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Strangers living together.

Couples must plan their finances together.

My wife will know and we will decide that that increment is better off in a savings or investing account.

Build together.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

Tuition free schools are not sustainable.

There will still be some charges.

You believe them?

Nigerian army has never planted guns on boys they killed?

Ok o

Franzinni:
Innocent youth that can shoot back? Are they using their dicks?

Think! So many people are blinded by sentiments that they find it hard to recognize the truth...

They are killing innocent youth ? What is innocent youth doing with a machine gun biko?

You should be able to annull the marriage for lies.

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

The idiocy about not legalizing it is how easily we could export it.

Being a man is being in control of your mind, soul AND prick.

Stories like yours are the worst part of being Nigerian.

If you are not quite wealthy or very well employed, access to quality healthcare is impossible, and affording such quality when you access it is prohibitive.

If we had proper healthcare system like in the UK, Canada, SA; the treatments, costs, care and decisions would have been taken by medical professionals.

Take heart, take this question to a reputable, high placed doctor and go on from there.

You are not wicked for these thoughts, can your dad speak or respond to stimuli?

Some people create wills just to answer this question: "what do you do to me if I am a vegetable?".

Good luck.

Omorotionmwann:
It has been 12years now since my dad has been down with Stroke which has affected his speech,his right hand and leg and some 4years ago,he couldn't walk anymore but had to be carried to sleep,sit and all physical metabolism is done where he is,even after I and my mum have spent and still spends a lot on physiotherapy,speech therapy,brain checkups at Mecure oshodi,routine and forthnight high blood pressure checkups with expensive drugs and still no changes but it gets worse,all done going around in taxi as I have no car.....

I was 18 and in 200level in a federal uni with him and my mum my only support system when all of this started,couldn't concentrate and focus on school work anymore as I am the firstborn of a 7 boys family and my attention was always needed.....Mum told me I need to drop out that she can't afford all of this alone but I was strong hearted and determined to graduate with a B.Eng...

I had issues with my lecturers as my attendance were poor and my course adviser said it to my face that I would never graduate but I never told them about my travails or they wouldn't even believe me anyways cos they were mostly SADIST,All Engineering lecturers in Uniben especially Mechanical/PRODUCTION ENGINEERING from 08/09 upward,OGUN KILL ALL OF UNA!!! Life was tough for me and my Mum....

Now that I am a Man and supposed to be focus on my life future and raising a family but this is still taking a toll on me emotionally,financially,mentally and I will come home to my mum nagging,crying that she has tried enough over the years and i might come home one day and she has left ....THIS BREAKS ME,I AM TIRED,I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO....I LOVE MY DAD,HE IS IN PAINS TOO!!!

IF I COULD SEE THE FUTURE BACK THEN WHEN IT STARTED,I WOULD HAVE ASKED THE DOCTORS FOR MERCY DEATH,DO NIGERIAN DOCTORS OR HOSPITALS GIVE OUT MERCY DEATH TO PATIENTS?

NAIRALANDERS,I AM DEPRESSED AND I NEED YOUR ADVICE

sorry for the long post. Mods please help this thread to front page for more advice

Anytime bro.

Not all situations are the same.

arantess:
God bless you bro
People be making assumptions on the issue

If you got your wife based on your money or business, some of these could be an issue.

If the marriage is based on mutual respect, love, unity, partnership; you two will be fine. The family could depend on her income, work to get you set up in something else, etc.

If your marriage is based on the impossible Kevin Samuels snake oil of HVM, "traditional", etc. Good luck.

Havesomesense:
It is the duty of a man to provide for the family, women consider financially buoyant men for relationships.

Imagine if you lost your job/business or your income reduced drastically.

Will your wife love you?
Will your wife be jovial with you?
Will your wife give you her palliative as usual?
Will she disrespect you in front of the kids and others?
Will she watch you starve when she has food in the kitchen?
Will she keep reminding you that you are not contributing anything?
Will she start seeking other mens' attention?
Will she Change?

I need honest answers.

Which country?

Could you be dependent on government loans? Assisted housing?

Getting a system and getting back to graphic design is HUGE. You could earn remotely from that alone.

