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Happy new year all.Holiday mode kind of still activated but also a good time to plan and strategise.Trust me always to create threads based on my life and since NL is faceless it affords me a' less ameborish'(still amebo though ) into the life of others without necessarily gossiping(i really dont like my relationship the topic of the day on girls days out).

To topic,thought of it this morn when me abd hubby were strategising on an issue i have.I am undergoing a process at work at the mo and its one that was not expected.My hubby thinks i am toooooo nice and tend to let people take advantage of me.I kinda agree but its not like am a push over i kinda try to avoid conflict and i agree that sometimes that sometimes comes across as naive but i tend to always make excuses for people.Hubby on the other hand will be nice but you know you cant take him for a ride.I used to think wahala man yi po sha but now i kinda think i needed someone like him to complement me.You dont want to know the research he has done,lawyers he has spoken to ,unions he has researched bla bla
I kinda took my employers words as gospel but his research has brought up my rights and what am entitled which i probably would not have asked for on my own.

I also complement his toooo blunt and principled nature and i can see my stamp on sometimes when he just lets go.When we first got married one day while out i said babes loan me 5 pounds.Two days after he was giving me money to get something and deducted the 5 pounds.Gosh i was soooooo upse tam like WTH what kind of mean person deducts 5 pounds his wife loans from him.We thrashed it out and i realised to him a loan is a loan and he loathes it when people loan money they never intend to pay back.He said if i said GIVE me 100 pounds it would not have been an issue.The next day he got me a gift like 200 times that amount.So to him it was the principle behind it.Then he could give 10pound tips but request for20p change if he felt you were being funny and trying to make him forget it.In Nigeria na war at customs .I used to be so embarassed but over the years i think my embarassment started to get at him.Am suprised at his reactions sometimes now.He just say lets go and he can see my reaction is am shocked cos was expecting him to ask for his change. .

Over the years we have really grown together as a couple and still doing so everyday.I have emulated so many of his nice attributes i.e time keeping,organisation,i procratinate less(i can procrastinate for africa),thrashing out issues etc and he has learnt from me calmness, patience(still working on that one sha),taking things less seriously and so many others.

So how do you think your partner behaviour has complemented or sort of rubbed off on you?

cotton101: who is the confused black woman that wants to call my name - bad belle in deed - i don't care if your net worth is more than bill gates and the late steve jobs combined - my issue with you is the nonsense about not mixing with black people - so now someone like Michelle Obama is now below ur level - I have seen and read it all today.

I think that issue should be thrashed on another thread probably on culture.Believe it or not there are so many people who think like that o.I dont talk to naija people,my kids are the only blacks in their class like its a badge of honour.I am not saying your kids cant be the only blacks but it really is not a badge of honour.SMH.We really need to deal with self hate and identity issues esp for those raising kids in the west.My kids MUST be proud of their heritage cos whether or not they are british,they cant escape the fact that they are of Nigerian descent.My 3 yr old sef understands when i tell her in yoruba se o fe ki a ma lo le(do you want us to go hone now).I know peeps who are embarassed if their kids understand their language.

jidegirl12: She doesn't have children? Or why do you think we work?

I don't like all that vanity upon s hit preaching. Get real.

Meaning if her success was just tied down to being wealthy alone and not leaving a legacy e.g well rounded kids its all naught after she is gone.I am also not of the school of thought that having kids and being extremely wealthy are the only definitions of a life well spent.So many other things trump having kids and being wealthy.
P.S am a mother and i am not lazy.I also like the finer things of life.Who doesn't?Am just not obsessed with them.

wow wow world record for the longest efight ever.I dont get it.I think this thread should be closed since OP has decided on what to do which really was the purpose of the thread.

All this life is vanity upon vanity.A friend lost his mum early hrs of this morn and got buried an hr ago.Unfortunately none of the mansions could go with her. .Not even the tiniest gold necklace can she take.

Thanks CC hubby suggested the gift card with so much sarcasm .He said you just give her the gift card in a card and if she likes let use it to buy dustpan lol .

