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Kimoni:
Opella, I think you need to slow down...for real

Level 1, Level 2 plus breastfeeding ie feeding 2 people concurrently and the stress of life in general

Pls slow down...there's no way you won't feel faint

I remeber Efe advising me some months back not to take up any tedious workout cuz I was bf and now you are combining all these...too much for the body to take in at once. You are just a supermom!

I agree with Kimoni slow down and listen to your body.If you break down you won't be able to exercise AT ALL so take it easy.I know someone whose doctor has banned from any form of cardio at all till some tests are carried out.

It's all good being fit but like all things in life you need a balance.

tearoses:
LOL
So that means that you cant escape twins then
Its just a matter of time
Even inplants fail
and my friend is going to hospital to remove her lost coil
Iya ibeji its just a matter of time for you

Leave the cat jare. Which eyes?
Its Nigerians that dont like cats

What twins... My sister will have them I dash her on top all this childcare matter.

We can't afford them sef

naijababe:
Which kain eerie? Me sef collect this wan put for pocket, make my trading account begin double each week na.

Ewuro4, I dey research one movie nau, I will post the name when I finish.


House, I am looking for a live-in au-pair o, I don tire to dey search for internet.

Going rate in Aberdeen is £80-£90 per week but negotiable small sha.
Full board will be provided with the job. Abeg una UK people help spread the word, one yeye agency wa collect £360 as finder's fee

cc: edwife, idowuogbo, damiso, tearoses, efemenaxy, r231 & jaybee.........Ayam desperate o and my ijebu brain nor gree pay that finder's fee nonsense

Me too I be ijebu and e go pepper me but I think you might have to pay the agency fees just because I would feel more comfortable with all the checks(CRB,Insurance etc etc) that they will undertake.

The only alternative like most people have said said is those naija mamas.I personally don't like it cos I don't know what mouth I will use to tell mama when she is doing something I don't like.If you want that my mum knows people who do it. She keeps trying to get me one whenever she hears how much I pay in childcare I think they collect £500 a week thereabouts but not too sure if they will want to relocate to Aberdeen you know those mamas like to socialise and London and its igberikos are the surest bet

Eyin iyalaje forex e tun se ijebu .walahi if I see that £80 to £90 a week for childcare I will be so happy.for my daughter alone we pay £70 after school and breakfast club and for my son £200 a week. When I pay for childcare I dey always vex Even when my son starts school sef it will still be £140 a week minimum. We never calculate activities o.

And ppl are praying for twins to join this matter
I never hammer reash naijababe so we can't afford more kids.

tearoses:
All of you running away from twins
It reminds me of the kids pet cat
The cat has a way of knowing which guests are scared of cats and she comes and sits on their lap or by their feet.
They say cats know who doesnt like them

Na so twins go jump on your lap

Naijababe oshe mami
Its a lazy weekend for me this week
No owambes.

You have a cat in your house if I come and greet you it should not jump on my lap o. not that I don't like them like that but their eyes creep me out.

I can't accept that prayer o .twins run in both mine and hubby's family Hubby's dad was a twin,his brother has twins.My grandma had two sets of twins, her mother too had twins.My uncle has twins so noooo I don't want twins.

EfemenaXY:


Now I know say you nor dey wish me well.

I don't want that kinda blessing. Infact, I jump am pass, dash you in quadruplicates.

Edwife, Damiso, and even Tearoses desperately need am. Infact, they're well over due sef, starting with Damiso (twins), Edwife (triplets), and Tearoses (quadruplets - all boys)

I reject it in Jesus name . you don't want me to weigh 60 something like you

EfemenaXY:
Lol @ psych stalker!

Yeah, been thinking about that one too. I can't see myself compromising my run for anything else. How I go do am during the working week at winter? Short of begging hubby to come jog with me (for protection), I can't think of anything else. Or maybe I should go by myself one mean-looking Alsatian / German Shepard.

