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paedophilia is not really a crime in nigeria but sincerely this[i] pastor[/i] is shameless.na real wa i can't even imagine my 18 yr old sista coping with marriage.Later when the girl open eye and sees the youth that she has lost they will start quoting bible that she is not submissive.i think every female should be given the liberty to experience the carefree life of being young and single at least up to 21 before marriage coes on the card.(even though i know my dad would have an apoplexy if i told was getiing married at 21.even tho i don graduate my papa still dey fume at boyfriend).

Naija police+ more guns=better equiped armed robbers.

most chinese dishes
english sheperd's pie
lasagne
mexican cuisine too
some indian dishes(th eones my bowel can manage)

olive oil but since so expensive and might not spread in nija cuisine ,i use sunflower or cotton seed oil which has less cholestrol than vegetable or groundnut oil.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]@Topic yes. Much preferred to those who bombard you with millions of calls [/color]

really? the operative word here being[b] HARDLY[/b].trust me i have been there and am sure no gal will like it.i am talking about never calling you except when you call and you get 'baby am busy now will call you in 15 mins' and when you call in 2 days and say'i thot u said u will call me in 15 mins?' u get'sorry babes i am on my way to ur house'.plsssssssssss.when me and my husband were dating we used to talk like maybe once a day just to see how the other's day went and belive me i think effective communication is necessary.even if not calls but texts,mails,IM;s etc.i have friends that we talk like 3 to 4 times a week so why would you not want to speak to ur boyfriend esp if you guys don't see everyday is you dont live together and both have busy lives/

Been in that kind of relationship before and what always causes the lack of calls is one of the following;

He does not send you

or

He is seeing someonelse so there is hardly time in btw spending time with both of you to make enuf calls(this was the situation in my case)

So make no excuses for him,drop him fast.

Okija_juju:
Poor unlucky chick!!

Out of all the men she just settled for the wrong one.

But there is still something missing somewhere in this story, wait till we hear the mans account.

what do you want to hear from the callous bastard?there is no moral justification for what he did and as such should be jailed and institutionalised before causing further wreck on other naive unsuspecting girls.and if i may add this should be for LIFE.anyone who mars someone because they break up with them is a[b] PSCHYCO[/b] .

Egie:
Banana Island plots of land for sale. Sizes from 2,000 sq.m. Prices are between N450m to N650m

Any buying leads for the above?

is this bannana island paved with gold?i dont get why a piece of land land without a structure will be(forgive my maths)millions of dollars.so the property on it will be running into billions.And all this with unstable electricity and no portable water for the common man.Yeah you have prime properties all over the world that is what real estate is about but pls this is way too outrageous.Especially in an enviroment where stark poverty is abound(note the use of the word stark before all those people start screaming there are poor people everywhere).

I know some people would label me as mean and stingy but i really do not see myself buying designer clothes(not high street labels) for my kid.I do not have kids yet and i do want to give my children the best that i can afford when they start coming but i cannot see myself buying a £300 pair of shoes for my 6 yr old. A friend of mine wanted to buy a £80 polo t-shirt for an 18 month old baby,which i argued with her was not necessary.I will of course buy good quality clothes for my kids but why should i waste £80 to buy a shirt he might not wear in the next 6 months because its ralph lauren?

I personally see clothing as need you must fulfill for your children but designer clothing is another thing.I believe kids should have something to look forward to as i remember looking forward to starting work to be able to afford some of the luxuries i now give myself.My mom was very nice by introducing me and my siblings to stuff like perfumes at a young age but she just bought us the normal ones like Avon so we would imbibe the culture of smelling nice.I remember asking why the ones she bought us were different from hers and she always said 'this is what i can afford when you start working or saving your pocket monet you can get designer ones'.I remember how elated how i was when i saved my pocket money and got my first bottle of cool water by davidoff.Ever since i have started working i now appreciate the scarifices i have to make to buy myself nice things.So i believe if my child likes designer labels,wait till you can afford it with your money.

I believe buying kids designer labels at a tender age is a waste of money.Thats my opinion.So what do you think?

spikedcylinder:
I agree but it will be a pre-paid phone and the amount of credit put in each week would be reduced to the barest minimum. Unless the child is ready to work and put credit in it his/herself.

