So a pro-divorce comment is a teenager's comment? Someone is not getting sexual fulfillment in her marriage and she is contemplating cheating. So you prefer her to end up cheating rather than walk out easily from the marriage to seek sexual compatibility elsewhere?

Realtalk20:


When you read a teenager's comment you can tell.

This one thinks this is a nairamarley concert ..

This is what you get when you marry someone you aren't sexually compatible with.
File for divorce and get someone else who can fulfill your sexual fantasy.

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advice I can get to save my marriage and sanity.

Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that.

This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, i went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby though I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

I wonder what people in 2020 still get involved in the scam called long distance relationship. Guys wise up, please

ExAngel007:




https://mobile.twitter.com/seyishae/status/1219701915598102528?p=v

Do u believe her story?

See G Boy wey dey try run code on you people.

I made a resolve to end it all up because of my extreme frustration ,pain and hopelessness. I am downcast and I am scared of the hazy years ahead of me. I live in the Uncompleted building and I have no place to call my own. A few guys called and show empathy and love. My situation right now is disheartening especially as I find it hard to stand on my feet again after my 7 months incarceration over things I never did. I never stole a Car yet I was kept in remand at Ilesha prison. I cry every day and night and don't know where to start from coz I am tired, exhausted and getting extremely depressed everyday. I need a home, not this way I am living like a destitute. I am a Plumber from the Government Technical College and I passed my trade test exam but work had not been forthcoming. I have contemplated giving it all up twice To be honest. I am looking for any job, accommodation and concern. The truth is if things remain as it is, then I am scared life is not for me.
I cry in my sleep atimes and I have lost the zest to carry on.

I am hurt, in pains and hopeless. I am fed up everything...

Please come to my aid before everything comes to an end coz there is nothing to live for....


Abiodun. 07068.377541

Forget about the child bruh. Na women get piking. All you can do is send upkeep money to her monthly and ensure that you keep records of the money you are sending. The child will grow up and see the records that you have been responsible for his upkeep. With the records, she will not be able to blackmail you with the irresponsible father tag that some single mothers are notorious for.
Meanwhile, go and look for a new lady that will soon give birth for you so that you will not miss your baby that much

Dsimple:
My mom also went spiritual cos of her just to cure her of her incessant ailments which was cured.
There are times she will shut the door at me when I came back from work.
She walks out of my dad anytime he's trying to settle our quarrels.
She's reported me to all the Alfas in my neighborhood, when they managed to call me to hear my own side of the story, she'll be compel to beg me but when we get home she will take back her pound of flesh insisting that I'm too small for her to be begging.
I normally send money to her mother and sisters when ever they are in need even without disclosure to anyone including herself.
She's been threatening me with death since she left and that I can never see any woman to marry.
It's a mystery to me that her family is breeding place for baby without father even though their fathers are alive.
Someone told me that my child is with her mum and that she is in Lagos in search of the next victim.
Her younger sister got married to an army officer yet turned him to fool through jazz and has taken their child to her mom for training when the young man still has a mother of his.

4 hours is cool for me if its on weekend. On workdays, 30 mins maximum, cos man must wack

kweensheba:
Just how long?

Come and beat me

Ebenezar2020:
you're suffering from ignorance

Thank you

DenreleDave:


RUBBISH.. Ur point is rubbish... No Point at all

Please stop spreading this wrong teaching. The primary aim of marriage is sex and I wonder why two people planning marriage are always discouraged from having sex before wedding. So many ladies have vagina hypoplasia while some have lost their clitoris to female genital mutilation and as a result cannot last in bed with their husbands. Some guys are also suffering from one form of impotency or the other. Having sex before marriage enables you to understand sexual architecture of your partner and decide if it is what you are willing to roll with till death do you part.

Hadampson:
Sex to a man is more than physical pleasure.

Sex is conquest, it is an achievement of a sort; it is the affirmation of manhood.

This may sound stupid and senseless to a woman but to a man it is not.

Withholding sex from a man makes you mysterious and strangely attractive.

A man likes to overcome a challenge and CONQUER.

Having sex with you is conquering you.

If he does so before marriage, he loses the passion to pursue and chase you further because you do not give him anymore challenge.

If you pressure him and he continues with the relationship, he does so with less enthusiasm and respect for you.

Delaying sex till marriage has its numerous benefits.

Apart from avoiding unwanted pregnancy, infections, syphilis and AIDS, you develop a very healthy self esteem.

Your face glows with pride and you help your man develop SELF CONTROL.

Women who give men sex in courtship do not know they are helping their men commit adultery in marriage.

You have trained him to always get sex improperly at the wrong time because you feel he cannot hold it.

So when you marry and are heavily pregnant or just deliver your baby please don't be angry if hubby runs after a mistress or caught making out with the maid.

Because you have already gotten him used to the system and cannot wait any longer.

The best place to be "conquered" is in marriage.

Saving sex till the wedding night makes the man sees you as a highly valuable jewel worth having and keeping.

This may not just be referring to virgins.

Even if you have had a terrible past, abortions or a child out of wedlock.