I have looked online to see if i could get designer ipad case and some are as much as or more than £100(o ga o i buy ipad and use £150 to buy case cos it has someones name on it no be to protect my ipad make he no break ni ).Me i dont have money for that.Rubbish.

Will take CC advise and buy the giftcard.Let her buy dustpan with it na her business.Was thinking of going for something with price anonymity knowing how shallow and vain she can be.If i cant even get the Harrods one sef will buy John Lewis or House of Fraser as i said let her use it for whareva.Oun lomo(na she know).

Thanks guys.

geegirl101: Get her a perfume...(U can easily get brand names in perfume and its within your budget)
Then,u can attach a big birthday card and a nice pair of sunglass if u can..

2) OR You can buy her an ipad or a cute pouch 4 her ipad/blackberry if she already have one

3)You can buy her nice earrings and bangles

I hope this will help?

A nice designer perfume is well within my budget thanks.For me more than enough sef.But this girl if you ask her you smell nice and ask for the name of what she is wearing she says one posh sounding french whathisname that you can only get on bond st.
Will look into ipad cases

Abeg my peeps been thinking of what to get a cousin of mine who is having a new year/birthday party on Tuesday.So have today and tomorrow left to decide.My budget is £60 max.

The issue is this gal has issues and would rather give 60 kpon to charity than have her throway my gift.Hubby has advised to buy her gift card and throway face but madam has dissed every hight street store you can think about in my presence.She is just something else.Hates this, that is too cheap bla bla.She only wears 'boutique' couture and only shops in certain places.If she sees you she will asses and tabulate the cost of your outfit in 10 secs.She once me told am too much to be carrying that 'bag'.And this was not a cheap bag ooo.I dont have anything against brands or designers o but that is not my main reason for buying stuff.This my cousin ONLY buys stuff that have names and looks down on anything else. She shops for homeware in Harrods and even her dustbin must be a well known brand not because its durable(i love brabantia homeware too) but because its brabantia.I would have bought her a Sanctuary Spa gift set but i honestly think those gifts are generic and not personal at all but hey ooo it might even be below madam.walahi that girl get issues.No be like say she is from stupendously rich family o just moderate comfortable home.She went to QC and came for her degree here but just built this 'class' thing around herself.Family members are even worried about her and beg me to talk to her which i do but hey ho na her life.

So pls suggestions on what to get someone like that cos i really am at my wits end?And please bear in mind my cheap 60 kpon budget .Bills stack up in January

Wow i cant believe people pull all nighters on NL .

Not joining bashing and all or maybe topic for a seperate thread i absolutely hate it when people say 'i dont hang with blacks'.I even tell my hubby off when he sometimes says things like Your naija people don come again.Am like se you no be Nigerian ni?He calls me Naija defender .And am proud of it.This coming from a man that for the last couple of years only listens to afro beats, eats naija food and whose best friend is Nigerian.I know he says it mostly when you get people who demonstrate SOME annoying traits which seem peculiarly Nigerian(TBH i think all races and creeds have it)but to write off a whole people?.My hubby says his as a joke and even then i dont join in.He loves his own people and always says one of the best things his parents did was to take them back to live in naija for a while.

I also hate the phrase 'my kids are the only blacks in their school'.I love my SIL cos i know she loves me BUT that is the only thing that annoys me about her.She keeps on going on how we should quickly move out of london so our kids dont mix with black kids bla bla and am like WTH am not moving out of London so my kids can be among eeyinbo am moving out to get a good education more space for my buck etc.The real rich people sef r moving into London y'all moving out cos you cant afford the real estate.I just keep SMH.I love my people dieeeeeeeee.Sure there are riffs but believe me that exists as i said among all races and creeds

prideofbarbados: Are you that poor that you can't afford baby wipes?*smh. Terrible and disgiusting!

sheesh OP was just giving his/her own thoughts.Dont dig the idea though as i said i buyin bulk when on offer but newsflash wipes and nappies are a great expense for some families.We dont have to insult or run down people last i heard some people go through bad times and wipes might be a choice say for food.Abeg cos we can afford it does not mean we look down on those who cant.Though i still dont see how this might save money.I would have suggested water sef or maybe cotton wool and warm water.

