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Kanwulia: Instead of 'percolating' on NL like a BURNT coffee-pot, why not get with other parents and validate or in-validate you observation?

How are you being your child's advocate by SIMPLY VENTING ON AN ENTERTAINMENT forum?

the forum is exactly what you make of it. If to you it is merely an entertainment forum, then that is your opinion. You are entitled to it. But don't forget that others are entitled to theirs too.

in order to survive? what exactly do u mean by that? Are you talking about making money while in school

abisolaarshow: please can anyone tell me why ladies in Nigeria prefer to wear their shoes with the labels on it?

op, just cos you saw one or two random ladies wearing shoes that had labels does not mean that al Nigerian ladies do it. I think its called fallacy of Generalization (or something like that) in philosophy.

lucenzo: your english na die

come on, shut up!

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Don't do this!
Don't do that!
Never ask this!
Never ask that!

Jeeez!! So many rules!!! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-forum/wtf.gif?!
Whatever happened to spontaneity?
Since when did It become a crime to have superficial knowledge about things?
If you are ѕтυρι∂ enough to make a ѕтυρι∂ move that consequently resulted to a ѕтυρι∂ outcome, the ѕтυρι∂ person would learn from his ѕтυρι∂ity never to repeat such a ѕтυρι∂ act. That is first class learning! To hell with rules! Esply in relationships. This is not mathematics with an applicable 'almighty relationship formular'... If I'm to adopt mathematics, I'd refer to people and relationships as entities in a stochastic system. It is non-deterministic!
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your are so on point...who creates these rules anyway?

Why wil someone reject your certificate because you took measures to preserve it. It has to b a lie...abeg run to d bus stop and laminate the thing immediately...

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Goke7: well said, in addition, 'Government business is nobody's business' I heard this from an Ex governor of a state. The summary is that there is no sense of responsibility and accountability. They do whatever they like, even the Oga at the top cannot fire you, their jobs are so secure.

Inasmuch as that is true, as humans, treating one another with respect should not even be a big deal. i mean, you dont loose anything by being nice, giving a smile... I hate it when someone tries to make me grovel for what should be my right (I experienced lots of those in Uni). But like i said, i have come to expect nothing better...i would not let anyone spoil my day. I particularly love this quote by LOUIS AMSTRONG: "If you dont treat me right, shame on you"

And you are right bout the ogas at the top not being able to do anything. Its not surprising. They are gulilty of the same things.

Afam4eva: I have been to a lot of government parastatals, from NITEL to NEPA to NPF to WAEC to Immigration office and the story is the same. Their staff have a very bad customer service. These people have no regard for human beings. They just speak to people anyhow they like like they own the person's life. There was a day i went to passport office and the way they talked to me, made my self-esteem to drop. Those people are very wicked and bitter lot.

I've always wondered why they're like this. I can understand the NPF to some extent because they're not well paid but i don't think staff of other government parastatls are badly paid. So, what's the source of their bitterness?

I thought i was the only one who noticed. Its so terrible. You walk into a private establishment and they treat u like a king. You walk into a govt-owned establishment and they treat you poorly. I think the reason they can afford to do so is because Govt jobs are so secure. Nobody can query them. Its almost not possible for them to get sacked. The worst thing is that if you try to insist on your right to be treated well, they wil do all in their power to frustrate you. I guess Nigerians are like that. We like to feel powerful; you know that "i can do and undo" mindset. So, in the little area we control we flex our muscles as much as we can. Its so sad. Virtually all Govt establishments are like that. Police treats you like trash. To enter your lecturer's office in school, you must have prayed for God to to give you favour in his sight. You actually beg lecturers to come to class. If they enter the class and there is no marker, they get angry and promise never to come to your class.

Public hospitals are another story entirely. You begin to wonder...are health workers not supposed to be the most caring people? It used to frustrate me until i learned never to expect them to treat me well .

At least i am mentally prepared to meet a receptionist who doesnt reply when i greet, chews gum in that slutty manner, looks at me from head to toe and pretend not to see me. then she delays me for one hour for no reason and then tells me the person who is supposed to attend to me is not around. then she says, "if you have airtime on your phone, i can cal him for you". After i let her use my phone, the pot-bellied dude who is suppose to attend to me but was AWOL strolls in laughing like he just won a lottery, a toothpick in his mouth. He goes around the office greeting everyone and when he finaly has my time, he declares that "we cant find the stamp with which your document wil be stamped. It should be in Mr Ojo's office and he didnt come to the office today. His neighbour's daughter is "doin her freedom" as a hairdresser.

NB: the above scenario is just fictional, but i have experienced worse

I must say thought that last week when i went to get my national ID card, the peepz there surprised me with their level of professionalism.

J0nyb0y: I was at Ojota garage waiting for my bus to get filled when a man using crutches [Has one leg] came by, he saw that i was on phone and left.. Minutes later he came again.. I was like 'guy free me, i no get money' and he was like shey na change? I go give you change'. He later left wen i almost got angry... I was later feeling kind of guilty when he left.. So i decided to throw the question to you guys..
Do you feel guilty after refusing to give a begger money?

