tensazangetsu20:
Honestly 300k is too small to marry in Nigeria. It might look big to you but once a child is in, it will become equivalent to 50k then school fees feeding and all of that expenses and you aren't even sure of the 300k. It will also lose its value and purchasing power overtime. You are a man you can marry anytime you want. Present NBA chairman just got married at 47 and that was his first marriage. The president of the Nigerian stock exchange got married at 52 and that was his first. You can even marry at 90 if you so wish. Just get your money up.

I’m very sure you’re not married. If you were, you’d know that there are lots of families doing decently ok with less than 300k monthly pay per partner.

How many people in their 30s earn up to 400k monthly? Just look around you and count the number of people in their mid 30s and below who earn up to 400k per month. You’re using high profile men who married late as examples, if you ask those same men, I don’t think they’ll advise him to follow in their footsteps.

Bottom line is, marriage doesn’t restrict a man from achieving his goals and reaching his desired height. What stunts their growth is poor planning, breeding indiscriminately, lack of decency and unsuitable partners .

Fact is, marriage slows down the growth of women and not men for obvious reasons

Hopemanfx:
Hello!
Nairalanders, please I really need your advice. Am really afraid of marriage. Am already 37yrs this year! I keep postponing it. I earn average income from my business; atleast I can boost of 300k-400k per month. with this, I can take care of my wife and children..Unfortunately! Am afraid of marriage for the following reasons.
1) I have a believe that if I get married I will lose focus.
2) the fear of not achieving what I want to achieve in life.
3) am afraid of diverting from my main goal in life and focus on something else.
4) fear of marital issues that will make me lose focus and plan.
5) marrying to pretendous woman.
6) a lot more.
Please I need your advice

Focus on building your life then and forget about marriage. You have so much reservations about it, so don’t risk it.

When you become ready to marry, you’ll know.

Wayne1994:
I don't blame u and for ur information I met her a virgin, so get lost

You two should visit a hospital for proper examination.
They may have to take a high vaginal swab from her and analyse it for infection, if any, she’ll be given appropriate treatment for that and you should also get your Semen checked to make sure you can impregnate your wife naturally sha!

For every fertility problems, males contribute almost as equally as the female. So do a semen analysis asap while they check her out too.

With 10-15k, you’ll make a headway at a proper hospital.

Nairaland can’t help you in this matter. The little boys will start insulting you and your wife if you don’t log out and go find real solutions to the fertility problems you’re facing

All the best!

golddust6000:
am here to seek advice and you dey attack me.

As you don carry your relationship matter present to struggling kids wey never understand the realities of life to discuss, see as your relationship don begin crash before your very eyes.

Your search for a life partner continues my brother. You go soon learn .

Sunshine0126:
My utmost Respect to the Daddy & Mummy in the house

Just out of curiosity I will love to be enlightened more about what a husband stand to benefits in a marriage cos all i could think of favour woman 100%

Or a humble responsible man should just have it @ the back of his mind that he's meant to serve his wife/family either directly or indirectly throughout his lifetime?

Pls those of you with versed experience in marriage do share ur thought it might go a long way to help a life

There’s absolutely no benefits for the husband
You better run from marriage and remain single. Only women, especially Nigerian women benefit from marriage.
Btw, this is an over flogged and duplicated topic.
Follow this link for more advice from your Nairaland brothers
https://www.nairaland.com/7113219/what-benefit-marriage-man-present

Stay off Marriage and Romantic relationships and stay safe.
Cheers!

The ranting from supposedly grown men on this forum is becoming very very shameful.
I read comments here and i wonder the kind of life experiences some of you have had over the years that have broken ya’ll into thousands of irreparable pieces. I feel so much pity for you guys and i hope you can find some sort of succor from someone/something someday.
For real, i feel very bad that you’ve not had it good.


Back to the topic, marriage is actually not compulsory and not for everyone. If you think it’s useless, please steer clear and let those of us that strongly believe in it carry on.