My money saving tip; shop online for groceries.It makes you stick to your list and buying what you need.I watched a documentary that said supermarkets arrange stuff to make you buy what you dont need esp with 'offers'.I end up coming out with strawberries or white grapes when all i wanted was milk and bread lol .

chaircover: Easy peasy

Turkey, Mayo and lettuce sandwiches
Turkey pasta
have it with salad . . . yes need to loose all the extra pounds put on over Xmas
Turkey and mushroom Omelette's

These are the ones that I can remember right now, but hoping that you would have finished all the turkey by the time I come back with more recipe ideas.

Thanks CC.Good ideas esp the healthy eating things as turkey is lean meat.E be like say na me and my daughter go chop am all.I know most ppl are not turkey fans but i just wanted an alternative to normal naija food.Even made jamaican jerk chicken rice and peas and curry goat but all this my relatives and even hubby sef are just soooo unadventorous me i sha know i no enter kitchrn for more than 10 mins in 2012 again .

Not too sure bout this home made wipes.I buy them in bulk when on offer anyway and dont have loyalty to any store.I buy where its cheapest.

Always lookin to save a buck anyway so any more tips apart from this?As an aside does anyone have a nigerianised idea of what to do with left over roast turkey? My bush family deserted my christmas roast with all the trimmings and went for the usual jollof rice and pepper soup things.Now have like 3 kilos of left over turkey and i hate wasting food.

Mr and Mrs Siena remind me so much of me and hubby.Thats how hubby likes winding me up .I text pls buy fresh milk we have run out and bebe needs milk for cereal tomorrow morning.He comes in,did you get my text?He replies what text?Am like the text that you should get milk.He replies I did not see any text?Am like i am sure my phobe told me it was delivered.He proceeds to the room and am like ohhh how will bebe have cereal tomorrow now.He replies she can use water or evaporated milk cos me am not going out again.

I start putting on my jacket with him grinning behind me.I step into the kitchen and lo and behold there is 4 pints of milk both skimmed and whole(he remembers that i too might need for oats or special K).Am like so why did you have to wind me up.Men

Siena: Grrrr! Father's aren't welcome? That's sexist! Or I'll simply invite myself, and gate crash.

Of course they are.As long as they dont get bored or switch off when the conversation turns to fashion .Strictly no car or soccer talk.

Yes i am.Would def be up for it.If we could get a few more people it could serve as a day out once a couple of months.Its really good to try to socialise esp with people goin thru the same things as you.Coffee or maybe a play centre would be a good idea.

naijababe: Cereal and Mcdonalds dinners. There are times that I'd weave my daughter's hair by loosening one, re-weave it so I don't have to loosen everything and then weave all over again. The one I did with both when they were babies was letting putting them beside me with one breast in their mouth while I slept beside them on days when I was really tired. One time, I even dug through our dirty laundry to find the least dirty cloth because they were out clean clothes, sprayed some Febreeze on it and ironed it again. Not proud of it but s/hit happens

I just did that loosen one re-weave it back tonight .Gosh girls hair is such a bother sometimes am tempted to chop it all off.But my baby looks so cute when her hair is done dont think i have the heart.

Good idea but might prove a lil bit logistically difficult due to the size of london and essex.That said maybe central london?

As a mother with young kids this story gave me goose bumps.This whole story is just giving me shivers.Took my daughter to Santa's grotto and she started her drama when we got back.I gave her a sharp smack on her wrist and as soon as i tuned to CNN i realised that the parents of those kids would give anything for their kids drama.I just said bebe come and gave her a tight hug .The girl was looking at me like is this woman ok.

May all the souls from this tragedy RIP and only God can comfort the families.