I feel guilty when strangers asks me for directions and i just walk on, ignoring them (this happens quite often. people tel me i have that kind of face that says, "are u lost? let me help" . Evil things that happen these days have made things so. I would not want to inspect myself every five minutes, fearing "something" has been lost just because i have been speaking with a stranger.

Naturally, i love to help people but then i have to be careful....... Last week, a little girl called to me to help her lift her tray of oranges. God knows i wanted to help. But i ignored her, I just walked on.....I felt bad throughout the whole day...

that everyone i came in contact with became a better person just because they knew me...that the world became a better place because i passed through it on my way to eternal life

Kpimp: computer village for 32k

thnks bro, cn u mention a specific place...i wud really appreciate it

I havebeen trying to get this phone. Surprisingly, even the popular phone shops do not have it. Anybody with an idea of where i could get it and the retail price.
Thanks in advance

tobypills: yoga kindly remove ur identity no and assess code plssss oh

those were my tots too. Bt nw dat u av quoted d post, he cnt modify d copy in ur post. So pls clear it off.

4nez: Thnks, so dis pple re evrywhere...na wa o

most job seekers hav had some encounter wit these vultures....they just raise ur hopes...only to disappoint u.....it is wel ma sista....proper jobs wil come

Ssb recruits? Pls dont go. They r scammers....GNLD tinz....u cn just copy and paste the invite into google an u wil see for urself what comes up.

jennykadry: I am going to say this to all you hating nigerians living in diaspora that you lot should go on your knees and pray to whatever being you serve so that we remain here cos if some of us professionals with high standards decide to relocate back to Nigeria.....ALL OF YOU WILL BE JOBLESS, YOUR JOBS WE WILL TAKE AWAY FROM YOU AND OUR PAY WILL BE QUADRUPLED BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT PEOPLE INTELLECTUALLY BLESSED HAVE GRACED THEIR PRESENCE"......in other words shuuushhhh and be thankful to us cos without us staying abroad, some of you people will be begging on the streets for food.

YES MY NAME IS JENNIFER KADRY AND I TYPED THIS.......Hit your heads and thank you very much.

my dear jenny, i understand that u r angry about d way things r in Nigeria. It goes to show that u still care bout Nigeria(maybe just a little, though).
But as touching the part of ur post i quoted, i wonder if u really believe that or you simly like d idea that you are better than all NIN just because you live in the west(or whatever part of the world u live in) and so decided to decieve urself.


perhaps, u r a little ignorant(i mean that in d nicest way) OR you are simply (un)fortunate not to know NIN who will give you a run for your money.

Ochiban: i think we want whatever we can get away with. same as men. if men could run their mouth without consequences, men would. havent you noticed that the loudest men are often the biggest? equality should not mean being treated exactly the same, it means they should have the same rights. it is a weak man that resolves to physical violence when being abused. that is why men fight less as they grow older, they become wiser mentally and are smart enough to find other ways to deal with stupid people.

50 years ago, children were alwyas given to the fathers in a custody battle because the men could financially support the children better. it is because of how poorly men have fared in childcare that the courts now give custody to women

i agree there are situations where women put themselves in situations to get hit. one of them is pointing a gun at you. or kicking the shit out of you. yelling at you is NOT a situation to ask to get hit. more power gives more responsibility. men are physically stronger than women therefore they have to be more responsible with it. trained boxers go to jail if they fight with people because their fist are considered weapons and they need to be more responsible than a regular man.

long and short...if you gave women dominion over men, we sure as hell would take it. just as if men were given dominion over women, they would take it. that is why God was smart enough to give NO ONE dominion over anyone. He made men leaders and heads but did not give dominion. No matter who your boss is at work, there are somethings he can not do (unless you let him). same with husbands, there are somethings that are not within his rights. and by the way, he is only the head of HIS household...not head of every random woman he sees on the street

thanks for ur reply. Its just perfect

you know what, Op, i typed a response and was about to submit, then i realised i do not really understand what exactly you r trying to pass across. It would really help if you explained in clearer terms

DailyNews: Hello Darry, read the poster's undertone very well. He is letting financially unstable guys or will I say broke guys to understand that involving in a relationship while they are still struggling financially will only end up distracting them in life and draining up the little money they have which they ought to have used to better their lives.

I am solidly in support of his argument. He is not justifying that girls should date only rich guys, but he is instead discouraging guys from wasting their time and meagre resources in dead-end romantic affairs.

Try and understand him.

This topic wouldn't have arose if majority of Nigerian ladies don't go into a relationship with the mentality that a guy they are dating should be the only one taking care of their financial/material needs while they offer him sex in return.

Dear Dailynews. I understand the op's point. I dont know if u saw my first post where i tried to make people see that point. The problem is that a lot of responses show that people have misinterpteted it to mean that the op is endorsing the wrong notion that what a guyshould bring into a relationship is money while the girl brings her body.

