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sharpwriter:
You welcome meanwhile go to bed o ... wetin yu still dey do for here?

Las las, life is not black and white, decisions even change within an eye's twinkling; principles or no principles, life fit box some into a corner while they eat the words they typed here

You know they say talk is cheap and thoughts are free so everyone goes around talking as they like.

When it comes to walking the talk, that's when the boys would be separated from the men.

Give them a few years, very soon some people will realize that life is like a biscuit, you can't tell where is gonna crack.

sharpwriter:
It eas Isaac Newton actually, not Archimedes

Okay. Thanks for d correction.

VickyRotex:
hahaha coolio!

" I see you when you get there
If you ever get there
See you when get there errrr"

Why posting my man?

Rgade:

What we can all take home from this "pandemic" is that most Nigerian governors are daft.
My governor however takes the cake.

Very daft, d guy at Abeokuta is d most daft.

Come to Lagos where a room self contain is at a minimum of 300k and where flats go for at least 500k while earning average pay.

You think Archimedes was stupid when he said

"if I have seen farther than my peers, it's because I'm standing on the shoulders of giants'

Staying with his parents for now is a big head start, but many of you in this damn country are too myopic to see the big picture.

eni4real:
Marriage is not a Philanthropist-Beneficiary relationship!!

It is not a 'Poverty alleviation program'!!

She should get a job and continue with her loving partner!!

If it is easy to choose a rich husband, no woman will be broke by now

Leave the couple alone!!!

Isn't it you who usually chastise young men seeking to start a family early with little funds?

Lizzyangel:
kudos to you for the move....@ the I'm not even interested in her part of the story, I hope you're being sincere to yourself....do you have a serious relationship@hand? if not ,you guys can still work some chemistry.

don't forget the part of not resigning in this era if your plan B ain't sure or strong....Coro dey do pple strong tin out there....think well pls

Thanks. I'm having second thoughts about the resignation stuff.

Well, I don't think we are compatible, especially in terms of culture even if I wanted to go that route

Lizzyangel:
I hope you have another job on ground? this era is never a time for quitting one's job, think about "a bird in hand......"


how about trying to call the lady part of my comment? you can't conclude on her actions yet, if she isn't texting, you do to clear your conscience....if her reasons for ignoring you ain't genuine, sideline her....you've done your best....anyone that helps another In getting a job has succeeded in saving lives....you don do well bros.


may you not be forgotten too....thanks in addy

We had a chat today, she will be resuming fully tomorrow. With what I have observed, she isn't too keen about rekindling d old friendship.

I didn't ask her why she snubbed me, apparently, people in my org. and hers don't know she came through me or that we are friends, even d guy I recommended her to doesn't seem to know there is a connection or an existing relationship between us (lol) he thinks I just advertised d job somewhere and someone applied.

Anyways, she will be working in a different work space different from mine, the less we get to see, d better for everyone. I'm not even interested in her so why am I even bothered.

I've done something good as you have said, time to move on to more important issues.

Tallesty1:
Bro, these people have been friends for long and when she needed a job(going through something), she checked up on him but just after getting the job she started acting like she doesn't know him.

See, I am not here to support the guy or the girl but her action is unjustifiable whether or not she's going through something.

And hey, I hope you know the dangers of always making +ve assumptions? To always focus on positivity is a negativity and accepting a negativity is positivity. You know that right?


@OP. In life, I encourage you to do things for people to satisfy your conscience and that only. Don't expect anything from them in return.

If I were you, the thank you she said after getting the job is enough, more than enough. Appreciations, compliments etc are just some of the things I have no idea what to do with.

If you do things for people and they say thank you, guy that's final. Anything that happens afterwards is a new chapter and the old good deeds should not be brought into it.


The way forward? Oh damn easy.

You never wanted to date her.

The friendship wasn't strong before her new attitude so why do you care? You expect her to be nicer to you because you got her a job?

Why?

Did you get her the job because she was jobless or because you want to use it to rekindle the almost dead friendship?

Bro move on.

If you see her tomorrow, act like you never know her. Like you've never met. And if she greets, reply her like you reply unknown people in the street and keep moving.

Life is a form of punishment, make yours lighter. Don't add unnecessary burden to your already heavy laden shoulders.

Sincerely, you are spot on.

