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It's bedbugs, not "invisible insects".

hermionepotter:
Hello, guys. For the past two weeks I've been getting bitten on my bed by invisible insects. I've tried and checked for everything; bedbugs, biting midges, mosquitoes. I've cleaned and disinfected my entire room, and yet it continues. I've searched the mattress and even torn it open and I've not found even one single insect. It became so terrible I had to spray insecticides on my bed before I could sleep. But I still wake up with bite marks.

My friend thinks the dry cleaner I give my clothes who hand-washes it might have used juju on my bedsheet or something. We are in Nigeria so we all know this is possible. Also, I started refusing to give her foodstuff and other things because she kept asking for more. Please help.

Proud Nigerian man with Nigerian parents, siblings, friends, and more-than-friends.

Unlike NL, in the real world, unfortunate peeps with your mindset no dey see my brakelight.

BRATISLAVA:
Still on the same old excuse?

You're still typing garbage after sentiment has been cast aside.

You're the unfortunate one here. You're a Nigerian man, too. A double tragedy.

He said they didn't pay him and he has savings with them.

How can he owe them?? Biko I am not understanding.

sholatech:
You never can tell when previous employment background check can come up. If you owe them one month in lieu of resignation, kindly pay them and clear your records.

Despise not the small beginnings.

Another hardworking, beautiful Nigerian woman.

Make I no hear that we don't have awesome Naija women!! RPillers beware!

If you can get pro-bono representation, it may be worth it.

Someone whose account was blocked during EndSars won a N2 m settlement.

Come with your full chest. You know I can't allow hypocritical bashing.

Lollittaa:
meet me in the other room

No be me carry you go dey gallivant with so called bad Nigerian men.

Keep the same energy when NL men insult all Nigerian women.

Unfortunate fellow.

BRATISLAVA:
The excuse of it's the kind of men you meet is getting old. Who are the people perpetrating such acts if not Nigerian men? The tooth fairy?

Is it that you're in denial of the normal daily headlines? Or you are waiting to meet such dirty men to know they exist? Maybe if a gay man turns that Nigerian men charm on you, you will feel otherwise.

Only the truly unfortunate person here will deny statistics and work with sentiment rather than facts. You can't even address the issue head on, rather diverting here and there.

Most Nigerian men are sex felons.

That is a talent.

Kobicove:
This guy who has no talent that we know of has managed to manipulate social media to his advantage and is cashing out massively

Go to YouTube. Search for "Pinecreek Doug".

Watch his videos.

Mayyvin:
I'm not exactly sure how this started.

I used to always begin my day with prayers and studying the Bible. But of late, I've been finding it difficult to continue this practise.

I also have no desire to go to church anymore. I find I don't learn anything from the Bible whenever I attend. Either I'm too busy working (I'm a worker), or the sermons mostly borders on how to attain wordly success—things I can easily pull up from one of Anthony Robbin's motivational books.

I'm involved in a lot of things in church. I occupy several leadership positions (which I didn't ask for) and every Sunday feels like an office meeting.

I get home feeling drained and tired after several meetings. I don't learn anything from church and I no longer feel the passion I used to have.

I dunno what's happening. My spiritual life is wearing thin.

Actually happy to see this comment. The hypocrisy in the op and some commenters is palpable.

Seun:
For whatever he needs. Men who are rich give money to their wives all the time. If a man is rich and never helps his wife financially I don't think the marriage would work, but it's usually not an issue because men are expected to provide for their wives. I think she was the defacto breadwinner but as a woman society had not equipped her for the role so she failed at it. The same goes for the man. I bet he didn't know how to use seduction to extract cash.

Bobrisky isn't showing pictures of him doing his "work".

Poverty mindset.

Lollittaa:
cars I'm very sure he rented to take pics of. That's how hush puppy would take pictures of cars without plate numbers until the bubble burst. Bob, oni fake life.

Apply directly to companies. Send emails and physical letters.

sageb:
What kind of jobs can you do?
Where is your location?
What is your qualification?
Furthermore,
The challenge we have here in Port Harcourt is that Firms do outsource jobs through agents.
Some of these agents are so greedy and all they are after is the job seekers money and 50percent of his or her salary.
This is the sad reality.

