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naijababe: So you are here? I don dey find you and the other naysayers on the boy's night out thread Especially that TV on top all hin isokuso

LOL I better pass them naa I naysay small but been impressed so far.BBC commentators dey vex me

God bless Victor Moses

Stop wasting these corners and free kicks naa

While I get SOME of the points raised in the article as yeah you should be allowed to live with your decisions without people necessarily trying to make you feel bad or question your decisions I find the HATE kids and KIDS CAN RUIN YOUR LIFE parts of the article just odd? Was the writer of the article not once a child?So he hated himself as a child and he ruined his parents life? Those parts of the article did exactly the same thing he was accusing people of doing which is looking down on others people decision to have kids.


That said I don't think people should be coerced or bullied into having kids if they feel they are not capable and this is just not financially.If you think children would be an inconvenience to you at that point in your life you probably are not ready.

Ramadan Kareem To All my Muslim brothers and sisters.May Allah accept all your supplications.

Ewuro that Tpia thread was hilarious you know when it seems like you are watching someone talking to themselves

Royal Roy Sorry and you are so right about pen and paper never failing you.I found my degree dissertation(project) the other day(you know that one we bind) and you won't believe some stuff in it helped me with an application I needed to make. The flash drive that was meant to be back up is no where to be found.

Hallo hallo Chei Diaris God u o Seun you come make agbalagbas(adults)get withdrawal symptoms on top NL e no good o

We thank God As its a new dispensation CC has now been demoted all the goodies listed by armyofone come thru moi All the newbies eg edwife and Lyndaroyce have to see me for re registration


Don't mind me hope everyone and yours are all well.

Well done Dutchess I am a January baby too.Hugs to my month mate

I would like to be part of your drive as well.

As soon as you have worked out the logistics, will try to support with something.

God bless you for thinking along those lines

I will do confession to a priest and never do it again

bellong: How your liver go cut? Abeg, push for that PhD degree oooo.

One of my supervisors started PhD after two children.

Bellong no mind me jare . I will get there by His Grace . It's not easy but nothing good comes easy so will keep that in mind.

Happy New Year All..May it be a year of Good tidings for us all.

I love January maybe cos its my birth month, so a new year is a new year for me in All ramifications.

How una dey . I don miss una oh.Na acada walahi singles abeg finish all school work before those babies start coming o. Me wey I say I wan reach Phd e be like say my liver don dey cut.

Baby mama: Cheap sucks
Quality at a bargain is the key
I have bought Calvin Klein and guess jeans at sam's club for $14.99
They have those deals once in a while

Cheap really does suck.Better to buy Quality at a bargain.TK maxx and the likes are good with that.

dayokanu: Thats exactly the point

A man would buy one expensive item. And wear it for 10yrs
If you add all the amount you have spent on winter jacket since 2009 its would add up to more than 380.

Na lie joor .His expensive taste too much jare.Always saying you and all these cheape clothes that don't last (true sha pure ohio is right).Some(ok most) of my most expensive items were bought by him.I neva fit count £1, 000 go buy watch.

Men generally tend to buy quality over quantity.My husband has a winter coat he bought £380 and that has been his standard going out winter coat since 2009.I dont think I have a winter coat that cost over a £100 but I have black, red, purple, tan, pastel pink etc .But they were on sale naa :PI bought the purple one £40 in gap from £120 pls tell me does that not make me a savvier spender .I sha cant be wearing one grey winter coat everyday cos its £380.

ypepe: Reading is very good. As somebody who grew up alone, I was mostly not alone.
I read the whole bible at a very tender age. Bought it with money that somebody gave me as xmas gift. When I opted out of crk while in school, my teacher was very sad. I was d best litt graduating student. Enuf prices. Funny enuf, I was a bloody science student yet so good in art.
Hubby said he don't even know my profession any more.
He hates reading but can solve algebra in dream. Even to read bible is wahala.
U need to c him doing that, as if u r punishing him.
I hv my novels, still buying more. I read about spiritual matters a lot while in school. Grail, eckankar, gandi and tibetian monastry.
Knowledge is power.
Still learning a lot on nl.

Hubby too is not a reader.Not every one has the attention span to read large volumes.

But Ypp u try o I fit read on theology (infact I did a course unit on African trad religion) but I dey fear all those spiritual books Make I go no dey fly for dream

Efemena_xy: Now this cracked me up!



Lol! @ bolded

Dami, don't even mention reading household. My parents had a library of books! D'you know I was given Roots by Alex Haley to read when I was just in Primary 3?

I didn't feel that voluminous book one bit. But fast forward to a few years later...it took me weeks to finish it but once I started, I couldn't put the book down. Now that is one of my favourites!

Its good and I admit though I try I dont think my kids are surrounded with as much books as I was.Its good you know some sort of separate education apart from the formal one.In pry school i was always the chief debater.I was also on the quiz team because i was smoking in general affairs as I knew alot about most topics.My Pry 4 teacher could not get over the fact that I knew who Lenin was or that the Leningrad was on Russia.

