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eazzzy1: i totally condemn the act of wife beating, and i know its very shameful, but the question should be asked what did she do to him?

Please I don't think we should be asking that. What is it that she could have done to warrant a beating till she fled. Did she use mortar to break his head?

Ok I don't know about being the most affectedlks died dung that period. Thank God for my Papa. When others were running and asking him "Papa Daresh are you not going too"? He said no we have school and. Work. Thank God!

Raymondenyi: Return toi ur Dr. Dat is one of d commonest complications of keloid treatment!!! He 'll continue on d steroids 4 sometime.


Buh wat is wrong wt u ladies? Why do u take pleasure in harming urselves all in d name of fashion. I really don't understand u all. I hope u know a lady dat is pretty will always be no matter d number of holes in her ear, nd reverse is d case 4 an ungly person irrespective of d number of holes too...
Most times its not worth it, pls spread d message across to other females alike.

Ol boi take it easy now? You are getting too serious. I didn't pierce it to make my self more beautiful, I'm beautiful enough thank you. It was trying something different. You know, like you try a new. Hairstyle, or buy a. Differnt style of clothes than you usually wear. I just thot, what the hell let me try it. Its no biggiesn no need to spread the word about anything. Its not like its life threaning or anything, just a flaw in my over beautiful self

I tire for all these men biko. Your wife loes not work wahala, she works wahala. You want to hold the woman down? If you are not happy she earns more then you go and make more money. Chikena! Don't hold the woman down with your insecurities and freaking ego

Please don't be quick to judge. I was seriously considering leaving my husband in Nigeria when I went abroad to have my baby and only me knew why. No one else knew what he was doing to me so ppl like you would have bn quick to judge. Please if you don't know what is going on please mind ya damn business.

I pierced my ear a few years ago but it won't stop hurting so I took out the earring. The place started to swell when I was pregnant and grew to a hard round ball (keloid). I had surgery last year and it was taken out and I was given kelanoid shots to stop it from growing back. Now, after less than a year, the damned thing has started growing back . What in the world can I do about this thing now.

I remember calling the hospital in tears when my first baby tried to kill me. He had cried non stop for 5 hrs and I was ready to kill hi. I swear these kids can kill someone.

Abeg get over yourselves jor, you think anybody has time to pursue you cos you are Muslims? Ol boi get over ur selves cos we couldn't be bothered

hardbody: Oya Let's get married. B4 you catch me on the first one, we would have done 10 years plus. By the second time, i will not grumble if you kick me out because we would have rumbled for close to 20 years, LMAO

Dude you don't know who I am! My ex bf called me CIA! If you cheat I must catch you, or else no be my mama born me.

Of course I can forgive as long as he is truly repentant. Forgiveness is good for the soul. Having said that, if you try me again you will see my true colors

DailyNews: Pitiable! Speechless! What more can I say? The only true friend you can ever trust in life is YOU!

Just take heart and find solace in reading your Bible and talking silently to your God.

Are you serious @ all?

ifegy: Are you a qualified/licensed counselling professional?

Yeah dude, are you? @beloved1993 no be small suffer o! Oh well I'm sure she has the licence to cheat now, he no go fit get mouth if she does her own cos his sin is much worse.

Abeg where can she get marriage counseling in this Naija because me sef I need it.

That's probably how she was raised. Men shd not enter kitchen to serve food. Ol boi an she know, as I'm typing this my Oga just left the kitchen after serving his food. It's no biggies, my Dad serves himself, my brothers serve themselves, it's no biggies for my husband to do the same.

No wonder those aboki girls in my school were so dumb. They repeated tire and finally left to merry. No sense in any of them.

Aafulenu: i knw someone that doesnt have a child but she has had 5 abortions, she told me so herself, she even had it twice in 5months and she insists that all of them were mistakes. #mycousin

this is a very good babe, everybody loves her she is so hard working and respectful
@kulyie am very sure if u see her, without knowing this u will approve her for ur brothers. and because it doesnt show on her eveerybody calls her a good wife material. and u will too if u meet her.


all am saying is that, the fact that this girl has two kids from different fathers doesnt make heer a bad/useless person
it just shows that he made a bad choice twice. stop judging her and insulting her.

ur life might be perfect doesnt mean u should insult others who make mistakes

@OP have u tried to see what ur brother sees in her? surely there must be something he is seeing to make him insist on marrying her. y dont u try looking at her through his eyes?

Thank you very much for this. That what I've bn trying to explain. She had 2 kids because she had the guts to carry them. Countless girls have abortions everyday but you won't ever know cos belle is flat. We shd stop judging her Biko. Condoms break and many people have never heard of the morning after pill. My husband then bf didn't know what is was and many girls don't know. Shit happens everyday abeg.

babyosisi: Nobody says she can't move on and find happiness.

Would you introduce this woman as first choice to your own 31 yr old brother or son
That is the sincere way to answer this question.

If your brother or son called you and described this woman as his intended wife ,what will be your reaction?