Just because you come in contact with such men doesn't mean it's the norm.

I'm a Nigerian men. My father, my uncles are Nigerian men. This is not normal.

No difference between you and the NL guys who say stuff like "Nigerian women are useless", etc.

Unfortunate peeps.

BRATISLAVA:
This must be the preference men on NL say that women in tech receive. Must be the preference they give out. This is why guys in tech must be begging for laptops. Some Men sabotaging men.

Some Most Nigerian men are sex felons. Even the dirty-looking ones in backwater government offices. That is a typical day in their life, scheming and looking for ways to demand sex from women to do the things they should ordinarily do.

Including your father.

A country of 200 million people and you'll be opening your unclean mouth to say "most".

AoifeNightfall:
I'M SO ASHAMED OF NIGERIAN MEN RIGHT NOW!!!!

It doesn't even surprise me. Nigerian men are the most morally bankrupt idiots I've ever seen.

Lool. Sure you did.

Winters23:
I made $2m legit from home in 2 months. Who needs abroad when you can work abroad from home.

This discussion is derailing the thread (thread was for relationships not the historicity of Jesus).

The documentation for the Bible is very poor by historical standards.
Tacitus' reliability is also largely questioned for many reasons. Not least of which is the fact that he was in Rome, not Jerusalem, Galilee, etc.

You could create another thread for the historicity.

Lollittaa:
I'm not even trying to convince you. I'm stating a fact. There were many Christus. And many people were executed on the cross. But one man, one Christus, executed on the cross, sparked a new movement.
Historians wrote for a reason. To document facts so those coming after can read of what happened in days gone by.
Two things are involved. Either they both lied. Or they told the truth. You can say Josephus was favourably biased, since he an Israeli. How about Tacitus who was a Roman, who wasn't even a Jew.
Facts are facts.
I'm only responding to your earlier submission that Paul was the founder of Christianity.

There were many Christus in those times.

Mere mentioning isn't proof of anything.

Nne, I've heard all these arguments. The best Apologists generally fail to be convincing.

Lollittaa:
you read of Josephus. But did you read his writings? Besides Flavius Josephus who was a Jewish historian, Gaius Tacitus, a roman historian, also mentioned a "Christus" and Christians who were named after him. .

Yeyebrities using a small boy to shine.

With wealth per capita of $1000 AND inflation, there is no money in this country.

We don't even produce milk. Milk o.

DawnStudios:
Money dey this country oo, na just bad government and bad citizens be our problem for this naija.
I'll join those dollar millionaires soon.

With wealth per capita of $1000 AND inflation, there is no money in this country.

We don't even produce milk. Milk o.

DawnStudios:
Money dey this country oo, na just bad government and bad citizens be our problem for this naija.
I'll join those dollar millionaires soon.

13 years no be beans.

Lollittaa:
Big girl how na

I've read of Josephus.

Many scholars contend that Josephus never mentioned Jesus.

Watch/read works by Bart Ehrman (New Testament scholar) or/and Tovia Singer (Jewish Rabbi/scholar).

Lollittaa:
you should read the writings of Josephus. There was a physical, literal Jesus. Not saying this because I'm a Christian. Just like confucius, Mohammed, these people lived and walked this earth. Jesus existed and Rome killed him.

Ah ah. Big girl tinz.

Lollittaa:
my boyfriend then was 13 years older and thought I was too young for him. Years later, he's still looking for someone like me.

The first books were written by Paul. The only person who claimed to have seen Jesus, and put their name there, was Paul. Even then, it was a vision.

Lollittaa:
Paul wrote many books, but Christ is the founder of Christianity. He called himself "The Way" and when Christianity spread outside Isreal, early Christians were called "followers of the way" even before Saul was converted. And if you'll say Saul is the founder, how come he had to report to James the Great, half brother of Jesus and the apostles at Jerusalem? Catholics might argue Peter was in charge, but it was actually James who was in charge. Never Saul-Paul. If it were, historians like Josephus would have attested to his leadership.