So you went to work during the tube strike? I worked from home oh! Till 12 midnight. Got to the point I was so tired that while drafting up a doc, I was intending to type *** administration but instead typed *** nursery school. You see ma life?

And lemme confess, for the first time in months, I ate Eba and Ogbolo soup that morning. Can you imagine it? Infact, I can't take the blame for that. I blame hubby for cooking that wicked soup, and London Transport for holding that tube strike.

So you will turn to another of the dog people Na so we go dey battle dog and stalker together

You are lucky now hubby can come with you for me hubby is with the kids while am out

Congrats on joining the 60's club let me sef share testimony I got into a size 12 top yesterday (don't let me deceive myself too much it was Next I think their clothes run a bit big)but am sha still happy used to wear their 14.

Everyone one who sees me first thing they say if you have lost weight and am grinning smugly though I have had a couple say am looking sick

One thing Abeg my sisters my aunties are shrinking(by aunties I mean my bosoms) Abeg what can we do about this wan o,that one I don't like

loving the #secschoolinnigeria # trending on Twitter and Instagram

So nostalgic for me.. One of the funniest and annoying years of my life was in secondary school

We had plenty ITKs like this in my secondary school sotey when we got to SS1 they kuku created a whole arm for them all the ITKs in one class

not meant to be funny but I cant help laughing.

I guess guys now have to say ' can you please have this wipes and wipe off all the make up let me see the real face'.

What contouring will cause eh...

:-XChilli now this is getting eerie..

opella:
Day 17 done. Where are my fitness pals Kimoni, naijababe, damiso? we can do this.

I kuku worked out yesterday did 6.7 miles jog run In the evening so don't worry we are still on track. Will do JM later today.

Oya let's encourage each other and bind laziness spirit.

spirit of laziness indeed

wanted to do JM this morning but by the time I woke up after pressing my snooze button I realised no time esp with tube strike. I sha quickly did 50 weighted squats, 4x reps of 40 secs plank jacks and 20 press ups.

Will try to get some more exercise in after work, fancy some outdoor activity so maybe I will go for a run/jog later in the evening.

I don't know how I will cope with the darker nights in the winter cos I prefer outdoor running/jogging to running on the treadmill. but I cant let some psycho stalk me on this crazy London streets and parks.

Happy birthday jaybee.. hope you have a great day.

And tearoses is right no DP or Moet and we 'evict' you from our room.

Tearoses I think London is getting used to the tube strikes like half my office is working from Home and I got into the office 7:45.

Freecocoa I agree the religion angle is a big one and more an issue.

And it's not necessarily from him per se. Even Christians who don't worship in the same denominations have external people causing issues not to talk of someone who does not believe in God at all.

And if I am being real as well ,Nigerians tend to wrap their heads more round non religious men than non religious women. A Christian woman who is married to an atheist would be told to fast and pray for him to change but still told to submit to him.But a Christian man with an atheist wife would have it inferred that he is a man not in charge of his home.

freecocoa for it to work he has to have very very tough skin. He has to be able to not let what others will say about his non believing spouse get to him. I have had it insinuated on more than one occasion that I am not praying enough is the reason why my husband does not want to attend a 'bible believing church'.Some of my church members don't understand why I don't 'cajole' my mum to follow me to church when she is in my house (like I don't know she is a Muslim so I have to shove my own faith down her neck cos she is in my house*rolling eyes*) Pentecostal Christians especially can't wrap their head round you having family members who are not saved not to talk of a non believing spouse.I guess that's why they are called evangelical Christians too.

tearoses:
Funny enough I think its harder
You get used to the companionship and doing everything together and the other person being there and suddenly the person isnt there anymore

You would probably know about this more than me . I said that cos I would think they know each other better and would probably have settled into having a common purpose.