FORGET THE PAST and save sex for the wedding night.

Let the man know the past was a mistake but now you know better.

He may say why only him but let him know that only a fool makes mistake twice.

You are not going to CHEAPEN yourself before any man anymore.

If he accepts it fine, if not he is free to go.

You are not a sexual machine. Any man who will marry you must accept your person not just your private part.

You are not a intimacy gadget. You are a woman he needs to appreciate, love and value you with all due respect.

When you give your man sex on the wedding night, he has "conquered" you and there is a look of pride in his eyes.

That pride spread over to you and the result is a loving, trusting, peaceful and blissful marriage.

He no longer sees you as a cheap person. This is not a joke.

You are happy that your man owns you completely and he is happy to be the one in charge of you.

This is very crucial and basic in marriage.

It is the foundation for trust, faithfulness and commitment for life.

Learn to control your sexual urge and teach your man to control his as well.

There is time for everything under the sun.

The more you sell yourself cheap and quick, the more you will be bought cheap and depreciate in value quick.

You all know that cheap product doesn't last long on market. That's how your relationship might be.

Many women are many on the street today because they were so quick to give themselves cheap.

They are the cause of their very problems today.

The faster their backs were knocked on the bed, the faster their relationships were broken.

And lots of them complaining today that their days are changing into darkness.

Dear ladies, tell him to wait and have patient until the wedding night.

If he doesn't have patient, let him go.

For those of you who rushed yourself and now living with the pains, don't get frustrated.

God bless you all!!

Copied.

God punish those who say that divorce is not an option in marriage. If the governor had not divorced his former wife, would this lady have become the first Lady?

ghettokid1:
Chioma Uzodinma has become the first lady of Imo state following the swearing-in of her husband, Senator Hope Uzodinma as the governor of the state.

Chioma is the governor's wife from his second marriage and she is a young 30-year-old law graduate of Imo state university.

The governor was formerly married to Augusta Uzodinma for 17 years and the marriage produced five children.

If loneliness was cool for Adam, Why then God thinks it is not good for man to be alone?

If she has succeeded in taking him out of the Royal family, does that take royalty out of his blood? A Prince remains a Prince wherever he operates from in the world.

ubunja:
loneliness by itself wasn't going to cost Adam his life, home and relationship with God. But companionship has done that.

Look at the mess that Prince Harry has got himself in by marrying a divorced woman, Megan! She found him a prince and has succeeded in taking him out of the Royal family and making him just another guy in Canada. Wake up. Women will separate you from your destiny. Truly women are destroyers of Kings. Saith the Bible.

Its isolated. It's 1 in a million. But 1 is too much already. Cause we only have one life.

Bruh, try your possible best to among the few who will be lucky in their marriage.

emmaodet:


What if the wife die before him? Won't he still sleep on a cold bed? And live a life of misery and lonely?
Bro, believe me we now have a lot of women who are not marriageable now than before and because of old age is not enough for us to settle down for less.
You may likely say that if i search better and look well, i will get a good woman - Yes, i may likely get it But we are talking on Average now not just few of us that will be Lucky.
If on average, 7 out of 10 women are not really marriageable, then it is Safe to advice Men to not rush into it and look for better Alternatives.

OK bruh, since that is what works for you, may your God continue to supply you with prostitutes till your old age

bluefilm:


At least, the supply of prostitutes for sexual pleasures is pretty much guaranteed compared to your deluded idea of getting assured love from the woman you call your wife.

Currently, Statistics put the population of the world at some over eight billions. So it won't be an overstatement to say billions of couples are happily married in the world
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Billions? Lol. Wake up and smell the roses. I really wouldn't want to take alook at where that figure was pulled out from.

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Bruh, true, I can understand your points but those cases you mentioned are isolated cases because there are billions of couples in the world today who are happily living together with their children and families. Your aim is supposed to be on the positive side of the box as you plan to to make your life easier and better. Don't give up on life. You can surely make it

RisenPhoenix:


Lol. Look at someone damaged by Hollywood, Bollywood and Nollywood telling me I'm damaged by Ubunja's miseducation. My friend, I found out the true nature of women before I was 16; probably before NL even existed.

My old neighbour sits outside his house the whole day on a cane chair until his maiguard takes him inside the house in the evening. Where he even gets his food; I have no idea. His wife has been in the States with her grown children who have never invited their father to my knowledge. I never saw him pick a phone call from the wife and children that he squandered his money and youth on. Another old pensioner neighbour is constantly being ridiculed by his loud wife because he can no longer bring home the cash. If you see how this once proud man is broken, you will pity him. If not for the fact that he owns the house and the shop which she uses to sell stuff, I am sure that his wife would have left him since.

Is that the kind of companionship you wish for me? No thanks. Forget that nonsense about smiling old married couples vacationing in Hawaii. It's a myth.

Says the man whose signature reeks of undue appetite for prostitutes. It is evident that it is the prostitutes that will be there for you by your bedside when all your energies are gone by age 70 and above.

bluefilm:


Don't waste your energy.