An adult man is talking about "what will my parents say"; "they prefer me to marry Igbo".

Mtchew.

AmericanDad:
Hey guys, I just found out my colleague at work iv been sleeping with is pregnant. We were'nt dating tho we were just having fun together. We both came into the organization the same time and we earn very well like well above 500k per month. I'm 33 and she's 28. Shes having double mind about it and thinking of abortion but I told her No. Her reason is what will our colleagues say and how her family will react to her being pregnant out of wedlock.

The issue is she's from calabar and I'm from anambra. I'm the only son of my parents. Iv not told my folks yet but they definately would prefer me to marry an igbo girl. Also guys, we have started talking marriage plans but now that she's pregnant can the church wed us? or should I just do Traditional and court then after the baby is born I do white wedding Time is ticking oo.

Religion in Nigeria is especially callous. Strangely enough, some Nigerian religionistas would not attend a church that does not focus on prosperity gospel. People are poor and are hoping for a miracle or lottery.

Gambling, debt, drinking, and drug use are all very high in our country.

I fear for we future.

Nigeria is uber-religious, albeit nominally. The thread is a space for people who have navigated the marrying waters.

If a Nigerian wakes up and arbitrarily removes all nominally religious people from consideration, they would be left with a very shallow pool to choose from. This is before considering other, more important, issues: compatibility, general good-naturedness, actual attraction.

Your interpretation of Paul's letter (the actual founder of the religion) is not the majority, a strong minority. People will still generally come up against "unequally yoked" mantra; even if they are a different 'type' of Christian.

I do think marriage is a partnership regardless of religion/or lack thereof.

Kobojunkie:
Navigating what religion issue? You mean dating or marrying a religious partner? But why do that at all? Why get involved with that kind of headache at all?

jesus Christ, the one who Christians actually obey, have His followers freedom where it concerns marriage, only stipulation is equality...in marriage a man is equal to his wife, no such thing as one being head over the other. Paul's statement on being un-equally yoked is grossly misconstrued by the religion, but then that is what many religious folks tend to do a lot of. :

As for family, marriage is a partnership between a man and a woman. So they get to decide what their dealings with extended family will be, this as a couple.

Bia, what exactly do you have in mind?

If/when she opens up, will you be able to take it?

Be open, honest, willing to try new things. NEVER judge any fantasies she has or wants to try out. ALWAYS allow either of you to unilaterally call something off with NO JUDGEMENT.

Good luck.

Chuky7:
someone once said that every woman has some ashawo vibes(wild side) and she will bring
them out once she feels very very comfortable with you. what kind of activity do you think can prompt or push her to be more sexually free because she's not on a normal day.

Do you worship Paul or Jesus??

What did Jesus/God tell Peter in Acts 10/11? When Jesus turned water to wine, was it Eva wine?? They said he had "saved the best for last".

Tallesty1:
That's what the whole Romans chapter 14 is about but he was more specific in verse 21.

He called on Christians to consider the weakness of others before pursuing their own enjoyment.

21 It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak.

Nigeria was not always this religious. You do not have to stay in the religion/society.

Mashgash:
I Don't Feel at Home With the Religion & Society I was Born Into. Do U Feel The Same?

I don't like the religion and the tendencies of the society I found myself into.

I'm honest, straightforward, educated, open-minded, liberal and modern, but the people in my region are dishonest, shady, ignorant (not just illiterates), close-minded, awfully ultraconservative, hypocrites and very backward.

I'm literally a misfit among such type of people.

Such feeling of being social misfit led many people convert from one religion to another, or people migrate and settle in another city, region, country or even continent, not in search of greener pasture, but peace of mind. This is the reason why a top government official with a promising career, such as a diplomat or a spy, suddenly defect to an "enemy" country. For e.g., a Russian spy, with a lucrative career, will abandon everything and defect to Britain, putting his life in jeopardy along the line.

There are such kind of people in any given society, but they might be few.

What is your opinion? Do you feel you don't belong to the society you were born and living in? Why?

Don't be stingy, do share with us, please.

Most forms of brutal physical discipline are, plainly, child abuse. I don't care what anyone says.