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egift: Now this what I call Politics. Let Wike go and form his LGA on the Atlantic Ocean.

Up APC!

Now its politics not dictatorial high handedness..
Y'all double standards is disgusting

Carry on..

Boredom is n remains one of d biggest but yet unrecognised reason people cheat.
If d excitement level starts dropping n continuosly so, then u had best b careful.
Everybody likes d thrill..d occasional edge while hangin onto d safety rope.
Nobody likes stale /lukewarmness, not even God.
Strive t keep tins continually fresh..reinvent urself, continually develop n grow
KEEP TINS FRESH..n exciting

njuwo: All dis longinus wey u write dere no follow at all. Na 2day? Guy wey wan cheat go cheat. Na so e dey happen, na so e jux b.

So does dat mean u Will not play ur own part t minimise d chances of that happening ??
Cover ur bases n blive f d best..
To each their own
Am outtie

I salute his courage.

That is one brave mofo

Best relationship advice I eva got;
Carefully n sincerely ans d question about d negatives. .Can I Live With It?? Cos if u can't live with it now, u won't b able t then.

Besides c.c also said sumtin so true..marraige tends t reveal d worst of ppl.
To yourself b true..all d best

Sexual amnesia
Na wa o..


Wat is it wit girls n lying about numbers ?? If u want a guy t accept u f who u r , then let him know who u really are.
**walks off**

Longeria: Bros, it was jubilation, not protest.

My bad
Turned off bf I got t them cos of d gridlock.

Was jst correcting d ignorant poster

pmc01: Seriously, what is this?

The OP and people who digested this hook, line and sinker without asking for any evidence to back up this trash are learning learners.

Trashy trash!

Its not trash.
I saw them..d crowd @ d secretariat n d protest heading as at then twds waterlines.

It happened..
How silly do u/will u feel wen u confirm its actually true..

Anyway u look at it, Akpabio has simply said d truth.
If u aren't happy with d way tins are, u 've ur own set of untenable demands n r seen gallivanting wit d opposition, y not do all a favour n leave

Seriously..dis issue has been dragging on f too long n is gradually distracting attention from issues of development.
Personally am tired of dis G7 b.s..

redfly: Abeg na who get this picture oh?

Oya everybody,bring ur profile pics lets compare

**rushes in to grab a seat**

Choi..

Sekxill don suffer

reddress: dBard I assure you I'm older than that.
That's actually why I'm beginning to get worried. Whilst we were in school I ignored this attitude because I felt he's just a student.
But we are both more matured now and I expected this attitude to change.

He has intentions of getting married to me when he gets a better job that's why I feel its not right for someone you see as your "fiance".
I spend on him even when I don't have but have decided to stop it so he doesn't get too comfortable with it.
We both know I don't need his money but I feel it shows he can be there for me and he has me in mind too.
I hope you understand where I'm coming from.

Ok, first of all.. He Is Not Ur Fiance until he makes himself ur fiance.
Then..
I 've to admit, I see where ur coming from..if I was dating a girl f a while that has never offered t cook f me or sumtin, I mite b a bit like

But on d oda hand, u need t realize, some things we feel r so important n r 'Red lights', turn out not t b so important eventually.

People are different n their methods differ as well.
He's ur date..is he like that naturally or just towards u. Also, he mite just ve a different way of showing it than wat ur expecting.
Even if he is..u should ve studied him well enough t be able t bypass his dfenses n get ish from him easily.
I take it he does spend but not as much as u would like.

Speak t him as well. .simple communication goes a long way

Ps; am in a serious relationship n I am not even sure wat bank she banks with..
Does that mean I dont care about her
Its up to u.

Hate it or love it @natasha was on point, tho I'll also admit d husband could better channel his frustrations.
@Efe, I don't really get ur post cos it seems ur advising her t focus more on herself n d baby than on d family (+husband) as a whole.
Nice n useful practical tips tho..

@o.p..not making excuses f ur hubby, his statement was wrong n I tink u mite Ve to address it wen ur both calmer..
That aside, I think u should also give him a break..in a foreign land, handling an expensive program f u both, + rent, +upkeep, + ante natal care, + an upcoming delivery, + pressure from home....
Its really a daunting task, one t shake even d most fortified minds.
The best u can do this period is to continually encourage him n give him reasons t believe/ hope.
Hope y'all pull through. .
Plan better next time

Aii

There are No tips t getting married..
No tips, no tricks, no methodology..

The way u lived/handled ur singlehood determines to a v.large extent how soon n how well u will get married..
Marraige is like an investment n like every investment, guys r looking f d best possible prospects that will yield d best possible return.
If a guy comes around one as such..its common sense that he will want t close d deal as soon as possible..hence marraige.

If u r looking t b married, then make good use of the time left to build n develop urself in every facet.. mentally (school, masters etc), physically (exercise), spiritually (ur walk wit God..not in random prayers), nprofessionally (ur career) etc.

Make urself a good prospect f a good investment n u will b surprised how fast n how well..

Shalom

An age limit should be set for dating t save us from threads like this...
Moving a motion f 22yrs

Any seconds

Sounds about 17 to me..
Max ..19

One thing I know is..
Advice usually is junk picked up from d garbage of someones life, gilded over n sold for far more than it is worth.


Dr Ruth should keep her opinion to herself..
Cheating is wrong no doubt..hiding is worse n shows disregard of d persons value n makes d chances of it happening again quite high.
To each their own..

Mister Dan: You wont understand till you get into my shoes.... this is a girl I caught cheating with a married man when she was serving which she claimed was as a result of loneliness.....

