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And forfeit any gains:
Cars
Phones
Etc

To th FG.

You lose everything, are tied down with the community service so you can't even get a normal job.

Screwed.

edlion57:
Nawa....so if I do yahoo yahoo ,na to sweep court room for 6 months

Check if the study can be age controlled?

Generally, and in other studies I've seen, people who marry younger (sub 25) are more likely to get divorced.

In Lagos a few years ago. The restaurant wasn't so nice but I went in. Ordered a Yoruba swallow special, can't remember exactly.

The food was delicious and I reprimanded myself for judging the appearance.

Anyways, my toilet heard "wiih" that night.

Apparently, I don't get angry enough. Lol

This hours long "healing" is sus...

Ilamina:
Sorry for all the trouble peeps

I was just going through a rough time

I have healed tremendously over the past few hours

I just needed some time to heal from the ghanaian shouting

Natu Gini?

When will our people realize that we don't rate fake hair at all?

Lollittaa:
beautiful woman with long natural hair

Typing lenghty paragraphs does not make you appear smart sir.

BrendanJo:
Common sense is not actually common. The problem most people like you have is the ability to read and comprehend what they actually read is another major issue. One only asked a question, should more emphasis be place on virginity or should it be base on good decorum? I have head people advising girls on virginity without telling them about good behavior. That's what brought about the question.

That's why you don't chase.

If it were a mutual attraction, you wouldn't need to "prove" anything to her.

Elporo:
^Toaster - Hello
^{big-nyash Girl} - Hi
^Toaster - You gave me ur nos some hours ago
^{big-nyash Girl} - Okay, what's up? How's it going?
^Toaster - Please can you tell me about yourself?
^{big-nyash Girl} - Okay
^{big-nyash Girl} - I'm owing someone 200K NGN, my house rent is du ...

Ridiculous question.

Anyone seeking virginity like it's the holy grail is an idiot.

BrendanJo:
Just being curious to know, because a lot of people now emphasis mostly on once virginity before marriage, while ignoring good decorum. Should girl's virginity be the major emphasis towards a successful marriage or behavior?
I know of someone that the only advice she gives to girls is remain a virgin, which I believe is not bad, but while advising while not talk about the general behaviour and how it will also help in the success of marriage.

Relationship cannot start on the day of marriage.

Did she not know him before they got married??

Lollittaa:
she knows he's a cheat, but she'd rather be with him for love's sake. They're just 2 months gone. Hopefully after enduring gbas gbos in years to come, she won't come to NL to ask for help. My gender sha

It is entirely possible that she projected her own judgement onto him.

mariahAngel:
It is not worth being with someone you can't be yourself with.

A young Nigerian guy is working hard and probably earning 800k+ a month before expenses.

If he was a scammer, you'd say he's a businessman.

CountVersailles:
Ladies, can you marry someone who does uber full time? No other source of income besides uber every week. He earns well though and invests his money. But has no other source of income.

The lady in question is a top executive at a venture capital. They met in his uber car.

According. By Mclizbae 's logic, people should divorce immediately they are "above" their spouse during the marriage. Mtchew.

bukatyne:
What if she becomes 'higher' in marriage?

Because she may be smelling a scam.

Gandollar:
What happened? Why did you change your heart madam?

I like and encourage your strong anti olosho stance.
Sadly, too many Nigerians are normalizing prostitution.

Softboy001:
I don't even know how to begin, but am going to try and make it short, I want to know if there is anyone in my shoes, please let me know in the comments section.

Firstly I like to say this I love sex so so much. Yea I do but it's so unfortunate that am not able to do what I love. It's fustrating. It's been 2 years now since I had sex. It's not that I don't want to but I don't just know, the reason I writing this is because the kind of konji that am feeling now is overwhelming, as in am no longer comfortable. It's terribly fustrating.

I just want to know if there is anything I can do to help my situation. So if you got any advice kindly let me know in the comment section. I didn't introduce my self just call me mr D. Am 27 years old.

So here are the reasons. I separated them into primary and secondary reasons. I'll explain only the primary reasons.

primary reasons
1. Finance. This is one of the main reasons, I don't have funds. As in I don't have 1 naira. Nothing at all so I feel there is no need trying to get a girl. I have tried and it always fail because I don't have even as low as airtime to call and keep the relationship going. let's face it relationship in Nigeria, you got to have money as a guy. Currently I have been going through some hard times, after I finish school in 2019. My serious gf that got me all focus in relationship stuffs left me and broke me.

