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chucky234: Hmmm ladies with handsome men,a major reason why many of them are still single at 37.

only ugly people say things like this. meanwhile hyacinth is hooooooooot . I swear my jaw dropped and eyes popped out when I saw him. Having gawked @ him, I will give a fine boi like him a wide berth, I don't need to be fighting any heifers for attention. Bobo too cute!

Caracta: I can only relate with Number 5. All the other points can mislead.

I password my phone because of intruders and potential thieves, even though my family members know the passcode.

Even without all these pointers, a woman can cheat right under her husband's nose.

My sister help me tell them. All this one na long thing, a smart woman will cheat and will get away with it clean. Men are dumb and will never see it coming.

Cry and get over it.

[quote author=Dr. Tee]AWKA —  MEMBERS of the Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria, PFN, and Umuoji community in Idemili North Local Government Area of Anambra State are on each other’s throat, following the killing of a snake in the community by the Overseer of the Mercy Throne Assembly, Umuoji, Rev Jude Chubueze.

To the community, Chibueze had committed a sacrilege, adding that the killing of snake in the area is a taboo.

The matter is already before the Anambra State Police command which is trying to mediate between the two parties to avoid a breakdown of law and order.

Members of PFN under the aegis of Umuoji Gospel Ministries Fellowship led by Pastor Celestine Ekpunobi, yesterday, described the tradition that forbids the killing of snake as barbaric, adding that such law should only concern the pagans.

Already, the church where the overseer is the pastor had been sealed with palm fronts by the people of the community.

Narrating his version of the incident, Rev Chibueze said a snake stormed his house at night when members of his family were already sleeping. He said the snake was lying where his children were sleeping and when the children started shouting, he ran out with his wife to see what was happening.

He said: “When I got to their room, I saw a big snake lying with them and I had to kill it and threw it into the nearby bush. The following day, some community members marched to my house and accused me of killing their god. They beat me up mercilessly.

“They wrote a list of items amounting to N54,890 which they said I should buy to appease their god.  Being a Christian, I told them that it is against my faith and more over, I killed a snake and not a human being.”

However, Chief Paul Edekobi, one of the community leaders said instead of the pastor doing what he earlier agreed to do with the community by providing the items, he dragged them to Ogidi Police Station where six of the community leaders were arrested.

According to him, what he did was capable of wiping out his entire family if sacrifices were not made to appease the gods.

“We do not want to destroy his property and that is why we used the palm fronts to tie round the church to stop him from worshipping there for now,” Edekobi said.

But the pastor said: “What they are talking about is not tradition; they see the killing of a snake as a taboo in their world of idol worshipping and not same in Christian faith

“If they do not desist from this act, our next port of call will be the court for the enforcement of our fundamental human rights.”[/quote]I'm from that side of the country and dem no dey kill snake. If you see snake beside ur child, gently carry it outside and let it go. They r like pets and will never bite or harm anyone. He shd pay the fine cos he was wrong.

[quote author=12 inches!]Kk..That is the case of your friend. And it is one in a million. In how many families where the couple are not separated does this happen? Be truthful and logical for once. Pls give me your estimate of how many functional (not dysfunctional) do women solely pay house rent, school fees, house fees etc. Let the audience have a feel of what you're saying. I'm sure when ur friends hubby gets his salary he probably does more than all these (if he is responsible) but we don't hear him mentioning it to everyone. Your friend may even collect the money back from him directly or indirectly without our knowledge. How many men pay bills and want a money refund from their wives? Men naturally spend more in an African marriage 90 percent(my estimation) of the time. We don't see them making a mountain of it but when it is time for you to perform your own wifely duties you women bring out the equality card and complain. There's nuffin wrong in asking for a maid if it can be afforded. There is nothing wrong in having one. It is absolutely wrong to absolve ur responsibility to a maid. Doing that is an incentive to make ur husband cheat with her. Cheating with a maid is absolutely wrong too. But a WIFE must be a WIFE. If you want a "REAL MAN" then you must be a "REAL WOMAN" too PERIOD.

PS: I actually said that would be my last comment but u said some very untrue things. The only way this argument will ever continue is if give me that estimate I asked for. Remember I said functional normal families. Not dysfunctional.[/quote]I cannot give you an estimate because I do not know what happens in other peoples homes. No one will tell you, o this is the situation in my house. The only reason I know hers is because we are tight and when things were really bad financially, she had to ask for help. I will not tell you if it happens in my house neither will the average woman on the street. I have not said it is right for a woman to neglect her duties to the, hell no it is absolutely wrong. I am always an advocate of a woman earning money and assisting her husband in every way possible. I am also an advocate of men contributing not just financially to the home. If you don't want me to have a maid then you must help out around the house. Most responsible men carry the major financial burden in the home ie house rent and school fees that does not mean his wife doesn't contribute. There is sooo much more to running a home.
Also men do not have any valid reason on God's green earth to cheat with anyone let alone the maid. If you are not happy with your wifes behaviour talk to her. I always say, what example are you setting for your children?

