See their mouths like everyone should be paid 140k.
Silly girls. Instead of standing up for themselves and demanding a better remuneration, they’re dragging Doctors into their stupidity.

Please, where in this world do Doctors and Nurses earn same salary?

JOHESU, JOHESU, JOHESU. They will never grow up.

Vyvyanvyvy:


Yes I am very happy to have my son , I feel good that I did not abandon him just for a man who never love me , he just come to my life for the world to see him as a hero for marrying me a single mother of 2. I have no gained anything in this marriage , it’s better for me to be a single mother than to reject my blood and flesh. I know it will not be easy but God will help me to raise my children all alone , I thank God I have my shop something that fetched me money , my children will never starved of anger , they will go to school as usual and nothing will change. For now all I want is for him to bring my child back to me because he cannot take care of her , at the moment my child is with his sister so what’s the point of taking her away from me then to abandon her with his sister ? The same sister that cannot even love her own blood and flesh so is she gonna love my child too? If he wanted to take care of his daughter on his own why can’t he rent a place and take care of her ? He did it because he taught by doing so , I will send my son on the street so I can beg him to come back home , never , all I’m begging him to do is to bring back my child , she is the one that I need , I don’t need him , he can go ahead and remarry , it will not shake me . You and others can rain insults on me but let me tell you one thing , all your insult doesn’t bother me , I’m not regretting loosing my marriage because I did what any true mother in my position would have do in my shoe. Like said my son will always be first no matter what. Let me attached the picture of the 3 people that gives me happiness my children my life.

I read your post over and over again and I felt really sad.

You and your husband are both responsible for your marriage whether it works or crumbles but catering to that child and raising him right is your responsibility.

A father may bail, all relatives may bail, even the whole world may abandon a child but a GOOD Mother CANNOT bail on her Child. It’s unfortunate your husband didn’t share the sentiment and I don’t blame him but trust me, you’ve given yourself peace. You did what you had to do, what every responsible and right thinking mum would do and I would have done same if I were in your shoes.

Raising those kids alone may be overwhelming but God’s gonna give you the strength and grace to pull through.

There are times when you’d want to second guess yourself, you’d think you made a mistake. The true mistake would have been abandoning that child without love and pushing him into something dangerous that’d eventually get him killed.This would have been THE mistake that you can never live with and of course the marriage you tried to save would have collapsed.

I pray everything goes well with you and the kids.

Olayetan:


Don't tell me to shut up.


Other banks may compromise your account with your account number, bvn or card details being exposed but i can vouch for GTB, you can't do anything on their account without pin or OTP...

Sometimes it will require you both Pin and OTP to complete a transaction.

You’re being ignorant with so much confidence bro, why are you this way?

You have to read and learn. What that guy told you is 100% true. Many transactions especially international ones can be carried out with just the details written physically on your debit card.No OTP or PIN required. No go give person your ATM card and think it’s safe because you didn’t disclose the PIN. Lol

For the records, all such transactions I do are carried out with a GTB MasterCard specifically dedicated for online payments and ATM withdrawals. In fact, I gave someone my GTB ATM card last week to make an international payment which he did successfully without needing my PIN or OTP and I got the transaction alert one day later.

please calm down and learn.

Do not link an ATM to accounts with heavy balance, It’s not safe. The only Nigerian ATM I use is not even in my name, none of my bank accounts have ATMs and I don’t listen to their “get your ATM card” preaching at the BANK.

Internet banking with HARD TOKEN locked up in a safe place is better.

Diiiamoond:



I’m actually scared to hug and kiss my children in case I pass something on to them.

We aren’t given the right PPE at work and are just expected to get on with it and hope for the best.

It’s ok to be scared at this time, you’re not wrong to be.
The first time I found myself in a Nigerian working environment, I had HIV dreams for close to two weeks and I never stopped double checking and replaying my daily activities in my mind because the number of PLWHIV I got in contact with on a daily basis was alarming and too much compared to where I was coming from. It was all new to me but that didn’t stop me from doing my job rather, I had to treat every patient I got in contact with as a possible case and protected myself accordingly.

Quitting is not the answer now as you’re highly needed but you’re only useful to your patients and family when alive and healthy so please your health and protection comes first before your patients. If you have to provide your own PPE, please do.

When at home, treat yourself as a possible carrier and contaminant, don’t be too close to the kids, let them receive the hugs and kisses from their dad for now till we’re sure of where we’re headed.

Stay Safe!