Good idea.This would make the child understand and appreciate the value of money.

lucabrasi:
well,compare it to anywhere in the world and its wayy too expensive
let me give you an example "the hamptons" is an area where the likes of bill gates,warren beatty,madonna and numerous millionaires and billionaires have houses in the united states and you will still pay roughly the same for a flat like yo will pay for a flat in banana island.

chelsea in london is where the millionaires and billionaires includn abramovich live but you will get a 2 bed luxury flat to let there for 300/350 pounds a week,now compare it to ikoyi or banana with same flat for 45-60 thousand per annum, remember that in chelsea there is almost zero chance of armed robbery,you don't need to pay extra for generator e.t.c

london has the most expensive real estate in the world,and the most expensive area in london is bishopsgate in central london,you will get a beautiful solid house there for 1 million or a solid semi detached(duplex)with swimming pool and everything for say 2.5/3 million pounds compare it to nigeria with insecurity,zero police presence,instability e.t.c where you will pay 1.2/3 billion naira for 7/10 bedroom duplex in banana island, a plot of land in banana is 1 million dollars

Do not only 100% agree with above post but also believe that is a bubble that would soon burst as even countries with a certain level of standards eg The US,Uk etc have had property prices falling for the past cople of months.When i hear the prices of property in nigeria sometimes its really outrageous.First and foremost,is bannana island in americva that land just land without a structure should be sold for 1 million dollars.Typical of nigerian theiving ruling class to create another sanctaury where the common nigerian can only dream about.

Desola:
Wegams,

It's all in the immigration rules on the UKBA website and the UKvisas website. See the link below.
http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/en/ecg/chapter26/#point%20seventeen

Thanks for the hint so no buying of Tv with any traceables.Although i continually tell my hubby that we would invariably have to pay it sometime or the other.i have even suggested paying with my money but no he insists that since we dont watch BBC its a rip off(pssssssssss pls dont tell him i jsut said so)But seriously me i dont like embarassment i think il just pay the thing without him knowing cos i hate screening visitors cos TV license.

psalm 121.
hebrews 11vs 1-3
Matthew 7vs7

Coming to america

Face-Off

The Gladiators

funny enough i have watched Crash(didn't really feel it at first)like 6 times.

naijarocks:
I am not unemployed my dear.I don't do this for money.I do it for the F@#$k of it! You should taste a married pussy.Its delicious!!!!!!!!!!!lol!

May God deliver you from whatever it is your are battling with and may so many other men enjoy the deliciousness of your wife(that is if anyone agrees to marry you)

DeepZone:
[size=14pt]Jilted Man Bathes Girlfriend With Acid[/size]
Posted To The Web: Tuesday, October 07, 2008 - By Tunde Lemuel & Assoh-Emeka Samuel

Man’s inhumanity to man was again manifested on Sunday night, when a jilted man, said to be a KAI official, Segun Adegbose, gave his 23-year-old girlfriend, Miss Kafaya Dauda, an acid bath.

Speaking with P.M.News at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital, Ikeja, Kafaya said, “It all happened between 10 and 11p.m., on Sunday. I came back from the mosque and after I had changed my clothes, I decided to relax.

“I was later woken up by Segun who queried my refusal to pick his calls. I told him that my phone was in silent mode. He screamed and made so much unnecessary noise over the issue before he left.

“I was still resting when I noticed that someone had entered the room again. I discovered that it was Segun. But before I could raise my head, he poured something on my face. I screamed when I felt a burning sensation on my skin and realised that I could not open my eyes again. He fled immediately.”

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He is still on the run. Kafaya added that she and Segun were lovers, and that they started dating in March, this year. She, however, ended the affair when she discovered that Segun’s character was not different from that of a tout.

This infuriated Segun, who is from Ikorodu and lives somewhere around Olusosun bus stop at Ojota, while his mother lives in Ikorodu.

Kafaya, a resident of 5, Ali Lane, Off Ogba Road, Lagos, further said: “At the beginning of our relationship, Segun told me that when the girl he was dating before he met me tried to jilt him, he had threatened her with an acid bath.”
According to the victim’s neighbours, Kafaya is a nice girl. Her neighbours have been trooping to the hospital to sympathise with her. She is a fashion designer and owns a shop in Ogba.

Immediately they heard of the incident, a group of women in the area raised about N59,000 to cover part of her medical bill.

Kafaya, who hails from Saaki in Osun state, stays with a woman known as Mummy Rhoda, a midwife and the owner of a trado-medical centre at the same address.

Mummy Rhoda said, “Kafaya has been living with me since her childhood. Her parents are in Saaki. So, I have been taking care of her. I was not around when the incident happened. I don’t know this Segun, though I knew that she was dating somebody.” A concerned neighbour, who craved anonymity, said Segun called Kafaya’s present boyfriend on phone this morning (yesterday morning) and threatened that he would be the next victim. The matter has been reported at the Isokoko Police Station, Agege. At the time of filing this report, Segun’s whereabouts remained unknown.

