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No biko,

With other gender war rabble rousers.

mariahAngel:
"Score points" with who though? You?

Let's just say I flipped things around to pass a message.

Do you want to address issues or score 'points'?

mariahAngel:
For change to happen, issues have to be addressed first. Right?

Be the change you seek.

mariahAngel:
That thought would've never occurred to me if it weren't for some men on this forum.

Gender warriors (like this comment) need to relax.

mariahAngel:
“When women do it, nobody will hear or know about it. But when men do it, they’ll make videos and have pictures taken to let the whole world know!”

Quote inspired by men on nairaland.

Is this news?

He is wrong.

The teacher is also wrong.

Flogging a child is child abuse, flogging a girl could also be due to other reasons, like a reflection of advances.

Strong and independent until a 15 year old Alfa boy is in town.

KHAN ACADEMY!!

Get her on Khan Academy.

You can print the worksheets at your school.

If you can, buy foreign curriculum books at used bookstores.

Get her a language video or textbook for kids.
Especially languages like French (Europe, Africa and Canada), Spanish (USA), German (free tuition university).

Expand beyond just 1 + 1 is 2. There are other ways to engage and expand her mind.

ntrukpum:
Hello friends, my daughter is very far ahead of her peers (class mates and outsiders) academically and otherwise. She started school when she was 2yrs. 3wks in school she had already knw how to write 1 to 10, A to F (I mean write not just to read).

Now she is 3yrs and she does things extraordinary. She can write 1 to 200, Aa to Zz without anybody assistance. She does her H/W alone, can read and spell two letter words. She sings a lot. I wanted her to play at least one musical instrument b4 she turns 5.

Two yrs ago, I had this vision of grooming "exceptionally intelligent" kids btw 9-12yrs to study outside their normal school curriculum. I mean a 9yr old kid in JS1 answering physics and advance maths question. Am still working on it. But my child is just 3yrs old and i am begining to be afraid. Married with two kids, an average of 30k monthly income as a private school teacher, I think, I lack the financial resources to push my daughter to where she deserves.

I need proper advice on how to guide her now.

We build temporary roads without drainage, no maintenance, and expect them to stay pliable.

In Canada, they regrade most smaller streets every year.

Construction on major arteries is severely limited.

SirBlack999:
A Nigerian tweep recently came only to call out the Ogun government for letting the state roads to decay



https://mobile.twitter.com/Letter_to_Jack/status/1447456498985185282

Ding ding ding.

These alpha guys should know that they are heading for early deaths with the stress they bring upon themselves.

Imagine wanting to be in 100% charge in this modern day. School fees and rent alone go give you hypertension.

If your wife is contributing equitably (not necessarily equally) in a PARTNERSHIP (all the Kevin Samuels fans should faint), who not. You to deny her a say in running the affairs.

The worst, as a brother to sisters and friend of ladies, these guys are mediocre toasters who have no game and just say weird stuff like "baby, you know I like you"; five minutes after meeting a gyal. Mtchew

Lollittaa:
that's the delusion with which these NL alpha male narcissists deceive themselves. They want a traditional wife with Liberal mindsets.

10 might be a lot and eventually limiting.

For example, if a lady draws up such a list at 17, what's to say that her needs, outlook, etc won't change by the time she's 25?

Some young ladies have witnessed the bad of some marriages, sometimes being participants themselves (*cough runs *cough). On that case, these needs may go away to be replaced by "practicality".

Finally, some ladies realize that having some needs would "limit" them to men who have needs too. Some ladies, my guess is few, do not want to put in the work they think is needed for their listed man.

Lollittaa:
If there's one thing I love about men, it is their boldness to tell upfront what they desire from a woman. Whether it's shape, ability to cook or amazing sex skills.
Women, on the other hand, often do not know how to identify what they NEED in a man.

Asides "I want a rich man" or "he must be good looking", I noticed several young women don't have an idea on what to look out for in a man, to weed out unlikely suitors.
Even the ones with set standards find themselves swaying once expensive gifts start rolling in. And as they grow older, the fear of "growing old in papa's house" becomes surreal.