Daresh: Please dont assume anything. My friend pays the house rent, school fees her car, her hair everything. I must give her hand because she is ultra hard working. She doesn't ask for this and that. Yesterday I called her and we was going to work to try and find money to pay school fees while oga is waiting for salary to come she has fixed the problem. Things are never straight forward so dont assume you know.

Her maid just left, her mum is with her put has to go back soon. Its not easy for her at all and some sanctimonious fools will be here flapping their gums. The OP's post about women bb while their husbands work is so stewpid. She is prolly giving us the reason her married bf gave her for cheating on his wife. Girls are just dumb.

[quote author=12 inches!]I'm not saying anything again. This will be my last comment. It is these same women that will want a "REAL MAN" that will foot and pay for all the bills, buy her dresses, shoes and bags yet when it comes for the time to do their duties they will want to make complaints. This same women. I AM SICK AND TIRED. I have nothing else to say. Nigerian women are a CASE.[/quote]Please dont assume anything. My friend pays the house rent, school fees her car, her hair everything. I must give her hand because she is ultra hard working. She doesn't ask for this and that. Yesterday I called her and we was going to work to try and find money to pay school fees while oga is waiting for salary to come she has fixed the problem. Things are never straight forward so dont assume you know.

adesbreath: please kindly state the duties of a woman in the home so we can understand better, then tell us how many kids your aunties and sisters each have, then post their pictures so we can see how young and fresh they all look, I bet you after you have done all these, women will see the proof that they too can live a healthy life, carry four or more kids with no husband help, househelp, inlaw help or whatever form of help.

People like you are just not realistic. How will she cope with kids, full time job and not help? I can assure you it is impossible. Someone will suffer. Either the job or the kids. I just got bk from a friends house, she just had a 3rd child and she is going bananas. No help, kids screaming round the house while she is nursing the 3rd one. Half way thru she will start preparing lunch, sweeping, washing plates, wiping noses, cleaning up the mess kids constantly make. And what is dear husband doing, playing with ipad. You want to kill woman? The law in my house is simple, since there is no maid, we will ALL work together. I'm sorry but I cannot die because you want me to be a perfect wife.

[quote author=maar!a]Dear Women!
Have you ever asked yourself why husbands are sleeping with maids?

Well my findings revealed that maids are doing wives' duties.

Most wives are now full time facebookers, bb users,whatsapp etc chatting 24/7 at the expense of their homes.

Even when their husbands return from work, they won't welcome them with love and husbands that don't want argument, will go straight to the kitchen to get pure water to cool down.

Unfortunately maids whose 'oranges' are intact not floppy like wives will welcome your husbands.

At weekends, you don't stay home to cook special meals, you leave your maids to to do the task and where are you? Partying!

Don't you know these maids have needs as well and they have automatic promotion if your husbands should have s^x with them so pls dear women stop allowing maids to perform your duties.

Don't start crying when it happens because you pushed him to do what he never wanted to do.I know you may be busy, but if the Maid cooks food, be the one to serve that food to ur husband, welcom him always when he's from work, be the one to give him water to take a shower,and never let ur House Maid enter ur Bed room to clean there!

I dont say it is sole cause but i do say that it is one of the causes why Most men use to sleep with maid...

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Follow me for more[/quote]I cant believe the sheer garbage spewing from your mouth. You have been so brainwashed you are now blaming the women for their husbands cheating. Crazy thing is, it's single girls that usually talk rubbish like this. I pity you.

get her a bottle of perfume.

I had money then ooo. Sometimes when I look bk @ d things I bought b4 I married from shares, to gold I'm amazed. No, no money again, just hustle hustle hustle.

Peach45: I met dis guy 2011,we were best of friends n then he ask me out wich I accepted.he came 2 my school n we made out.later found in 2weeks dat I was pregnant n i cal him,he said he doesn't ve d moni 2 take care of a child nw dat I shud go 4 DnC wich I did. Nw he is usin d excuse Dat his family dot want him 2 marry oda tribe oda dan isoko or urhobo.pls I nid ur candid advice though am we ain't Seein much.

