₦airaland Forum

ChiefSosa:
It's crazy that D'banj is one of those celebrities that's actually maintaining his marriage, and acting like a responsible married man. A whole D'banj of that year that we all thought would have several baby mamas and concubines.

nnenwa5:
Let me cheer you to open one.

GloriousGbola:
Oddly enough, these were the words some chief threw at funmilayo ransome kuti during the women's riots in abeokuta. The man was speaking disparagingly.

According to the story he was speaking from some sort of raised platform

Finished off by saying the women needed a kick on their idle rumps, made a general kick in their direction and fell down

There were some rumours he was paralysed after that.

These are excerpts from wole soyinkas ake

Seems these redpillers are so bad you can't even recognize good natured trolling anymore.

The battle of the sexes will never be won because there is too much fraternizing with the enemy

GloriousGbola:
Waytin agbeyinto pipu dey bring to the table tho?

A wench should know her place
At the kitchen table and under the boardroom table

GloriousGbola:
Plan a for school shooter response protocol
Plan b for school shooter response protocol
Black parent talk
Plan c school shooter response protocol
Thanks and God bless America

nnenwa5:
Excellent thread; I don't know why we don't have one for USA folks.

cc Cococandy

pocohantas:
Even you?!
And you too?!

You women are not helping the OP at all.

Beremx:
you gerrit sis

pocohantas:
Because he is probably with someone above 25 but below 30. All it takes is to fall in love with a 33yrs old woman and he would help us increase the age. No be Ctrade again? Exist o, he would amend it for us in due time.

pocohantas:
You carry receipts come sha.

SeaTrade:
Nigerian ladies are the ones obsessed with it,I wonder why.
No guy in my circle talks about it sef and most of them can afford to,men just looking for ways to expand their reach on a daily.
But for the ladies,it's a whole different ball game.
Everytime you need to marry ,it will help your fortune,two heads are better than one,you need a partner bla bla bla,
Your head is so bright and you are such a fortune giver,yet you are always looking for who to run to his house and hold leverage on in the name of marriage,
Use that your support and good fortune to build yourself first,then we can talk.
Story.

Klass99:
Hian, Acid, Coco & Magnolia you people get time and energy, to dey debate back and forth sha!

The thread has entered seven pages now because of you guys. Carry go o, at least you have all kept it civil and entertaining.

Coco that comment about Ukraine and Putin being rascits and how Putin will have us black folks working under the sun, till our skin peels off had me LMAO . Nice one!

tensazangetsu20:
Probably they wanted to talk about reversal. Reversal surgery is 2 million but the main one is 80k. Even 65k in some places.

Saintmary:
Like I implied earlier, I do not recommend for a man who has never had any kids to go for vasectomy.


Vasectomy is mostly reversible, but post reversion fertility in some rare cases is not guaranteed.



Let each gender clean up their house, men teach your fellow men to be reasonable, stop condoning bad actions.



Women, stop tearing your fellow women down, it's not pretty, it's ugly, stop being too quick to distance yourselves from your fellow women



Let's be better than our forebears, maybe, just maybe, we will leave this world a better place.

Acidosis:

Magnoliaa:
And you know the funny thing about this, if you na actually share details about your life and what you do, they'll say you're over-compesating and projecting and seeking for attention with fancy pictures instead of focusing on you life and family.

pocohantas:
It is always the embellishment for me. One said my mother is using a Nigerian used Scanfrost fridge. Then another day he makes reference to Hisense. So he knows it is Hisense, but deliberately changed it to Nigerian used Scanfrost. Person no suppose take those ones serious.

Acidosis:
You want to reason my matter? How?

Magnoliaa:
And I even thought he said you don't talk about yourself. This one, nko, Mr Ascorbic Acid? I'm guessing this is a general info you put out here from time to time. I am just knowing of this... and mostly because I focus on what you have to say, not the messenger and your life decisions.

I would think that's how to be logical and objective and to form opinions without biases. Even if I form personal opinions, like I do with redpillers or try to infer what they'll be like offline, when I am arguing with them, one-on-one, I rarely bring it up to use against them. If I don argue your points finish with you, that's the end niyen, until another time.

