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Op, here is a short term solution to your problem. Though it might a bit expensive but atleast you will get a break to breath for a while.
1. Get a nose surgery to make your nose slimmer and possibly some injections to narrow your face to align with your new nose (it can be done here in naija)
2. Change your hair style by shortining it and maybe change the color too, or leave it long but change the color
3. Start using vaseline on your skin to deliberately darken your skin a little bit

Now the above steps are drastic last resort options to entirely change how you look. And mind you, you got to maintain your new look for a long time in order create a new image of how you look like in peoples minds so that when and if the guy decides to release those damming pics in the future, you can totally deny its you since by then you would look so different. You can take those steps if you are absolutely certain that the release of those images will do more harm to you in the future than good and if you can't live with the fact that those images will be out there.
I hate cheaters to the bone, but the op seems to have gone through a lot of torment to make me feel an ounce of compasion

i would rather die than not pick that key

what i find funny about christians is that as soon as you catch them using their own book, they make the excuse that you don't have the holy spirit in you thats why you can't understand the verses correctly Look christians, we don't doubt that indeed the is a book revealed to jesus, but you have to agree that the book was corrupted through the ages. I was recently debating with this christian girl who desperately wanted me to convert to christianity, I told her that if christianity is the teachings and believing in the teachings of Jesus christ, then we muslims are more christian than the christians themselves. I showed her some verses in the bible where Jesus among other prophets performed ablution, went into the temple and prostrate on their faces (in other words, a describtion of the muslim prayer) and asked her why she and other christians aren't praying like that, all she could say was that i need the holy spirit first . What about the verse that said in the day of judgement, people will meet jesus and say, lord lord, have we not prophesied in your name, and your name cast out demons and heal the blind and the leppers, Jesus will say depart from me, i know you not. By the way, why are christian girls walking around without a veil when Paul said when you see a woman who is not covering her hair, shave it off. Paul said that, its right there in your bible.

Here is my motto: the day you start communicating with your ex is the day you are going back to where you came from. As it is now, am grilling my girlfriend about her ex's even though non of their contacts exist on her phone, she has no communication with them whatsoever, but am still giving her hard time, not to talk of when her ex's number exist on her phone

I remember when at the hight of the bh insurgency, i was present in a Local government in one of the frontline states and bh was very near and reports are they are advancing towards our l.g.a right on a quite suburban street, we saw a strange looking man in white kaftan, trousers above the ankles(religious type), with a black bagpack on his back, he was wandering around going back and front, clearly out of place. O boy na so everybody just scramble leave the place sharp sharp.

booking a non refundable international flight without getting a visa first. The embassy will tell you to not make final payment on your ticket before you got the visa. However, when booking online, the airline companies require your mastercard or visacard details, opon providing those details, the airline will charge your card before the embassy makes a decision. In my case, i spend almost 320,000 naira on a klm ticket, another close to 70,000 naira on hotel bookings and many more, but embassy come deny me visa twice, now the worst part is everything i gave my card details to was non refundable. Not to talk of tens of thousands visa fee and such. Now my travel plans are dashed, my money(getting to half a million) gone into thin air, e.t.c the whole system is just a big fraud. Embassy will find any reason to deny you visa, airline company will refuse to refund your money, hotels will vanish with your money and you are left in the cold defrauded, cheated, hopeless. I will never forgive those involved in defrauding me of my hard earned money

The best solution i came to realize is to see girls as your normal male buddies. Talk, laugh, play, joke, scare, abuse, e.t.c with them like you would with your male friends. If its still hard to do, then see them as men with breasts and vaginaaa it will surely ease your mind a bit and before you know it, you are very comfortable around them

Red wire crosses over blue, good as new. Blue crosses red, good as dead

Didn't you hear of the saying women are dream killers . Me wey get big dreams like becoming a hollywood actor, working for CISCO systems, taking adventurous road trips, travelling the world, having sex with all known ethnicities(caucasian, asian, latino, black, arab), climbing mount everest, owing a huge poultry empire like Los poyos Hermanos , walking the board walk and streets of venice beach on Los Angelos, Seeing Time Square live and direct, and so many others, the moment i get married, that will be the end of my dreams. The amazing single life continues joor

Krisgift:
I believe a man who respects a woman and has genuine love for her will wait until the woman is ready(through with her hard to play game)

Come to think of it, if a guy has genuine intentions for the lady, I don't see a reason why they should rush into sex.

