women have the choice now to either depend on men for survival or not. If you see one who chooses the latter and gives a middle finger to men flocking around her, please deal with it in peace. It's her choice to respect it. [/i]

Magnoliaa:
What the fk, dudeeee? What's this? Are you losing your touch or something?? When you try to make sense too much, this is what you end up doing. Be like I will even post this section in your Redpill House of Assembly.

What's with you here supporting a woman PROSTITUTING herself to help her boo?

Magnoliaa:
Wow. I go like talk about this well well o. You are literally saying if I am in a relationship, make I continue to dey game other men for material benefits that my boyfriend and I will live on? I should take from another man to improve the status of my man? Jesus!

Magnoliaa:
What is the point of teaching men how to safeguard against manipulation, yet here you are expecting a woman to FORCE 'value' out of a man, a man whom she'll not give commitment or sex or anything?? What do you refer to as value here?



What's this again?? How can you espouse number six, and then still come to say women depend on men?? And insulting them ontop am? Come, be like you go connect me to your dealer. This is some premium high shit you're onto.

No be your fault sha. Na Persi carry me come back come read.

MITCHELL96:
What about Common Person ?

It's dope too and has a deep message.

CaveAdullam:
1. That's women for you. Since sex is the only tangible thing they know they can provide, their mind always misconstrues every approach as the need for sex. That's why they are protective and egocentric about it.

2. Men on the other hand will want to smash any woman as a result of their high libido; thanks but no thanks to mother nature.

3. But what separates us from other lower primates? Higher mental capacity to think beyond our animalistic tendency.

When the average woman and man seek sexual attention and sexual gratification respectively, the men and women at the right side of the bell curve, think about how much value they can exchange (notwithstanding sexual instincts lurking behind but under control).

4. Attention makes an ugly woman looks beautiful. Regardless of her substandard level, once she garners attention from men, she feels valuable, important, and with a heightened sense of arrogance.

Their arrogance has no root save that imagination that men of value chase them. One on one, when you stand with these women they have nothing and understand nothing. All that they know is rooted in materialism and emotions. They don't even understand their emotions, their menstrual cycle, and the nitty-gritty of the material culture they so much love and pursue. They are the worst set of consumers. Theirs is to consume. No growth. No development. No knowledge. They can't even leverage their beauty without getting used. Foolish women. No feminine warmth and grace.

5. Their end goal is marriage because it masks their deficiency; getting married to a high-value man effectively veneers this deficiency. Or, as a lonely, single woman, a man that will bear their exuberances without caution. And of course, they succeed. Because the men that do commit to them are one of the worst sets of men void of knowledge of the sexual marketplace: simps.

As far as the average mind revolves around sex with no conditioning and control, that's how the cycle will continue.

6. She may have a husband, fiance, or boyfriend, which is the reason she can't respond to their emails. But a woman that has sense will first reply so that she can know what each has to offer. She can even leverage this opportunity in helping herself and her partner. These are truckloads of men on her DM, she can sift and force value from one. But dumbness and attention syndrome rule and prevails.

7. It is also for this reason that women can't gain values from themselves because of emotionalism. They depend on men for their survival. Men are the antithesis, but they always get lost when they try to seek value from women because they think as mature adult humans, men and women are equal and the same.

It then takes the enlightened man and woman to see beyond sex and attention respectively.

8. At this particular point in life where women have a good opportunity to enhance their lives, they choose the deeds of the flesh (not in the religious sense though) and in the end will cry cats and dogs because they failed themselves.

You can't have your cake and eat it. Let's see how the game goes.

Thanks.

pansophist:
Escabado I think to say you do swallow, what are you doing there? But wait for o, why does everyone just assume that they want to smash and dash? If I send a pm to caveAdullam for example, does it mean I am gay?

This discrimination must stop, it's 2022 for fork's sake. Maybe they want to give their life to christ or ask her which waec class she is going, or some want to learn English, or just be friends. You never know. Fear God abeg, these men are innocent

stillrocky:
In other news, I have a question. And I will ask the question below.

How should a sickle cell guy who is into redpill go about marriage? For the fact that the disease comes with a lot of stigmatization, don’t y’all think his options might be somewhat limited? The lady who might choose the dude might not be a virgin and he needs a virgin (part of his criteria) Or it’s not advisable for these kinds of guys to get married? Because the potential partner might think he will die tomorrow (technically that's true. No one gets out alive sickle or not).

Kindly share your thought, guys.