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nicej2:
Dear Nairalanders, i am not really good posting my issues online. But this time i need your advise.

I have been married for 9 years now and my sister inlaw has been living with us( I, my wife and the kids) for the past 6 years now, although I am not always around.
I have never imagine any negative thoughts toward her. I always see her like my younger sister, i have been taken care of her. She is 28 years old and I can't really says if she have a boyfriend cos I haven't see one around her. She is a boss in her working place but yet i foots all her bills in the house without bothering anyone, including my wife that is also a boss .Until of recent she started wearing seductive clothes around the house, Some how i started developing feelings for her As if she knows, she continues wearing those clothes and started showing more caring towards me.
I can't believed that i am having feelings for my sister inlaw cos i am a disciplined man to the core. Even during university days girls do come to my apartment passed a night without molesting them. I am well brought up. But is like that disciplined man in me started degenerating as i began to see this girl in my dreams.
There was a night i returned from travelled, i started feeling the urge to go to her room. My wife almost cought me that night cos we lives in 3 bedroom, I have my own room, my wife have her own and my sister inlaw have her own room. So we sleep in separate rooms except some occasions my wife decided to stay in my room. That night i was pimping through her door. I have been trying to control my feelings and I believed the reason why I have not sleep with her is because i am not always around and I also the fear of traditions implications of sleeping with sister inlaw . And my wife is not helping matters, she can leave both of us alone in d house and go to all night church program and the children will be sleeping.

I don't really know what to do. Should I tell my wife so that we can get her accommodation or just let the sleeping dog be. Though I don't really want her to leave cos is my wife and the children are alone in the compound. I just want to kill that urge before I return from travel.

Sorry for the long episode ..😀

NEVER EVER YOU CROSS THAT LINE... IT IS A POINT OF NO RETURN.. DON'T RUIN YOURSELF, YOUR WIFE AND YOUR CHILDREN.. SHE ISN'T SEDUCING YOU, YOU ARE ONLY FEELING THAT WAY BECAUSE YOU ARE LUST TOWARDS HER, YOU JUST WANT WHAT TO JUSTIFY YOUR ILL FEELINGS. HOW MAN ANS WIFE SLEEP IN DIFFERENT BEDROOM REMAIN A MYSTERY TO ME REALLY.

sonature1:
Sowore will do or say anything to trend. I thought he was an investigative journalist. He should do the needful. Fly to the UK and find out what happened.

By the way, those who know this dude should tell him to return to his state of origin and start his political career from there.

You cannot become president in Nigeria if you don't have a political track record people can use to assess you. I suppose he knows this but chose to embark on a wild goose chase.

wetin him wan take fly to UK? Ssamee ediot wen federal government Don confiscate his passport for more than 3 years now. That is why he has been stock in Nigeria

Wodu89:
Hahaha. Nigerians and Bitterness

it is not bitterness it is the honest truth, you can't be promoting a scam/ponzi to your millions of followers and end it with not financial advise.. Do you know how much SEC finned may weather for promoting a rugged pulled crypto? These stupid influencers should vet and investigate the promotion they take, else it will ruin their brand, a harmless promotion might end the career of any influencer...

baralatie:
That a place is an establishment for the purchase of intimacy gadget is different from a police seeing an unboxed intimacy gadget in your car.when it should be in your house

LOL legal at home and illegal in the car.. Okay

baralatie:
You only place yourself in a the position for the suspicion of public indency.which is not in your favor

I understand what you have said here, but then something is only illegal if it breaks a known law of the land, which this hasn't... Tell me it is morally wrong which I might agree, but saying it is illegal is extreme.... Again nothing about Sexual/intimacy gadget sold over the counter or in public market places are Illegal before any known law in Nigeria. The police just wants bribe and nothing more...

PoliteActivist:
It is not illegal to have intimacy gadget as long as it's behind closed doors. It is illegal to have it in your car though because it is an indication you're about to be up to no good

if na buy him buy am how him go carry am reach house Bro there is nothing illegal about ha ING an intimacy gadget in your possession, be it inside, outside or anywhere.... If it is a crime to have an intimacy gadget in your car then it is obviously a crime to have a condom pack in your possession outside..

NeoWanZaeed:
You want him to do something to please his child and he can't afford to do it?

I Wonder how people reason self, a father is trying to shape the future of his son and he is frustrating his effort you expect him to be happy or clap for him? That you son needs better prayer and counselling together because something is obviously wrong with him.

Deepthoughts:
Actually,in a saner clime that sham of an election wouldn't even happen ok.

look at who u are even replying, he is doing what he was paid to do, ignore that user anywhere u see him/her

Omooba77:
https://dailytrust.com/just-in-fg-accuses-peter-obi-of-treason/

go and arrest him naaa. Why Una still dey make noise about it...

nwekeugochukwu:
https://igberetvnews.com/1442303/chioma-didnt-deserve-davido-speaks-losing-son-ifeanyi/

there is a lyrics used in one of the song of the Great Osayomore Joseph, "the death Of a Child is more painful than the pain from a gunshot".. We won't even wish it on an enemy...

