Hard boys that become armed robbers were never beaten shebi?
CandyOps: "If na me I go call lawyer..." Sharap your mouth. If na you you no go do shit.
Bullying cannot be stopped in Nigerian higher institutions as long as your Papa dey use backhand wipe your mouth whenever you disrespect am for house
You guys fail to understand that the family is the cell of any society. And a nation is a reflection of the family - on a macro. And when your mama & papa almost de nearly use beating wan kill you for house wetin you expect stranger to do?
For house, depending on the state, you may be able to buy one (even with 3% or sometimes 0 dollars down).
I won't suggest doing that yet though.
Get something you can afford or be willing to rent out to others and share the house.
Mary18656: LoL, I know it sounds stupid, but I'm a PR I'm 101% legal. I have access to government benefits in different places. And I have money to rent an apartment,I have saved$2000 with the little things I do at home, which is enough for me to get a shared apartment. But how do I get a house when I'm always stuck with innocent children,here in abroad, they are very young kids, and they love me so much. Do you know when one needs a house,one will need to be going to check the house,see the house,etc But I will go and check one out tomorrow,I have spoken with the agent.
You know the most annoying thing is my mom, always asking how I'm taking care of them, and I should take care of them very well. And the friends will be telling her to come for parties, that thank God now she has someone to look after the kids
Sister - I guess you feel indebted to your sister for making you a PR. - research and see if she could get a subsidy for childcare (usually only works if she's working) in your jurisdiction. This way, she and her husband have very little sensible reason to not be paying you.
Education - consider doing online school. If for example, you want to do nursing, you can do classes online. - if you want to continue in your field, your Bachelor's and Masters should at least equate to a bachelor's in US. - As a PR, you should have access to loans, grants and if you study in a state school or community college, it should be super cheap.
Finance - Consider a Roth IRA, investing online with Robin hood, etc. - get an OUTSIDE job (if not going to school).
Love - if you're also concerned about dating, you can bring someone you trust over (must be real love), you can connect with someone at church or you can use a matchnaker for Nigerians (if you want to stay within the Nigerian culture).
Nne good luck. But time starts now.
Mary18656: LoL, I know it sounds stupid, but I'm a PR I'm 101% legal. I have access to government benefits in different places. And I have money to rent an apartment,I have saved$2000 with the little things I do at home, which is enough for me to get a shared apartment. But how do I get a house when I'm always stuck with innocent children,here in abroad, they are very young kids, and they love me so much. Do you know when one needs a house,one will need to be going to check the house,see the house,etc But I will go and check one out tomorrow,I have spoken with the agent.
You know the most annoying thing is my mom, always asking how I'm taking care of them, and I should take care of them very well. And the friends will be telling her to come for parties, that thank God now she has someone to look after the kids
pocohantas: It is not that she doesn’t rate him, but due to his reputation, she has prioritized her peace of mind over his emergency support.
If you are driving behind a woman and hit her car, her first instinct would be most likely to call her husband or partner. If you give her the mechanic’s number, if you are in Saturn, she would most likely call you first. IF AND IF ONLY, YOU ARE A DEPENDABLE MAN! A MAN THAT PROFER SOLUTIONS, NOT EXCUSES. It is the joy of even the most independent woman to have a man like this and it is extremely painful to have the opposite. So it is not happiness she used in putting her family as her emergency contact.
Some of you give more excuses than actions. Yet you complain you are not the first on her emergency contact? You complain you are not being rated. On what basis should you be rated? Why should you be first there when she knows you won’t come through or you will come through after 2 months of arguments, fights and begging? You want to add to her pain in an emergency situation?
It may not be the end of the world but I would definitely have a dialogue with my wife about this if I were in his shoes.
She may have had these emergency contacts since before she was married and never changed. Her husband may work offshore or is generally far from their city. Her husband may be unreliable at times and hard to reach. They may not be the best communicators. She may not trust him.
Anything could be the reason. The onus is on them to discuss and move forward, together.
JovialJune: This is an issue? To the extent of concluding what she thinks of him? Let's say for example? There is an emergency that involves him or he is incapacitated, who is she suppose to call? Or he is unreachable when away from them, who should she call? Most times, emergency call number decision is usually for someone living far and nearest vicinity in case there is an issue at the home front, again, what if she knows her husbands number off hand? He should discuss this with her.
And for the idiots already assuming and concluding rubbish of the wife and most women baselessly, pray to God to give you a complete human brain and stop using that of an asinwin.
Any money I give to family or close friends is considered dash.