Satanisreal:
Being the first son out of six kids is challenging as there's a lot of expectations and it's draining me.
My parents really made things soft for us while growing up not until my dad feel sick and everything turned bad. I quickly realized things and kicked up hustling when I moved in with my uncle. This uncle of mine pays my fees and I work for him, but he's a very difficult person and no one stays with him for a long time even his wife couldn't. Having noticed that, I try as much as possible to please him but he keeps maltreating me so I deviced means to earn cos being wholely dependent on him will aggravate things for me. His wife is a very good person I look unto whenever I need certain things, this man changed totally during the lockdown and kept on accusing me of stealing his stuffs (Not money) even to the extent of taking me to the police, all these things began after some of his workers moved into his house where we reside, sometimes he'll tell his wife not to give me food for no plain reason. I overlooked these things but it was killing me inside, it really affected me because I'm a very calm person who likes to mind his biz and for sometime I was depressed and totally disappointed that my uncle would be doing this to me. I remember how he'll be telling me my father trained all of them (5) except him being the last born in school and therefore he owes no one nothing.
Last year I was able to get something doing while I work for him and it gave me some money that I was using to support my family and complete all my fees upon resumption. I later got some more cash and foolishly went to him to seek advice on what I can start up with it, couldn't detect the fact that he wasn't happy with that. To cut it short, the business crashed while I was at school and he promised to repay me.
Now I'm back to square one and currently on 6 months IT leave from school, when I came back to his house, things did not change instead it got worse so I quickly had to find something doing so I could leave. I used to model and do graphics designs and was also learning web development combined with Cloud computing but this man took my system and promised to fix it along with his when it spoilt but I've not seen it till date. A friend of mine whom I helped last year remembered me and asked me to come over to his place and I've been there now for a month trying to sort out things for my self but it's not working out and I don't seem to like this condition I find myself in.
I'll be 19 by December and also a graduate next year, I don't have anything to show for it, even my next school fee I don't know where it'll come from, my mother on her own wants us to go back to her country and I've been begging her to reconsider it. All my mates willing to help me big at the moment indulge in fraud and I can't bear the thought of going illegal. I did not offend anybody, I'm not a bad person, just trying to better my life and these things ain't working out it's frustrating.
I really need your advice cos for the past few weeks I can't get myself just been thinking about my next move and my future in general cos it seems I've been disappointed by my Uncle whom I believed in so much to help me.

Take your children off social media.

People should save this comment as a reminder of who the commenter is. She (or he) is not interested in rights (like the right to life), growth, peace; all they want is to keep the (ridiculous) gender wars going.

saphiere:
The wages of sin is death. It cost us nothing to remain faithful to our partners.

Since I don't support infidelity, no R.I.P for him.
I would say same. I, Sarah, is not a party to infidelity.

If any male member of my family cheats, may death be his portion. Same goes to every male member of every Nigerian family.
I pray you don't go through what I have gone through in the hands of men. I would've been a graduate in 2019
First of all, this forum does not hide my identity. Few members of this forum have met me in person. About three of them.
My pictures were all over this forum during that lockdown season.

Lastly, I don't hate men. I only dislike their behaviours towards women.

@Seun,

Is this comment a direct call for people to behead people?

saphiere:
The head was not using the head so it has to be beheaded.

Sensible Nigerians still dey!!

Hillarie:
Still reading the first page of comments and only you have made sense so far. Thank you!

If you have something substantial to say, say it.

No dey hide behind empty words.

Crystyano:
Must you vomit such waste?

Our country scares me no be small.

I take solace in the fact that many Nigerians (perhaps most) are enterprising, for themselves & their families.

shaybebaby:
Mentally enslaved people. Even with access to information at their finger tips, with everything going on the world, natural disasters, global economic instability, poor access to healthcare/education, a global pandemic, rising food prices, bad governance etc.
In the face of weightier issues facing mankind, their most pressing problem is..*drum roll* ....virginity.
It would be funny if it wasn't was soooo pitiful.

These aren't self respecting parents.

That means they basically STOLE the money you guys gave them to rent a house.

What does your husband want to do about this?

It may be difficult to remove them without you and hubby fully moving into the house.

MasterJayJay:
You would love your daughters to join the prostitution industry ?

1. Non sequitur

2. Yes. Tourism, including sex tourism, is one of the best things for any economy.

jmoore:
And fornication adds to the GDP?

We work and build together. Na partnership we dey find.

For those who follow half baked red pill (not real RP), people can work from home.

Your wife can even be earning in dollars from home.

So this is why productivity is so low in Nigeria.

People are focused on useless topics.

This is a common teaching.

I think it is false but many believe this.

Truthsoldier:
The thing I cannot understand is that he claims it's part of the ministry of suffering as a Christian, I was shocked

The juice is made from concentrate.

Those who grow apples save a lot of the fruits as concentrate and sell same around the world for juice and other uses (applesauce, jams, etc, flavouring).

Enudapan:
Nah eh! No qualms
This is so unsophisticated

I don't think so
Cos apples are the most
Expensive fruit here in Nigeria
One apple goes as high as 500 naira,
Most times I dey wonder how does apple juice sellers buy there apples and sell those juice at cheaper rate

In the post, the Dr is credited with saying that he would forgive them if they are eventually caught.

Crimes go unpunished and victims get no justice everyday in we country.

GboyegaD:
Glad he was able to rise above the challenge however, the wickedness of the robbers is out of this world. Hopefully, they have been caught and justice have been meted on them.

Lol.

How do you think international escorts advertise?

BigJoe19:
That's in Nigeria. Not worldwide.

The person is much more important than the size of their boobs or bum.

Sensuality is important.

Frankly, you guys can adopt.

It was the husband who posted it.

Ikillbrokehoes:
Must she show this to the world? this is the height of stupidity

Because obviously she is an object like a car.

/S

silibaba:
none of your business pls. what matters is that the lady in question is a tear rubber.