Magnoliaa:
You don't have a problem with cleaning or domestic duties. Great. So why did you bring up Coco's "advices" and focus on men cooking and washing in their homes (whether as a secondary or primary duty)?

Because you're trying to 'drag' Coco for always talking about men contributing domestically, instead of advising women to be 'good', like you assumed she is. But you're forgetting the context that many women in Nigerian homes today contribute financially, and yet, women still get preachings about how they should run the home and take care of it. She hasn't said all of that isn't good, she hasn't said women shouldn't be cooking and shouldn't care for their families (because she does), she's simply saying now that women also bring money as well, whether consistently or seldomly, let's tell more men to put in more efforts in contributing domestically, to the women's 'primary' duties, as you've believed. There are already tons of messages for you. So why do you have a problem with Coco talking to men? You said you clean in your home, she said her husband helps out too --- so where is the issue?

Magnoliaa:
Asinnnnnnnnn. How I love this response. Absolutely nothing is cut and dry! I'm sure he still considers himself a traditional man, and it's likely his S/O works. He has refused to say or accept or deny anything about that.

Why should only traditional people get to modify and play around and assist in other roles or only live about 60-70% of traditional lives but other people, of other ideological leanings can't do the same?

If your wife financially supports you from time to time as a traditional man and it doesn't make you an hypocrite, then I can do a traditional wedding of my choice and cook for my husband as a feminist and it wouldn't make me an hypocrite.

Acidosis:
Coco, your head won't stop shaking until you understand the difference between primary and secondary roles.

Acidosis:
Do the man's duties, as in provide everything for the household? By traditional wife, I mean someone who understands that her number one role is to take care of her home. The traditional guy understands that his number one role is to provide. Emphasis on the term "number one". That shows that there's room for secondary roles.

By the way, we may have redefine the idea of a traditional wife because you cannot agree to a traditional wedding where your man paid your bride price, where you probably knelt for him, served him palm wine, and then turn around to say that you're not a "traditional wife". Another character misalignment.

Acidosis:
In your attempts to tell men how to be good husbands, your relationship with the man in your life will be a very good reference point.

By the way, traditional wives contribute financially too.

Acidosis:
It's good to know that Coco cooks for her family even more than many "traditional" wives. Now when a female moniker comes up with a problem, it would be good to see Coco talk about how to manage crisis in the home, how an ideal wife should take care of her home, not sleeping and waking up on threads that make it mandatory for the man to cook and clean or threads calling for divorce and separation, or relationship between a man and another man.

discojug:
Hello fam, Please I need your advice on my issue; My wife and I got married 5 years ago and she has been unable to get pregnant. We have done all tests, which the doctor confirmed that I am fine but she might have a slight issue. We have tried addressing the issue but still no positive result. The thing is I am getting very impatient and feel very unhappy when I see my friends with their family especially their children...my wife is a good woman and honestly at this point I dont know what to do. I am not getting younger and I would love to have kids while I am still very much active... please kindly advise me on what to do because its becoming embarassing at this point.

Acidosis:
To make really great arguments, your position about issues have to be known. It's not entitlement mentality, but setting the records straight and making your opinion strong enough to convince both the reader and those who look up to you.

You won't always catch me on a thread where women are being asked to state what they bring to the table. It doesn't apply to both my beliefs and the values I uphold in real life. It's easy to convincingly argue against such questions with facts that are based on my experiences. Does it mean that my values are the best out there? Nope but it shows that I stand for something and I'm not scared to defend what I stand for.

If 80% of your online time is dedicated to the course of feminism, please don't turn around to tell us "I am not a feminist". It's a character flaw, a character misalignment.

Acidosis:
The quoted paragraphs just summarize my arguments so far. You see, it's very very difficult to understand what you stand for because your time is vested on issues that do not apply to you or your real life experiences.

It's very easy to know acidosis and what he stands for by merely reading a few of my posts (even though I've outgrown certain views). You have strong opinions about Muslims/Christianity but your religion is somewhat unknown. You leave readers like me with no option than form an opinion of you

Magnoliaa:
I had to highlight this part. 'Cause this is what it is all seeming like to me.