As you pointed out most nigerian ladies( and guys) reason this way. It is the duty of the few reasonable minded girls and guys to tell them that is a wrong way of reasoning. This is my point, i hope you get it.

Finally, the topic of the thread is a little misleading. I think the op chose a poetically appealing and catchy title at the expense of his message

2kurupt: So what happens when his fortunes dwindles, lost his job or falls out of favor? seek a divorce??
Your post reeks of insecurity on the part of the males & opportunistic mentality on the part of the ladies.

BOYS & GIRLS aspire to be who you want to be, like someone said earlier 'success is not sexually transmitted'

you are so right! It is an insecure man that wil expect to use his wealth to hold down a lady.

And it is a foolish girl that wil assume she is a commodity available to the highest bidder.

I have always known that most nigerians do not kno what it really means to be in a relationship but I had no idea it was this bad....listen to what our youths are saying. I am quite disappointed in a lot of the ladies. If guys say that the reason you r with them is because of their money, shouldnt you scream No and make them realise that you are priceless and that you can make all the money you could ever need, all by youself. Oprah, in her youth was not thinking like a lot of the ladies on this thread.

My God! And then we wonder why the entire nation is currupt and we are not moving forward.....when everyone thinks its all about money

most nigerians have faulty mindsets
*signs* well, i cannot say God made a mistake by placing me in this country

Suhaibu: You want a girl to be your honey, but you don't have
money.

I laff o!

Thing is, love goes fine and good with money, no doubt. The question is, is love driven by money?

there are over a hundred thousand words in the dictionary to choose from, but definately, love driven specifically by money cannot be called love.

Well, i believe the point thr op is trying to make is that guys(and girls, i might add) need to get their priorities right.

But there is somethin i need to address: the general tone of the comments here make it sound as though it is the entitlement of a girl to lavish her guy's money. A guy should spend for his girl because he wants to (and because he can afford to), not because of some erroneous societal perception that it is a 'duty'.

Are we saying that 'broke' guys cant find love? Are we saying that girls should go into relationships with the minset that they are going to 'take' rather than 'give'? Are we sayin that undergraduate guys(who mostly stil get money from their parents) cant find genuine love?

Yes, Everyone(boy or girl) needs to get their priorities right as there is time for everything.
But you dont have to amass millions before you find love. No, money in itself is not a prerequisite......

Really? Not a single reply!

Pls guys i need to know the price range for hp mini 1000 in nigeria.

Also, what is d max RAM and hard disk size that the mini 100 comes with. Thanks in advance....

Pls guys i need to know the price range for hp mini 1000 in nigeria.

Also, what is d max RAM and hard disk size that the mini 100 comes with. Thanks in advance

shirley whyte: Yes, I'm gonna keep my surname..

whatsup shirley.....

@topic if she has a good reason to do so... if her success depends on the name, likeif she is chimamanda Adichie , totally dropping her surname can have negativ consequences....... But if there is no meaninful reason for it, then no i am not cool with the idea.

Actually, whethet or not she keeps her suname is not the issue in itself. I am concerned about her motivations for deciding to cling to the surname. I am only concerned that it might indicate some underlying 'though we are married, we are not exactly one' issues.

What is in a surname sef? I know families who decided to change surnames at some point. Its not much of a big deal!

stiiv: now, am even more scared than i use to be.

bros, u are not alone. This marriage issue....it seems the more you try to understand, the more you are confused.
God knows if i am gonna make mistakes in my life, it mustnt b in marriage.

What is the point of going into it if it wont b blissful........come to think of it, i have lived just about a fourth of my life. I cant imagine sharing the remaining three-fourths with someone and my life is not better than it was as bachelor.

I tell my friends that i imagine a time in future when the people who marry are less than those who dont. I.e marriage may go 'out of fashion' (which seems to have started happening). Lord help us all * sighs *

stiiv: now, am even more scared than i use to be.

bros, u are not alone. This marriage issue....it seems the more you try to understand, the more you are confused.
God knows if i am gonna make mistakes in my life, it mustnt b in marriage.

What is the point of going into it if it wont b blissful........come to think of it, i have lived just about a fourth of my life. I cant imagine sharingng the remaining three-fourths with someone and my life is not better than it was as bachelor.

I tell my friends that i imagine a time in future when the people who marry are less than those who dont. I.e marriage may go 'out of fashion' (which seems to have started happening). Lord help us all *sighs*

shirley whyte: Why do you think so??

cos i just feel it deep in my spirit....lol....joking, really. But seriously, u sound smart and smart people dont believe all they see on the net. For all u know, i could be 5o yrs old, i cud b a female, in fact....mayb i av bn lyin all along.

shirley whyte: @piimples, yes oOoO...he'a an intelligent hunk..he's just fronting...

chei! These ladies r pulling my legs. No wahala.....

shirley whyte: DarryOsh, look no further I'm here forr you...

really....? Funny......