That said I kinda agree with your initial post as well but just looking at it from another practical angle . I don't even think I can cope with it now cos I know how sonetimes I can't wait for hubby to just come back and take my daughters talk talk off my hands

Kimoni:
Jaybee3, Damiso, tearoses, TV01, Sagamite, naijababe, Coogar, anybody else that can help pls

Pls who has any information about Devere Group?? Their website is nice and all but I read some very bad reviews about them online. I need information about their pay, bonuses, working conditions etc. They have been sending me some series of invites which I have ignored so far because I think there is something fishy about them but they are quite persistent. I want to know if I should bother with them at all on Friday.

Buka et al. - pls sorry to bump your discssuion. Abeg no vex. I just need to make up my mind urgently.

Never heard of them ..

However all the bolder bits of the email always send alarm bells ringing.. I personally don't like Job ads that emphasise training you over the actual skill set/experience of the candidates they are looking for.

You will almost often have to pay for the 'training' before you are then 'placed' into a role.

edwife:
Lol bukytane,i forgot then went on to do something else.

@damiso

I am someone who believe in sacrifices in marriage.If it is for our future,i will be right there supporting the movement.Being together doesn't stop anyone from divorcing or being cheated on.....

When you already have kids and together understand the dynamic of a family,the decision need to be mutual and most importantly the need to organize yourselves on how it should played out..

However it will be easy for a couple who have been married for years than for a newly wedded one,but in all you can only try this with someone that has the same mindset and purpose in life as you do.

Yeah i think its easier for a couple married longer.

moca:
@damiso,im a 100% practical and realist fella.
I will agree. Konji won't kill me.
And him either.
A cheating man will always cheat under ur nose.
If it's for the good of d family,why not?
Unless we r ttcing.
But if not,he has my support.

Even in obodo naija here, me and hubby r miles apart.
Very hard decision for me considering the fact that I just put to bed and in a new place but I have since adapted. Wasn't easy but d advantage out ways d dis.
Not for a long time though

I hv also conditioned my mind for d inevitable cos his work always take him miles away most times so even when we were together, he was o no nso eru aka(lol)

well said moca

BABE3:
I'm fine, thank you. You?

Oh For those that care to know, I'm no more a vegan. A couple of months into the journey, I realized it isn't my calling.

edwife no vex I guess me and Freecocoa were typing at the same time..

Ok lets debate matters of the heart first then more practical stuff.

Cococandy nice perspective.


freecocoa I believe a couple will have common interests and goals BUT definitely almost always have tons of issues that they disagree. The key thing is learning to agree to disagree. Me and husband have so many things that we disagree we still had an argument last night about 'benefit scroungers' as he calls them. The description you gave about not giving people second chances/ and the other person giving chances is like me and my husband. Me , i can make excuses for people ehn. But my husband once you mess up twice (ok maybe he gives 3rd chance ) that's its. I still got burnt last week by a tailor that has repeatedly always never sewn my fabrics when needed. I was just trying to help cos i know she needs that money but to my husband she has done it twice so he cant understand why i would use her again just because of sentiments( papers etc ). If she needed the money she would be more efficient is his argument( which is sorta true).These days though he gives people more chances( guess my influence) and I also can see when i am being taken for granted a bit more. If my husband tells you he will be somewhere at 8pm he will be there at 8pm. and kinda holds people to his owns standards which I try to tell him is not possible. He cant stand deceit,ineffiency,pretense etc.

If those are the only issue you just need to learn how to communicate with each other.

Had this conversation with someone and just thought to get your thoughts Ladies.

Are you totally averse to the idea of living apart from your spouse for long periods?

Now I would or have always thought I could not stomach the idea. We have to be together all the time. Especially now that we have little children that could be handful for one person. I always used to say I will never be a married single mother we must be in it together. But as I grow a bit in age and marriage I am beginning to think I am not now totally averse to the idea. The conversation sprung up from a couple I know who live in Canada but the husband took a multinational Job that took him to certain countries in East Africa. The wife said he took the job so they could pay off their mortgage, pay to put their kids though college without taking out a student loan and also to save a bit more for their retirement. Their children are 16 and 13 respectively. They both shuttle between Kenya and Canada but probably see each other every 3 months.