Get this, Standards will weed out unlikely suitors. Only the most suitable will remain.For example, choosing to stay celibate till marriage may seem like all the men will run away, but in reality, only unserious men will be forced to move. The one who loves you enough to wait will stay.

Consider this example, people say "how can you buy a car you've not test driven?"
But do you know that it's not every kind of car that can be test driven by just anybody? You can't just walk into a car dealership and ask to test drive a Ferrari or a Maybach. Lady, you're not a lorry to be test driven by just any man. You're a Ferrari. And Ferraris don't need to be advertised publicly like other cars. They know who their clients and buyers are! Their buyers will ALWAYS locate them.

Set standards for yourself. If it means you wait, WAIT IT OUT. You're worth the wait. You are.

My advice to the ladies:
Write down 10 things you need, not want, NEED in a man. Start from there.

Hope the gun hasn't been used on people.

With proper forensics, this arrest could have led to several cases being finally solved.

It's when he packs out and moves in with her that you'll understand.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Oh I feel your pain ma, but I feel you need to be extremely strict. Men can be stubborn, but ladies are a bit weak. Perhaps you could invite a police to threaten her from sleeping in your home! What sort of disrespect is that ?

Secondly, I usually don’t stress my self about issues like this when I can go on my knees and pray to God. You need to pray to God to make both of them enemies, like He should scatter whatever connection is between both of them. Prayer works sooooo much!!!!! Also use words like “ Unless he isn’t my son, unless I didn’t breast feed him etc “ and watch how Heaven will arise for your sake.

Fornication should never be supported or encouraged.
Don’t stress yourself again, with time you won’t see her again.

Bam!

Unruly7:
How you portray the girl evil without saying anything bad about your son lol

If the girl is a chain smoker it means your son is a chronic smoker

If the girl is a prostitute it means your son is one

If the girl is not responsible for sleeping in a man house, your son is irresponsible for sneaking in a girl in his father's house VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Atleast the girl is working your son isn't working

The problem here is your son maybe you help him get a job and his own apartment

Since he has decided to be useless let him continue



Before you quote me remember The girl won't come to the house if the boy didn't invite her

Those are two very good fundamental qualities.

Bolarineliza202:
As for me,I want a man who's hardworking and will respect me as a woman.
What of you?

This is my problem with police.

It is all dependent on chance.

Last time, I had to stop driving normal car and drove one rundown bus to avoid them stopping me every minute.

lalasticlala:
As shared by Thabiso @Baggybaggz1



https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1447360965863936003.html

FCID stands for Force Criminal Investigation Department.

Reason number 1000 why I would be interested in a platform from the VP.

He seems to be the only sensible person in the room.

It's like the way to Poco's heart is by cooking.



But in reality, the men who were youth when I was a child ALL cooked. I learned from my mom and aunts while in primary school.

From traditional male cooking (roasting) to soups, etc.

Also, without cooking, how will a guy managé in school or as single?

Cooking is very important.

pocohantas:
They are the exception. We don’t have more than 5 thorough male cooks on the food thread. The rest post meals made by their (side) chicks or the ones they bought from a restaurant.



Good for you.

In her parents' house. Where are her parents?

Xilsbridalhouse:
In your own house ? Biko I hate maltreatment but I can’t advise you to be rude to him as well.

Lool. You want to scar the "poor boy" for life.

Xilsbridalhouse:
I’d just fold myself in one corner holding my belly, crying...no one will tell him what next he is to do about his hungry stomach.

Cramps can be extremely frustrating, like you won’t even be able to do absolutely anything and with this kind of pressure, oh I can’t even imagine!!!

- which men you dey meet? Haba. All the men posting on the food picture thread nko?