But I don dey airhead small small My daddy will not be proud cos I now watch Keeping up with the Kardashians

coogar: see ajepakx everywhere, where are my eton college alumni at? who is jf odunjo? is she a stripper?

Eton college kor, Harrow ni

Efemena_xy:

You are joking!

I lurrrrrrrrve Wole Soyinka's works! I'm an avid fan!

I like him too
My first degree was in English so I remember how we had the Wole Soyinka and Chinua Achebe camps.

Alot of people prefer Achebe cos of his prosaic easy to relate to style of writing but if you are able to go past the style, Soyinka too is really good.

I need to go back to reading o. .Business and life generally no gree me dey read like I used to.
I miss my commute to work on the train.

Efemena_xy:
You are joking!

Give even some graduates, The Interpreters, they will die

Make I no lie if not that I grew up in a reading household (my Dad had a library and was the most voracious reader I know) I no know about Wole Soyinka.

bellong: It's no longer ajepako things when you start to add The trials of Brother Jero and Arrow of God. Our level of Engrish no fit comprehend those books at the time.... We sabi our levels, we are good with Eze goes to school, Kole the supersack Superstar...

etcetera

Abi o Wole Soyinka and ajepako cannot be in the same sentence .Even university students find it difficult to comprehend

bellong: Alawiye (JF Odunjo), especially Aworawo aponmita, Ireke onibudo, Ha o pari

Kuye, Jenlogbatemi etc . surprisingly enough I used to be the best yoruba reader in Sec School.Our Yoruba teacher used to say
'Dami oya kawe fun wa' meaning Dami read for us .Mrs Taiwo my best teacher.She loved that I was the only who did not bastardise the language when reading texts.I got A3 in yoruba at waec.

bellong: ^^^ Enid blyton is about the only book I recognise in your list. I got to see the witch and the wardrobe in a film last year...

As correct ajepako pikin (kid is for ajebo while pikin is for ajepako ), I grew up reading Ikebe-super, super story, rich girl and poor boy, things fall apart, eze goes to school, ogboju ode ninu igbo irumole, Abe abo... etc..


Now I have stepped my game, I now read geosciences.....

LOLL... I read Things Fall Apart too joor thats not ajepako things.I also read The Passport of Mallam Ilyia, Ali and Simbi, Chike and The River, Drummer boy in school etc in school.

Na this una leisure reading razz gan joor

Ermmm so jenny gave the course for that new car?

Ermm Jenny how much is Enrolment fee, me too I want car 2014 Christmas

I don't mind withdrawing part of my tuition fee for this so pls reserve a slot

So all of una are razz ajepako kids
I only read Enid Blyton, Sweet Valley High, Mallory Towers, Ladybird, The Lion, the witch and the wardrobe things....

Does that mean I am the only ajebota in this room
I will go and add to the ajebota thread

'Make sure your kids dont read Pa Ajasco, Ikebe super things'

Kulyie in this case spanking will be reactive.A knee jerk reaction.Like naijababe said its easier said than done na to leave room scream inside pillow because if na me the kain beating (beating not spanking o) I will want to give the child, there no go be part 2. .It just defeats the purpose especially for kids this young. Its the adult who left paint lying around that needs to be corrected more.

Half of the time baseje (destructive child) especially among toddlers is a sign of an inqusitive mind, its left to parents to engage that inquisitiveness.Not saying no discipline cos even babies push boundaries, but in cases like this case the child is just being a child.

Nashville: Mr. CC told me in confidence he was getting you a 63 Reg. e-vogue. Now you will ask how I know it is a 63 Reg.

The rate at which I spent this Christmas ehn, I dont know when money will complete o. I have not even had the courage to look at my bank account for the past one week. The next time I will look at that account is January 6th. I just I will not develop high blood pressure!

Spoken like my Husband .He said I miss when you did Christmas

PocketEconomist: Very good advice. Savings is very important, Savings+Budgeting=Financial freedom. About competition, this is a very silly thing because the people you are trying to impress will be the same people to laugh when you plunge yourself in financial ruin. Let me share two tricks my family and i used to do while in the states. 1)We had this modified small cupboard with a little hole. Now all of us in the house always slot in coins(cents) each time we got home. So this means that when you get home, the coins in your pocket is dropped there(every member of the house) and the notes stay with you. At the end of the year, we were able to save $1,114.35 in mostly coins(my uncle sometimes slots in notes $1 and $2 when he has no notes on him.) and notes. 2) my uncle and his wife had a card based account, my uncle provided the first two digits of the password, while his wife provided the rest. So no one had unilateral access to the account. They wire small change into the account and it adds up. You can also device other saving techniques. This is my 2 cent, 5 kobo.

Its true o, we had this really big jar of coins, pennies, 5ps, 10ps, 20ps nothing larger than 20p.We took it to Tesco the other day and it was £180+ give or take a few pennies after the commission.We put it into the kids savings account but it just goes to show how something so little amounts to something over time.