I used to think what kind of marriage is that where one person lives somewhere and the other person lives somewhere else but now I think though not ideal ,its not totally the end of the world or the marriage depending on the couple involved and what stage of marriage they are at. Sometimes certain sacrifices have to be made to accomplish certain things and for some people being separated from their spouse for a while( note I used the world a while) might be how they could attain some level of Financial security as a family.

I am not too sure if I would be as adamant as before if hubby gets a job that would take him abroad for 2/3 years that could mean we could pay off our mortgage and do some other certain investments within that 2/3 year period. If I got a job that would take me abroad as well I don't know if I would have the heart to leave my kids behind though but unlike before I think I would consider it . I would hate it especially now but I am now a bit more practical to know that children get older they get more expensive. I might not take the job and even be reluctant for hubby to take it but I would not totally reject the idea like I used to. I don't think I would not even consider it a couple of years down the line when my children are the ages of the couple I mentioned. The person I was chatting with was a bit judgemental towards the arrangement saying everything is not money and that being apart gives room for temptations to occur( which I agree might be true and is a valid argument) My argument was we cant totally judge them for their decisions and I understand and can see why they might have agreed to that arrangement.

I commented on a thread with the lady who was not happy that she could not join her husband in Europe but I think that case is different as it was a young marriage with no definite end to the separation in sight.

So I think both arguments in favour and against are valid BUT something I think could work and not totally ruin a marriage depending on those involved.

what are your thoughts?

opella:
Thanks dear, yes I lose weight easily and gain back easily too.

I try to watch what I eat and I know am trying but bread is my weak point, I don't know if I can stay for 2 days without eating bread.

You can if me and naijababe can

you definitely can.maybe switch to brown (whole wheat or whole grain )and if you eat 2/3 slices reduce it to 1 with time you will wean yourself off it. If you can get pitta bread you can also switch to the brown (whole meal )version.

Portion control is one of the most important things to get right in maintaining.

Day 6 level 2 done plus about 30 mins of dancing to naija jams in my room don't roll your eyes.i was just in the dancing /singing mood and I am sure i burnt over 150 calories.

my daughter had to ask 'mummy why are you dancing so much today '

Thank God for Life and health.Na healthy person go even fit remember to work out.

TV01:
I wouldn't. I think it's a terrible idea - let the fiancé sister have her day uninterrupted. Don't encroach or rob her of her big moment - just like we wouldn't want anyone to rob her sister.
I wouldn't even advise it if the fiancé' sister agreed to it. Make your own moments - at best do it when the bride and groom have left the event. In fact, just don't.
TV

I was about to type the same thing.

Just don't like TV said no matter how you try to its another couple sharing in the attention of the day meant for another.


Propose to her somewhere else abeg. He can even do his own party if he wants( that's the rage now abi gosh i feel old)

cococandy:
Damiso big bone is not a myth.

some fat people may even weigh less than they look because most of their body is fat and not lean muscle. Lean muscles weigh more than fat and it's not bad weight either.
As long as you're looking good.

True sha. As well as looking good also trying to stay within the healthy BMI range and just generally being fit and healthy.

there is this misconception that being slim automatically makes you healthier than a fat person ( might be true most times) but I still think even slim people should try( try cos I know its not easy) to eat healthy and keep active

Chillis:
You , coco and tearoses ..
*clears throat*

Yall should dust out your lingeries now. This month go shele.

Damiso you dey run?

I dey fear o ... Twins ke when I am just getting my life back small small .I reject am with every fibre of my being.

GHoJes:
The weight of the bone is the trick. Someone skinny with heavy bones will weigh more than a fat person with light bones. The bone's weight is natural.

Really.. but why do all these fitness people say 'big bones' is a myth?