You’re missing the whole point Op. It’s not about jealousy, the house or the achievements ( you said it yourself that they’re not poor people), it’s about your actions and inactions.

The reactions they pulled off is not because they’re not happy for you, they are just overwhelmed with shock and disappointment that you could spend almost one year achieving something so huge without giving any of them a clue whatsoever while still dinning, interacting and communicating with them on your WhatsApp group. Out of 5 siblings, not one of them is worthy to be your close buddy and gist partner, not even your mom?

You make them feel like they’re some sort of bad luck that you have to hide your success from. This may not be your intention but it’s exactly how you make them feel.

Moreover, you have the privilege of knowing almost all that’s going on with them but hide yours. I’d also keep away from someone like you. Far far away.

They wouldn’t be pissed if this came from a Stranger. As family and good siblings without underground rift , they felt you owed them some level of openness especially if they’ve always been open to you.

TeamLeader:
She is 4 months and yet to be sitting unless she is supported. If i force her to sit after less than 3 minutes she will be crying but when supported she can sit for long. And she is very strong physically, kicking and everything.

am I being too worried or its normal.

am a brand new father tho.



At what months should I be getting worried


thanks for your contribution

Your baby is perfectly fine. Sitting with support at 4 months is very ok

By the end of the 5th month, she should be able to sit without support at the rate she’s going.

Developmental milestones achievement is not uniform for every child. Each child has his/her own timing. However, most children achieve sitting without support by 6 months. So chill, your baby is doing great already.

For a woman to pack her bags and race off, she don tire.
Two months without communication from either party is enough for everyone to respect themselves and move on. Una ego too much.

Please, whatever you decide, you must be a part of your children’s lives. Do not abandon them because this will definitely backfire and the kids didn’t choose this.

Set up a meeting with your wife and her family and you people should agree on shared custody and who does what for the kids.

It’s possible to be divorced and still do right by your kids.

Brukx:
how is the battery life?

The battery is in perfect condition but it is sold already.

Thank you for your interest.

LagosBoi2:



Absolutely, I stopped some years ago. She doesn't deserve it in anyway. I am not ashamed to make public my past because she has forgiven me and my God has forgiven me, I am now the perfect type of husband ladies want to snatch, we both laugh at such attempts. Thank you so much for your contributions.

Your wife and i share the same Birthday and you can agree with me that February born women are amazing.

I'm glad you already stopped putting your marriage and entire family at risk. That information actually made me feel sad reading through your Op.

Happy Birthday to your wife and i wish you many years of marital bliss and all round blessings.

Samsung Galaxy S7 32GB For sale.

Phone is 98% new and in excellent condition. Device was handled for less than 1 month, decided to try the iOS.

All accessories are intact and unused.

Price is 50k

Send me a PM if interested.

biggal:



Send your number

You can reach me on that email

Samsung Galaxy S7 32GB For sale.

Phone is 98% new and in excellent condition. Device was handled for less than 1 month, decided to try the iOS.

All accessories are intact and unused.

Price is 50k Firm

Send me a PM if interested.

You guys can go to other cities or better still, come home. You're on holiday till the end of February, please find a way and come home till everything gets under control. Forget about the Nigerian government and take care of your own safety first.

Some students close to me left China this week. You also can, if you pass the health Check at the airport.

ignis:


You are a typical Nigerian...

I don't have your time

That your registration centre will be shut down if i decide to follow this up.

Op, please write the address of that centre here, I'll make out time to follow it up.

These thieves keep destroying the country and every good policy that's put in place to benefit the common man.

ignis:


It is their business and no one forced anybody to patronize them.

They can buy tomato and pepper and sell at any price, no one will query them but Jamb is the business of everyone 'cause it determines the future of the youths. The government took interest in it and subsidized it for a reason.


You really need to have common sense. You obviously lack it.

Uncle wanted to forcefully eat from the cookie jar.

The battle was more intense than the WW2 with plenty of hitting and violence. After i miraculously escaped the horrific situation, i learned my life-long lesson of NEVER visiting.

emmasoft:


Investment one is former GTBank Asset Management

I would like to send you a PM if you don't mind.

I need your help with account opening with investment one.

You can never go wrong with a Samsung phone.

