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Hmmm! you thought of Divorce already?
every issue leads to divorce these days

You had a good marriage and a happy home but you decided to scatter everything with your own hands by digging up...
I'm still trying to figure out where she went wrong, your relationship had a strain and she decided to continue with her ex. while she made sure you were truly serious about being with her.
You are hurt she didn't tell you, but the truth is most women will find it hard to reveal such, so as to save their relationships.
Forgive your wife and move on with your marriage and try not to dig next time unless you are ready to face the music.


This reminds me of the thread "would you rather take it to the grave"?

chidyhels: Them Don dey drop application now forming consoling
Be careful op. Am happy you led the breakup, alot of gals are still in smiliar situation but can't get out cos they think they are in love.
Focus on the brighter side of this brkup, be happy dat it came now rather than later when ur maybe married to him and he started to act like he jst did.

life continues, I pray you find real love

You are very right my dear.

I don't know why i am so certain this guy is gonna try to get back with the Op. @ Op if you give this r/ship another chance, he's certainly gonna screw up again. Trust me,this is sure.

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STENON: .......Tnx very much 4dat.......Av learnt somtin in dis life.....A broken relatnship is neva a broken destiny......thou it hurts me so much.....n it has'nt bin easy @ all...Bt I'm sure of one tin........I wil make sure i contribute my very best/Quota to my academics n life d mor.....I knw n i believe dat d Future is so so bright......Tnx

Something tells me he's gonna come back, but please don't take him back 'cause it's never going to be better.
Probably when he starts having issues with his new catch.

Move on, though it's pretty difficult as i sense from your post that you really did love him, but try and move along.
Your happiness shouldn't be dependent on a man, open up and you will find love again..

All the best

Abu Mikey:

I'm sorry sir, not tying to say it's not a good course, far from that. Just saying personally i don't like.....




Now smile for me

lomaxx: Do what you know you'll love. Put your best into it.

Parental influence will always come into career choice - especially if you're Nigerian. And it's always disheartening.

Don't aim to please your parents. Follow your heart.

Whatever field you choose, things would always sort themselves out when you're ahead of your contemporaries. Strive to be the best anywhere you are and watch opportunities spring up.

Do you want to study medicine only for job security? My brother think again. If I were you, I'll do architecture. Why? That's where the passion is. If you don't have passion for medicine, please don't try it.

On point as always@ Lomaxx

Architecture is not in my good book though and i'm still trying to understand why the study period is way so long.
The choice is still yours Op

RedReact: @D_BestDoc, no matter how pissed off the man could have been that doesn't still call for him to badmouth/downgrade the lady. She is his wife-to-be and needs to be treated as one with dignity, honour, pride and respect.
Let's see it this way; you have a friend and you have disagreement with that friend of yours. Would you need the consent of parents to settle issue with her? This lady is supposed to be her man's best friend and numero uno, yet he is now ridiculing her with all those kinds of behaviour. How do you expect her to feel? What the man is try to say covertly is that she is not worth to be esteemed at all. Whether she causes the problem or not is not the case here but the way the man is meant to deal with the issue. Assuming the lady is the one guilty here, it's better for them to deal with this issue amidst each other than to result in badmouthing her in public [even doing so in private is uncalled for]. Remember, whatever is presented cheaply in public has lost its pride and value, whether in public or not.

Yeah, i understand your point.The guy is being immature no doubt about that.


Sincerely i give up. All the best@ Op

jennykadry: You don't get baby mama do you?...read your first paragraph again and you will understand why I said you do not understand baby mamas point..whether she triggers issues or not, the man shouldn't be ringing her parents to report their daughter to them, but once not twice but countless. It's a sign of immaturity, if he can't handle her, call the marriage off.

The lady isn't expecting a pat on the back, what she wants is for them to be able to sort out their issues without involving her parents, is that too much to ask?

This girl I am telling you right now isn't half as stubborn as I am and never for one day has my husband picked up the fone, dialed my parents number and reported me to them.