Anyone that says they won't be shocked and try to persuade him otherwise is lying

Like I wrote before I won't want my brother to marry a mum of 2 but what d OP is asking is how to stop the marriage. The guy has weighed his options and knows what he wants. If it was my brother instead of trying to stop the marriage and cos him unhappiness I would support him and pray the lady is good to him. If the marriage doesn't work then he would have learnt from it. But it is his mistake to make not for me to stop him. What if that woman is the woman for him. That loves cherishes and understands him? What if she was a different person when she had those kids? It is who she is now that attracted the OP's brother.

kulyie: 1st of all i have never had sex with a man that i have not known his character too well beyond reasonable doubt.number 2 i dont just have sex with just about anybody that says you are beautiful.theres something called friends with benefits and there is something called oral contraceptives or condom,number 3 when people point out where both parties make mistakes (meanwhile any mistake that is more than once is no more a mistake as far as i am concerned) i wonder why people call it judging.number 4 if genuinely she was raped the first time,and she took in,what of the other kids

i wonder why some people will go back to their vomit and call it mistake.mistake is always the excuse for people who dont want to learn

She has 2 kids, she made mistakes, she can move on. We all deserve a chance at happiness.

kulyie: the op said its not like shes beautiful.by the way yorubas say if there is no opening,a lizard will not have acess into a fence,in other words,if she did not sleep with the men or used condom,she will not bring kids into the world when she is not sure the men will accept it.i am a woman and a woman knows whether a man will accept her child or not.if she is sleeping with someone that has no job or is earning something meagre or even has all the money in this world and he isnt ready for kids,the woman will know or how can a woman be sleeping with a man that she doesnt know what he is capable of doing and not doing.all this self inflicted problems is just avoidable with the use of common sense

Na wash o! People can like to judge. What if she was raped? Or are you saying u never ever in ur life had unprotected sex? Or have u never dated a guy that you aboki back at and wonder "what the hell was I thinking?" We'll I have done both. In fact I was nearly in that same situation when I was 20 years old! If she had aborted her pregnancy will anyone be talking about her like this? I'm sure she has bn with terrible guys and knows how to appreciate a good man. Guys please just stop judging the poor girl, please please please. I'm sure she knows her mistakes, and they don't have to follow her forever. Please OP leave her alone. I know I won't want my brother to marry a mum of 2 either but it's his choice. Stand by him and not fight him or her, if she is a bad person it will show eventually.

Please it's not like dot for every girl. I love flowers, infact I cherish them more than money or brazillian hair

Please leave your brother alone and let him marry who he chooses . Please do not judge her cos you don't know her story. She is who God created for him so let them be please.

devigblegble: I think mine was worst,my girl was wrongly accused and she was put in jail for two days and I never paid a visit while she was in jail pretending I never knew she was in jail,when she came out,she saw me flirting with another girl,that was how our relationship ended but today I regretted it cuz I've never met a girl that really loved me like she did pls someone tell her I'm so sorry

Ahn ahn! This one is wickedness oo!

The airliner has insurance so that's where they get paid from. If you enter a sensible bus company that provides insurance then you will get paid.

[quote author=blaise26.abj]Ain't the bolded Racism? And you are complaining about Sexism.[/quote]It isn't racism, it's anti Nigerian men. Yes who guys are totally and royally messed up.

Well every marriage is different then. I'm usually the one chasing Mr Oga up and down. I might go and meet the driver if he keeps rejecting me

she shd forget the 2 of them and move on with her life. its not by force.

barcanista: bad girl... you need them multiple?

I've had 3 in 1 . AMAZING!!!!

ekenedegreat: She can't do domestic chores, she can't hustle/work 2 make money (even in a little way)she only demands 4 everything she needs and expects her wish 2 work in her favour.. She is full of excuses when confronted. How can 1 cope wit dis kind of lady? Folks, I need ur contributions on dis pls.

You don enter 1 chance ol boi!

Pregnancy don do Kim shege See as she fat! See her legs like yam

An Orga5m

My sister, hmmm, Nigerian men ehn! I just shake my head. My case is similar to yours, I have managed to drum out the sexism to an extent from my husband cos b4 we married he used to say and think the dumbest things. However his relatives? I shake my head. The day his uncle told me, pregnant women shd not wear trousers! Or "don't cross your legs in front of your husbands ppl! I just ignore him. When I told my husband, he was mad. See these ppl are so damn backward, just ignore them. I ALWAYS said my daughter will never marry a Nigerian man. I said it even b4 I had a daughter. I can't deal with their wahala for the poor girl. My husband has bn asking what is wrong with Nigerian men, I refer him to his relatives.

horny4u: I work out 6 days a week ....work chest, triceps and back (mon), badass cardio (tues) back and biceps (wed) ashtanga yoga (thurs) legs and back (fri) kickboxing cardio (sat) Rest (sun) .....Mon+wed+fri I work abs for half and hour and build butt and hips for 30 mins too.

I donot beleive in African women being all skinny but flat abs, 15- 20% body phat with a lot of booty to smack

When a lady is over 25 years old she should work out atleast 3 times a week 30 min HIIT and 30 mins weight training. Hormones reduce and sedative lifestyle too cause for weight increase.

Increase protein if you are building a body part and eat complex carbohydrates...NO eating carbs after 6pm.
1 gallon /5 litres of water everyday.

I most times wake up an hour earlier to work out.

Health is the real wealth.

The above is just my opinion.

You are on your own. After doing all this one where will i get the strength and time to do home work, go to work, pursue children, cook and service oga? You wan kill be biko? On your own o!