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richtubor: Look @ the probabilities,
50% of AS
25% of AA
25% of SS

I am AS, married AS and had 2 AS girls. Well, we were lucky.

Lots of people marry without the knowledge of their spouse's genotype.

I am not saying you should go ahead or not but what am saying is, it is not automatic that all AS couples have SS child. Understand the chances, risk and luck.

This is like gambling right?

Genea: My dear if you marry a As,u can do a bone marrow transplant if u av a SS as a child,am a medical student,i kno wat am saying and dere is a probability dat u can gv birth to ony one ss or none at all

Sincerely speaking, is that what you would advice your patient?
Is bone marrow transplant a child's play? This is an advice you should give to a Leukemia patient who didn't bring the cancer upon himself and not someone who has clearly seen a ditch and has decided to jump into it.


It's true that he might not give birth to an SS child but it's also true that he can give birth to ALL SS kids. It's a random chance thingy more like gambling with the lives of his unborn and he has to choose wisely for posterity sake.


My 1 cent though!

I would advice you save yourselves the stress, but if you are hell bent on marrying each other, there is the option of PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS (done when the woman is afew weeks pregnant). It comes with its own risks and unpleasant experiences.

Another option is to take the adoption route. Whichever way, i'ld advice you choose wisely.

All the best!

Alleluia: Don't be so foolish. Stoopid iidioot.

Smh.

Goodluck!

Alleluia: ur fada and moda. Tunda fuk u frnt and back. Idioot

People like you shouldn't be given access to the internet. It's obvious the only contribution you've made so far on this thread is throwing tantrum at everybody.

You insulted a guy because he called Olu Jacob handsome and it made me wonder how psychotic one can get.
I wont be surprised if you are one of those hypocritic choir members 'cause your username says it all. Smh for you.

italent101: thanks. my dad called his frnd whose son is schooling in China and he said after paying his fees they sent him hisjw202 which he present @ the embassy with his tuition fee receipt so the money available in Hus bank statement which he presented are his 1)living expense and accommodation with all other which means all the money he presented can carry him throughout His studies which is not up to 1.2milla

Ok then, all the best

italent101: morning sir

Not a Sir!!
Just confirmed you should have well above 3million NGN as your account balance.

Babymama1:
Shoot me
What image do you have to protect
The whole world is talking about your girls kidnapped in their hundreds and I am spoiling your image

My Sister, some people are comfortable with the rot in the Nigerian system, living in self denial all in the name of being patriotic.

I wish them the best sha!

All i do is to try and be very good at what i do as a Nigerian. With that, i earn myself a little respect.

If better pipu dey talk even Namibians and Botswanans wey dere population no reach 3million dey follow yab Nigeria. That's to tell us how bad things have gotten

LaurelP: I don't care abt whatever it is u enjoy in America, I don't care whether d streets are paved with gold, I don't care whether Obama serves u tea every morning
For u to come here and open a thread just to smear d image of ur country, its unwise of you.

Are you for real?
You think Nigeria has anymore image to save?
I don't even want to start pouring out my unpleasant experience 'bout being a Nigerian.

Some of us really don't understand the magnitude of embarrassment Peeps face 'cause of Nigeria. I practically have to argue every now and then with my colleagues from other parts of the world just to defend the country and save face, even though i know right in my heart that my dear country is scr..ewed .


It got to a point that i almost got physical with a colleague from Tanzania 'cause he said Nigeria is a useless country and all Nigerians are stupid after he watched a Boko Haram massacre video(i refused to say anything to him because as far as i was concerned, he wasn't directing his statement to me. He still wasn't satisfied, he walked up to me knowing i'm Nigerian and said it to my face in full anger like say i be shareholder for Boko haram Business ..then the drama started, people garther for us na cos me i no fit let person chuk hand for my eye because i be Nigerian)
I was pissed 'cause the insult was just too much and coming from a Tanzanian of all people added salt to injury.

People have zero respect for Nigera, or how do you explain a Nigerian going to bribe a Namibian colleague of mine for a Namibian passport? Like seriously Namibian passport.... , ofcourse this particular incident was brought up in the arguement and i had no intelligent defence to make.

It's a pity!

italent101: okay thanks so much.

My pleasure!

italent101: Shenyang aerospace university.