I think women should always see the warning signs at the beggining of a new relationship.Especially stuff about his previous relationships.I would have run at that highlighted statement just points to what kind of man he for that that to ven cross his mind.

naijarocks:
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i really just wonder   .Please Yaradua address unemployment.Its really critical.

My birthplace and hometown;How i love thee except for the hold-ups and the bathroom slippers wearing police men.Me thinks the only city i can live in nigeria though my ibadan bred hubby thinks otherwise[sub][/sub]all those ibadan people sef na jealousy dey worry them i don tell am say i fit sell am collect change cos lagosians dey always sharp.

tRoOE:
[size=13pt]This sounds like my relationship, but thank God the dday is getting close, gosh i can't wait
still now people couldn't believe we made it through, 2nite ago one his friends was like asking hime if we've set our wedding, ahah u need to see how excited I was when my guy told them[/size]

congrats gal and i really can relate with how excited you are cos i definitely was.The fact that i knew it would be over soon really kept me going.

HR.hotness:
You know its true love when
- u're best friends as well as partners
- all that matters is the other persons happiness
- he'D sit and watch a really soppy movie with u even tho he hates it and holds u close when u cry
- u subconsciously anticipate each others needs like suprising her with lunch when u know she'D be too busy to get some.
- just the sound of his voice brings a smile to your face
- u fight and u don't care who's wrong or right, u just want to make up
- u never get tired of looking into their eyes
- as long as the other persons in the room, u're content sitting in absolute silence doing absolutely nothing
- at the end of the day and the end of your life u still look forward to conversations with himhttps://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/8.gif

Spot on(for me though)

be-nice:
they are all pretending now as if they are not into one. . . all does girls are teling lies

so all does girls are dating married men?so becos someone highlights the disadvatges of dating married men and people concur it means that they are lying nto to have dated a married man before.phew i don't get some people's logic?

opuro:
shagging a married man is the main thing now
kai!
I can't believe people can pretend like this o
so all the babes in nairaland wan swear say married man never shag any of them?
nna na wa ooooooo
I THINK THIS FORUM SHOULD CHANGE TO LIERS FORUM!

so if all nairaland girls are shagging married men it makes it right?

There is really nothing wrong with living alone i think it even makes you more responsible but there is something about it that our parents just hate.i remember telling my mom that i would like to get my own place after Uni and you would have thot i said i want to start prostituting after UNI.i asked what the difference was as i was staying laone in uni but she really took it personal and all saying how no man would want to marry me,how men would think i was easy bla bla.I did not eventually and had to deal with annoying curfews even as a working gal.But i was lucky to spend some months before service living with my friend in london and gosh it was realy nice.I am so happy i had that indepedence experience before getting married.funny enough i met my husband during the living alone period.

Personally i think its an experience most girls should have where there is no parents and hubby to check up on you and you can choose to live on indomie noodles for weeks without being labelled lazy.But i think its something our older generation frown at.

I came across a discussion on TV yesterday that stated that MP's were thinking of passing a bill where smacking would become a criminal offence like assault and i thought to myself this people have come again.As it is their society is facing a moral dilemma and so many other societal ills and all they can think of is making it worse by making smacking your own child a crime.excuse my vernacular but na wa for this people.Yeah i agree that sometimes smacking a child should not be the option quickly reverted to when trying to correct a child but i really thinks its ridiculous when the government try to take over how parents raise their children.As it is these kids have no respect for anyone,their parents,their teachers no one.Their behaviour is really appalling and all this is because they know certain laws are put into place to protect them which i feel is counter productive.Parents and teachers alike are already scared of chiding their wards due to this same government interference.Yeah i agree that sometimes some parents pass the borderline(my mom did sometimes,i remember having slippers,omorogun and sometimes paper being flung at me in annoyance: still love her to bits though)but alll the same i believe parents should be given a free rein on how to raise their kids without having the constant fear of the government.

My husband was born in the Uk but one thing he is forever grateful for is the fact that he was taken back to nigeria before hitting his teenage years.He recognises that this action moulded his character better than if he had been fully raised here.His mom was very strict and he says he was sure he would have been fostered if they had stayed back in the Uk.My mom was very strict on me as well, a liittle to the extreme but i realise that that kind of discpline is necessary for children.We all knew we had boundaries in our house and my dad was the saviour for we kids sometimes.Ha my mother ,nowadays when i tell her things i remember from my childhood she laughs and sometimes denies being that strict.But the good thing was she was also approachable,she made you know why you were being punished and also rewarded you if you were good.I believe that control(not too sure if that is the correct word to use) is necessary for children,for them to have an authority figure in their life to have an healthy fear of.So if govermnet says smacking is a crime you would have an 7yr old calling the police on his m
other,his mother would be arrested and then chargerd(what a laugh).