DOptical:
Says who?

Mcolumo is the chairman of Lagos Nurtw. Nurtw is in every state with their indigenous chairman, so what are you crying about exactly? See Abia Nurtw for example.

na old news u dey listen to... He was removed from NURTW, and because of Election Sanwo Olu created a union for him from think air.... See attached image..

Chinjo2:
I see featus keyamo going to jail. This I have seen.

blessed are Thou Chinjo2, For flesh and blood has not revealed this to you, but our Father who is in heaven....

highchief1:
yes na true.Govt na yeye ppl.ibeto was doing so well he fell out with govt e never get em self since.lol.Don’t fight govt o.But watch those set of billionaires lifestyle.them no get enemy o.anybody win win election them go celebrate with the person

the worse thing a billionaire business man can do is pick side in politics. Neutrality is the word!!!

sulakishop:
Why did you marry?

What sort of emotional and psychological punishment is this?

I just weak!

the lady is Manipulating the man and the man is stupid enough not to even see it..

highchief1:
of course na.why u think say tony run go host tinubu.to succeed in business u need govt.if they are not supporting u,let them not fight u.after God na govt na.

I like that last statement.. Just like obasanjo made Dangote during his time as president... Even now when gother goverments after obasanjo Don give people like Abdulsamad Rabiu similar power like obasanjo gave only dangote, yet dangote still dey fight the man and his company tooth and nail... See ehen u just have to be loyal to government as a business man if you want to sustain that your business and status. Small cbn naira redesign policy, did u know how much is cost those banks for their properties destroyed?

highchief1:
I hear say the guy go on exile I no Dey really follow em story lol.I get ur point

ask urself wetin send am go exile, Na just his mouth and speech on a television interview make goverment send am to compulsory exile if he must saves his business.. Government that opened antitrust case against alibaba just for saying the China banks acts as a pawn shop, same day his Ant group public offering was rejected and almost 12 different investigation was lunched across his businesses... Lol see brother no allow goverment mean u as a business man. The once worshipped jack Ma who was Chinese saviour has been turned to a villian in face of Chinese people in his own story...

highchief1:
lol it depends on ur state and how they play their politics.for delta a commissioner is equivalent to 5 LG Chairman.Them get money and power bro I no fit lie for u.I can never accept anythg local govt in delta.I had the chance to be a chairman but I went for assembly instead

the money isn't based on salaries, it is based on public fund Stealing Stealing and padding of ministry budget... If truly we say make public office holder dey live on their salary alone without Stealing and anybody that steals will be out to dea*th, not much people would want to hold public office... Na because of this our same conversation make governors no want autonomy for Local Goverment Chairmen.. Else commissioner na rat for where LGA chairman dey...

highchief1:
I understand u o.I was a house member bros judge us after office.while in office our swag go confuse u.Tony don borrow delta state money to pay salary I no Dey play give u.Let us see how powerful and influential Buhari will be after may29..politician life be like celebrity life o na show.Ppl when get any economy of the world na business men trust me.

bro I get all ur point, business men run the economy of the world u just said are for pure capitalist economy like the US and Co, not for countries like China that runs a Socialist economy... Go Ask Jack Ma of Alibaba groups him go tell you him story and u go pity for am.... Did you see how China shut up a big businessman and contributor to the Chinese economy... See bro there are variations to these things... Go and see what China did to Jack Ma u go pity am.

highchief1:
God bless u.plus or minus ppl don’t reject what they are not freaked about.can me and u reject commissioner?

I swear to God me no fit accept commissioner, e go stain my White. Generally I do not think I can accept an appointed position, I prefer an elective position, even if na LGA chairman I prefer am pass state commissioner, as a commissioner u take the fall for the fault of the governor bad policies in regards to ur ministry. But in an elective position, u take falls for things that are ur own doing, u take ur fate in ur hand.

highchief1:
calm down.c in c will not leave office?im Agbor for example,do u think Okowa is in the league with the likes of ovia?bros no Dey deceived by the swag while in office judge them after office.a politicians money and power expires after his tenure a successful business mans money and fame is endless..I was a fmr house of assembly member bro,I had 4 Mobil police u won’t understand.Don’t be moved by our swag while in office observe a politician after office.I’m my state,we have ibori and uduaghan as fmr govs,bros they can’t command half of what ovia will command.

oga, I stated categorically that a governor, I never said an ex governor..... Nobody is talking about an ex governor or an ex president, we are talking about serving governors and presidents, see bro i know what I'm saying to you 100% I have been close to the affairs of power and I know how these so called Billionaires lobby governors and buy them expensive gifts for one favour or another that money can't sort but raw power.... Let me not start mentioning names sha, I know what I'm saying.

highchief1:
he will never accept that offer.make I shock u.ovia was offered same he gave it to his boy emefiele.Those men don’t want to hold any public office because they know the bashing that comes with it.How many successful Nigerian billionaires have u seen chesting out in politics?business men control the world not politicians.

it is fine to be offered and you decline, due to the heavy burden that comes with it. But you telling me he is bigger than the office is what I won't agree... Business men know the moment they step into public office they can no longer prove their innocence to financial Misappropriation and public funds theft.. So it is better to avoid it...

