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Naira235:
I doubt if you know what's operating in UK at all?? Domestic workers are different from Care assistant and also different from Child minders. Care assistant is different from live-in-carer and nanny. Everyone is proud of their profession and no one , I repeat none of the above can work , save £15,000 for school fees within 9- 12 months , and sponsor themselves with both feeding, accommodation and living expenses.

MamaEEE:
I go use pigin answer you. So in all[b] when[/b] I write , na to correct English pain you. Living the message... You no even fit think go Autocorrect or typo... You for start the correction from your user name... Try they mind your business if you no get anything good to say

MamaEEE:
Don't tread a part u will regret later... Your sister is the best bet here if your mum can't come over to help you.
I give u a life experience of a friend . Same country as yours, Made this same arrangement with a friend from nija to come over to enable her work reasonable shifts for five months while she accommodate and feeds her in return she care for her kid.she works 4days a week d friend 3days a week... She got to the UK, she that was brought in started work the next week and Neva did the child care for a day. Stories of her one family back in nija is sick and needs money started rolling in. Dax how my friend watched 5months rolled over without getting help from the friend... When u bring your bosses daughter over she can chux to work out of the plan and their is nothing you can do.or she come even get boyfriend and chux to move over to his house , what will you do. Na u lux b that. But your sister cannot jux abandone u and your baby, blood dey say is thinker than water. U self think am ,u go chux to give an outsider a better life living family . You can't win the case if the news comes out later...
And ur timing 8-2, what if the minder get class to attend and you need her to look after the baby... Who go solve the matter( in zlantans voice ) in other news bring your your mum or sister
Think about it

Naira235:
Inviting her over is applying for student visa through MSc route which cost over £15,000 and I see no evidence of slavery there.

I don't need any house help, but just a childminder. I have been paying childminder here but thought it will be additional advantage to someone else inform of tuition fees instead of paying over £700 every month for childminder . The only agreement is to pay their school fees direct to the school account in exchange for the work.

Naira235:
Inviting her over is applying for student visa through MSc route which cost over £15,000 and I see no evidence of slavery there.

I don't need any house help, but just a childminder. I have been paying childminder here but thought it will be additional advantage to someone else inform of tuition fees instead of paying over £700 every month for childminder . The only agreement is to pay their school fees direct to the school account in exchange for the work.

J111333:
His life support machine hasn't been disconnected yet meaning he is not dead.

Does this morafoka not know that Ajimobi's family can sue his black ass for invading their privacy?

JeffreyD1:
I've my own personal story about similar thing

But I'm a guy

My story always sounds awkward to people

That's why I don't like sharing it


E de even shame me at times

Sixfeetbelle:
And when wife bathes him in hot water for infidelity, the "After God, fear women" crew will not do well to remember it was the man who went to wake up trouble.

Isorait

tunjijones:
Am sure u are not married. Get married first and see if you still don't have interest in a submissive wife.

And my guy it wld be worse if you marry a domineering wife. I have seen women that always feel that there opinion is always better than their husband opinion... Can you deal with that?

Drfernandez:
You are slow if you truly do not see something important to argue on this thread.

Ybaby:
It is the schools and the meat seller that are inconsiderate! The always insist on school fees and money for meat sha ni.

Then you see those children that are always saying mummy I want this, I want that (very inconsiderate)

Woman too wants to look good, wear nice clothes, lashes, nails skin, shoes, bags, gym membership, spa treatment, Brazilian hair etc (very inconsiderate)

My advise is to find women who use thread to ko iru or shuku (those hairstyles are beautiful, economical and hopeful within your budget- if not cut the hair with razor blade NGN50)

What you should not do is hope to coerce the Brazilian hair loving girl who likes to go to the spa twice a month for body scrub and massage to accept to have your children, feed you, shelter you and respect you. It will not happen.... why? Becaise other men also want her and they have means to provide for her, shelter her and thier kids.

My advise is to woske Sikira alagbo and take it from there.

Best of luck.

thesicilian:
For the bolded part, no one can really blame the woman. However this can be partially prevented if the children are well behaved and the woman herself is financially independent. For example by sending the children to boarding school, etc. At least one thing is sure: there's a level to which someone can mistreat you if you don't rely on them for money

Minsk24:
Never ever trust anyone....
Apart from infidelity, the vagina could still have some unfavorable microbes that can cause STD, there will definitely be meds that can cleanse the body after sex...

Pauldollars:
The counsel of Balaam and Ahitophel is what you're giving. Did she tell you she's looking for a place to squat with boyfriend.
Na una dey spoil small girls for area.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Okay[/color]

Drfernandez:
I wonder what meaningful compromise a badly behaved woman who cannot tolerate a man who does not have money more than her or a man who can cheat on her can make for a man, especially a man who is better than her in all theses aspects.

On the male side, it is not a secret that a man will tolerate a woman who does not have money more than him and treats her well and may also tolerate her if she openly cheats on him.

So, will it be out of place to say that generally women are more selfish than men? If no, it will then be stupid and hypocritical for any woman to say that women are more considerate than men.

Those against @GuyInTheMirror wish for a good woman, what do you have to say, since all of you said that a man who insists on having a woman with good behavior is asking for too much.



Open invitation to the compromise crew:


Creamychic
saucecode
pocohantas
GuyInTheMirror
annex1
izzou
Romangalactic
Ariza
cochtrane
Ishilove
cooooooks

nkwuocha1:
Unfortunately,that's true.
But the step father may also not be willing to be a father as well.

JONNYSPUTE:
...I can understand that you really wanna sound objective here but the truth is that women must be women.

She must definitely bring up the issue sooner or later.

Guys,even if you pay up. A woman that sponsored her wedding completely is the man of the house. No two ways about it.

Nwanne,forget love. When you get married that is when you will findout that it is not only love that keeps a marriage afloat.

Mariangeles:
That was the best you could come up with?? Inferiority complex?? Really dude??

pocohantas:
Oh, I get you now. So, a man doesn’t owe his step kids financial support or rather, he shouldn’t be forced to do it. I quite agree with this. Would we also understand with women who say they don’t owe their step-kids support? Or do we call them wicked stepmothers?

While you have a strong point, we should also understand it is not this easy in the real world. I don’t think anyone would be happy being in a marriage with someone who draws the line in how they treat the step-kids. Not like it is compulsory to even re(marry).

coputa:
It is not always like that,especially when the kids start coming,the step child is always at risk.some men even go to the extreme to rape their step daughter.

thesicilian:
It is the responsibility of a mother to take care of her children where the father's not in the picture and the stepfather does not want to. I also feel it is an irresponsible and overly desperate mother that would marry a man who does not want to accept her children from a previous marriage.

nkwuocha1:
No!

She should take them back to the sperm that formed them in the first place,or forget about the marriage altogether.

donbachi:
She will use it to taunt him and keep reminding him of it,even in his grave.

Mariangeles:
Are they not humans?
What makes you think you're better than them? Because you traveled abroad?
Not everyone has the ambition of traveling abroad you know?