Which one is candid advice again? The guy has chopped and clean mouth. Move on

True NaijaBwoy: Point 1 i do apologise, im not afraid to be sentimental!
Point 2 Women changing after the ring goes on, thats another issue! It a default land mine... this is not what this is about!!
Point 3 we initially had financial strangle on us that i felt was both to our mutual understanding, obvisouly not, im an absolute extrovert, she knew this about me and loved this about me,she also has this in her nature,but i firmly go to work n go home to spend time with the family, my time with the guys is playing on a footy weekend, which i have cancelled on a numerous occassion to hang with family,,, my flexibility has never been an issue... she also loves my relationship with kids which never changed, she will always tell you 1 thing, i am a good father and a hands on dad as she is a good mum,,, our problems was never us a a couple,,, its the external factors which are crippling and undermining us.
by the by,,,, I'm a very good cook and do cook for her, and my saturday is typically a house cleaning blitz by me,, especially sat mornings,,, this is neither here nor there, my point is i am not shy to be soppy if i feel happy!

silly me, maybe!! but we both deserve happiness even if its apart!!

I will say one fair thing, women(maybe her) prefer to see what they want to see rather than appreciate the personalised effort!

kai, una don turn me to agony uncle!!

Whatever men. I have my issues to deal with, find a solution to your problems and you 2 solve your issues and stop bringing in outside forces.

True NaijaBwoy: Your not married yet! Stick around, Youll learn a little about conflicts in a household and how things can easily go pear shaped

This is abount content not context!

Ol boy I'm married. Proudly 5 years and 2 kids. My issues and your issue are diff. From my experience men are the ones who dont apologize. Do you see me going around to announce it? Men want a perfect wife, what have u done to deserve. Talking about how women change when d ring is on their finger. You did you not change? Do u to her out on dates like you used to? Do u buy her those gifts you used to buy? Or do you leave her at home with kids to do nothing but vex all day, cooking and cleaning. Do u buy her flowers? Or do u go and hang out with the guys after work and come home at 10pm? You changed and you don't want her to. Silly you

ItsModella: See, this guy has me on lock down already, no kidding. Chineke!! could this be true?

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MY GOD!!! Abeg keep this guy away from me, I no trust myself

True NaijaBwoy: Na wa o

I always thought people who divorce must have been lazy in their marriage to keep things together.... but the sad fact is i am now going through a divorce. Its even more painfull to realise the key reason for me parting ways with the woman i still love is simply because she wont address the error of her ways.

Ironically, if she had said, "my husband, i am sorry please fogive me and lets patch things up (even for the sake of the kids)". I would with out doubt reconsider. it would help restore my confidence in her and my marriage.

The harsh reality is without these words, I would continously battle with her in respect of who wears the pants in our marriage. it truly doesnt help that her tenacity is supproted by her family. This truly chops my legs of me manhood and dignity... My marriage is currently the spin off from Eastenders... the family affairs is out there...

Im guessing you want to know what she should be sorry about it will pop out when i get enough feedback from the women out there.

9yrs knowing her, 5yrs married, 2kids later and a divorce............ Ladies, Learn these words, it goes a long way to retaining your marriage " my husband i am sorry"

Oga abet don't project your issues with your wife to all women. How do you know ALL women don't say they are sorry? Abeg piss off and go and settle with your wife jor!

these kids are mad

ifeness: And jesus's blood pleased him?

The blood of Jesus is the perfect sacrifice. Because he loves his son he will forgive your sins cos the blood of Jesus is interceding for our sins. Don't you see it's the perfect sacrifice?
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ifeness: How about the lil babies he killed in egypt?

He didn't kill them, their king killed them. The Jews are God's people. He has always fought for them.

adoniza: "He is unchangeable"

Yet he changed the animal sacrifices which he used to accept, and which pleased him

A blood sacrifice is what was required. It came from animals, now it comes from Jesus. Still the same blood sacrifice

adoniza: Right, now let me explain something to you.

"Omniscience" and "Free-will" can never go together.

1. If God already knows the "beginning and the end", then he clearly has not given anybody any "free-will" because nomatter what you do, he already knew about it, and even what you would do in the next 20 year. And to top it all, he knew how you would live your life from "start" to "ffinish" even before you were born.
2. If indeed he gave man "Free-will", then it means he does not know what I would do in the next 10 min. Which also means he is not "Omniscient", hence, the bible "lied"

Right??