Jenny in my second post i stated clearly that the guy is being immature, i can't dispute that. Now talking about your hubby, you should remember that people react to and handle things differently.Nobody is saying she should remain in the relationship if she can't handle what she's getting, my point is the next guy's reaction to whatever it is that causes the problems(assuming the Op has a part to play)might be different and more dangerous.

Btw the Op knows the answer to her question, even marriages involving kids are called off how much more an engagement. If she is 100% sure the guy is the problem, i don't think she would have given it a second thought.

Baby mama: I don't care what she does,the man is calling her parents to report her and badmouth her to his people
If he can't handle whatever the problem may be between them then he is not mature enough for marriage
Period

Baby i'm not saying it's right for the guy to report Op to her parents or whatever he does, what i'm saying is the lady in question shouldn't trigger issues and expect a pat on the back. Why is she always giving him things to report her for?

Im not trying to be the judge here but one sure thing is that if the guy in question comes on here to tell us what the op does, im sure we will aslo ask him to run from the lady without looking back.
Op knows herself and her relationship better than we do.

We are asking the Op to run fast, have we asked the Op her roles in all the drama?
If she is the one that triggers the reactions (i'm not in any way applauding the guy's immaturity)then i'm sorry running won't solve the issue 'cause the next relationship won't be a smooth sail either.

Op please give us a scenerio here, does he get angry over petty issues? and what do you consider petty?
You guys should stop getting on each others nerves and try to be adults. We can only give our opinions but the decision is yours,choose wisely.

Every relationship comes with it's own challenges, but if you can't cope with those traits after marriage then it's the best time to quit.

Calm down and think things over, please don't act while angry. Take your time and make your decision wisely to avoid future regrets





My opinion

heavy g: She turns thirty this year. So you lot wouldn't mind her being single, huh? To prove what point exactly?

I have tried apologizing. Moreover, this happened nearly three years ago. No need trying to bite off my head.

She has been found by a better man. She is 30 and so what?.
Only wise people know that it is more important staying married than getting married.

nairaman66: Cut the goose chase! you already answered yourself young man! However, let me give you a clue- I believe you are still under the supervision of your parents! Get a handwork, make money and see if this defiant girl wont come back speeding to you!

And what makes you think she isn't making her own money? Gone are the days when women were viewed as liabilities.

@Op, u had the chance and you lost it. Move on with your life and let her be, perhaps she has someone else already.

Excessive dehydration.


May her soul rest in peace. I pray God grants her family especially her parents the strength to bear the loss.

This reminds me of God's grace upon me, even in my filthiness.
Life is a gift we must appreciate every single moment we have.

[quote author=m.esther96]hello auz
ive bin down wt serious ear pain
n now my ear is bleeding (blood)
i pray i dnt lose my ear coz i cnt evn hear properly now,cnt recieve calls [/quote]So sorry about this, try as much as you can to get medical attention.You'll be fine.

Please get well soon!

labodinho: Oh Dear,i've missed alot o..*Muah*

Da Boss,how is it going?

I've missed too

Chillisauce: OP, tell your friend to get her a ss up and be useful for once to the society.

As a runs girl, I'm sure she still has money, let her go and adopt. There are many children wandering around for someone to love and care for them. As much as getting a job/business to keep her going.

She should send a copy of her divorce letter to her eloped husband and focus on putting her life together.

Not everyone will be married
Not everyone will remain married
Not everyone will have kids
Not everyone will age.




That's life, make use of your condition and find happiness in it.

Thank You for this comment.
It's not the end of the road for her,she made the mistake already. She should just learn from it and get a life.

[quote author=wwwkaycom]Bilateral tubal blockage/linear damage, are we saying its the end of the road for this woman? Isn't there medical solution to this? Just asking.....[/quote]It means her two fallopian tubes are blocked and the sperms cannot have access to the ova naturally.
It's a serious case but not the end of the road for her 'cause ICSI(IVF) can help.


The problem i have with peeps is that they hardly think before taking actions, she didn't think she might need a healthy uterus sometime in future.
If her husband can forgive her,they can actually work together to have a plan B.

