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nairalandbuzz:
I am groot

Ejomax77:
gone with the wind

vroy:
Nigeria ladies immediately u start doing it they will be like sweetheart m done cooking come and clean ooo.

girl4rmspace:
Sweet!

Not sure if I would let my husband do it though. Unless of course he insists

temmypotter:
so I should now give my wife a free pass to mess up the kitchen because she's expecting a cleaner bah? what happened to cleaning as you cook?

Oga your wife is dirty abeg.

cococandy:
That too

Richy4:
I know i don't need a map to go around the kitchen but Based on kitchen etiquette 101.. As you are cooking u are cleaning after yourself..Anyone that knows how to cook kinda know this simple principle

Does the wife just mess the whole place up for the man to clean?...If it was doing the dishes after eating meals, i would have understood that perfectly..

1Sharon:
british women are so ugly

itsIYKE:
This guy no even wan show show face for naija.....upon all the claim wey we dey claim am

Evaberry:
...

when you finally see a man that's not a misogynist, or have the stupid and absurd African mentality of women being slaves, a man that's a feminist, Logical, driven and career focused and then he tells you he doesn't want to date you _O_ ...

Why are his kids light skinned tho? All these light skin families sef be forming oyibo

Draei:

Tonto Dike won't like this.

Jamean:
So.....


This thread is borne out of my recent conversations with a senior friend who has been married for about 5years.
I have known him to be a very responsible family man and for the record he has been faithful to his wife.

I wish to digress a little.
Marriage is a handful; you understudy your partner continuously and you learn to live with them and allow love cover a lot of their inadequacies. Most times we make do with the basic preferred qualities with plans to groom the rest in the course of been married.

Also, we usually do not get a complete package in our partners. We get what God probably knows is most befitting for us. Now, we still do have our specks and high points of the qualities we need our partners to possess.

Oftentimes, these fundamental qualities make us stay through the tough moments of marriage. For this discussion, I will like to concentrate on what men consider to be the high points of their desired partner. Ranging from:

1. Character
2. Good looks
3. Ability to cook
4. Home management skills
5. Hardworking & means of livelihood
6. Bedroom ministry
7.........  to name a few

Now, from my observations most men in this part of the world tend towards no. 3 more than the rest. For this thread I will like us to concentrate on 3 & 4 benchmarking them against each other.

Before now I have had discussions with friends as to which of those qualities is key if you must choose one over the other. My two closest female friends are very scattered and disorganized, not for their attitude I won't have been close to them. One of them can cook for Africa but just check out the kitchen.... eeew!

For me I love domestic chores and a great deal of orderliness till the point I  was named Miss Prim & Proper. I cook because I am a woman and it is expedient. But over and again I love domestic chores.

In my opinion, HOME MANAGEMENT is the peak. Home management in this context includes cleaning the house regularly, orderly arrangement of items, efficient procurement of home supplies and the likes.

My reasons for choosing home management are:

- Not every one who visits your home will eat, so a woman may get away with poor cooking.

- How organized and neat your home is will be immediately noticeable by a guest.

- I believe that learning to cook is far much easier at adulthood than to learning to keep the home.

Now, back to my senior friend. He complained bitterly about how unkempt his house is even when his wife doesn't do  8-5 job though she has MSc. They have just 2children and he always did his best to make the house clean but they turn it scattered again. She doesn't know how to buy things for the house or even herself. He buys up to underwear for her. Although she cooks well.

He had spoken with her a lot of times concerning it but no improvements. Bear in mind that he is the only child and his mum leaves with them.

He said it was his last straw and made a video of the whole house to show their pastor for counseling. If no improvements then he will stop eating food from the dirty kitchen and be estranged from the house.

In this same scenario, I want to believe that if it happened that the wife had A1 in home management but poor culinary skills, a training with a catering institute for less than a year will savage the situation and she may end up being excellent at it. Meanwhile, I don't think there's a school where a woman would be thought how to clean ceiling fan or dust a foot mat.