Lightman300:
We are responsible for our actions, inactions (choices). Blame God, the devil, or your parents all you want, it doesn't change that truth.
Adam told the one who Sustains all things that it was the woman whom He gave him (Adam) that made him sin.But this line of argument availed nothing.
The first king of Israel (the son of Kish) forcefully argued that the people around him made him did what he did.

That's true, I remember Saul, he said the people made me do it, still, God wasn't swayed.

It's foolish to put ones action at d desk of others.

dulux07:
It may be too early to judge her yet, who knows she might be going through tough times, be introverted or might not see things the way you are. I am not justifying her actions.
Make +ve assumption to justify her actions, don't change your attitudes towards her yet, you can even confront her if you have the opportunity to, but if she continues same way afterwards, you can just ignore her.

Thanks.

decatalyst:
Op, instead of you getting pissed at a perceived ignore from her, why not look at it from this angle.

1. You have done your part and she has appreciated you (thanked you), that should be it. If you really do not expect something else from her.

2. Are you married or in a serious relationship? If not, would you reconsider the bolded part up there? Women have a way of passing across messages... You may need to start paying attention to yourself...especially your dressing and general physical well-being. If you are not in a serious relationship,this may be a pointer to what you need to do right in order to attract 'the one' for up.

3. You never know if she has interest in you o

Lol. Thanks sha.

Lizzyangel:
my own view on this is.....she might think you don't want people at your working place to be aware that you knew each other for privacy purposes,hence , she ignored knowing you.

2....she might be feeling she's now a big girl and be forming for you.....you can't know her mind as you never asked her for her reason to ignore you @work.


why not call to ask her if she never did to clear your conscience?


I hop you're not resigning cos of her.......that's the worst thing in this period if your answer is yes....people are dying to get a job out there please don't quit cos of her.

Thanks ma'am. I'm not resigning because of her, my workplace is very far from where I stay that's why, all attempts to get a close nearby has proved abortive.

I haven't forgotten my pledge towards you.

Charity85:
.

You have done your part, which is noble, leave her to live her life. Don't rubbish the noble you have done

I won't.

I have this female friend from school, I was a year ahead of her. We were very close because we worked together in running a school association for 2 years. She studied Bio- something.

Since I left school, we hardly communicate, our communications are just formal whenever we do; how are you? Congratulations on your new job (LinkedIn) how is work? She is my friend on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and watsapp.

Recently, she just checked up on me and that was very noble, I really appreciated her gesture given that people only check up on you when they want something these days. Upon enquiry, I found out that she is job hunting, I encouraged her and wished her well.

Last week, a colleague in a subsidiary of my company told me to help him look for a fresh graduate as his assistant, I quickly contacted another lady but she wasn't done with service so I remembered this my school friend and recommended her.

Initially, I didn't tell her I work with the said company and that we work within the same building, when she got the job, she told me and thanked me. Surprisingly, we met on Saturday for the first time in 3 years, she said sth about me loosing weight and all, it was a weekend and I was dressed in my casual. She left later without telling me, and hasn't chatted me up since Saturday.

Today, she saw me at work and just acted like she doesn't know me. I'm not a top level personnel in my organisation, I still have people I answer to especially my immediate supervisor who is a female. I was also dressed in my causals since today is a public holiday.

I'm really surprised at her behaviour, is this how we are gonna continue? I'm not interested in dating her but at least she shouldn't be showing all that attitude at this stage. Since Saturday she hasn't sent any message and I haven't too.

I'm even planning on resigning this weekend but I'm really disappointed at her behaviour towards me. It's not like in school I was a big boy with a killer swag, I'm just a simple guy, money never dey to form big boy, she isn't a big gal neither, just a church girl in school, so why is she trying to form on a job I recommended her for?

Ningen:
Another dimwit.

Only someone with a non-existent self-esteem and sense of self worth will tolerate a cheater.

You are not even ashamed to announced it's not her first time cheating... You must be worthless.

Just cut off your balls and feed it to the dogs.
If you don't know what to do, STOP being a man.

Una no well for this forum walahi!!

Instead of me willfully sining in the house of God as a dedicated worker, I rather renounce my Christianity.

Nothing stinks to d high heavens than church workers committing fornication.

My first and only relationship was with a Youth choir leader in MFM, I wasn't interested in sex at allllllll, only for this girl to tell me that although she is a vrigin, her up part and above belongs to me.

I couldn't just get it, I was so confused and lost interest immediately, why try to deceive God? Why be lukewarm?

People who do these things try so well, I wish my conscience was half dead as theirs.