Chick, may God bless you for the above tip. My boy is still yound enough not to wander off but yes that danger is very real and what you just said there resonated with me. Definitely going to be using that. On the other hand though, I recently got a new job(yay!) and was told to start on monday(boooooo, it's the week before christmas) and I'm bricking it literally. I worked from home before so it's the first time i'll beleaving my squish for a whole day. Any tips on how to cope would be much appreciated. I feel sorry for hubby because he is recieving the full brunt of my anxiety. [/quote]Aww i can so feel u remeber when i went back to work with my daughter i was a wreak.The first week i was practically useless at work.Your baby will be fine and the best thing is to make sure you at least trust whoever you r leaving him with is someone you trust say at least 80%.It helps to know your child is in good hands.Also take a picture and put on your desk.Also say to yourself mummy is working to give my child the good things of life that makes you feel there is a purpose for going in to work.Lastly when you r together enjoy it.Remember its the quality of time spent kids remember and not the quantity.

African princesses have short hair

Just to add so some single ppl dont automatically think that their MIL are witches if they dont do all the above.Like your mother or any of your relatives and as CC alluded to always try to see the good sides of people.

My mum is verrrrry traditional and believes in all this iya oko, iya le baba oko things.Guess its how she interacted with her inlaws and her enviroment.She is also the first child and the mother figure to her siblings.One time she waa complaining to me that the youngest bro wife had never invited her to sleep over and that the girl does not come early enough to help ar family functions.You want to see how me and my sis pounced on her.We have only one boy so we quickly jumped on this so as not to allow her have that impression when marries and we firmly warned not to go and cause wahala in people's marriage.I was like is your bed biting u, is unc so and so ur son sef so what if you raised him?Mummy pls this girl is mate and all these things your complaining bout my own SIL does not expect from me.She quietly changed he tune and said she just wanted to help.That does not mean my mum is not nice she just has some kain old school notions.She and the said sis in law r ok but thats cos i think the girl has sussed out that my mum likes all those iyawo things and obliges her.(with me and my sis giving mum stern warnings ).

My mum could not get over the kind of relationship me and my SIL have.When she comes over my mum will be pinching me wont i collect her handbag? Am like mum she wont give it to me.She is like wont you pack her plates how can you be letting her take her plates to the kitchrn herself?I am like cos she has taken it to kitchen before i even see her.How can she be the one washing plates on my baby's naming? My mum was not comfortable at all.She was like all this alakowe(educated ako) am like mum i respect her alot and try to stop but she even fights me when i try to stop her.

So i guess you sort of have to study people personalities.My SIL is quite westernised but if your MIL is like my mum it might be better for you to probably be a lil more flexible and not have a stand of she dey craze me i cant pack plates.It all boils down to the individual.

Like CC my MIL is no more she died when my hubby was 16 the week before my hubby started his then O levels .He is also the baby of the house and his sister practically has taken me as the baby sis she never had.I so thank God for her strength in the face of having to step up the plate as a mother figure at such a tender age(she was 23).

I love her alot and me and her even talk more than she and her bro.Once hubby sees her no on the land line he passes the phone to me and am always shooting him dirty looks to at least say hi,he says i know she wants to gist with u.I dont always agree with her which is normal as i am the first child and i know my younger siblings cant stand my guts too sometimes.Will never disrespect her cos she gives me dur respect even though am waaaaaay younger than her as my hubby is also a couple of yrs older than i am.

I have friends who say your lucky you dont have a MIL and i get so mad cos i know the psycological effects it had on my hubby losing his mum so young esp with a father who had even before then married a younger wife.I so wish i met her cos if she raised my SIL she would have been a wonderful MIL.Some of my friends even keep warning me, uhmm do you think its wise to be that close to your SIL?lai lai dont give her face bla bla and am like WTH is wrong with you people.So i should just start giving attitude to someone who showers me with love SMH.I just ignore them.She spoils my kids silly and at christmas we even cut back on gifts for my daughter cos she has so much and i dont want the girl growing up with a sense of entitlement.

