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firstEVA: I don't think it's just in the Nigerian context, its the ideal situation, its just unfortunate that everything is turning upside down and inside out all in the name of civilization. I believe a child born in wedlock fares better, my opinion though.

Ofcourse you are right but alota women have been left frustrated because of the "i must get married before having kids" mentality and notion they have.

What do you do if the marriage you are waiting for doesn't happen anytime soon? Would you rather waste your fertile and productive years waiting for the man to show up , force yourself into an unhappy marriage or have someone whom you will shower your love and attention on?

I think those who desire to have kids and can give them good upbringing should go ahead and have them whether in or outside marriage. This will reduce the number of desperate and unhappy singles around, atleast they will have something and someone to live for.


My opinion!

firstEVA: pardon my ignorance but I thought after marriage, babies.

In the Nigerian context.
That's why people get old waiting to be married before they live happily or become fulfilled.

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Happy New month

Ok

@Op what level is she now?
Is she doing well in school?

I would advice she tries her best to get done with med. Sch, then she can switch over to Arts. That way, she can easily fall back to her medical career if somewhere along the line she suddenly realizes she never wanted Arts afterall.

If she can go with this plan, there will be little or no regrets at the end of the day.

flyingdutchman: Ignorance...

Goodluck!

flyingdutchman: Don't mind the local Agbalumo heads! See their mouth like "My neighbour is suffering...I know a sickler...it is terrible...I advise you to..." They can't even check Google. Heck! Some won't even read people's reply, they'll just start typing their gibberish!

You are here ranting, do you think that procedure is a walk in the park?
Do you know the financial and psychological commitment involved? Let's assume the Op is your brother, would you advice him to take the PGD route?

Why can't we avoid what can be avoided and deal with the unavoidable?

richtubor: Look @ the probabilities,
50% of AS
25% of AA
25% of SS

I am AS, married AS and had 2 AS girls. Well, we were lucky.

Lots of people marry without the knowledge of their spouse's genotype.

I am not saying you should go ahead or not but what am saying is, it is not automatic that all AS couples have SS child. Understand the chances, risk and luck.

This is like gambling right?

Genea: My dear if you marry a As,u can do a bone marrow transplant if u av a SS as a child,am a medical student,i kno wat am saying and dere is a probability dat u can gv birth to ony one ss or none at all

Sincerely speaking, is that what you would advice your patient?
Is bone marrow transplant a child's play? This is an advice you should give to a Leukemia patient who didn't bring the cancer upon himself and not someone who has clearly seen a ditch and has decided to jump into it.


It's true that he might not give birth to an SS child but it's also true that he can give birth to ALL SS kids. It's a random chance thingy more like gambling with the lives of his unborn and he has to choose wisely for posterity sake.


My 1 cent though!

I would advice you save yourselves the stress, but if you are hell bent on marrying each other, there is the option of PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS (done when the woman is afew weeks pregnant). It comes with its own risks and unpleasant experiences.

Another option is to take the adoption route. Whichever way, i'ld advice you choose wisely.

All the best!

Alleluia: Don't be so foolish. Stoopid iidioot.

Smh.

Goodluck!

Alleluia: ur fada and moda. Tunda fuk u frnt and back. Idioot

People like you shouldn't be given access to the internet. It's obvious the only contribution you've made so far on this thread is throwing tantrum at everybody.

You insulted a guy because he called Olu Jacob handsome and it made me wonder how psychotic one can get.
I wont be surprised if you are one of those hypocritic choir members 'cause your username says it all. Smh for you.

italent101: thanks. my dad called his frnd whose son is schooling in China and he said after paying his fees they sent him hisjw202 which he present @ the embassy with his tuition fee receipt so the money available in Hus bank statement which he presented are his 1)living expense and accommodation with all other which means all the money he presented can carry him throughout His studies which is not up to 1.2milla

Ok then, all the best

italent101: morning sir

Not a Sir!!
Just confirmed you should have well above 3million NGN as your account balance.

Babymama1:
Shoot me
What image do you have to protect
The whole world is talking about your girls kidnapped in their hundreds and I am spoiling your image

My Sister, some people are comfortable with the rot in the Nigerian system, living in self denial all in the name of being patriotic.

I wish them the best sha!

All i do is to try and be very good at what i do as a Nigerian. With that, i earn myself a little respect.

If better pipu dey talk even Namibians and Botswanans wey dere population no reach 3million dey follow yab Nigeria. That's to tell us how bad things have gotten

LaurelP: I don't care abt whatever it is u enjoy in America, I don't care whether d streets are paved with gold, I don't care whether Obama serves u tea every morning
For u to come here and open a thread just to smear d image of ur country, its unwise of you.

Are you for real?
You think Nigeria has anymore image to save?
I don't even want to start pouring out my unpleasant experience 'bout being a Nigerian.

Some of us really don't understand the magnitude of embarrassment Peeps face 'cause of Nigeria. I practically have to argue every now and then with my colleagues from other parts of the world just to defend the country and save face, even though i know right in my heart that my dear country is scr..ewed .