This OP will make a terrible wife and mother who wants to bet?

You're finished, you have nothing to offer any reasonable man anymore.

Joke is on you if you think you were fooling your parents, come back in 30 years time and ask how far.

uliyaah:
Hi, do you need new TV?
I have Hisense 32" to sell.

I'm interested.

paulolee:
u de apologise to d family in bracket abi..xo waf abt me d joker?? u no go beg for me??

funny u

paulolee:
bad...jus too bad...u dnt cut off d head to cure headache naa....saw xo many wrongs in d story shaa
1..pms kept inside d kitchen
2..viki still de sleep wit men even after she don chop fly
3..viki blood too de hot n get mind slap her mama after her mama challenge her
4..chima self no de take rubbish n the accident was a mistake
5..las las na our hospital kee d gal bcoz dm too de reject emergency case..

Forgive me (to d Family) this is funny.

magnificientzaz:
Can we look for a flat together and share? I urgently need an apartment too

What's Ur budget like? (An estimate)

iLegendd:
If I f*ck this Blessing now her innocent husband-to-be will not keep up and it will end in tears. So, for this, had to withdraw and stay safe. People called Blessing, Precious, or Jennifer are not faithful and never will be. Though, there may be exceptions, but I haven't seen yet.

My Corper Blessing is very very different

mekaprime:
The Pursuit of Happyness(2006)..9.5/10
Genre: Biography, Drama

Finally, i got to see this flick based on the hype of some folks here. I must confess, it was definitely worth the hype.

Smith delivers nothing short of an Oscar worthy performance, still puzzled why he never won.

A heartfelt flick, based on a true story. A well written, acted & directed flick which keeps you pondering, as to if we are truly living up to our own capability in our quest for the pursuit of happiness. If you're going through tough times, this might really be a very hard movie to watch.

The depiction of the poverty level in America is shockingly shocking. I keep telling folks, if you've got no sellable skills or you ain't traveling out to further your education & possibly get a job over there, better stay put. I'd rather manage the little i have here & be comfortable, than travel out & live on the streets of America & beg for handouts.

Glad you enjoyed it.

litigator:
I am number 3. Which number are you?

Same here, I've been no 3 all my lifetime.

Nooil:
You see this life, nobody is ready to give you anything. You have to take it by force. We can stay here and complain all day and night. But the truth is that there are people in Nigeria that are enjoying the country. Because they knew what they want and took it by force. No excuses.

You see this thing they call greed, it can change the people's mindset. Nnamdi Azikiwe and co did well to call for the independence of Nigeria. Fine, they might have gotten greedy along the way, but that's the human nature for you.

Anyway, I don't like discussing politics, because it has many faces to it. You can hardly ever uncover the truth. But I refuse to agree that we should have remained under the British.

Are you arguing because you want to prove right? She has laid the undiluted facts before you that Nigeria of old was far better than Nigeria of today.

Your statement that anyone can get anything out of life is very false, very false as saying it's day while it's night. Did you hear some years ago that PhD holders applied to be truck drivers at Dangote? Have you seen the massive looting of our common wealth by out leaders?

Nigeria is d poverty capital of d world have you asked why it is so? Where is d push many Nigerians are looking for from d government so that they can make life of out their lives? Have you been on d streets lately and seen how almost price of goods and services have shot up?

Finally, take a look at South Africa, the British built that country very well because they stayed longer.

If you think you can be anything in this country as it is currently run then you are out of touch and no one should have this discussion with you anymore.

MelaninSkinGirl:
Nigeria is worse off today in 2020 under Nigerian rule than it was in 1959/1960 under British rule. Nigeria's economy was in perfect condition when it was handed over to Nigerians and look what Nigerians have done to the economy?

Ask your parents/grandparents about how developed Nigeria was in the 50s/60s and the benefits they received from the state. Independence and crude oil has been a curse to this country.

At least someone here knows her history very well.

Urgently in need of a shared space around Yaba, Surulere, Fadeyi and environs.

I urgently need any shared apartment around Yaba, Surulere, Ebutte metta, Fadeyi and co.

Urgentttttttttt!!!!

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

Everytime a Man speaks, he speaks with so much facts, rationality and wisdom.

Thumbs up Sir.

I really feel for you, I really do.

I can feel your heart beat fast, I can feel your voice trembling, I can feel your hands shake as you typed this with tears in your eyes.

May God comfort us all.