- as for female drivers. It depends. Those of us with moms who drive, and sisters who drive, no get that kind sexism.

pocohantas:
If he is a professional or good at it, fine. Most (Nigerian) men are VERY clumsy in the kitchen. They take ages to cut ordinary onions. Mess up the whole place and are totally clueless on how to do many things at the same time in the kitchen. The sight of this infuriates me and I would rather I don’t see such. Not forgetting that the meal would most likely be basic at best.

Sounds sexist, I know. Men feel the same way about female drivers.

I would personally not have a problem with a man not cooking. The problem would be if/when he opens his mouth to say it is below him. Just like the ediot in the OP’s house.

1. Where are your parents? They should give all the children chores.

2. Stand up for yourself, not physically.

3. Emm, be careful. How long have you known him? Are you people like brother and sister because some end time cousins (of both genders) exist. Lock your door.

Abetterperson:
My mom sister son decided to stay with us because of his family financial struggles. He's a bit older than me but we are of the same age group. Firstly I noticed this guy is sexist and when I say sexist I mean it. He believes a woman job is to clean the house and take of the family, a good woman in his eyes is a woman without an opinion, smile and always do what she is told.
He views me as an inferior, he tries to order me around and gets angry when I refuse. He doesn't really talk to me which honestly I think is for the best.
When he first arrive at our apartment he was shocked that he had to do any chores calling it a woman's work. He doesn't respect females infact he body shames women.
Am on my period and we are the only ones in the house because of my cramps am in pain. In the morning we ate bread with bama and tea. Just now this guy asked me what we are going to eat because he's hungry (he's doesn't like eating outside, he prefer homemade food). I told him I don't know,next thing he told me to figure it out. Just because I Know the kind of person he is, I kept quite. He came to me again asking the same question, I told him to help me ground pepper and a bit of onion so that I will be able to prepare stew and rice, normally I would use our bender but because there is no light and am afraid to put on our gen because of my mom. Next thing I hear is this guy just shouting like a failed musician, telling me that I don't have character and respect. I didn't answer because to me he's a madman
Am waiting for my mom to come, I Know she will take his side because she doesn't want him to feel maltreated but what is all this. Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not.

You said "the vast majority".

Smh.

Science help you.

Kobojunkie:
This isn't a generalization. Abandonment is a real phenomenon in Nigeria - has been reported so for decades - though like many other problems, it continues to be ignored.

I am glad your daddy is your hero...but that shouldn't be reason for you to turn a blind eye to the realities on ground.

In the words of Buhari, "who are they subsidizing".

When the Man kills his daughter (or son) one day from beating: "I didn't know, it was the devil".

When rats fill the place now, they will start complaining.

Jamesz12:
This is the giant creature killed just this afternoon in my villa,

So what happened?

Emikay75:
Please what do you know about Mandos Nigeria Limited

True talk.

chatinent:
Ok sir. I play a lot...and that's why I am living long.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V73gnxcyzIQ

A biracial lady recovers from breast cancer and begins a workshop to help young black and African ladies be proud of their hair.

He should push on by himself.

His hair styling could be very useful.

Life isn't easy.

siofra:
So Oshiomhole promised to change his life but didn't....


Nigerian politicians, no be today dem start this their promise and fail.

Be serious for once.

chatinent:
Lol.

He should double his hustle...targetting planes en route to London. Any way to escape from Nigeria is not bad

By the way, look how Oshiomhole was laughing like sb saying “boy, you are more criminally minded than me o. I couldn't believe it.”

Tueh! See face like wetin dem use wrap okpa. Oshiomhole could scare an adult at night. Where all these worwor people dey see fine fine ladies marry self. Beauty and the beast, Lara and the Oshiomhole. Na still God create this one?

Callous?

Magnoliaa:
Lol.

Why are you so obsessed with couples. Are you not busy?

Nothing wrong with both as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult.

Premiumwriter:
I always ponder this question when I see "woke" Nigerians defending homosexuality.

They will never touch polygamy (a man marrying more than one wife) with a long pole but always tend to prove why homosexuality is so right.

So, I'm putting this out here... Why do we want to justify homosexuality but we hate polygamy because the west doesn't like it? Is the west our brain now?