It got to a point that i almost got physical with a colleague from Tanzania 'cause he said Nigeria is a useless country and all Nigerians are stupid after he watched a Boko Haram massacre video(i refused to say anything to him because as far as i was concerned, he wasn't directing his statement to me. He still wasn't satisfied, he walked up to me knowing i'm Nigerian and said it to my face in full anger like say i be shareholder for Boko haram Business ..then the drama started, people garther for us na cos me i no fit let person chuk hand for my eye because i be Nigerian)
I was pissed 'cause the insult was just too much and coming from a Tanzanian of all people added salt to injury.

People have zero respect for Nigera, or how do you explain a Nigerian going to bribe a Namibian colleague of mine for a Namibian passport? Like seriously Namibian passport.... , ofcourse this particular incident was brought up in the arguement and i had no intelligent defence to make.

It's a pity!

italent101: okay thanks so much.

My pleasure!

italent101: Shenyang aerospace university.

I will help you ask someone who has a link at the embassy the least amount you ought to have as your bank account balance, then i will post here.

italent101: Shenyang aerospace university.

Ok.
All the best!

italent101: tuition z 16krmb »»#420k n I was asked to pay a year tuition fee

:oIs that a medical school? I guess not. ' cause two of my Cousins left for China in may and their first yr fees is 35,000rmb. (Tuition 28,000)
Bottomline is, the amount of money you take to China as a travelling allowance is not really important at this time, what is more important is having a strong financial backup to enable you secure a visa.

I'ld advice you use an account with enough cash. You can actually ask the embassy officers and they will help with more information.

All the best!

italent101: according to d embassy dey said my living expense n according to d school my living expense should be around 500-1000rmb per month.. so does it mean I should have something like 15000rmb @ least in my account?

I'm not really particular about your living expenses, what is more important is your tuition.
You should have enough cash to cover up for your tuition for @ least 3yrs plus, so you don't end up having an issue of insufficient fund at the embassy.
15k rmb i think isn't up to your tuition per yr and it's less than 500kNGN. I think its too small an amount to present to the embassy as a financial backing.

Pardon my grammar, i'm very busy. Replying you outa a busy schedule.

All the best!

italent101: gained admission into a university dia in China n my fees accommodation +tuition n others less Dan 800k how much should I have in my bank statement after tuition n others v bin paid is it d money that will cover my stay for a year?

Your account balance should have enough cash to cover for your entire stay. @ least 6mNGN, this will increase your chances of getting the visa, and will proove that your sponsor can take care of you while in China 'cause you aren't allowed to work there as a student.

You could present an account with less than 6m., who knows, you might just be lucky.

italent101: I need your help @ DBestDoc with China student visa

What info. do you need?

I think i already listed the required documents on my previous post.

Ssseun: Do you have a degree already?
The nearest tuition center will be willing to provide you with the necessary info.

Thank you so much, its not for me but for a friend of mine...she will roundoff her HND in accounting by december.

Any info. will be aporeciated

@Op, giving that child up will be the deadliest mistake you w'ld ever make in life, worse than the mistake of choosing a wrong spouse.


My cousin had a similar experience, in her case the baby is a boy.

The man came for the child, he thought he could claim him with his political connections and wealth but my cousin refused to release the child....For petes sake what else does she gain for the time and efforts she put into the crappy relationship if not that child.

Though she wasn't working at that time, but she did her best to give the child the basic necessities as the politician husband refused to release a dime to her for the baby. All in all, the boy is grown now(9yrs old) and turned out to be one of the smartest, well groomed and most intelligent kid i've ever had around me and cousin remarried last yr.

My dear, keep your baby, she is yours. Don't let them leave you with nothing, she's all you've got.
About knowing her father, when she grows up she will. You guys could make a kinda visiting arrangement.


All the best!

Please can someone give me some info. On ICAN exams?

The steps involved, registration fees, tutorials et al.
I need a first hand experience and would really appreciate any info.

Bilany: Who keeps potatoes in the refrigerator?

My colleague does , infact she puts them in the freezer and leaves them there for ages

Yes you are very right, as Nigerians, we value the institution called marriage. We don't resort to divorce as the final solution to issues like yours which is not so with the westerners you are talkng about. As far as they are concerned, divorce is the way to go.

I'm sorry to disappoint you, nobody is going to ask you to divorce your wife because she clearly did not commit adultery neither did she break her marriage vows.

It's still up to you to choose what you want, either to go with the westerners and divorce your wife, or forgive her and keep your marriage.

Bear it in mind that most of the replies you got here are not just from shallow minded people in one village.

All the Best!

Double post

Lifted123: Well I don't know but when I proposed to her, I made sure she knew all my secrets if there was any, medical history, family history, past failures etc. In my world honesty reigns supreme and anything short is fraud.

I sure wasn't swift enough, you quoted already

Lifted123: I was not digging up. We were having an innocent discussion and like I said one thing led to the other and I was compelled to ask based on statements she made.

Some questions are not meant to be asked.
Forgive her, it is something most women do especially when the relationship looks bleak and uncertain.



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