We have another jar this time no pennies.

Efemena_xy: Well said ladies.
I think what most of us women should also remember is that our men (husbands / spouses) would probably have had a very different upbringing to ours, so it will do us well to always make allowances for those. Without going into much detail here, I can't tell you how different I and my hubby's background are. Take religion for example, he comes from a Jehovah's Witness background, I'm Catholic. Two extreme ends of the spectrum as far as Christianity goes (in my opinion).
So it's understandable that festive occasions which many of us take for granted are seen differently by them. Christmas, New Year, Birthdays, Vals, and so on are a few examples. It can be hurtful if you're used to celebrating these days and your spouse doesn't or forgets. But perseverance is the key. Like CC's always mentioned, show by example. Don't say because he forgot to give you a card / present or even acknowledge your birthday then you'll retaliate. You'll gain nothing from it. Go all out and celebrate his special day (you can do that from the comfort of your home)...make / buy him a special birthday cake. Get him a birthday card. Get a present for him. Send him a text wishing him a happy birthday. Cook his favourite meal (or take him out), pamper him Nollywood style. Then when you get home, 'punish' him properly with earth-shattering sex to blow out his mind (he is your man afterall, to do as you please with, isn't he?).
Basically, give him a day (and night) to remember on his birthday and it'll slowly sink in and believe me, before you know it, he'll begin to reciprocate. It might be baby steps at the beginning, but be sure to thank him. Let him know you appreciate his effort. That will encourage him to do more.
As per BabyMama's comments: spot on.
I believe the financial upkeep of the home should be a joint responsibility especially when the couple are both working and earning. If you feel your man isn't being as romantic as you want, rather than sitting down and bemoaning your fate, do something about it. Why not take him out yourself to that fancy restaurant / joint you've always wanted to visit? What difference does it make if you pay for the cinema tickets, the club, the show, or whatever outing tickles your fancy. What's wrong with wooing your man? Or taking him on a shopping spree (if you can afford it)? He is your man afterall, isn't he? To do as you please. It won't kill you or break the bank if you pay for that naughty weekend at the countryside, will it? If you've got kids and can find suitable childcare, then why not?
But if one or the other isn't working, there are numerous ways to show your spouse that you appreciate their effort. Being romantic doesn't necessarily entail you spending exorbitant amount of money. Taking a stroll to the park, having a picnic, jogging together, etc are just a few ways of spending time together.
The important thing is to stay focused. Many learn by example. Keep treating your man the way you want to be treated. Always accord him that respect (even when disagreeing) and before you know it, you'll be surprised at the results.

Like I shared earlier on in the thread.This advise really really works.Again like baby mama said don't sweat the small stuff.

Oga mac, DailyMailyou fall my hand. ;DMe and hubby and alot of people in the UK call it The Daily Wail (not just immigrants )

Awww CC cant wait till my kids are grown ojere.So you don't have to be thinking of car seats and bumpers
Once again, give him.a french and italian kiss from us God bless him.

Oga dami se you see .just joking o.I loved my Christmas gift but a car too would have been nice.

CC we want picture naa.Block out the number plate sha for security purposes

Babymama spot on. Dont sweat the small stuff ojare.I had an argument with bukatyne earlier on in the thread but you just broke it down probably a bit more than I did.My husband is exactly like yours and has started saving and planning for my lil kids (2&4) education later.I would not say stingy per se but overcalcu dey worry am.But to be honest I am learning some good things from him.I used to be such a spendthrift just spend spend when it finishes it finishes but with him I have learnt you must always have something stashed away.Who are you trying to impress? Same people who will ridicule you when you go to them when you can'tpatpay basic bills? Naa its not worth it.His attitude is splurge now and again but most of the time not even live within your means but a lil below it (that one I never assimilate properly ).Annoying but I can say we have never run into really large financial issues since we got married . He teases by saying how do you know I have left over ehn? Am like no be you? E no possible

Kulyie at points like this you would just be weak and scared that they have not ingested some of it.If you beat them at this point its out of anger and defeats the purpose of correction.

If na my kids

But like said these are toddlers or preschoolers how did paint get within their reach?.All paint in our house is either binned or kept in loft and they can never reach the key.I understand sha that these children (having a toddler and preschooler myself) can rummage the house and all but that's why child proofing is important. To me they are just being kids (my son poured garri on the floor and wanted to be counting the grains ) so its left to the adult in charge to put harmful stuff out of their reach.

maclatunji: ^Same to you.
I am saying that Michelle-Barack's problems have gone past the normal "ups and downs" of "every" marriage.
Michelle is a strong woman, Barack is the biggest flirt I have seen in the White House. There are underlying tensions.

Men with that much charisma often come across as flirts.

Besides boring Mr Cameron too was part of the 'selfie' action so why na only Obama una dey talk .
As has been said by SisiKill The National Enquirer is not to be taken serious after they keep saying Elvis Presley was spotted on the moon

Thank you for the email Happy New Year in advance