It’s a case of ‘as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he’.
You can’t go into marriage with the mindset of failure and expect to succeed in it, Nah, it doesn’t work that way. DO NOT MARRY.
Kids can come without the entire marriage package, many women want same think and won’t mind really.
Enough of this display of stupidity here for goodness sakes.

Do not marry
Do not date
Ashawo houses full everywhere, make use of them and the option of homosexuality is now on the table.

All the best!

Fantazy:
Marriage is overrated in this present time!!
As for me, the only reason why I will want to get married someday is cos of children (Bleep other so called benefits). That is because I have vowed never to have children from different women i.e I want all my children to come from one woman.
If not, I will never dream of getting married.

This can still be achieved without getting married naw, you can have a baby Mama and complete your family size with her, simple.

Better remove hand from Marriage and let those of us that still believe in the sanctity of Marriage carry on oo.
Marriage is simply not for everyone.
Cheers

Ectopia Vesicae or Bladder Exstrophy. They may also need to rule out the presence of some other congenital abnormalities.

Which facility in Abuja is this Child, who brought her there and what’s your relationship with her?

Let’s know the full story
Thanks

Doveispure:


I am a married mother of four. I have been having constant issues with my husband concerning his cheating nature and anytime I bring it before him it always ends up with a fight(not physical though,I mean quarrel)that I end up begging him later because I can't bare to see us quarrel.

But he seems to have taken advantage of this.
I complained to him again concerning this because I have been having series of STIs,this resulted in a quarrel.
He told me the following which makes me wonder if a man truly loves a woman of he will talk like this

1) He said he is addicted to sex(mind you I allow him have his way anytime he wants even when I'm heavily pregnant and I'm usually active during sex)so he cannot stop having other girls.

2)He said i should learn to leave with it
3)

Well, i have nothing to say to you than to smh

It’s your Children i pity for though.

Samscoz:
Good evening Nairalanders . please help me out with this situation- I have been friends with a girl for a while now.i have told her of my intention to marry her last year but she said she was not ready.so I didn't bother her much again but we were still talking very well.so yesterday she brought the issue of marriage that how far with my marriage proposal.that she was about to marry another man few weeks ago but because of their genotype not matching they could not go ahead with it.what should I do?

She doesn’t seem to Like you that much but just wants to get married. Besides, she didn’t present her case in a reasonable manner.

It’s a case of when the desired is not available, the available becomes...

My Opinion- tell her your proposal timeline had expired long ago, she just ended things with her main boyfriend hence, the need to find time first to heal and start all over, you aren’t the rebound guy.

All the best!

Stallionhorse:
She was about to marry another guy last week"" just lekwa that statement, who dey give this fish brains mind?? I just pity weak men!! Out der.. The kind of slap I would have given that girl her next life she will use her head.. Guy.. Don't ask me shit.. If her genotype matched with the guy you abs her wouldn't have this conversation in the first place.. Fuuuuk her. Numerous times pretend that you love her.. That you will marry her.. Dey her accounts up.. Make sure she borows to give you too.. Marry another girl and leave to be dating herself .

These are the kind of low quality adults i talked about in my last post.
This one will eventually marry and raise kids tomorrow. What kind of a child do we expect this guy here with such a messed up thought process to raise?

Someone makes a post to ask a question and you jump in with curse words and crazy vile ideas. How damaged are you ?

We are indeed finished.

I expect you to quote me with insults instead of reflecting on your attitude, be sure I won’t respond.

All the best!

Felimax:
Very important observation.

When I was in secondary school some group of people came to our house to complain that I came to their bar and drank without paying and gave them our house address just in case I did not return with their money and fortunately for me it was my mum they met who stood her ground and told them she cannot give birth to a child that is reckless and she swore her life that it cannot be her child, the whole compound was shouting at her that you cannot swear for a grown up child.

She sent for me and when I came the people could not identify me as the person they were accusing. It was very dramatic and funny. Yes, my mum said the name they called was the name of her son but that her child cannot indulge in such reckless life as at that age. She was proud of me because of the moral imbibed in us her children. Real life story.

Eventually, we found out it was our neighbors son and his friends who went to the bar and gave my name and address just in case it goes sour and that ends my friendship with that guy till date, more than twenty years ago.