I love my hubbys family.To some people they might be too oyinboish but when it matters they are the nicest people ever.On that front i have peace.

babyosisi: Then my last short cut confession for now
Has any of you moms tried bathing your newborns in the kitchen or bathroom sink
Believe me it is the best
You don't need all the acrobatics of gathering things together
You don't have to sit and bend and stretch and twist and turn
You just put your water in with your Johnson's body wash,stand straight and bath the child with a wash cloth wrap them in a towel and voila
Especially for those of us outside of nigeria with cold temperatures,it is a quick and easy bath and you take them to the bed or changing table and dress them up
After the first baby,I never bought a baby bath again,I got them as gifts sha but barely used them
They went from the sinks to the regular bath tub
Hubby was shocked the first time he saw me do it but he warmed up to it.

Of course if your mother or MIL is coming for omugwo,you need the baby bath

Yes o my baby bath was last used when my mum left. .My mum used to do baby bathing like world war 3 where you are gathering weapons.And she used to do it twice, it was spring and a bit cold so begged her to reduce it to once a day.Me i dont have time for that.I just sit on the edge of the bath tub balance my baby on my lap and in 5 mins we r done .His sponge and baby soap stays in the bathroom so no gathering.I just need to transfer him to his changing table and we are done.

babyosisi: For potty training,the method that works the quickest is making the child feel guilty
I know we don't want to hurt their little feelings but I did and it worked
For my last born,I potty trained him in a flash,I wish I did same with the earlier ones
I went to the store and he picked his favorite character underwears
Sponge bob undies
So we came home and I went through the whole story of how he is now a big boy and must pee pee like a man now and he was so happy he was now a man
Then here comes to guilt part
I said Nnamdi,now that you are a man and you love sponge bob ,the worst thing you can do now is to make him wet,he does not like to feel wet
So anytime you pee pee on yourself,you pee pee on sponge bob you are wetting him and it is not right to make him wet
So you must tell someone before the pee pee or poo poo comes out
So the kid did all he could to keep sponge bob dry and would be so proud of himself when he did it and felt sad when he got sponge bob wet or stinky
In a few days he was only wearing pull ups at night and before we knew it,he was totally trained

I still laugh at the announcements

mommy mommy daddy the pee pee is about to come out

And we all happily take him to the toilet
He didn't even use a potty,he went straight to the regular toilet seat

Thanks babyosisi will def keep that in mind for my son.Gosh potty trainin my daughter was not so straightforward she was doin well and all of a sudden regressed when her bro was born.Girl that was already saying i want to pee started peeing on herself.It took me shocking her by making her wash her pants,tights and jeans by hand (i washed it again) but just wanted to shock her cos talking was not working.She still had a few accidents but was ok a couple of weeks down the line.

@debsolat,london.Dont know how the pm thing works.Never contacted anyone outside NL .Do you need my email add or something?

CC is quite right bout drugging being sort of not really frowned upon in Nigeria.So as not to sound being hypocritical you can remember in my post that i said i gave my daughter 5 ml of flu medicine while flying long haul.That was a one off BUT my daughter really is kinda of almost manic when flying.Its made me and hubby rethink family hols sef.I read so many articles on takin a toddler on a plane and none of those tips worked for her.She just screams and wails throughour.I dont know if its the cabin pressure or maybe she is claustrophic i dont know but its really bad.We have concluded 1to 2hr flights is it till she is older or better still sef eurostar cos she is ok on trains.

Just needed to clear that but when i took my daughter to Nigeria you dont want to knoe how many suggestions i had to give her phenegan and the likes.Am like duh she is a toddler she is meant to be boisterous.Even my own mother gave that kind advise and i politely declined.I told them its boredom.Back in the uk when not in nursery i take her to the park,libraries,toddler groups,rhyme time,swimming etc so she can expend all that energy.This one that you people are rationing gen(nepa was horrible on our visit) with no one her age why wont she be bored?We can only read so many books.