My thoughts though.

Your thoughts are as worthless and useless to a guy as the zimbabwean currency. This right here is why i tell guys never to take advice from women. Can you imagine? wait till the woman is ready . while the sucker is busy waiting for the woman to be ready, another sharp guy will giving it to her night and day, and she will still not be ready untill she is above 30 or so with a couple of bastard children. Asking advice from women concerning relationships is like asking an antelope how to hunt, it will lead you right to failure

hahaha, na so one of my friends dey form angry and hostile to me just because i was toasting his sister. Mind you the guy impregnated and has children with two different people's sisters o. I told him he can go to hell. Whether he likes it or not, somebody will eventually toast, have sex with, and marry his sis. Ain't nothing he can do about it, except he is secretly in love with his sis and want to marry her. In my case, my younger sister brought her boyfriend home and when i came home, told me point blank that this is her boyfriend, i just greeted the guy and proceeded to my the rest of my life. absolutely normal

icedbeatz:
TK0907 you better get rid of that who're you call a fiancee she fukd more than one dude believe me. you really don't know how these who'res operate, can you live with someone who can't control their sexual urge? 7months and she fukd not that you guys broke up just that there was less communication. she will manipulate you to think it's your fault cos you didn't keep in contact with her and that resulted to cheating. you can go ahead and keep kissing that mouth she sukd another niggas dik with. shes the kind that fuks your friend, neighbors and any fukable. Don't listen to these self oriented part time prostitutes- here typing crap cos prostitutes_ will always support their fellow whores_. from your bitchs answers thats God warning you not to marry what will kill you go ahead of you wanna die of heart attack.

o boy thats how my ex used emotion to make it seem that its my fault that she cheated. we were apart for just 5 months and in that 5 months, she did the deed and got pregos from another dude. Mind you before we i travelled, she used every strategem to convince me that long distance relationship between us will work, that she can never marry again if it was not me, that she will be absolutely faithful and such. Although i knew long distance will only end up in failure, i fell for it anyway and i was actually stupiddd enough to remain faithful throughout only to come back and find out the she is a month or two pregnant with another guy. When it now dawned on her that am dating another lady, she visits me everyday and telling me things like "i betrayed her, that although what she did is wrong and a mistake, but its my fault since there was a time i couldn't communicate with her for almost 3 three weeks to a month" e.t.c e.t.c I just look at her thinking how foolish she thingks i am if she thinks am gonna take her back and raise another man's child (not to talk of she will forever have the guy she cheated on me with in her life because she has his child). frankly, i just feel sorry for her, because she is now all alone been a single mother at 20years old, the guy she got pregnant for ran away claiming it isn't his child and what not, but ain't no way in hell i can go back to her. I now trust myself never again to agree to anything like long distance shiittt, no matter how much i love the girl, if am travelling for some time, we are breaking up before i go, period.
Makes you wonder what the wifes of soldiers, out of town workers e.t.c are up to behind their husband's back. me trust women again? hell no

you guys are refusing to answer this simple question on all the BVN related threads. What happens to those who refuse to do the BVN thing? will their accounts be closed? will their money be gone? Because i don't want to inconvinience myself with the endless lines of standing if the thing is not compulsory

wummyanthoy:
Beware if U dnt want 2 develop stroke l

I swear that worries me alot. Common epileptic power supply de give me stresses and such, imaging finding out she did something after i marry her, high Bp or stroke might happen to me. You know what, she shot herself in the foot with that story, am going to tell her right now that the relationship is over. I can't continue to worry like this. Will come back later to tell you how it all went

Fulaman198:
My point exactly, she wants to turn him into a cuck. No disrespect to the OP, but soon she will be asking to do her ex in front of you and to make you watch OP. Do you want that sort of thing OP to be exposed to cuckoldry?

Hahahaha, shiittttz. What a nightmarish picture you guys are painting in my head. You see what i didn't tell her was that maybe the reason i dont want to go for long on her is cuz her puccy stinks bad. I mean dead flesh bad. But because she sexy small, i overlook it and do the needful. Honestly, i would love to go down on her and such, but i couldn't risk throwing up while doing it. Another thing is that 3 rounds at once and maybe 5 rounds a day is not my problem, as i did it all the time with my former girl, but abeg man no be machine, so it can't be all the time. I guess what really irked me about her story is the way she told it, there was this look on her face that says she misses it or something. And you know when women start to think back to those times, then its only a matter of time before they act on it, and honestly, i dont want a situation whereby we marry and she "tries" the guy again, cuz it will lead me to commit a crime of passion or murder or something.

