₦airaland Forum

pansophist:
Even men sef don de give shit test. Na wa o

oyolohi:
Lol. I usually don't reply to comments on nairaland, however, you raised some questions I expected.

1. How do you tend to balance the biological/evolutionary prerogative in men to birth children?

Reproduction seems to be the ultimate goal of every being running this instance of our life (goat, bacteria, pig, earthworm, etc.)

oyolohi:
As long as there's life, there'll always be reproduction. The plannet will do the "balancing"... Mother earth always have a way of handling over-population by plagues, wars, hunger, etc.

oyolohi:
2. Is reproduction a social construct?

The act isn't a social construct. A fertile male and female mating will always result into an offspring irrespective of their belives, social groups or religion...

However, there are two ways to look at it: Take Nigeria, for instance:
The other day, I was reading a comment... the guy was like, if you graduate from chemical engineering in Nigeria, instead of you parents asking what you've added to the world of chemical engineering, they'll be asking when you'll do and marry, that they want to see their grand children...

Reproduction triggered by this mindset (whether for higher social rank as a mother, father or grandparent, etc.) IS a social construct.

oyolohi:
3. What do you think will happen to the human population if we should enrol in this school of thought?

Lol...
1. there are about 1.3billion muslims in this plannet
2. there are about 2.3billion muslims in this plannet

Spoiler: no group is backing down soon!!

The two statements above are just tiny stones in the ocean of possible examples...
The world will never adopt a single philosophy/school of thought!

Just like the redpill: leave this page and enter the real world and notice the number of 'simps' --as you guys call them.

As a redpiller, you know the world will never accept this school of thought.

So how do you handle that?
You say something like: "Well, freedom isn't for everyone."

Ans: The entire population will never "enroll in this school of thought".

oyolohi:
4. What is the essence of striving for higher purpose or value to help further the progress of the human population if children are not coming into the scene?

Read again my answer to your number 3 question.

P.S. : Certain things are just for a select (liberated) few to enjoy!

saaphiere:
The earlier men understand that their WIVES need more attention and caring than their moms the better for them. Something like 60:40.
If you want to experience hell in your marriage, buy something for your mom first before buying for your wife or give your mom a quality item than your wife.

As for Duncan laying curses on men because the take care of their wives than their mom, I really don't blame him. Anyone is entitled to do or say dumb things to trend. Just of recent a child made a fool of his parents just to trend by telling them their TV is touch-screen.




I am not saying you should not take care of your mom. I am not saying you should wait for your mom to beg you for things before you give her.
I am saying you should take care of your mom and wife but never give your mom more than you give your wife if you want peace in your home.

Ninejaywon:
In a bid to make sense u made a complete nonsense of your post.
You ask urself how u came to dis world? or did u drop from heaven?

E be like say atomic bomb dey dat ur head.

oyolohi:
How comes you're smart enough to see through the scam called marriage but not through the impulsive desire to bring forth children to this ugly world?

Many guys here will never simp for women but will always simp for kids!

What will children add to your life? Do you plan to sell them into slavery for money/property? Or do you have a large farm for them to work for you?

My brain had a reset the very moment I accepted that I was more of a liability to my parents. Las las Life would have been better for ME and them if I didn't exist!!

So, my dear brother, I'll suggest you calm down and write a detailed list of why you want kids before you make a lifetime mistake!

P.S. : Your kids would not be your responsibility if you don't bring them into existence! Just as no woman will be your responsibility if you don't get married.

We are over 200m in Nigeria and the world is getting to the 9billion mark. What exactly is the point of adding to that number?

A man I knew died recently, I attended his funeral mass. He left 3 kids behind.

ubunja:
I hear you. But it's better this way. What I'm doing here is explaining the Game from my point of view and from my experiences. I didn't understand the game the way I do from studying only one side of the equation. I studied both. That's why I can bring something to the table that people can find refreshing and at times unique. Everyone knows my writeups often have something a little unique you won't find elsewhere. And this is because I can look at situations from the perspective of both genders. Maybe it's the whole Gemini thing of understanding duality. I don't know. But trust me, stop viewing this whole thing as Men VS Women but an opportunity to study both the male mind and the female mind in one place and you'll have a deeper, more intricate grasp of male-female dynamics.

The Female Miseducations are here to stay. For better for worse. Just take what you need and leave the rest man.

henryobinna:
Actually it's only men that are giving out their resources freely.
Women are and have always been selfish with it.

So your point is pointless, you're just trying to sound nice to the females. When in reality they're the ones benefiting where they did not sow.

Stopmyaddict:
I'm so shock at what you just did seriously, i was trying to calm the two parties down. I saw cave post and babion reacted,fine! cave reacted again,to play some level of maturity i responded''Guy?? Why now? U no be woman''.


I'm new here, and if you see i recently open this account for a certain purpose,which i wasnt happy about,and of course,i am willing to change from who i am to becoming a new person. I've gone through pages here. And i can say i really respect you but i dont deserved being humilated(u might be trolling i dont care). No!!! Just tell what have i said to baibon,that he was insulting me first?i dont get(maybe u shld go thru my posts). if i knew i would be humilated this way i wont have quoted anyone here,seriously.
I have gone through ur post,i can say u post meaniful things,but am really shock. It shouldnt be u replying me. It should be baibon.because i was refering all my message to him. I dont get,to Bleep everything you went on to my profile,check out on my post,as if that wasn't enough u still went ahead to screenshot that message and bring to post here!!
Is that the level of redpilled you've gotten?
You even called me LOWLIFE...and you highlife right?
I dont get!! What are you feeling like?

baiaon:
What does this post even mean?If you have nothing to post,don't post rubbish

Notoftheworld79:
The truth is vast majority of women feel that they are better than men, this is the reason they run the test, so that if you pass, you'd be given a chance. But real men don't take the test, they give the test. She would not test a real man she needs, because she is afraid she might annoy him and lose him altogether. If she test you, put her on ice indefinitely, she is not worthy, because all s**t test are disrespectful.

pansophist:
I also wonder why few men commented on this thread, but when I wrote about the traits a woman should possess before a man considers committing to her, the male traffic was damn so much. Everyone is a gangster when it comes to women

CaveAdullam, can you answer this conundrum?