Hmmm..
Ok then..
But u should 've left her then..y wait till now
It just makes u out as wicked n inconsiderate
I.m.o sha

O.p has probably found a new, potential, wifey n suddenly she has stopped bin good enuf f him.
After 7 years

O.p abeg get real. Call her n tell her d truth. .

Don't know y some of nukkas like making guys out t be heartless jerks..not saying u are
Not saying u aren't either

HisRib: You clearly missed the point. The same men who claim they like classy chicks, chase the slutty chicks. This is why women act slutty. That's the same analogy I used for the "conversation" situation. If we show interest too fast, we are easy. If we play games, we are childish. For the love of God, what do you men want?

We want y'all to be real.
Keep it real..eff d games n all...t d minimum.

Sanguine: E dey ya body. .

Goodmorning. .

Ai



Gumorning dear

Sanguine: ai.

Kul

Cold faya: After u settle down type a long episode thinking wen she sees it she ll b wow-ed, u get a cold 'k' not even ok sef, just k. Ir Fada I don delete u b day. Lost interest cos of such monosyllabic attitude, then yea she has herself to blame.

Deleted a friend yday f dis kinda bullshit..she'll initiate a chat, then after like 10mins wen u r becomin interested in d chat , she will suddenly not reply f long hrs den cum back n reply nonchalantly.
Gave her a warning n den after she woke me up yday wit her pings n disappeared again , I promptly deleted her ass.
No Time. .. zero tolerance t Nonsense


@o.p..hope guys see n follow ur lead

Sanguine: Yeah. Some guys do it as well... Very annoying! Some guys be like 'wadup'. And I'm like '''wadup?' where ya want me to 'wadup' to'' Highly irritating!! Life's too short to keep frolicking with dumb people!

K

Nashville: May God bless you. Why suddenly turn the tables. Men cheat and women cheat and both should be strongly discouraged. And to remind everyone, for every guy that cheats there is a woman cheating , it all depends on who is telling the story. This same story may have been told by the other guys wife and she would have said her husband has been cheating with this same girl for over 18 years. I am sure the gender warriors would have finished the guy by now. But since a man is telling the story they are turning the tables. The truth is that women cheat as much as men, they just are more discreet and they cheat more before marriage while men cheat more after marriage.

I personally am just fed up.
Am a guy n its ridiculous d rate n manner @which some females cheat these days.
Spent d grter part of one evening with a girl I know, decent, well brought up who broke up wit her beau after confessing t sleeping with a large no of guys (almost 10 or so) while dating him including his bro.
It was just mind boggling cos dis is someone I know n interact with.
I 've personally experienced wat d post is about n it ain't funny.
I tink I prefer wen I was still having my illusions abt d female folks not now wen everyone is disillusioned.

Its time we call a State of Emergency concerning dis issue .

Not bin sexist or wat not..just dey vex

Amaechi is a dangerous man..

ogugua88: That one sentence is part of the bigger picture. I'm wondering why people only got finances from his post when I saw way more.

A relationship has elements of both a partnership and a trade off. One partner has his strengths and flaws as does the other. Yes, they work together but there are also some things one partner can't do and vice versa. Isn't it why some African men like for a wife who can cook? Because they can't cook. Isn't it why some African women look for wealthy men? Because they have no desires to sustain themselves money wise. It doesn't have to be in terms of material or items either. Often times we hear of some guys being bull-headed, and women being the voice of reason. It's often those differences that make people compliment one another.

Relationships Are not trade offs.
We compliment..not trade which implies giving with d intention of getting. Complimenting is more like 2 pieces of a puzzle fitting nicely together t make a beautiful whole.
If a guy has d money but can't cook n looks f n marries a girl that can, he has traded off..it might work f him, but on d oda hand it mightn't. If on d oda hand, he marries a girl, irrespective of her culinary skills who afterwards makes all efforts t ensure he is well fed, either by learning or wateva, she is complimenting him cos she has filled that def patch in his life.
Hope u ain't getting it twisted.


Ps; interested in ur ans t d sword of damocles question that was asked

ogugua88: See here:



He also mentioned cheating and heartbreak. One has to be in a relationship to be labeled a cheat and most people don't suffer broken hearts when they're single. What I took from his post was getting a girl as well as keeping her.

Taking one sentence in isolation is tantamount t pentecostal preachers using a verse t preach a sermon
Hope u took note of d paragraphs above n esp below..t understand d 'something' d o.p was alluding to.
Secondly, getting into a relationship is not a trade off where one gives in exchange f wat u r getting..it is more of a partnership..a partnership that is uplifting tboth of dem.
Looking at it any other way seems wrong..

mencade6: @op, i pity you ooo.
It goes to show that you have low self esteem. And this also prove that all ladies are gold diggers and money conscious.

#team F.uck love #team i will chop my money alone

Not all ladies

ogugua88: Did we read the same post?

You've missed the point. What he's saying is that some men have nothing to offer yet they chase the best of girls. These same men also tend to hold other girls to high standards. The expectations of women are much and they often come from men who haven't the best of values, habits, etc. All he's saying is that some guys need to step up their game. There's no harm in that.

Don't agree.
The poster was talking in terms of working hard in order to meet d standards of those u want to date, NOT improving urself in order to be able t bring something t d relationship.
His post reeks of class discrimination which in relationships is silly i.m.o tho

U give/gave him too much credit

This is why couples are adviced t set out a particular day which is mutually acceptable, as their day of romance..for just d 2 of u.
On dat day u do something romantic..n eventually end up in bed, either f sex or even if its cuddling..dis enables u keep d fire alive
Maybe o.p, u should give that a try..