Guys, i was just having a conversation with my girlfriend/ wife to be about likes and likes-not in bed, and while listing her likes, she went on a story telling episode about her previous guy. The part of the story that caught my attention was when she said that her ex will do her for hours without resting. She said there was a time she visited the guy and he effd her from 12 noon to 5pm, that she could barely walk that day and was feeling so satisfied and fulfilled. She then said with all the fuss i was making about effing her out of her senses, that i came short of satisfaction, and that the guy was stronger in bed. You could imaging how furious and boiling i was feeling inside while hearing this from her in a normal conversation.
The facts are though that when ever we have sex, i am absolutely sure i last for atleast 15 minutes or more no doubt, my penis is 5.7 to 6 inches erect and hard as wood, i do pre-intimacy and such, so what the hell is the problem? Is it even my damn problem or her's? I know for damn sure no normal guy will last for more than 20 minutes of constant thrusting. If she has to be effd for hours in order to feel satisfied, isn't she the one with the problem? On the one hand, i feel like i shouldn't even worry myself since she is aperantly the nimphomeniac not me. On the other hand, i feel that her "accidental revelation" is a sign of what's to come, as in she might be a cheater when married because of her insatiable appetied for marathon sex.
what's your opinion guys

All this trek trek, are we witnessing the begining of hobos, tramps, wanderers, nomads in Nigeria? I bet if you took to the road now, you would encounter multiples of so called trekkers wandering the nigerian highway system, and soon it would become a hubby. great

nerodenero:
Dangote, joining you soon at the top

nero.........hey nero............nero wake up its morning,

talktrue1:
I know dey reduced it because of Yerima

I sought of feel the same, i won't be suprised to hear that he was the one that pressured the bill through. But common, that guy needs to be restrained. What in the world will tempt a man to have sex with an 11 year old? the stories you keep hearing about the old generation who married very early are misunderstood. In the olden days, a father might offer his daughter for marriage to a man at a very early age, the marriage celebration might even be held, but the daughter will stay at her father's house until mature enough which might be by say 16, 17, 18 e.t.c then send to the husband's house, not like yerima is trying to do it today. Yerima should please go to japan and buy some cartoon child porn to masturbate to if he can't control his pedophilliac tendencies rather than trying to force us to accept as normal sex with children

Why are southern cities so unplanned like this. whenever i go to the south, everything looks and feels so caotic and unorgarnized, like there was no city plan whatsoever. Hawkers eating up the roads, illegal shop extensions into highways, absence of sewer lines, generally dirty environment, urban decay (rusted roofs, noise pollution, terrible inner city roads e,t,c) complete absence of street layouts. But as soon as i enter north, i honestly feel like am out of a prison, towns and cities become more spacious, cleaner, planned, beautifuller e.t.c cities like Ibadan are eye sickening to be frank

Unfortunately for the PDP, critical thinkers know exactly what you are doing. Have you guys noticed the trend now? spate of bombings and immidiately flood of abuses rain on the 5 day old buhari administration. dear pdp, what you are trying to achieve cannot be achieved in this day and age, most U.S presidents did it, hitler did it, Isreal did it. its called false flag operations. It all worked and their aims were achieved, but not in this age, it won't work for you PDP. Conveniently wait for buhari to be out of the country (for important security talks with our crucial neighbors), then sponsor some bombings and immidiately tell people 'see? he is unserious. his country is burning but he is still touring like a tourist' mark my words, it will not work

One thing with we africans is that we are so afraid to think big. You see a governor wanting to build a road, he will build a miserable looking two lane crap, instead of thinking big and say 'hey, i got great plans to industrialize my state withing the near future, so naturally there will be population increase with likely heavy vehicular presence, why not build 5 or 10 lanes and make sure its up to every accepted standard out there'.
Now i understand why everything about me is attracted to real engineering. You just gotta love companies like GE, Bosch, Scania, DAF, Deawoo, Caterpilla and the rest. Those guys are engineering personified. They deal with iron and steel. They build machinery that amazes the human mind with ease. The think big and build big to awesome proportings. Those guys were dreamers and skimmers, tinkerers and inventors. A hats off to those builders of our modern world.

o boy money and power good o. like seriously, see as dem don fresh de shine like those big juicy benue mangoes

So guys i just got an update from CIC that my tourist visa application has been refused. Reasons been that
1. Travel history. even though i have been to two countries before. and must someone have a travel history before travelling to canada? what if every country demands that all applicants must have a travel history. How then can you acquire travel history without travelling?