CaveAdullam:
A little gist:

1. The brain region for sex in women is 2-3 times smaller than in men.

2. Because of a high amount of testosterone in men, which is about 10-100 times higher than in women, men think about sex round the clock while women; average of 14 times in their menstrual cycle.

3. Because of the menstrual cycle of women, the first 14 days is their happy mood and the last 14 days is a dangerous one for them, and others around them.

4. If women see a dominant male after marriage, they detour their focus towards him, and fantasize about him. And if care is not taken, they might end up corralling his sperms.

5. If women are psychologically, emotionally and physically stress, their reception towards sex is poor and very low. So, not until a woman becomes comfortable around her man, free from every workloads, sex will definitely be a problem for her. And this is very common among career women.

Did you met your wife a virgin?

If yes, then,

1. You're are not good when it comes to the game of sex. She wants you to fulfill her fantasies, and it seems you're unable. So, up your game.

2. When a woman becomes a mother, her attention shifts from her husband towards her kids. Understand this, and still up your game.

If no,

1. How was sex before marriage?
Way below, you said you are a Christian, and to put it clearly, it is possible you didn't engage in sexual intercourse before marriage.

The implication here is: higher body counts or sexual partners before marriage, the lower the bonding between her and her husband. Simple!

2. Premium tears scenario: a male that knows the game is tingling her, and has now become her focus and fantasy.

If she was not a virgin before marriage, just know you're dealing with an alpha widow, you don't have the key and will never have the key that opens her legs and takes you to her heart. She didn't choose you, you choose her. You're not the man she wants to submit to. She doesn't see you as a dominant man, and therefore it will be difficult for you to win her. She use you to seal the deal: beta bucks at age 26 after enjoying herself during the party phase.

But there's a way out: Dread game.

Dominant men don't negotiate anything with their spouse. They set the pace, and she follows. You failed because you lack the foresight to see that GENUINE DESIRE CAN NEVER BE NEGOTIATED. Your frame is weak. Your boundary is loose. You are easily manipulated, and women are disgusted by such kinds of men.

Your plead for sex is disgusting. You made sex become your second god, and she is really using it as a weapon of control over you. You place her on a very high pedestal which you ought to have occupied, and now, she dangles her vagina before you, and if eventually, she finally allow you have your way, you see it as a prize, and her; elevation of power.

Why do you allow yourself to peter to this level? You're weak my friend, and women hate weak men. She sets terms and conditions for you because you're weak. No frame, no dominance.

You better start informing your in-laws that their daughter is coming back home----dread game number 1.

Shut up, your wife doesn't have any good side. The number one thing good women give their husbands as a form of submission is good sex. She is evil if she restrains her conjugal rights. Your wife loathes you man. No atom of respect. BS!

Yeah, infidelity is wrong as it exposes you and your households to predators. Infidelity will make you lose focus on your kids, your paramount goals, your money, time, emotional conflicts etc. I'm no advocate of infidelity.

STDs are out of it. With good contraceptives, and willingness on your side to abide by it, STDs will be far away.

O yeah, you're a Christian man, I pray the dread game works for you. If not you're on a long thing.

Seriously? Are you a man?




2. Start coming home late. If you close from work early, don't come home straight, look for a cool vicinity not far from your residence, and take some relaxation. With this, you've put her on suspense.

3. Take a leave from home on Fridays and come back home Sunday evenings. You can take your child during some of the days.

4. Send your maid back home, and inform your wife that it is her duty to perform the chores at home; washing, cleaning and cooking. If she refuse, tell her to start preparing for divorce.

5. If she refuse to cook, stop giving her money. Cook for yourself and your child. After all no food for lazy woman.

6. Buy new clothes, and start dressing neatly.

7. Begin to flirt with other women when you're in proximity to her. You can fake it if it seems hypocritical towards your Christian faith by feigning phone calls.

8. Stop sharing same bedroom with her. You doing so will make her feel and know that you don't care how much she hoards sex.

9. Make your communications with her become abrupt. State your points without any form of explanation.

10. Don't take her out. Don't buy her gifts. Don't form uncle romancer. Not until she develops a genuine desire for you, all rewards must be on hold.

11. Start preparing her mind for divorce, and if you do so, it will send a negative signal to her brains that you're ready for business.

12. Don't apologize ever again. Don't negotiate ever again. If she does not absorb to your frame, it's hight time you let her go.

13. Set the terms and conditions of the house, and you tell her she's free to leave if she cannot comply.

If you do all these properly it will work, but if not, I think you should prepare your mind for a second wife(Women are the same though, except you're a masculine man will they submit to you) or opt for a divorce from marriage as a whole. Your happiness and peace of mind should come first. Make sure you do all things possible to raise your child under the right environment.

Martinez39s and Evolutionlove, I have done my part, and I know this young man is 2 steps away from the redpill. He that has an ear let him hear.

Thanks.

God bless.

some50686:
Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex.

some50686:
Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

some50686:
The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw.

some50686:
Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

some50686:
Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

some50686:
To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her