Parents of nowadays are the number one reason why their children are not well brought up.

This brought tears to my eyes
You were such an amazing son.
I’m so glad she wasn’t disappointed.

It’s so so unfortunate that the whole society has been messed up starting from the family unit. People don’t even trust themselves, let alone trust another human. Because we have people of loose morals raising other people and churning low quality adults into the society.

I don’t know if it’s the effect of the internet or technology or some other factors. All i know is that the little morals we got left have been deeply eroded.

Parents raise rascals these days, awon woke generation . It’s so scary.

Uhmm, I’m yet to understand the rationale behind keeping and nurturing a pregnancy for 9 months and thereafter, endangering the lives of both Baby and Mother at a Traditional Birth Center. Lots of the TBAs will package you to the Hospital or your home after causing serious damages. I’ve seen so many of such scenarios play out, some are extremely heart breaking. In extreme cases, the women lose their lives from serious bleeding.

My guess is the pregnancy was not properly monitored, labour became prolonged and they finally managed to birth a seriously stressed and asphyxiated baby. Child ended up with Hypoxic Ischemic Encephalopathy secondary to Birth Asphyxia. Local Midwife carry Asphyxiated baby give una to take home.

Any Trained Birth Attendant knows that not crying at birth and hours after birth means brain injury should be ruled out fast ‘cause child may needs resuscitation and care asap.

Next time, they should try and give birth at a proper hospital and hope things turn out well. No cutting of corners when lives are involved.

Sorry for your Loss.

Lol, sorry my dear sister.
One quick question, do you have an international passport?

My guess is you don’t have one.

Make Una try dey keep emotions aside when dealing with Nigerian Humans especially our lovely huncle them.
Always play by these three rules as a lady
1. Look out for yourself first, always
2. Don’t forget to practice rule one
3. Don’t let desperation for anything get the best of you. Be desperate for nothing my sister.

Sorry again for all that happened, I’m sure you’ll heal and recover with time. Hopefully, you’ve learnt a lesson or two from this experience.

All the best!

Lol, but you guys are already married na.
Bride price has been paid and you’ve been traditionally joined by both families. You took your chances already.

My only advice at this stage is just make sure you’re very rich before you start planning for babies. You may get lucky, who knows?

All the best!

bigboychukstar:
Don't be dumb. It is a savings platform. It is not trading and it is secure. Their funding is from Binance and Google.

Keep receiving yourself. Only a sworn mugu will fall for such scam. Funding from Binance and google indeed.

infogenius:


U're 30 and surprisingly with lack of sense. Accept his proposal at ur own risk. It's obvious u're the most likely reason y his marriage to ur sister failed.
Better look for ur own husband and leave ur sister's husband alone.

Oh!
She lacks common sense for real.

Even a 16 yr old would know better.

Olabodmit:


Yes I’m going to give the guy. Just post it here so that people can learn lessons. I had totally moved on and forget about the phone

It’s Unbelievable that you’re even considering giving out the code.
Jeez!
That’s like encouraging stealing. That phone was designed to be useless if stolen, give him the code and you’ve frustrated the entire security design and also indirectly encouraged stealing and purchase of stolen items.

Let him count his loses and move on. Next time, he’ll do his due diligence before purchasing any used item. That’s the lesson to be learnt.

Don’t come here and cry when you lose your money, it’s too early in the year to not use one’s brain.

Tufiakwa for world people
They will not let this girl live her life in peace, even though they’re wallowing in poverty and extreme lack.

She’s fat, she’s old, she doesn’t dress well. One even went as far as going to her Instagram page to write rubbish about dieting. How is this girl fat or ugly abek?

Each time I read all these rubbish, I go back to the girl’s photos to see the fat and ugly but all I see is a beautiful and free spirited young woman who’s making the best of her youths.

Better concentrate on your lives and appreciate something good for once.

Ayobami7:
这里没有食物

在哪里？
我知道中国有很多菜都便宜又好吃。

This is so so sad.
That’s somebody’s investment gone down the drain.