How about you get another model of Samsung or Iphone?

startright250:


Club is not a place for the irresponsible. It is a place where people relax or unwind. There are also business opportunities there. My knowitall friend, the world is a market place, condemning some activities is already limiting how big you want to be. The first time I met Yayi (if you know him), it was at crescendo. So is Melvin former BBN housemate and so many others for business opportunities. Contacts dear, contacts is key!!. I cut across! If you live where I live, you will understand a lot.
Church is more of a place for pretenders.
Introducing me to a woman here doesn't mean things would work out between us. She is not bringing her friend to my bed...nah!
As for those questions, I am not desperate. And nobody is doing me any favour here.
Facebook, twitter, etc are all SM so is nairaland. So please let me enjoy my space..

I didn't say only irresponsible people club, No.
For someone with a great social life, i believe it shouldn't be hard to find a responsible woman from one of your numerous club trips, just saying.

I just needed the lady to be wary of such arrangements since it involves a 'friend'.

MoonandStar:

. We've done a lot in regards to this can't just talk about something here.

Ok. All the best.

MoonandStar:


Maybe you're both met for each other. I love her so much that's reason I'm doing this.

You shouldn't do what you're about to do If you love your friend so much like you claimed.

This is a very bad idea. You know absolutely nothing about the poster, he barely gave any meaningful information about himself and carefully refused to provide answers to all reasonable questions.

He loves clubbing and hanging out. He has been to all clubs in town and has been able to mingle and meet a lot of people yet, he couldn't find a wife?

If you feel so concerned and you want to match make your friend with someone, please choose amongst your unmarried colleagues at work, brothers in Church, family friends, relatives or better still cut her some slack.

When the Op is responsible enough to become a husband, he'll find a wife. For now, he still has a very long way to go and a child to take care of.

Sometimes, action speaks louder than words. Get yourself some self respect and take it as an 'IMPLIED' break up and move the hel.l on.

This is outright disrespect and you call it silent treatment. 7 days long 'silent treatment' for absolutely no reason.

Stop reaching out to him and move on, You're not a toddler. It's still early in the year for this sort of rubbish. Go find yourself another man who is closer to you and also ready to be in decent relationship with you.

This your bobo is clearly done with you. Quit waiting for him to spell it out. Sooner or later, you'll realize you should have taken a walk earlier.

abraolas1:

Sent

fungirl89:
I want to invest in Stanbic Ibtc and FBN money market fund but I don't want to fall into the hand of scammers. How do I go about it? Pls help

quote me and leave your email address so i can forward the account opening form for FBNQuest to you.

You fill out the form and forward to them via email and your account will be set up.

For Stanbic IBTC, you can set up an account using their mobile APP.

safarigirl:
give us examples of meaningful things you can invest , in 2019, that will double 90k/month for you

In a failing economy, how many people are reaping any fruits from their investments? Recently, someone mentioned his friend who invested 1 million in the Stock Market in 2004, only to receive 11,000 naira from that investment after 15 years.

When you want to makesuggestions, you do it based on the realities of today, not what obtained a few years ago, or what should be obtainable.

It is easy to tell people to invest, because it is easy to forget that there are many factors in play, when you want to invest.

There are plenty of opportunities in Nigeria safarigirl. Even from abroad, people are taking advantage of these opportunities.

I could never invest in the Nigerian stock market for any reason. That is like throwing money away.
To make gains from the stock market, you need to be well grounded on the stock market matters and also be actively involved to know when to stay and when to pull out.

No one says invest 90k and make double, read the post again. It says save up and then invest to double it. These are two different things.

The realities are hitting everyone of us and i still tell you that you can make it plenty with 90k as your monthly take home. It depends on your lifestyle and the plans you have for yourself.

If 90k is too small to build up, even a 7 digit salary won't do the trick.
I'm not going to list any investment options because this is not an investment thread

Ladylite:



What is the benefit of going back to school when you could save up and invest and double your income in 10 months.

If you buy a land for 900k.... That would pay your more in one year or more if you sell it. Or if you use the some money to get into Uber, it would also increase your earnings.

Pls sir have multiple streams of income before going for MSc. It will help you. Many who have done masters are dreaming to have a job like yours o. Please you have a blessing at hand now, don't sacrifice it for what is commonly pursued.

You're a very smart young lady.
There isn't going to be any limits for you if you apply these same principles to your life.

10 years ago when i was still seeking admission, i got a job that paid about 31k monthly and within one and a half years, i was able to save up 350k for a KEKE NAPEP which i put on hire purchase.
That is 31k monthly pay giving me hundred of thousands because i invested.

safarigirl:
so you think someone can have 900k in 10 months on a 90k salary?

It's very possible if they invest some part of the 90k.