She's not worse,i know someone who had 15 abortions ,i'm not exaggerating...lets assume the 1st was a mistake,then 2nd,3rd,4th........and counting.I really don't know if a special clearance is needed before buying a condom.(people still make the same mistakes over and over)

Definitive: As a way of introduction, I'm a medical doctor. I'm gainfully employed. I live and work in the largest city in West Africa.

I'm a practising christian and of the Roman Catholic extraction. Honestly, speaking very modestly, I'm averagely good looking - if not very handsome. I'm adroit at my professional responsibility and communicate pretty well in English language.

Ordinarily, I have no problems. But that's where the problem indeed is: I seem to have huge problems getting a good woman to settle down with.

Now I'm almost losing my mind. Women often complain that men are fake, are smokers, womanisers and all of that. Now here is one who doesn't drink, smoke, womanise or party. I can't even dance to modern nigerian hip-hop. I get on well with the old school music however. That'a where the issue is: I seem to be too definitive, too God-conscious, too Catholic or too 'rigid' to whatever is right and appropriate in the sight of both God and man.

I would love to meet a woman who has my orientation about life - as I'm nearly 30 and haven't simply met a Catholic lady or willing-to-be-Catholic lady who is willing to keep a sex-free definitive relationship which would lead to marriage. Often times, when I get to meet a lady who can speak and present herself in the society as good as I do, they come as proud, unchristian or warped mentalities. On the rare occasion when I thought I had met the woman I so badly prayed for, we couldn't work out because she was rigidly stuck to her pentecostal faith.

So I have come to appeal to all of you: Nairaland please help.

I'm in need of a beautiful lady for marriage. I'll prefer a hardworking professional with global horizon who can communicate in impeccable English and who is a Roman Catholic or is willing to become one before marriage.

I can be reached by replies here or by texts to 08036698683. My whatsapp # is 08156133790.

I'm genuine. I'm optimistic that there is a lady out there who shares my orientation.

This is one of the reasons i can't have anything serious with a Doctor, i would rather end up with a carpenter on the street. The bolded parts of your post reveals a lot about you and alota male Doctors in Nigeria(80% of them) have such annoying mentality.

You said/think you don't have any problems(from your post).You are barely 30,yet you've dated close to EIGHT persons(from your post),What does that tell you of yourself?

Seriously, HUMILITY is a VIRTUE.

Things can only become better the moment you stop seeing yourself as Mr. Impeccable. Do an inward search and discover the problem, i still believe most women can give up anything to be with a good man,your case is not as extreme as a Muslim wanting a Christian,it's still within the christiandom and changing from whichever denomination to another shouldnt have been too difficult a task for those your 7 exes. I still think you have serious attitude issues(i'm sorry if i come across as judgemental).Stop expecting everybody to be smart just because you are and stop seeing yourself as a saint better than everyone else because you are certainly not. People are different and will always be different.

If you couldn't make something out of your relationships so far, there is no guarantee that the next woman you meet online is gonna be better.

Ikemsinachi: Plz docs help us with dis qustion; Are platelets NOT cell? Give reason for ur answer!

omg! i never thought of this but i know they are cell fragments 'cause they are formed when some parts of megakaryocytes are pinched off(megakaryocytes are large bone marrow cells). Are they cells or not? no conclusion yet. .
124 pages already? i must have missed a lot. Its good the thread is still kicking and still on the first page.

Thanks to all the peeps who contributed in preventing this THREAD from undergoing Rigor Mortis by supplying sufficient ATP,you are all sweethearts


To all my ogas at the top,im still loyal oo.

Fadelex: I'm not tryin to form patriot here....btw, y would u wanna impose you mental picture of Nigeria on me?? na by force? the fact that you didn't make it in Nigeria doesn't mean nobody would... as I said earlier, unless you are pushing drugs over there, or doin yahoo plus, or tryin ajudua style you can never be beta than most focused guys here.... things might not be rosy for now but I'm sure d future is bright..keep deluding yourself, if u like come pack your entire village go US, e no concern me...