2. I don't do olosho ( prostitute)

So some my friends find this strange because they know am a bad guy when it comes to sex. But the truth is that I don't do olosho. Apart from d fact that I don't have much. Olosho is a No No for me. As in not at all. Not to be considered. I just don't like it. I can give a girl money or do a favor but not in exchange or direct exchange for sex. The olosho is so so annoying for me. where I recently relocated to ( lagos State). That's what they do
They call it hook up. But it's just pure olosho
I guess I would have had sex by now and won't be feeling what am feeling currently if only I will agree to pay for sex. But I don't


3. Lastly I don't have a place and have been moving.

for the past 3 years. I have been moving. I have not been steady in only place to get to know people. Am always new where am going to. And it's not easy to get a girl immediately.i have staying 2 months here 4 there for the pass 3 years. Currently am staying with my brother and his wife. In a room and palor. And it's not been easy at all for me. I can't even be talking of konji now self. But the konji won't let me be

Secondary reasons.
4.am an introvert
5. Am not that tall. Am short
6. Lately I been having some kind of dislike for the ladies behave
This topic is getting to long. I hope I been able to explain enough sha. Kindly let me know if you have any thoughts on this.

You and her are the ones getting married.

It is HER decision. Her mother and brother can have opinions but ultimately, the onus is on her.

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

I'm looking for drivers in Port Harcourt. Contact me if interested.

Not quite true. Even if that happens, one can appeal, theoretically.

The issue is the barrier of entry. I understand divorce proceedings for a middle class family could cost upwards of N500 k.

membranus:
Not in Nigeria, with an African mentality. It is a lawless country. The Judge that will determine your marital case may also be guilty of the same offence.

The court marriage protects the spouses in the event of a collapse or death.

Try getting access to a late spouse's bank account without proof of marriage or getting a court injunction without proof of marriage.

FlipModeSquade:
You think that Court marriage will stop a marriage from crumbling?

A marriage that will scatter..

Will scatter..

Court or no court..

Of what use is a marriage..

When your spouse has absconded?

Na yourself you dey marry..

https://www.mondaq.com/nigeria/divorce/1006774/brief-overview-of-alimony-under-the-nigerian-law

There's alimony in Nigeria. She won't leave with nothing especially if she was not working or earning much much less.

She will likely get alimony for life (if she was a homemaker).

pocohantas:
[s]The sad part now is, she would most likely leave with nothing after 30 years. [/s]

But then, one thing I know is, when a woman really wants to flee an abusive man, she doesn’t care if she leaves with nothing but her life.

This is so true. That's why all these people seeking to be alfas die early. Working so hard, they don't notice the emptiness of their lives until it is too late.

pocohantas:
Peace of mind is underrated sha. The pandemic made some marriages and it marred some. Couples had to stay together with minimal distractions and they were confronted with harsh realities. If you have somewhere to go to every morning, people to send you annoying WhatsApp BCs, you may never notice how empty your marriage/relationship is.

Impotent meaning be can't father a child or can't stand at attention at all?

This is why court marriage is the one spouses, especially women, should go for.

That marriage gives you firm backing in a court.

How is this still news?

Get DNA test o, if you suspect your significant other. Be prepared for the consequences though.

Correct.

lilvicky68:
The multiplication of the top numbers is equal to the multiplication of the down numbers..
1) 2
2)1
3)2
4)4
5)8
6)1
7)22
8. )2
9)2
10)0

End time marriage.

Release it.

They keep rat & mouse numbers in check.

1. I doubt this story is an exact account of what transpired, if any.

2. She's trying to be smart by playing you and her "serious boyfriend". If she's forming for him now, what will happen when they move on the next step?

3. I don't begrudge you in "playing her", it's the need to brag about this on NL for me. Personally, I would not engage regardless. If she asks for something, and I don't want to give, I would simply say, sorry, no can't do.

kenzysmith:
Met this beautiful girl at shoprite, I approached her and we exchanged numbers. After a week, I began asking her out she told me she had a serious boyfriend and she doesn't double date or run paro. I said no problem and I never disturb her.

3 days ago she called me that she needed to do one month sub that her sub has finish. I told her to tell her boyfriend na! She said she was too shy to ask him for cards. It look some how that it don't want to look like she was bothering him. I said OK no problem that I can't access my account at the moment that am at offshore in the middle of a sea that she should send me #200 naira mtn so I can call my bro to sub for her, she send me the card and I text her thank you very much for the card that she is a nice person.

After like 6hrs she called to tell me my bro has not send her the card. I told her I DONT have one kobo to send to her and cut the call.

Did I do wrong my fellow nairalanders

1. Words have meanings. Take what people say at face value. Do not think "surely, they are not serious".

2. Grown men should not be living full time with their parents.

3. No dispute is worth your life, or your freedom.

4. Never underestimate people: yes, your babe can carry knife; yes, that shy guy can kill you.

This position is so easily corruptible.

I see EFCC in his future.

Exactly. This is a HUGE issue that the legislature seems to ignore.

Market people, taxi drivers, ordinary businesses pay levies. To Unions, LGA, local Chieftancies, etc.

They already pay 'tax'.

Ballack1:
Carpenters pay tax
Taxi drivers pay tax to NURTW

Everyone should REPORT to the tax agency.

If you make a minimum income, say N50,000 a month, then you should be paid back any taxes that were taken from you. You should also be paid back a proportion of your sales tax.

This is done in Canada, USA, etc. Everyone reports their income, even if it is zero. Then those with low income get taxes back, sales tax rebate, qualify for emergency funding, etc.

Incompetence empowers people with bad intentions.