Goodlady:
See money.
How do I meet Tony Elumelu's daughter?
I wanna be her loyal bestie.
I heard her dad ll be the next Minister of Finance.

Does he work in CBN?
I think CBN governors are gor those that are staff of CBN moving up the ladder. Elumelu's UBA boss, can't recall if he worked at CBN.

doesn't matter, it is simply based on appointment by the president..... The only criteria is for the person to good financial experience etc, he or she must not have been working in CBN before appointment. anybody can be appointed. See attached image for 2007 cbn act item 8( CBN governor and deputies requirement, tenure, and renumerations etc..

AFONAMARO:
It's not about money/status, but about service to the nation. Okonjo Iweala was already an international player when called upon to serve her father's land, and she obliged

leave that one, him no know wetin him dey talk.... They think money equates power... Na only C Of O and license a governor like lagos state governor go Revoke UBA own and see how he Tony will crash, when investors starts selling off their shares of the company and people start shorting the companies stocks, then you will know these businessmen are at the mercy of governors they run their business in their state.. I just laugh when I hear certain people talk really.

Those of you comparing Tony to a president are really insane to say the very least.. You just dint know what the power of a president is that's why you are there making noise. Even common governor self, maybe you people think raw undiluted power is equivalent to how much you have in your bank account... Even dangote self no get level reach president Talkless Tony, I no know wetin una dey smoke for this country... Just one policy from a president can crumble the richest of men in an economy, small obajana when GYB revoke license, dangote has to seek the help of Abuja.. U see that Uba /heairs holding headsquaters in marina lagos, allow Sanwu Olu Revoke their C of O and see what will happen, never you compare any business man to a sitting president or sitting governor that has a business empire in the state of the governor, you and your investors will pay the price and it will tell on your stock price tumbling down.

highchief1:
lol rivers state Gov controls more money than tony?How are my going to reply u this.How u Dey see tony?em simple nature Dey decieve u.U actually compared Tony to a governor.Nairalanders

see abeg just stop this nonsense u are doing, never u in ur kfie use tiny compare chief Security officer of a country, never ever!!! The immunity that comes with that alone far supercedes everything and anything Tony has or will ever dream of. U just don't understand what it means to be a C in C of a country

highchief1:
una sabi insult person sha.Tony is bigger than a president.which one be minister again.

cbn governor would be just fine... Since he already has money, let's see how he can contribute positively to our dying economy

Goodlady:
See money.
How do I meet Tony Elumelu's daughter?
I wanna be her bestie.
I heard her dad ll be the next Minister of Finance.

cbn governor preferably, let's really see what he has in his head....

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

maybe u forgot very fast that marriage is between a man and wife and not between a man and wife and any of their parent, when you allow her live under your roof, just know your mother will turn in her grave and you automatically has carried a curse.... Let her mother stay in her house and she pays someone to be taking care of her.thats if she can't stay with her older Siblings... Don't be a coward alright, you wife set the rules and not you.

Neweramify:
Op your wife was wrong, but try and understand her fear. Most women feel inconvenient around their mother inlaw. Not because she hates her mother inlaw but for the fear of the unknown.

Let her know how you feel knowing she wanna bring her mum in when she rejected your mum. I'm sure she will feel remorse of her action.

Permit her to bring her mum, cause if anything happen to the old woman, she may accuse you of one thing or the other.

remorse or not, the damage has been done already... It is a very simple something, he mom should go stay with her older Siblings while the wife sends her money for upkeep, life no hard, Afterall marriage is between husband wife and no 3rd party

Ilamdad:
Even in Abuja

trust me na big lie, where he said he was robbed is at Maitama. But na lie... Just be patient and watch if the story will go more than this..

Freshtruth:
What d source of his wealth we should be asking questions

una no dey ever read full news na that be una problem... Else u would have seen that he is Paystack Co founder.... Will you ask the Co founder of stripe or Kuda, or Opay how they got their money? You know how much Paystack process monthly? Go do ur research before u start asking a blind man question

densiks:
Nothing but the obvious truth

so m@d people are allowed access to phone now? Obvious truth because you are an APC person and too blind to see anything good in another party. Think for once how campaigns and its logistics will be funded, think for once how their party will pay rent of their offices nation wide (except of cause as they now have few legislators who might pay for office space occupied by their party in their ward /LGA/Constituency). What about in LGA And wards where they have no representative? Who is paying for the space used to hold press conferences? U think these things are free, or u think it is dine based on mere contributions by party Faithfuls who are yet to eve have party card? If you as a person think along side this Festus Keyamo then u obviously is as stupid as him and an Hypocrite too. APC GOVERNORSHIP FORM IS 50 MILLION double of what Labour is asking for, Even if they have public officer holders in all state that can pay for everything I have mentioned above to run a party in this country... They have senators, rep meebers LGA chairmen etc who an pay for campaigns, office spaces etc.. Most times you guys should let you hate for a person or an organisation cloud your judgement of rational thinking or thinking right....