Even when my mum visits,me and her argue about administering medication.Its strange to a typical Nigerian that you dont give drugs for everything cos its the culture to self medicate.My baby has a cough and cold now and there really is nothing over the counter but saline drops and glycerol based mixtures.Its frowned upon to give drugs to kids.Even the said medised i gave my daughter is no longer available for under six.It took.a while to get round but i think its better to err on the side of caution when giving drugs to kids.My mum sef started arguing with my gp when my daughter had a bug .She needs anti biotics, my gp said no she does not its just time to let it wear off and keep her well hydrated and the bug dud leave after about 3 days.I had to say mum are you a doctor?
So i thinks it just a cultural thing.

chii8: Hmmmm...,i used to think am the only bad mum out there,my dauta always cry wen am bathn her n brushn her teeth,ds cos am always in a hurry to go to work,my son prefers my hubby bathn him...they waste much tym doing dat,
theres another time pls help if you can,my kids takes most of my tym dat wen am back frm wrk,i v little or no tym 4 my hubby,hw do i go abt it?(my kids r rily takn all tym)

I Know its hard but the easiest thing is to try to enforce a sleep routine.Dont know how old your kids but believe me the only way you can have time for yourself and hubby is if they sleep in good time.I am goin to be realistic and say latest by 9 pm.Mine are often down by 8pm tho my baby still wakes up for a feed like 12am.I am tryin to set up a routine for him for when i go back to work.Start winding them down with say like a bath or switchin off the tv.Read a book or generally just stay in their room with low lights.Warm milk also helps tho not too sure if that would work in naija as i struggle with that in the summer.Eventually they will associate that routine with bed time.I dont even know how i would cope if my kids dont sleep on time.The days my daughter stays up late i am just so grumpy.

babyosisi: Boy did I/ do I do short cuts.

Living in Obodo oyibo with no house girls and boys you definitely must do short cuts to keep your sanity.



Frozen waffles and pancakes are a constant in my freezer,pop them in the toaster and microwave and breakfast is ready with a cup of ovaltine

I found out that there is nothing wrong with eating breakfast for dinner either
Scrambled eggs with waffles ,a cup of ovaltine,dinner is ready some nights

I roast chicken,whole or drumsticks almost every Sunday morning or Saturday night to last the whole week
I cook a huge pot of stew once in 4 or 6 weeks divvy them up into containers to freeze with one in the fridge
The cooked white rice on Sunday will last till Wednesday
Pizza occasionally grabbed from a drive through window will not kill anybody,add salad on the side ,balanced diet don land
Slaving for hours on a weekday is not my portion
Boil pasta and pour pasta sauce,warm up the baked chicken ,dinner is ready,if no sauce,use stew

White rice wey don reach past 3 days,you re arrange am to okoro fried rice
Just dice onions and stir fry ,add Maggi,soy sauce,some stew ,pour the rice inside and voila,the old rice has been re baptized
Works well with pasta too

Fry plenty plantain and store in fridge,warm am add chicken,dinner is served
I will not spend more than 10 minutes in the kitchen on a weekday
Weekend is for shopping and cooking,after that or if we run out,you Berra eat bread or cabin biscuit and drink ovaltine and manage till Saturday

Yes o.More than 10 mins in the kitchen on a workin weekday is a no no.On mat leave at the mo so hubby is enjoyin sum perks of having a housewife for the time being.Thank God for the person who invented the freezer and microwave.And also pasta sauce and some sharp sharp food like fish fingers and chicken nuggets.Kids are so easy to feed its hubby that makes me cook soup and the likes.
When he is out of town am on proper kitchen holiday cos me i dont mind eating oyinbo food.Its him that has to eat okele(swallow).Thankfully he makes them himself as long as there is soup so dedicate one day to okra,ogbono,efo riro,efo elegusi ,stew etc.So its just bring a bowl out and microwave.