Darlingme: Why is it so difficult for most people to keep to their promises, to remit debts? You help someone with loan based on aggreement and trust, but when it's time to remit, they come up with excuses, default, making you look like you're too weak, too simple and when you get upset and raise your voice, they tag you as being Money conscious. On your own part, you don't want to lose relationship/friendship/family with them. you consider their struggles, yet, when they have your money either From their salaries or other means, they wouldn't still pay back. Have you ever been in this kind of situation? How were you able to handle this kind of people without becoming enemies?
Handsomejok: I have a big problem � I separated with my wife because she was a witch and the cause of my downfall. I had the custody of our daughter who is now 1 years 6 months old.
After getting rid of the witch I taught my business will be better than before but no. Things become even hard for me I started experiencing body pain and unknown sickness and we have been to church where I was told my daughter Is a witch her mother has given her the mission to kill me.
After prayers and fasting my health is getting better now and I have been to 2 different churches just to confirm that my daughter is a witch and yes it is true. I have packed her stuffs and i took her to her mother but she is doesn't stay there anymore and I don't know her new address. I am not a wicked person but I don't want her in my house because I don't want to harm her and regret it. What do I have to do with a witch?
You really become an adult when you take ownership of your life.
Mary18656: If you see someone who doesn't speak with their father, mother siblings, you will think they are bad people right? This is exactly what I will do for my family. They completely made my life a complete hell, from my twenties to my late twenties, they messed it up. I didn't choose this life or work for this life. But they forced it on me I feel like cursing them but I won't
My plan is to get married at 21, finish at 25, continue to grow. But no, I'm 27, with nothing, but I'm doing nanny and children caregiver.
There's no single time I don't have a suitor who is ready for marriage but my mum is always against anything good that I want to do, and always supporting my sister when they treat me bad by wanting me to stay in their house and do nothing, not even going out. This is how I waste good amount of my life helping my sisters who were unfortunate to raise their children and all
I'm very depressed now, thanks to them. I wish I could die but I can't kill myself
chika0072: You are just Ripe for the American life...but just relax and let her doings explain things to you well and you will react accordingly. Just chill, for few months.
Omo you be hustler, dem wan tame you but God no go gree. All the hustle to be a charity nanny for 1 sister like that....hmmm. omo permit me to say this "she wicked abeg. Bachelor....msc...running PhD(she con wan stop am)."
Pls chill for sometime...be active online, not just active...meaningful one cos wen you breakout the online go count....
Abroad where she no get rights, no money, no life? Which kind abroad be that.
Mary18656: Hmmm, "to be this stupid" that got me. You know sometimes I wish someone had told me family can be the worst. I wish I knew earlier, I don't have any problem naturally,I'm smart, hardworking, and everything, but see me today. When you see people that don't talk or engage with their family, you will know why. People will say, "na she send her abroad" without understanding what they have done
Many people, especially in the UK, have been arrested for doing this.
It seems you are on a visitor's visa.
My friend, biko, I take God beg you. Try and make your visa a student or work visa NOW.
If you can't, start saving money and plan to leave.
Given your skills, consider applying for a nanny visa. That should be a good bet, research online and contact some lawyers if possible.
With a visa, and fucken rights, things should look up.
Your sister may not care much about you. If they deport you today, it won't affect her (if she's already a citizen or PR).
Could you talk with her AND her husband about this?
Mary18656: Hi everyone! I need your advice First of all,I want to say I have been suffering from serious depression now, and that makes me misplace items, forget things, etc
I am the last born In a family of 4, I am naturally aan independent person,I like to take care of myself. . All my life I have not being myself, trying to make ends meet, going to school and learning handwork. While doing this, aside for my parents paying school fees, and giving me small money sometimes, I'm the one that take care of the rest of the bills through working while in Nigeria. My parents/siblings are 100% non supportive of things I do or skills I learn, and all they do is to condemn it and condemn me. I learned makeup and sewing, and I'm good at both. Many of my boss, I do free house chores for them so as to teach me well, and to give me time before completing the money I'm supposed to pay, sometimes,they insult me as they like even when I'm older than them, but I take those things with joy. So this started since 2010 when I entered the university,infact I don't have time to dress well,I just endured for all the years. Because I have the believe once I finish,I will dress well and look good, and do what I like, just like all others. I finished everything (schooling,skill learning),2years back, but when it's time for me to rest, my sister was doing wedding, for 4months,I was the one doing the up and down,no time still, then afterwards,there was COVID-19 lockdown,then when I should have time for myself,my sister want to pack to new house, I was with her for 2months, after I left to rest, she born,I was the one that was with her for months. All this times, any free moment I have,I use it to hustle. Now after she is fine and her baby is big,I left again to my house to establish my business because I'm pretty good at it, my other sister paid for my flight and I travel to the US, this my sister has never helped me or support me with anything before, and she's very rich (recieves 1million monthly payment),so the traveling thing was the only thing she has done for me. And before I travel, I spent another 2months doing stuffs for her,I was buying things, everyday in the market(she doesn't give me even transport fare o) so i finally went to the United States. When I got to her house, for three months, I am the one doing all the house chores, and taking care of her kids,while she leaves and do what she likes. Also in US, she didn't buy anything for me, aside the foods I'm eating, which I can't even eat what I want, and her foods are not what I would eat. I connected online and started doing makeup for few people,they will come and I will do mke up for them, that's how I get small money to buy the food I started eating after 2weeks that I got here. And some cloths and shoes that I sneakingly went to buy after taking the children to school. I literally become a single mother of 3 since the past 4months, and I sneakily buy the food I eat whenever she's not home. She tells me when to sleep and control my life. Living like this is crazy and I'm depressed everyday, because I can't even have friends,I don't have clothes,I am not able to exercise or behave like an adult. I'm still being treated like a 15years old girl, and I have not actually had the freedom I wanted since 10years back,I have been living on let me endure,etc. My sister is not allowing me to work because I won't be able to stay with the kid,and anytime I try to tell her I need to,she will be say she paid for my flights,she paid for that. I'm a legal resident (didn't just include the story).