Me and  my hubby have concluded that when the kids are getting to 2 we would make sure yoruba would be understood and also know that little things like gently smacking his fingers and pointing to what he/she did wrong would be ways to let the child know that smacking is not strange occurence.Also if we are in public word like'so fe jegba'meaning do you want to be smacked would convey meanings when misbehaving.Also if we still live here would want them to go back to nigeria for their secondary school education and God sparing my mom, have a dose of her during their mid-terms .So do you think the UK goverment is right for wanting to prosecute parents for smacking their kids?( the operational word here being 'smacking' not  full fledged 'caning' as some of us had from our parents)

bombom747:
@ damiso does that mean from age 8 to the teens age?

Not necessarily 8 more like when the child can do stuff like go to school or go out on their own so more like the teenage years.

Long life to reap the fruits of her labour and also for her have inner peace and good health.

That our lives are a result of what we did or did not do in the past.Also that the will of God for our lives might not necessarily be in the order we want it to be in.

when he/she starts to leave the house without adult supervision i.e old enough to handle responsibility.

I can actually relate to this topic cos i was in a long distnce relationship and it did work.Though not easy(expensive as well u want to try how much phone calls, flight tickets to visit etc cost i dont even want to remember the money now)it works based on the level of commitment and also as someone said earlier God.I guess my husband really made me understand at some point that he really wanted to be with me no matter the physical barriers that actually existed.Gosh, we used to talk more than people who lived together.We knew what the other was doing at each particular point that people around us sometimes found it annoying(jealousy people).Like i remeber in the run up to our wedding he was talking to his bestman and i walked in.That one now thinking it was news said that he had found the their suits eventually after so much hassle and i said yea i already knew and he's like 'but he just left the shop.apparently we were on the phone througout the suit search with me giving ideas and alternatives.Even my mom used to ask if there was nothing we did not tell each other.We just knew that the best way to make it work was to communicate at all times.Fortunately i used to work in a telecomms firm in naija so i had relatively cheap calls.I am sure if he also quantified how much he spent on phone cards people would scream.but it was a sacrifice we both had to make as well as saving to travel to and fro.It was really difficult but i am glad its over now and i get to spend the rest of my life with man of my dreams.But make i no lie temptations would always arise and it did for me but i guess this where the level of commitment comes into play nad how much your feelings for that person is true.

the fact that he thinks i think(that does'nt look right but woteva) i know everything.my hubby thinks i am too opinionated and that i argue alot even though i think i am much better than when i was younger.Also the fact that he thinks i shop alot even though i am the best bargain hunter you can ever find.We also argue about the fact that he thinks' i am tired' does not really mean 'i am tired'.anyway still love him all the same and i think the arguments spice up things a little cos i definitely would not want to be in a one opinion counts marriage.

A caring and sensitive man.money helps but i think i would be more swayed with a man who sacrifices the little he has as opposed to a rich one who probably feels nothing when spending.What i mean is a guy who you know genuinely does not have money at the moment but you can see is not stingy.i hate stingy people(the operative word being people not men here) so if a guy has £100 and can sacrifice £50 for us to do something i would pick him over one stupid olodu boy that will spend £1,000 pounds on me(the money is not even his sef).To sum it up;caring sensitive God fearing and ambitious(oftentimes ambitious men can handle ambitious women).Anyway i have gotten all i want.Also, the superficial part of me also never wanted to marry someone i am taller than.

if i may ask why do you want to look like d'banj?be yourself bro.

To also add to the issue raised by akolawole pls try not to travel(this applies to people with valid visiting visas) immediately after you have just been denied a visa to reside in the uk ie student visa,HSMP,work permit,working holiday maker etc.I know loads of people who have and ended up being deported(or should i use the word returned) at the point of entry.It raises a suspicions with the immigration officials at the point of entry when you were denied a student visa last week and this week you are back in the Uk on your visitor's visa.But if you must pls pls make sure you have no incriminating evidence like reciepts,cash cards pictures(yes pictures) and stuff basically that can make them believe you have lived in the Uk.More often than not, you would be searched and anything can make them refuse you entry and sometimes even cancel the visa. Someone i knew was caught with a dated pic for like 3 weeks earlier in front of a train station whereas the person's passport actually stated being in nigeria at the time the picture was taken.So pls if you are refused any sort of residet visa and you believe you have legal grounds to contest it pls do that from nigeria and if you must come visiting give it a few months and also make sure you have a valid reason for your visit that you can defend to anyone with the utmost confidence( i have always noticed at the point of entry that self confidence sometimes determines how the immigration officials relate to you esp when you know you have nothing to hide)