His knowing what you will say or do even when they are contrary to his word, has not stopped him from letting you do it. He knows what will happen, even if it is against his word or does not give glory to him, let he let's it happen. He gives u the free will to choose to so what you want

[quote author=Demain_man]Yes. HE ACCEPTED TO DIE BECAUSE HE KNEW HE WILL RISE AGAIN. Get it? I You are JESUS who is Also GOD and who can die and rise again at will. WILL YOU BE AFRAID OF DEATH?[/quote]Jesus went through a lot of pain to do what he did. Imagine you, a king, you have servants and angels and you are called on to do what Jesus did. Live among mere mortals for 33yrs and be killed like a ram. He didn't come to earth with special powers. He came like a man like you and I. He was open to temptation and cld have fallen, open to sin, you no see all those fine babes wey follow am. His death is not the only lesson, his life was a lesson for us all. A lesson in humility and in purity. Yes he knew he will rise again to the glory of God.

ifeness: Does look like you are dealing with different gods. One kills lil babies and the other one killed his own baby to set an example.

Would you kill your child if yahweh ask you to?

I'm dealing with one God. He doesn't kill babies he HATES sin. He didn't kill his baby, Jesus was sent to setup free. Yahweh doesn't want my babies dead because murder is a sin. So y will he ask me to kill my babies. God is spectacular he knows my needs b4 I need them and he is faithful and just.

[quote author=Demain_man]Did not the bible also say that the 'the soul that sinneth shall die?'[/b]Ezekiel 18:20

[b]What i think the @OP is saying in this write-up which no one seems to be addressing is that Jesus is God, Jesus knew that he can be killed and he will rise again after three days because he is GOD. So dying will hold no fear for him since he is GOD anyway. GET IT ALL?

Human beings are afraid of death because we don't know where we are going after death. IF we were like JESUS who is GOD and who created death and can rise up again after death, we will definitely not be afraid to die, whether by the cross, or drowning, or bullet!!! BECAUSE WE WILL SIMPLY RISE AGAIN ANYTIME WE WANT. GET IT??[/quote]His death and resurrection goes beyond the physical. He didn't just,ie in the tomb for 2 days and get up on the 3rd. I believe there was some serious battle in the metaphysical. Then again that much I don't know, but I do know that the love and peace that Jesus gives me is truly magical

adoniza: The bible stated that God is "unchangeable" i.e his wisdom and ideas remain the same forever.

So why did he not realize that the animal sacrifies was not necessary in the first place?? And when he realized it, he then sent jesus to be the last and "ultimate" blood sacrifice.

Now tell me, is there any atom of "perfect" in that figure (God)

God has promised the Jews a redeemer for a long time. Before the days of Isiah he had already them a redeemer, a king to make things new. He is perfect. Very perfect. He is unchangeable, his words do not change.

ifeness: "If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, 19 his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. 20 They shall say to the elders, "This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a profligate and a drunkard." 21 Then all the men of his town shall stone him to death." Deut 21:18-21

This is one of those weird passages in the Old Testament. In my mind is reiterates what a jealous, callous god God is during this time. He is all judgment and punishment...far from a loving dude

No wonder he had jewsus killed

The wages of sin is death. The son shall die for remiaining in sin. Again that is the Old Testament. The New Testament is LOVE. Love your neigh our as yourself. Even if you choose not to love, God loves you.

adoniza: From the atheist's who stands against everything he represents...
It's only the deluded humans that tends to do so and even go on to threaten with the old words "the wrath of God" which never happens. And he (God) would just sit there doing nothing because he is absolutely powerless and can't do nada

God doesn't need to protect himself from anyone. He loves everyone even the atheist and he wants that atheist to repent and come on to him. I wish not to see the wrath of God, please pray not to. God has given everyone free will. Even hitler had free will. We commit such sin against him and each other every day but stop and think, if he gets involved in our petty squabbles we will look @ him with small eyes. He is above all that now. He is the Oga at the top. He has all the power. I can just imagine him in heaven accepting the souls of those hitler killed to rest with him in heaven.

adoniza: So why are Christians not offering those animal sacrifices to him anymore?? after all it was used to please him in the past

Because Jesus was the ultimate sacrifice. See the blood of Jesus is all the sacrifice you need. No more slaughtering ram, Jesus has died for you.

ifeness: Ok laws like stoning kids to death,killing homosexual are old testament laws.

Why is the church still against gay people if those were old laws? And why do you still read from the old testament?

Seems to me The only parts of the bible that christians believe in are the ones they need at the time. The bible is hilarious and anyone that believes in it is ignorant..... It is a funny book to read.
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Ok I haven't read the part of the Bible that says to stone kids to death. As for homosexuals God HATES homosexuality . He HATES it. That one cannot change. His word cannot change. You can call me ignorant, but I'd rather be a fool for God than a wise man for the world. After all I won't live on this earth pass 100 yrs but the other side is for eternity

adoniza: Why can't God defend himself?

Check some of the so called M.O.G, they all have personal body guards (with arms) and some even on bullet proof cars, yet they tell you that can protect you.

Protect himself? From what?