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chaircover:
In what context was she saying it?
Was she saying it with the hope that you will do the same for her neice
The most inportant thing is what your fiancees take it towards issues like this
How does she behave.
I beleive youve courted for a while so by now you should know your fiancee's mindset
Anyhow if you dont feel comfortable with the discussion, you can broach the subject with your finacee
cos its best to get all these things sorted before you get married so that you are both rading from the same hymm book later.

We were having (actually they were, I was an occasional participant) a discussion n she said it.
Fiancees reaction was wat got me a bit bothered, cos her aunt is someone she emulates.
You can never really tell someone s mindset concerning issues like these. Fiancees not the money/demanding type but I grew up with a strong sense of responsibility, n won't want a situation where someone will be dependent on me f every lil thing
Like alutacontinuua said.
Would discuss but don't want unnecessary friction on unfounded fears

P.s..y, all invited, esp. Dse that can , make it p.h

RoyalRoy:
Okocha is very silly with this comment. If football is gone from Nigeria then who do we blame? Me?


You exonerate the coach and players and then you can't point fingers at the appropriate quarters then what's the essence of making such statement?

So football just carried its travelling bag and left Nigeria without anyone sending "it" away?

We should learn to say things as they are. Truth is always bitter but it has to be said.

Keshi messed up big time!!! He should carry all the blame.
Building a team since how many years now? Fielding unfit boys and rookies in every game?


Nonsense.

I gave up on that match after the first touch by our boys.
I mean, who gets the first touch wrong

Abeg.. Stephen Keshi takes ALL THE BLAME..he can then share as he deems fit.





....n wats this pay per match rubbish

S.m.h
Nonsense n ingredients

Can someone remind Amaechi to go pay his civil servants salaries and leave white elephant matter f matthias .

Didn't want to open a thread on this..
Will be getting married sooner than later, n yesterday we (I n my fiancee) went to see her aunt in-law n in d course of convo she was like..tho she owns a boutique, her hubby buys f her everything...clothes n all, like why should she ?? Got me a bit concerned or worried, hence d questions;
Is that thinking/attitude right??
Am I right to feel concerned that she might pick up on that n follow in that footstep?



Will take it up wit her but jst need a wider view/perspective.

Scary...agreed,
But I think ur fiance may 've a good reason f wanting u to do so..or he may jst want u to get used to d family, or a ploy to assess/test u.
Eventually tho, irrespective of wat we say here , d choice is urs.

Only advice will be , if u eventually do go, Be Yourself..don't try too hard. You cannot impress those who wouldn't want to be impressed.






I mite 've gone sha, being in ur shoes

onila:

onila:
I hrd the faithful calabar women are really faithful

but however igbo women are the most loyal, puss.y wise in Nigeria

igbo woman never cheats

looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooollllllllllllllll

Dictators aren't born but created , usually by their environments n oda circumstances.
This as has been seen was d case in these countries.
I personally don't think democracy as is bin practised in some countries is d answer...too many sub captains pursuing selfish agendas.

A Good yet Strong leader is what most countries need the world over.

kmoneyman:
A man who says he is faithful given the right setting to cheat can be compared to a goat who won't touch the yam cos the owner is close by,but pounces on the yam once the owner is out of sight.










Hypocritical Charlatan

There are A LOT of men out there dat have bin tempted beyond reason n still kept their sanity..
I for one has had, in d past 1 yr , a girl walk into my bathroom while I was having a shower wit lewd intentions, another get into my bed in d middle of d night cos she was Hot, anoda jump me while watching spartacus , n YET I still didn't fall despite d the temptations.
I know peeps as well who ve gone thru same.

It's No Pride to me to sleep with a 1000 women..as long as am d Best for Her , I am satisfied.

Do NOT try to project ur failings to the generality of men.


Am out
You can continue in ur folly..

Was d 'marriage' consumated If no, then it's null. I.e , dre was no marriage.
If yes, going by Biblical principles, d ans is no. Adultery remains d only grounds f divorce

Submission to ur husband is not , like ppl always opine here, an African thing rather general, check ur culture. Ur married now , which means there is no more you n me but us...u don't think for urself but f d oda person, not holding on to ur own opinion but working twds d colle tive good.
Marriage is not a business where opinions are shared n deliberated on in everything. Somethings u defer t him , in some he'll defer t u..it's not dat western b.s of 50/50.

You cannot continuously emasculate ur man n expect all t be well..esp. an African man that was probably brought up wit a sense of responsibility twds d running of d home , to b in charge.

Did u even bother , btw, to understand d culture n mentality of d person u were getting married to

The choice is yours..











P.s..if ur looking f empathy, hold on a while, d resident 'feminists without a cause', will soon b running thru.

Becalm: Most ladies are always proud of their wedding ring though few are indifferent about it. If she stopped because her husband does not wear his ting is immaturity on her part. I do not wear mine for reasons I communicated to my wife while dating and yet she refused to understand.She stopped wearing hers and I pretended not to notice and was never bothered at all. Eight months later, she started wearing her ring again thinking that removing hers was going to spite me.

Reminds me of a story I heard during my 9weeks marriage counseling class of a wife who set out t revenge on her husband f wat he was doing to (spite) her only t find out he wasn't doing it intentionally nor even aware of hw it was affecting her.
ppl have totally forgotten its 2 to become 1 , n carry dier 'self' with d pride, ego n all t d union leading t situations like dis post.
I personally think d lady in question is immature n
if dey ain't careful, they are headin f d rocks.