I guess its try to get people who might otherwise want to live sedentary or unhealthy lifestyles from having a easy excuse.

and I have both i.e An iPhone and a Samsung. I just feel better writing am old fashioned that way . I have a Kindle but I will still be buying books. I just don't think the E-reader gives that turning pages experience. I have Zillions of Bible Apps etc but I still take my Bible to church. That bible is as battered as anything with coat of many colours markings inside but I can cry if lose it.

Kimoni:
Damiso and tearoses - You realise you are only allowed to use Nokia 3310, because these expensive phone manufacturers (Apple, Samsung...) won't be happy that after selling their expensive phones to you with orisirisi organizer apps, you are both still making use of post it

;

Chillis:
Any one that has received the following double double blessing should contact me for tithing and thanksgiving.

If not, I go take am back dash someone else.


Kimoni
Cococandy
EfemenaXY

Damiso
Naijababe

Tearoses
Edwife
Bukatyne
All ye fitness people trying to look more seeexy. .. be ready to take whatever the outcome

I dey wait for testimon'y of 3 set of twins .

Make una begin mark ovulation period.

The male amongst us are not left out.
Watch out for wife or girlfriends.

Even the peepers. Miracle is on the way.

Chillisauce is never wrong

I duck am and dash you all the twins , quadruplets sef .After all this fitness wahala.

HIAN!!!! I no want o.

bukatyne:
Excellent

Thanks dear.

cococandy:
If I have so many thing to do, making a mental note is so hard I tend to flip from one to another.
Since it's easy for me to multi-task, I tend to try to do all at once.

Sometimes it doesn't work.

You are like me so when you are like that you need to write lists.This could be done electronically or by writing them down physically. I tend to write though so I can cross out/tick off. I can't even go grocery shopping without a list because if I don't I end up coming out with what I did not intend to buy and not buying what I went in to buy.

Even at work my manager knows I always have post it notes you will always see weird things like ' chase finance re budget' in bright green all over my computer . I can't function without lists and it really works for me because I tend to get things done when I see them listed out in front of me.

It does make me a bit overly structured as sometimes curve balls occurs that mean I have to deviate from my lists (which I hate) but at least I am able to get the things I need to get done ,DONE.

Organisation is very key and for me having a routine or structure really helps. My children are in bed by 8pm at the latest during term time so that me and hubby can have time to to ourselves or just for me to to even catch a breather. I also have to plan ahead so for example I have planned all my outfits every week. This is because like I said I hate curve balls and my whole morning can be disorganised if I find that the shirt i thought I could wear is rumpled . My husband says I have issues but I lay out even up to my underwear.

I plan meals ahead as well(my husband being an adult deviates sometimes ) but the kids don't have a choice and that's why they prefer daddy sometimes cos jacket potato and tuna/sweet corn can change to MCdonalds .With mummy that's what you are having.

It helps me to also compartmentalise my thoughts into different caps.At work I am not mummy I am the professional that is paid to do what I am paid to do. As soon as I log out of my computer my mummy cap is on , as soon as the kids go to bed wife cap is on etc etc. it can't be helped sometimes but i try as much as I can not to use my children as an excuse and like others have said it helps that my husband sometimes picks up the childcare slack that does not allow me to always be the one rushing off from work. That said if asked for order of priority my family comes first and if it can't be helped I will definitely leave work to be with my family. I am a bit lucky that I have some sort of flexibility at work as well.

It's finding a rhythm that works for you and your family as it grows.families go through different phases and is just trying to find the rhythm that works for you at that particular time.

Kimoni:
I don't know what you guys are doing to me o. I just finished my usual meal of shicken and ships and I tell you guys it tasted like poison. I felt like throwing up with every bite. I don't know if it's physiological or they just prepared thrash today but I'm guessing it's the former.. As I was leaving the eatery, I turned back to have one last look at the place and I was like, "I may just never visit this place again"

Hallelujah