I will help you ask someone who has a link at the embassy the least amount you ought to have as your bank account balance, then i will post here.

italent101: Shenyang aerospace university.

Ok.
All the best!

italent101: tuition z 16krmb »»#420k n I was asked to pay a year tuition fee

:oIs that a medical school? I guess not. ' cause two of my Cousins left for China in may and their first yr fees is 35,000rmb. (Tuition 28,000)
Bottomline is, the amount of money you take to China as a travelling allowance is not really important at this time, what is more important is having a strong financial backup to enable you secure a visa.

I'ld advice you use an account with enough cash. You can actually ask the embassy officers and they will help with more information.

All the best!

italent101: according to d embassy dey said my living expense n according to d school my living expense should be around 500-1000rmb per month.. so does it mean I should have something like 15000rmb @ least in my account?

I'm not really particular about your living expenses, what is more important is your tuition.
You should have enough cash to cover up for your tuition for @ least 3yrs plus, so you don't end up having an issue of insufficient fund at the embassy.
15k rmb i think isn't up to your tuition per yr and it's less than 500kNGN. I think its too small an amount to present to the embassy as a financial backing.

Pardon my grammar, i'm very busy. Replying you outa a busy schedule.

All the best!

italent101: gained admission into a university dia in China n my fees accommodation +tuition n others less Dan 800k how much should I have in my bank statement after tuition n others v bin paid is it d money that will cover my stay for a year?

Your account balance should have enough cash to cover for your entire stay. @ least 6mNGN, this will increase your chances of getting the visa, and will proove that your sponsor can take care of you while in China 'cause you aren't allowed to work there as a student.

You could present an account with less than 6m., who knows, you might just be lucky.

italent101: I need your help @ DBestDoc with China student visa

What info. do you need?

I think i already listed the required documents on my previous post.

Ssseun: Do you have a degree already?
The nearest tuition center will be willing to provide you with the necessary info.

Thank you so much, its not for me but for a friend of mine...she will roundoff her HND in accounting by december.

Any info. will be aporeciated

@Op, giving that child up will be the deadliest mistake you w'ld ever make in life, worse than the mistake of choosing a wrong spouse.


My cousin had a similar experience, in her case the baby is a boy.

The man came for the child, he thought he could claim him with his political connections and wealth but my cousin refused to release the child....For petes sake what else does she gain for the time and efforts she put into the crappy relationship if not that child.

Though she wasn't working at that time, but she did her best to give the child the basic necessities as the politician husband refused to release a dime to her for the baby. All in all, the boy is grown now(9yrs old) and turned out to be one of the smartest, well groomed and most intelligent kid i've ever had around me and cousin remarried last yr.

My dear, keep your baby, she is yours. Don't let them leave you with nothing, she's all you've got.
About knowing her father, when she grows up she will. You guys could make a kinda visiting arrangement.


All the best!

Please can someone give me some info. On ICAN exams?

The steps involved, registration fees, tutorials et al.
I need a first hand experience and would really appreciate any info.

Bilany: Who keeps potatoes in the refrigerator?

My colleague does , infact she puts them in the freezer and leaves them there for ages

Yes you are very right, as Nigerians, we value the institution called marriage. We don't resort to divorce as the final solution to issues like yours which is not so with the westerners you are talkng about. As far as they are concerned, divorce is the way to go.

I'm sorry to disappoint you, nobody is going to ask you to divorce your wife because she clearly did not commit adultery neither did she break her marriage vows.

It's still up to you to choose what you want, either to go with the westerners and divorce your wife, or forgive her and keep your marriage.

Bear it in mind that most of the replies you got here are not just from shallow minded people in one village.

All the Best!

Double post

Lifted123: Well I don't know but when I proposed to her, I made sure she knew all my secrets if there was any, medical history, family history, past failures etc. In my world honesty reigns supreme and anything short is fraud.

I sure wasn't swift enough, you quoted already

Lifted123: I was not digging up. We were having an innocent discussion and like I said one thing led to the other and I was compelled to ask based on statements she made.

Some questions are not meant to be asked.
Forgive her, it is something most women do especially when the relationship looks bleak and uncertain.