Misfortune befalls someone, the least these people could have done would be to empathize with owner not wreck the business the more.

Thieves with subhuman reasoning. We are our problem more than the government is.
Tomorrow you’ll see them in church singing and dancing. Smh

ABANGWABOI:


I think I mixed it up.. I think it is the state govt owner hospital there in Owerri not the federal one..

No Doctor in a public Hospital earns that low.
Not even a House Officer.

Mrxawe:

Oga stop arguing with me. Even senior reg no dey collect pass 230-270k. Na only consultants dey collect small pass and by that time you for don old.

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Lol
Quoting wrong figures with so much confidence.
That’s a fresh Junior Registrar’s salary.

You’re not wrong when you say many Doctors in Nigeria are broke though.

Flakky26:
Someone said she heard on a Yoruba station at about 530pm on Thursday evening that there is an announcement of soneone that is weak roaming about around iyana ipaja Lagos that the police should comeand pick up. Can someone confirm this announcement. Thanks

I think you and some of your male relatives should still go to this location and confirm for yourselves.

He’ll be home hearty , Amen

How about the network of the wallet you sent it to
When you changed your mind from Using the TRC network, I hope you asked the receiver to copy a fresh wallet address under the ERC network before sending the coin?

Check again to make sure you sent coins to correct address and network

chinonyinye:
So after arriving before you and choosing a comfortable spot, she should vacate it for you or didn't you meet her there?

In short let's reverse this scenario, if it were you, would you shift inside?

Please do to others what you want others to do to you

Because he’s a man na
Fear didn’t allow him to go ask his fellow guy to move in.
Shameful

mannatech:

Courtesy demands that you explain to the person while you want to seat by the window.
No be my papa car wey I wan draw seat on top.
Plus here in Abuja, na one chance Mo be that

Well, your point register well.

Why didn’t you continue through the Other male passenger’s side and ask him to move in since you both were boarding at the same time? Or was there a rule that you must board the taxi through that particular entrance where the lady was seated and already settled in?

Just hear yourself, because man keep them for house, them go forget their manner?Read what you wrote again.

Some of you will never respect yourselves. Learn to keep your warped patriarchal Mentality in your house before stepping out else, you’ll keep making a fool of yourself.
Dey go drag seat for taxi. Smh!

Thank God you didn’t fall for their scam.
I’m surprised they’re still using this very outdated format they used on me more than 10yrs ago when I was still a teenager. Dirty old dumb criminals.

Same Cotonou returnee story, same asking for direction to a place no one knows.
While trying to crack my brain to figure out where the very haggard looking man that claimed he was stranded was looking for, his accomplice walks up to me from behind asking that WE help the stranded man, that he had money and plenty expensive gadgets. I didn’t even know what help I was supposed to render to the man.

I believe those guys use some hypnotic powers on their victims. The longer you listen to them, the more they work on your mind convincing you to do something you’d ordinarily not do.

In my case, I accepted to help a man I didn’t know exactly how and what to help with. They managed to convince me to follow them to a Reverend father’s place ( whatever that is) but then, i made a U turn in the direction of my house. The moment I left their presence, it was as if my mind became clearer and alert and it dawned on me those were scammers.

Stay woke everyone.
Do not let one jobless illiterate rip you off your sweat

effico:

Were you told they wouldnt be sponsored. Pls read the post well

So who will sponsor them now that you’re in debt and lost part of the money?
I read before replying.

Who will sponsor them?
Did you fix a part of the money somewhere to cover for their studies? You didn’t say so in your post.

@ effico
Posterity will not forgive you for being so greedy, selfish and unwise at the same time.

You took the money meant for all of your late father’s dependents and squandered it as you wish in the name of acquiring an extra degree when your other younger siblings do not have Undergrad degrees yet.
What happens to them now?

Your uncle was right to tell you to hold off with the MSC plan because that was not what you and your family needed at that point in time.

You couldn’t even set up a business or side hustle from that money. How far did you think 3 M could go?

Damn! What an ungrateful and selfish man you are.