That guy or girl cerpvad is already screwed forever and ever.

God bless you abundantly for this insightful remarks bruh

Kaycee54321:
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It's not a myth. I personally know an inseparable couple who are in Love like they met yesterday. They cook together in the kitchen, giggle like kids and travel to see their grandkids together.

The Key is to marry your friend. Marry who you enjoy her company even without doggy and big ass. The problem is that these days, our generation, we're too too shallow...Men chasing ass over personality, women chasing gold over substance... So marriages these days are just shallow and sham unions.

Forget the Baby Mama, Baby Daddy hype. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING....Daddy, mommy and kids no be family. It goes way beyond that. You need to experience it to know it.

Adam and Eve 's case is an isolated one. After them, there have been many cases of couples that have lived happily till the end. Furthermore, if Adam had not been lonely, God would have not provided a companionship for him.
Your miseducation has so much caused a lot of damage to so many Nairaland guys that most of them have got effrontery to come out to spit on the institution of marriage. Don't you think it is high time they started unlearning the toxins you have fed them with?

ubunja:
in that case Adam was a failure until Eve was made for him. Funny how its Eve who ends up separating Adam from God, Eternal Life and Paradise. Smh.

As long as men base their happiness and success on women they're screwed for ever and ever.

You seem to be telling us that all women are mad right? Bruh, you need to go and unlearn several things about women because not all of them are mad like you have been taught.

COOL10:


I rather be lonely than marry a mad woman.

Your earlier thread shows how narrow minded you are:
https://www.nairaland.com/5607292/naija-girls-too-stingy

You are already toxic in your view about women.

Happyguy201:



What completes a successful is marriage ?? Hahaha hahaha biggest fool award should go to you

Oga believe it or not, there is no affection you can enjoy at your old age that can be greater than that you have built together with your wife and children over the years.

My take is that get a woman who you can build affection together till your old age. There are many of these women out there. Go and look for them and stop being damaged by ubunja miseducation on Nairaland.

If your plan is to get old without having strong family life and still be carrying oloshos up and down, then you have lived a failed life, no matter what the amount of wealth you have acquired

RisenPhoenix:


Even if you were married, chances are that at old age, it is only you that will be sleeping in your bed anyway; while your wife goes off on foreign trips to 'help take care of her grandchildren'. Even if she remains behind with you, women these days are terrible companions; providing you more with hypertension than comfort.

On the other hand, when you are a successful unmarried man, there will be no shortage of warmth in your bed.



You can still have children and grandchildren without being married. As for wife, she will not follow you to stadium before.


Obviously you have not seen the many miserable old men sitting the whole day outside their homes while their wives alternately ignore and abuse them because they have lost their 'usefulness' to the woman.

Oga wey mumu pass me, if you get sense, you go no say story about a successful man is not complete without the mention of his marriage and children. Go and ask your state governor why he has a first Lady.

Happyguy201:
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See Mumu who tell u say marriage is part of total success u never see married couple wey begin suffer after marriage b4 abi

Good. Don't you think you will be happier when you go to stadium in the company of your wife, children and grandchildren at that critical old age than to go alone? I watch premier league well and I see people both old and young in the company of their families watching the games and they appear happier than those who have come there alone

Kennedyiheme:
lol go england make you see as old men dey enter stadium watch games.. dont let Nigeria poverty mentality finish you bro... so you're saying all the babes you've been knacking, you've married them...?..

Marriage is part of total success. Your misery go be like imported from hell if at old age it is only you sleeping in your cold bed

RisenPhoenix:


You can never be lonely if you are successful. If you are a man, it is difficult to be unsuccessful if you remain single with only yourself to feed.

Na the video games go be human company you go badly need at your old age àbí? Na the premiere league go dey fulfil your sexual fantasy at old age? I pity you you bruh

Kennedyiheme:
lol how can a man be lonely, when there is premier league, la liga, seria a.. when i can always play video games?.. am i a woman?

I keep saying it that those of you who are against marriage now, na loneliness go kill you at old age.

Kennedyiheme:
I don't know about you but I'm not interested at all... lol i see nothing in for me, there's no point, we don't live in 1960 anymore where women had high moral values, an average woman these days have a body count of over 500...

Here's a study that says younger men aren't interested in marriage
https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/young-men-giving-up-on-marriage-women-arent-women-anymore

Your time here doesn't matter to anyone. Everyone does what works best for him. Thanks for checking by.

ubunja:
I really don't have time to reason with you on this.

Do what you think it's best.

Single mother knows the nitty-gritty of child delivery and care. She has a first hand experience with child training and any complexity that could come with it. She is a ready-made mother. So who do you think will raise my kid better? A single mother who has experience with kids or a fresh single lady who has not cut her teeth in motherhood?
Every kid you see, either it is yours or not, deserves good fatherly care and sometimes, it does not matter if such care comes from biological father or not

ubunja:
lol so exactly what's special about giving birth? When it was not even your kid??

Life is a journey that will end one day. From the pictures below, you must be at a particular stage now. Whichever one is it, make the best of it.