Good for you then,but the fact that you think every Nigerian living abroad is into shady deals is so pathetic and myopic.
I'm not trying to impose my opinion on you,i quoted your post because you called someone else an iddiat just because you didnt like his comment and the mod. became stupppid for hiding your post.

Living in self delusion is not my thing,i'm real and true to myself.
whatever you choose is good for you, but please let people have the freedom to express themselves without calling them names,
that shows maturity and civility.

Good Luck!

Fadelex: so because I asked one idio1t calling Nigeria "hell" to shut his soak-away, the stewpid moderator hid my post...
so dat baastarrd moderator sees nothing wrong in calling Nigeria "hell" but d bootlicker feels it's wrong to caution a slave? hide dis one too.. I no send.... mschew

Nigeria is HELL. Yes i said it and i will say it again.
Nigeria is HELL. Maybe you've never left that hell 'cause if you have, i'm sure you would understand the point people are trying to make.
Nothing works there just as nothing works in hell .I hate hypocrites trying to appear as patriots


Things should be better than they are period.(maybe you should ask any Nigerian Student around you what (s)he thinks,i guess we can start from there).

alutacontinua: My boss, how are things on your side?

Guys, it's time to start preparing for USMLE oo....i gotta write that exam next year by his grace!
i am scarrreeeeeeddddddddd............don't even know where to start from!
Sooooooooooo many things in my head.....should I start with the organ-system approach or subject approach? Should I just start with videos or textbooks? Should i buy hard copy textbooks or keep using my soft copies? I don't even know where to start from...there are just soooooooooooooooooooooo many things to read and I cannot afford to fail or 'just pass'...I gotta pass well! Somebody should please tell me it would be fine! pleeeeaaaassssseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its gonna be fine.
I suggest you start with the videos,then the textbooks(helps you understand and comprehend faster and saves lota time trying to figure things out too).After that,you can test yourself with the question bank so as to discover your weaknesses(brush them up) and your strengths.
Just do the best you can,you gonna be just fine.I believe you will share your success with us soon.

Will thread this path next yr.God willing.

All the best.

Goalllllll! Emenike has done it

CFCfan: The match will be streamed on youtube. Type in 'Nigeria - Malawi | CAF African Qualifiers 2014 | 07.09.2013'

Thank You

Pls how can i watch the match online?

ifyalways: While offering prayers and all what not,can the OP please shed more light as to how the girl disappeared?
Where,which part of the camp was she seen last and when? I was at that camp to see my mom and the crowd is frightening. There is a small village/locality beside the arena gate,did you guys spread her posters around there and even at strategic places within the camp?

Wow!@ Ify.
Nice to see you your handle again,its been a while.
Sure you are good.

Tenison96: Sup guys.. New here

You're welcome

deols:

thanks to aluta for inviting me here.

Never knew this thread existed.

Welcome on board Deols

lomaxx: New semester. What's new?

Everything's new.
New courses,new Lecturers etc.and ofcourse the show's getting more interesting.

lomaxx: Good evening ma'am. It's been a while I saw your footprint around here. How is medicine treating you? Or should I paraphrase?? How are you treating medicine??

On the other matter, my aluta deserves a good man. And I have come to stay She'd be here soon to tell you how sweetly I tucked her in last night . And if she wishes, she would tell you how she hasn't met any like me before

Interesting......


As for medicine,i just resumed a new semester.Its been good so far.

Amb Fitsaint: Make all the medics and paramedics thank God for me ooo.
I am officially admitted into the great Oba awon university,ile-ife to start the 6-year medical race afresh.
God is indeed faithful. The Lord has made me a testimony after 3 years of hoping. To yet to be admitted medics.. Keep hope alive. God is able

Congaratulations!!!
I wish other aspirants testimonies as this

[quote author=m.esther96] ;Du c,lif aint fair
lomaxx left me 4 aluta,can u imagine


[/quote]Yeah i noticed, so sorry about that. Its good you got back on track already,no time to waste

That Lomaxx guy,i no trust am sha! Aluta beware you might be the next victim of Lomaxdumpy