2. Family ties in canada and home country. First of all am single. Can't a single person travel again? Furthermore, i have a complete pdf file named family/home ties but there isn't any section to upload it on the visa application and CIC. I included parents and siblings and business as my home ties, if those aren't enough home ties, i don't know what is.

3. Personal assets and financial status. Again, no provision for uploading personal assets. Because i said i have a business, they provided a section to upload my business registration, but the thing is my business registration is still pending approval from CAC. I also have a piece of land that isn't registered but still poses a sales agreement by a law firm and a site plan performed by lands and survey. As per statement of account. I provided a total of 900,000 naira account statement that is after payment of all airline tickets, hotel bookings, tour booking via a reputable canadian tour operator and all I was still left with almost 900,000 naira. Notwithstanding, i uploaded the CAC page that shows my business is still pending to be approved, pictures of the business(a cattle fattening business) e.t.c shouldn't i have indicated that i have a business?

Guys, please do you think i should re-apply? maybe with a better explanation letter? My travel was due by 29th of june. This current application took about 20 days for them to come to a final decision(i applied May 8th and decision came today 28th May), so if i apply again, will i get a decision before the 29 June dateline? Do i stand a better chance with a clearer explanation letter that will include the sales agreement of my land, explain my business but don't indicate i own a business on the CIC questionaire. If all fails, how do i now get my money from the hotels i paid for, the return airline ticket that costs me 300,000 naira, the in canada airline tickets that costs another 70,000 naira and the rest? My second travel choice was sweden, do you guys suggest that i don't waste my money on re-applying and instead apply for a swedish visa?
Please advice guys

what do you expect when the only thing we have as internet in Nigeria is mobile internet. These countries use fiber optics layed to the nooks and cranies of their countries. Nigeria can only boast of gsm towers that are powered by generators to provide both voice and data services. What a joke of a country

darefestus:
You will have to get used to it.The waiting period can get to the strongest of us, best to take your mind off and be positive (easier said than done, I know).
The processing time is not set in stone and varies depending on a number of factors , but expect your reply in 6+ weeks.
All the best

You could be kind enough to let us know the following details about you;
Intended Institution, Program and Term.

I applied for a tourist visa not a study permit. Couldn't find an up to date thread on tourist visa that's why i posted it here since the thread is 'Travelling to Canada'. Anyway, i applied the first week of May, gave biometrics the second week, and my travel is due by the end of June, thats why am anxious for an update regarding my application. Tourist visas aren't suppose to take long to get.

CoCoLav:
@Cronsberg you are not required to submit your passport for online applications until specifically requested for.

Hope you uploaded a photocopy of your data page in your online application though?

Yap, submitted my data page. But the waiting period can be really stressful though. no update nothing. Just that application ID ********** is being processed at the canadian visa office. The anxiety is really affecting me, i just wish it can be all done with already.

Guys please i need an answer to this. Must i submit my passport same time i submit the visa application at vfs global lagos? I mean, i applied online at CIC, gave biometrics at cvac (vfs lagos), but didn't submit my passport as i told them i needed the passport as my only form of identification(with the assumption that if a decision has been made regarding my application, i will be notified via email and text to submit my passport). Now, was i wrong in not submitting my passport? could a decision have been made quicker if my passport had been submitted? as in maybe the visa officers might say ah this application didn't come with a passport, maybe he ain't in a hurry, so lets keep it aside and do the ones that has their passports here in front of us. You feel me? so would me submitting or not submitting my passport when i gave the biometrics have made any difference? will they make a decision and notify me even though i retained my passport with me?

Na to bring 2nd wife sharp sharp, no dulling. If it continues, na to 3rd to the 4th. If it all fails, na quardripple merger divorce be that. And the circle continues