..and for all the resident 'Supporters Club members'.......2 WRONGS DONOT MAKE A RIGHT.
esp not in marriage

cococandy: He's leading by example.
Wifey is a good follower

..and this here is a good e.g. of why marriages are falling apart left, right n around.
Ppl dat 've no bizness/no Understanding of wat a relationship, talkless of a marriage entails kip going into it/advising on it.

@o.p.. good f her. Hope she remembers that reason wen she's doing d rounds@ d counselors n prayer houses.



Nonsense n ingredients. .

Well, it's coming from Amaechi, but it Is the Truth.
Nigerians are LAZY n 've one of d worst work cultures in d country.
Have u ever given an artisan a job wit a time schedule n he delivered on time? ?
Wat is d average 'real' working hours of d Nigerian civil servant? ??
How many offices do u walk into t c 'workers' actively engaged/bin busy, not gossiping hours away? ?

lemme not even go into d worst of all, d typical Nigerians intellectual ineptitude.


Abeg ... Amaechi spoke d truth. We can accept it n chsnge or continue deceiving ourselves.

:PTake a stroll to d nearest mall, am sure u can get various 6packs of ur choice. ;DTake a stroll to d nearest mall, am sure u can get various 6packs of ur choice.

onila: m card got stocked into the machine

GBAGAUN! !!!!

PenSniper: Honourarium

looool.....
Touche.

Reading this write up, I can see that the N50 , 000.00 'Honorarium' Is Already@Work.

An inglorious attempt to gild crap...

This rubbish will make a cesspit smell like a bed of roses..
mtscheeeeeeeewwwwww...
Nonsense n ingredients

Sidestep....
..n continue with the party.

chimoz: Esuth is better than Imsuth, both the hospital and the University.

Even UBTH didn't make the list, op you got it all wrong.




Oh lord primo commentatione, on this day I had my worst challenge as a medical doctor....Signs of Good thing.

Not an alumni, but respect where respect is due.

UBTHs exclusion n Imsuths inclusion, nullifies that list.

rokiatu: she's not as beautiful as I thought

lol...I thought so.

I daresay tho that I find her far more attractive here than in her wedding pics.
The simplicity of the dressing n make up allows her natural beauty flow through.

Different strokes f different folks sha

rokiatu: She's dressed casually jor, her wedding pic was so beautiful it let me to believe she was so beautiful.

..n ur implying? ??

I for one am surprised he was actually that close to a major battlefield..him bin the 'face' of bokoharam n all.


That aside tho, the DHQ/F.G need t thread carefully on this one. The potential f embarrasment is v.high.

congrats t our gallant soldiers.

onila: am a lady

I know better

Oh please..

Their' gossamer' garments are bin blown in a direction indicating d winds flow...
same direction d hairs bin blown.

plaited hair, esp African hair does Not get 'gone wit d wind' dat easily.











at least they got d BBC part right so..... .

onila: her hair looks plaited

not hair flowing by the wind like a white woman

Are we looking@d same image? ??

That hair isn't plaited in any way, not by a long thread..

Mogidi: So the Governor of Punch newspapers was invited along with PDP Governors to meet with the President.

Punch newspaper is trying too hard to be relevant.

Last week Mai Suya was wrapping my suya with Punch newspaper I shouted for him to stop.

If am buying Suya of #1000 I expect my suya wrapped with the Vanguard. I only clean my yansh with Punch.

loooool...
choi..ayaff laff belleful

no worry, dem go soon sue u.


@o.p..if dis is true, which going by past happenings mite b true, den dat prez has No bizness bin elected cos dis is more or less a blank cheque for dese goofernors t loot d state.

onila: African Renaissance Monument

This is the tallest statue in Africa. African Renaissance Monument in Dakar - Senegal.

On one of the twin hills in the Mamelles district of Dakar, Senegal, stands a mighty—and mightily confusing—monument.

At 160 feet tall, the bronze African Renaissance Monument is over one-and-a-half times the height of the Statue of Liberty. It depicts a man with a bare, ripped torso holding an infant aloft in one arm and guiding a woman with the other. The infant points ahead to indicate the glorious future, while the woman extends her arm behind to acknowledge the troubled past. Her hair is swept back by the wind, as are her scant, gossamer-like garments.

https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xap1/v/t1.0-9/10687103_282949088564317_309140847777313829_n.jpg?oh=62370a09064f5826390687d8d0814192&oe=5485F097&__gda__=1418402782_dee2bbefe81ee15d0c9009563904746e

Gossamer like garments? ?
Hair swept back by the wind in an African woman? ??

That statue does nothing for me as an African..
Actually pisses me off the way its obvious Europeanness is tried to pass as African.
The only 'African' tins abt that statue are the guys facial features and the color.






o.k.. ...done wit my rant.

...Rods.......Erupted. .

loooool

lwtmbb..








sorry
...Rods.......Erupted. .

loooool

lwtmbb..








sorry

irrational
..irrelevant..
....IGNORED

enigmaotr: I believe the church is going to be sanctioned, but then, I do not expect the Governor to make a media buzz out of it.

'Sanctioned'..smacks of a soft, mouka foam inspired, landing to me.

keeping my fingers crossed tho