In summary, to everyone who reads this especially guys and judging from what is obtainable in our society.... which do you consider as a lesser evil; A wife who can't cook very well or a wife who can't keep the home ??
These days the way to a man's heart is not only his stomach.

Let's discuss... gracias  

1StopRudeness:
Oga u have time ooo...u wan marry the girl abi ur family member wan marry am....she said she can never change.. and u preaching...free her joor...we dey see dem for shiloh

introvertme:
which cinema is dah one ?

mofeoluwadassah:
spare me the epistle jare....what i knw is i cannot date a guy dat is not financially ok....he might nt be rich like dat o but he must be ok.... shikena!

mofeoluwadassah:
so na broke guys you dey date abi

iamDaisy:
I cant date a poor man kikikiki if you like call me names, my choices will never change.

Factfinder1:
Being in a relationship is not all about having sex madam..... If you don't love a guy but you allow him dig you because he gives you money then that's the height of coded prostitution....so what if you are single for instance won't you still use your money to solidly maintain your body and that place as you have said?? Women of these days should start knowing that men hate girls who depends on them for every little shit learn to make your own money so that one day you can support your man in case things go bad and he will love and cherish you for that....African ladies have this sick mentality of thinking a man must spend on them, and that has made them helplessly stingy and they now weigh going into a relationship based on what the man can offer which is in itself another form of prostitution they go into such relationship knowing fully well that they don't love the guy but loves his money then tomorrow you will see them ranting on social media about how men are scum bags, how men are women beaters and how men used and dumped them.. No man wants and would ever want to marry a liability who only have sex to offer him. This also is why most ladies play die hard feminist on social media while in reality they are as soft as today's baked bread and still submits to a man somewhere..ask 85% of women who claims to be feminist how they came to be? They were the types who only offered sex, who couldn't even cook or do simple domestic chores and who instead of acquiring knowledge and wisdom were acquiring wigs and other slay materials and outfits.....

This was a reply I gave someone on a post I made earlier ( dating a man because of his financial status is also prostitution) check my wall to follow up

dljbd1:
Lolz...as expected. You didn't disappoint

BlackPikiN:
Nobel Laurite, Prof. Wole Soyinka also showered praises on the late Ikemba Nnewi whom he described as his childhood friend and urged Nigerians particularly Ndigbo to emulate his leadership qualities.

He stated that Nigeria’s history would not be complete without the role of Ojukwu, saying rather than mourning his exit, Nigerians should celebrate the fact that in his life, bitterness gave way to reconciliation.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2012/03/ojukwu-jonathan-soyinka-rawlings-anyaoku-others-pay-final-respect/

Blue3k:
Source: http://www.premiumtimesng.com/regional/ssouth-west/239517-why-we-want-n107-billion-world-bank-loan-ogun-govt.html

rosy16:
Please, I need advice on what to do, I have known my boyfriend for 10months now, and we love each other, but his ex keeps on disturbing him and this makes me jealous.

So I decided to open a new facebook account with a different identity, I asked my boyfriend out to see if he will fall for it but he was sincere enough, I then decided to insult his ex through the new facebook account, but my boyfriend later found out I was the one who did all those things and now he said he doesn't want the relationship again that I have hurt him by tempting him and insulting his ex.

I have apologized to him but he is still adamant, am confused cos I love him with all my heart. Please what do I do?

habayinc:
yes it is ... marry early and grow with your children ..marrying at 35 is just nonsense looking at this generation life span
You marry at 35 yrs .yiur first child will be 20yrs when you are 56 years old and you want to eat the fruit of your Labour...its only water yu will drink o

Chrismentor3:
I'm 24 and I will be getting married next year after my nysc. The truth is that if you keep waiting till everything will be set for you, that time may never come, what matters are ur plans and the type of partner you have.

dljbd1:
It's not...but I can bet that you would feel more fulfilled having 2 graduates by the age of 50 than having kids in senior secondary at the same age. Think about it...and you will want to settle down on time.

I know the next thing you will say but let me wait for you to say it....