I will be 27years tomorrow, and I just feel like killing myself as breathing is difficult for me when I think back and see that I'm still suffering after many years. And I still can't live my normal life despite I'm well educated(started PhD before moving to the US), not handicapped and I have nothing less than 5skills. But I can't even establish them as I wanted, and not like I can't, and all I do is sit and play with kids everyday. That is depressing, it's painful to see people that aren't as smart as me,or as educated as me or as skillful as ass me living their life as they wanted,and me is just stuck, can't even eat what I wanted without sneaking it
Now when I hear people die,I just feel like they are lucky, because I have been praying for death but it didn't come and I can't kill myself
Note*my sister is not the one that cares or listen so please,no option of talking to reason with her
Then some of the men get arrested for drugs or Yahoo.
The average Nigerian, who isn't into crime, that is spending foolishly is either deep in debt or in a never ending cycle of earn and spend.
benuejosh: Nigerians spend in clubs and on women. That's the known reason why Nigerian men are kings everywhere they go. Naija men na them get doings for Africa.
- Depending on your age, catch up with old friends, male and female. See if someone you liked is still single.
- Take stock of your values. Are you a Red Piller? Are you looking for someone much younger? Do you believe you must have money in wheel barrows to marry? Do you believe in partnerships?
- SEEK a wife. Join WhatsApp groups for singles looking to marry, check out your church or some other social gathering, even old secondary school classmates.
Good luck.
ufotty2001: Am a shy person.. I don't have a girlfriend.. am not longer young .. how can I start a family.?
pocohantas: The problem is not that you are shy, the problem is that you are getting old and you are not rich. So you have realized “men age like wine” is only applicable to men with money.
Shebi 4 years ago you were doing a minute silence for single ladies HERE?
Four years later you are not buoyant enough to hook smallies because advanced bachelors without money would be used to play pingpong by 200L girls till they have sense and just like you, they will start patronizing women in their 30s.
Fahdiga: George Olajuwon Ogundamisi see your life. Dealing in drugs just to make illegal money to pepper your Ile Ife people. You will do your time in jail
My advice: if the hotel has a pickup service, use it (if the hotel's name is body written on the body).
I would be safe with Uber or local drivers.
If you know someone who travels a lot, they may be able to get you a driver as well. I used the driver of a friend who regularly travels to Lagos. The driver does Uber and Bolt but turns off the apps whenever one of his customers is in town.
oldienavie: Hi guys, I need experiences from people flying into Nigeria(MMIA) Lagos. My family is not going to be able to meet me at the airport this time and I am weighing up my options with transit.
I have a friend who said he knows someone that does transportation that he can come pick me up and take me to an hotel, however I am a little skeptical with that option with the high rates of insecurity in the country.
My opinion is that sometimes being annonymous to your service provider is better, but I am a little concerned with the security level of Uber in Lagos. Are uber drivers known to kidnap their clients particularly people boarding them at MMIA ? Can uber hold their drivers responsible if something untoward were to happen to their clients, or if they are known to connive with kidnappers etc ?
I just need experienced info and also from uber drivers to make a better decision.
Edu training operations executive might be better for long term growth.
Store manager job may have more opportunities to make money, more responsibility, path for growth if it is a big company (which it doesn't seem to be).
Could you land Business Manager of a top school through the edu training job? Working for an NGO? Opportunities to get trained yourself?
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