@the poster who said thread is for mums,dads are welcome to share.I know when hubby is in charge he takes 10 times more shortcuts i.e.putting sugar in cereal(i dont and i noticed my daughter prefers daddy giving breakfast ),mixing ribena with one part ribena two parts water(i am so sugar intake conscious so mine is one part ribena ten parts water ends tadting like coloured water ) ,bribing with sweets and chocs which i dont normally do,bathing applying lotion and wearing clothes in 10 mins sharp Etc
The girl prefers daddy's watch cos mummy is a tyrant

Glad to see am not the only one who throws away body suits
Eeya cotton seems this weather just brings all sorts.Did another night vigil last night cos my baby has one kain cough that is mucusy.Poor boy cant breath properly and me i cant do that gross sucking mucus out thing,his dad does it and amazingly temporarily soothes the breathing.Trust uk gps never to prescribe stuff for babies.Am practically using my last strenght .

As for the plaits we are plenty o had to consult that CC thread cos my daughter's hair is something else.I used to say before i had kids wassup with all this lazy women that just pack their kids to MCdees.Now i know better,God bless you ronald Mcdonald

Know i should not say this but my SIL let me into one secret.There was this cold flu medicine Medised think they no longer do it for under 6's.The thing can knock out
So one time when travelling long haul knowinf how my daughter can like to show herself om planes gave her 5 ml (even tho she no get flu) and voila had a sleeping child for like 4 hrs of the 7 hr flight .I kniw not nice but you really dont want to be the next passenger when flying with my daughter.Aww parenthood when i was single if i get into the plane and see am sitting next to someone with kids i sha used to look for a way to move seats, dont want wailing and whingeing for 6 to 10 hrs.Now i so understand.

Meant to be a funny thread cos i read something similar on one of these parenting websites and thought to get Nlanders 2kobo
.Meant to be light hearted so pls abeg no judgy judgy holier than thou pls thank you .

Hubby 's away today and tomorrow for work and though am on mat leave had to go into the officefor a meeting.So mad rush to take my kids both to nur and child minder respectively.Picked them up and as i was taking baby out of his car seat realised he had done a massive no 2.when i say massive i mean massive the kind that seeps into all the clothes and as its winter am talking 3 to 4 layers. .I had a long night as well cos my daughter brought home this nasty cough so i barely slept for 2 hrs so am very knackered.You know what i did put the body suits, socks,shirt everything in a bag and straight into the bin .I was too tired to start scraping poo and washing and washing before transfering to the washing machine.Bathe him and changed him and shock horror shortcut no2 (never do that) put his cerelac in his bottle when the can clearly states that you should not.Shortcut 3 gave my daughter toast and chocolate spread with hot chocolate(unhealthy combo) for dinner as i i know thats the fastest thing she will clear without drama.Just rushed it all and put them to bed

Now i can have like an hr or two to myself which really is not rest cos i still have to do some online chritmas shopping.Now laying on my bed felt a lil guilty but thought aloud to myself mi ole para mi ojere(i cant kill myself).Its not like its the norm as am normally very uptight about my kids hygiene and diet.Got me thinking behind the facadehave of feeding healty meals,being clean,being tidy etcDo we mums or should i say parents break those rules once in a while.So kindly) share yours.Forgot to add did not clean their teeth as well but i sure aint waking no child up again.Its ME time ;

Mr Siena no vex i know we mothers can be sort of soft touch sometimes though you daddies discpline can be quite military but these kids need it jare .Arghh at this toddlers who make meal times WWE like food is the enemy.

@ efemena No am not o just like to ask and ask .So i guess you are on the team school trips.What you are sayin makes sense if one wants them to take this trips as part of broadening the mind and not just holiday sha.Me am a typical naija gal dont think i would typically plan a skiing holiday to the swiss alps or safari in madagascar lol.So my kain holiday is better taken with hubby and no kids . Or naija and dump them with grandma.Guess if their school can organise it would be better as it would be more fact and educationally tailored.Hubby too is not really a fan but guess i can talk him round.