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Hmmm! you thought of Divorce already?
every issue leads to divorce these days

You had a good marriage and a happy home but you decided to scatter everything with your own hands by digging up...
I'm still trying to figure out where she went wrong, your relationship had a strain and she decided to continue with her ex. while she made sure you were truly serious about being with her.
You are hurt she didn't tell you, but the truth is most women will find it hard to reveal such, so as to save their relationships.
Forgive your wife and move on with your marriage and try not to dig next time unless you are ready to face the music.


This reminds me of the thread "would you rather take it to the grave"?

chidyhels: Them Don dey drop application now forming consoling
Be careful op. Am happy you led the breakup, alot of gals are still in smiliar situation but can't get out cos they think they are in love.
Focus on the brighter side of this brkup, be happy dat it came now rather than later when ur maybe married to him and he started to act like he jst did.

life continues, I pray you find real love

You are very right my dear.

I don't know why i am so certain this guy is gonna try to get back with the Op. @ Op if you give this r/ship another chance, he's certainly gonna screw up again. Trust me,this is sure.

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STENON: .......Tnx very much 4dat.......Av learnt somtin in dis life.....A broken relatnship is neva a broken destiny......thou it hurts me so much.....n it has'nt bin easy @ all...Bt I'm sure of one tin........I wil make sure i contribute my very best/Quota to my academics n life d mor.....I knw n i believe dat d Future is so so bright......Tnx

Something tells me he's gonna come back, but please don't take him back 'cause it's never going to be better.
Probably when he starts having issues with his new catch.

Move on, though it's pretty difficult as i sense from your post that you really did love him, but try and move along.
Your happiness shouldn't be dependent on a man, open up and you will find love again..

All the best

Abu Mikey:

I'm sorry sir, not tying to say it's not a good course, far from that. Just saying personally i don't like.....




Now smile for me

lomaxx: Do what you know you'll love. Put your best into it.

Parental influence will always come into career choice - especially if you're Nigerian. And it's always disheartening.

Don't aim to please your parents. Follow your heart.

Whatever field you choose, things would always sort themselves out when you're ahead of your contemporaries. Strive to be the best anywhere you are and watch opportunities spring up.

Do you want to study medicine only for job security? My brother think again. If I were you, I'll do architecture. Why? That's where the passion is. If you don't have passion for medicine, please don't try it.

On point as always@ Lomaxx

Architecture is not in my good book though and i'm still trying to understand why the study period is way so long.
The choice is still yours Op

RedReact: @D_BestDoc, no matter how pissed off the man could have been that doesn't still call for him to badmouth/downgrade the lady. She is his wife-to-be and needs to be treated as one with dignity, honour, pride and respect.
Let's see it this way; you have a friend and you have disagreement with that friend of yours. Would you need the consent of parents to settle issue with her? This lady is supposed to be her man's best friend and numero uno, yet he is now ridiculing her with all those kinds of behaviour. How do you expect her to feel? What the man is try to say covertly is that she is not worth to be esteemed at all. Whether she causes the problem or not is not the case here but the way the man is meant to deal with the issue. Assuming the lady is the one guilty here, it's better for them to deal with this issue amidst each other than to result in badmouthing her in public [even doing so in private is uncalled for]. Remember, whatever is presented cheaply in public has lost its pride and value, whether in public or not.

Yeah, i understand your point.The guy is being immature no doubt about that.


Sincerely i give up. All the best@ Op

jennykadry: You don't get baby mama do you?...read your first paragraph again and you will understand why I said you do not understand baby mamas point..whether she triggers issues or not, the man shouldn't be ringing her parents to report their daughter to them, but once not twice but countless. It's a sign of immaturity, if he can't handle her, call the marriage off.

The lady isn't expecting a pat on the back, what she wants is for them to be able to sort out their issues without involving her parents, is that too much to ask?

This girl I am telling you right now isn't half as stubborn as I am and never for one day has my husband picked up the fone, dialed my parents number and reported me to them.

Jenny in my second post i stated clearly that the guy is being immature, i can't dispute that. Now talking about your hubby, you should remember that people react to and handle things differently.Nobody is saying she should remain in the relationship if she can't handle what she's getting, my point is the next guy's reaction to whatever it is that causes the problems(assuming the Op has a part to play)might be different and more dangerous.

Btw the Op knows the answer to her question, even marriages involving kids are called off how much more an engagement. If she is 100% sure the guy is the problem, i don't think she would have given it a second thought.