At a time in my life when i was doing a side job that was paying between 80-120k, i was able to net 950k within one year after heavy expenses running into millions.

How was that possible, i invested a chunk of what i made monthly and it yielded plenty extras.

Invest in something meaningful and 90k is more than capable of making you millions within one year depending on the expenses you make.

safarigirl:
what kind of calculation will land you at 900k in 10 months?

He said he makes 90k per month, you think there will be no expenses incurred in that time? He cannot double his current income in 10 months. The man is looking for realistic targets and you are building castles in the sand.

Transportation, feeding, miscellaneous will eat out of that 90k. Unless he has another means of income aside the 90k, this advice is almost useless. And 10 other people with poor reasoning endorsed this

The only useful thing is that he should have multiple streams of income and @OP, you will not be able to buy land or do Uber with 90k/month salary in even a year.

I bet you didn't read that post very well before quoting her.

She didn't say the OP will get 900k in 10 months from a 90k salary just like that rather, she advised the OP to INVEST and he can double his money in 10 months and then when he gets 900k, he can buy a landed property.

Calm down, read and assimilate before calling people fools.

That girl you quoted is very smart.

crackhaus:

Why e go balance for una eye?

Anyway, I believe the point has been made on the thread so far. All this you're typing na just excess load to divert from the main issue which is that a lot of you are not able to list any tangible thing a woman should have before marriage.
One of una is already blaming society and religion for not having anything in her life, lol..

To think I was even expecting a woman to list things like:
1. Good job/business
2. Above average university/college degree
3. Virginity
Etc...
Tangible things and the sort, at least you get the point.

But it's almost as if you people don't even put value in anything that does not have currency symbols attached to it, and you wonder why people keep wondering what women bring to the table.

Some even erroneously claim that it's only money men bring to the table.
Well if it's that easy to bring the bulk of the finances to the table before getting married, why aren't more women doing it?
Let me guess - they can't because of men, society, & religion.

Support,
Peace of mind,
Good character,
Children...
These are the only things a so-called modern & woke independent woman has to offer.

What then is the difference between this one and those women who didn't have rights to education or enfranchisement in the workforce?

Crackhaus you dey worry i tell you truth.

@Dee7874
This looks like a classic case of urinary schistosomiasis. The blood in your urine plus that worm. That picture you uploaded looks like the female schistosoma hematobium worm which causes urinary schistosomiasis and you may have acquired it from swimming in Rivers or dirty lakes, may be a long time ago when you were still a kid if you can recall.


Not to scare you, but that's a major cause of bladder cancer in Naija.
My advice, go see a urologist as quick as possible and let's hope stuffs will b salvaged at this point. You'll need a full genitourinary work up and some treatments to first eliminate the worms, their eggs and treat any complications that the infestation may have caused.

It's scary i know and i hope all goes well with you in the end.

blaise00700:
There is more to the drama between the two countries, my baby sis got admitted into ISM ADONAI UNIVERSITY CALAVI early this year, she is also affected by this cold war between Nigeria and Benin.

I hope they resolve this ASAP, you don't pickup petty fight with your neigbours. When the enemy attacks, where/who do we run to?

Of all the Universities in Nigeria and abroad, it's Benin Republic that your sister chose as a study destination and you guys supported her?

Wahala dey oo.

Duggedised12:
See ehn, na single I single ,I nor kill person o. Why do I have to be looked down on because I dont have a ring on my finger , ladies that are younger than me are more respected just because they are married, its even worse if they have kids,chai! I don suffer .


Guess what ,its all my fualt ,so society says . If a woman gets to a certain age and is not married,its all her fault, according to society, she probably doesn't know how to keep a man, she probably doesn't have good home training ,she probably was doing shakara when she was younger and the list goes on but guess what if a guy in his late thirties isnt married, he probably hasn't found the right woman yet . sighs!

Life happens and it's never perfect for anyone.

It's ok to feel down sometimes, but do not let yourself stay down.

When you're too careful and play by the rules, it's kinda harder but you'll definitely get married at the right time for you.

My sister got married as a night newspaper by Nairaland boys standard (at over 40) and within two months after marriage she fell pregnant(without fertility treatment). She had her beautiful daughter yesterday. Different timing for different people.


The Nairaland kids and the educated illiterates littered on the streets of Nigeria will tell you that a 30 year old is already old and menopausal. If you listen to them, you'll commit suicide or at best get too desperate and fall into the wrong hands.

Focus on being the best you can and take it one step at a time. It will happen for you when it will happen.