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Laundry, Laundry, and again Laundry.
I'm not Lazy though.lol

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Una try sef.

Me, I still dey try to decode that write-up into standard English... [/quote]lol.no be small thing.
It's really sad, She must be in a very difficult situation.

debrief08: You wanted a young wife who had no means of supporting you and you got one. She confessed to you before the wedding you still went ahead because your priority wasnt a helpmate but a younger woman.
I dont know what to say, you got your wife pregnant again without proper planning, you made all these decisions by your self, these are the consequence of those decisions.
Marriage is beyond looks and age, its proper fore sight, planning and commitment. Sit back and draw up a realistic plan, like what can she do? Can she get any Job or start any small business? I understand the CS but why spend so much on a naming ceremony? I have issues with Nigerians and Love for show, why not just do child dedication? simple prayers and name your child no need to gather the whole community and end up in debt, in short no need to give birth to a child when you cannot properly plan for them, what of pampers, school fees etc?
Go back and draw a plan for both of you, a realistic one, take your wife to a family planning clinic and get her on a plan now before she gets another baby. You both need to work together and build something, marriage is not just for S3x and wearing ase obi, its for planning, working and supporting each other.

^^ God Bless you for this insightful contribution.

Jonwesley: I think you are just lazy, perhaps naive too and living in ur past. Ur first pregnancy, and the heavens must fall becos u claim ur husband isn't caring enough. The ladies wld obviously support ur naivety, but that won't help u anyway. Ur husband may not do all u said, becos he is what he is while u are a melancholy, who prods for trouble where non exists. Do u think it is better to be single? Do u not know what is is to be a wife? This is common among underaged or inmature ladies who expects their husbands to praise sing for them becos they don carry belle. Who sai, na u be the first or wetin? Abegi. There are more things u ve not said but only painted the facts that u want us to hear. I advise u brace up to ur marriage and avoid anything that cld create bad feelings and crack to ur marriage. Marriage is not a bed of roses, if u hear other pple's stories u will come and praise ur husband. Keep quiet.

Im so shocked there are still men with this kind of mentality.
I have six brothers and none of them think this way.
My brothers help out in the kitchen,help with some little things like sweeping the house and that does not stop them from being men
My elder brother helps clean his wife's car even before he does his own, and it still does not reduce him.
Oga i beg change your mentality.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]OP's husband. . .is that you? [/quote]^^^^
I beg no kill me with laugh.
I guessed as much

Wow! its not easy sis,the Lord is your strength. May the Lord Most High grant you safe delivery.

fantababy: Thank you all for your responses. I do appreciate. However, there is someone I want to respond directly to.
@Heck, you have mentioned deep things in your post, as such, I have deciphered that you are most likely my Hubby's close friend.

-YOU NAG A LOT: @Heck, I guess a little suggestion or expression of displeasure is equals to nagging.
-MADAM RIGHT WIFE:@Heck, I guess he told you, I think am always right. I asked him one time, of the many issues we have had, which one has he ever accepted was his fault. He always turns the table around, and accuses me of all the wrong doings. A least, I apologize when I do wrong, kindly ask him, when he has ever apologized.
-Being loved is different from being pampered.: @Heck, I have told my dear hubby a couple of times that I don't feel loved. I have even suggested ways for him to show me love. My dear hubby once said, he said I love you on our wedding day and does not need to ever say it again. Kindly ask him how he has tried to show me love.
-I[b]f he cooks for you today, any day he fails to cook, NTA will read it.:[/b]@ Heck, Did he also tell you he cooks for me. lol! Through out these past 9 months, he has cooked only 2ce. The first was noodles during my first trimester. The Second was spaghetti during my second trimester, his friend came around that day Saturday, and I wasn't around that day. Would you call that cooking for me. Ask him, the times I asked to help make stew, or boil rice or butter bread, what his responses where.
-Good, you often apologize after accusing him falsely that he is into extra marital game.:@ Heck, I guess he told you I accuse him falsely right? Imagine this scenario, Your 9 weeks pregnant wife has been waiting for you in the car for over an hr, so that you guys can go home together. She decides to go to the toilet for a wee. On getting to the female toilet, Her dear hubby is locked up inside the toilet cubicle with another lady. And instead of apologizing, what does dear hubby do, he turns table around and accuses wife of infidelity. I guess this is what you mean by accusing him falsely right?
-Those who play about don't show the babes to their wives.:@Heck, You claim to have 3 kids. Now imagine, there is this lady that your wife does not feel comfortable with. She can't point out exactly why, but her instincts & spirit just don't flow with this lady. She has asked you a couple of times, that pls keep your relation only at office level. Both of you have had pockets of argument over this lady. Then gbam, you come home one afternoon with this lady and another of your friend, and ask your wife to go and serve them food. I guess your wife would give you a pat on the back. Oh, I forgot to mention, that your wife is still furious at you for leaving her behind, both of you were meant to go for a birthday together. You went alone, and returned with this same lady she doesn't feel comfortable with....Yes, my dear hubby did this to me when I was in my second trimester.
-Please may this be the only side advise you are seeking about your marriage.: @Heck, if you re-read my post, you wld see that I mentioned I only wanted to vent my depression. I had already made my decisions and I wasn't asking/seeking for further advice.
-Start the pampering, may be he will learn.: @ Heck, I wonder how a 38 weeks pregnant woman, that feels so ill and is in so much pain would be able to pamper. I don't know how. Maybe you can tell me.
- I have learnt to cope, and I would continue coping. We are both Christians, and this is just a passing phase. No one is perfect, no marriage is perfect, we are young and we would build it together. Rome was not built in a day. We took a vow together, and God would help us to stick to it. Marriage is a training ground. Two different people coming to live together under one roof is not easy. I have forgiven all hurts, and I have forgotten all. Everyone makes mistakes, but we should be willing to change for the better. No one is always ever right.

- @ All asking what makes him fantastic, I would list a few:- He is jovial, he doesn't beat, he is very hardworking, he provides for his family, both nuclear & extended, he is a christian. He finally listens, but not before you have screamed & cried, he is fun. Amongst my friends, I still have the best hubby & marriage. They all come to me for advice.

- @Hubby if you are reading this, I want to remind you of two things we learnt during our marriage counseling days.
1.) Remember what my love language is? - Words of Affirmation & Acts of service. No matter how much gifts you get me/or places you take me to, no matter how much physical touch you give me. Without giving me,"acts of service & giving me words of affirmation, I would never ever feel loved.
2.) Remember the 3 words we were taught never to let go of? I love you, I am sorry and Thank you. Kindly include them back into your dictionary.

- Aas I said in my original post,for the next 2 weeks, I want to concentrate on myself. Am cutting out all stress. I am drawing strength from my inner man. It is only normal that I would feel anxious and apprehensive at this point, but this too would pass.

THANK YOU.

Yes i do.
Also pray for his family.

OP,You actually got me cracked up.
lol

^^^^
Our good Lord knows exactly how to bless people like her.
Let him shower his blessing on her to overflowing.Amen
BTW she's a role model 4 all i can say

^^^
@Jenny take am easy na.lol
Your blood dey boil oh.
4 real, debrief is a beautiful woman

I Just read the Thread by debrief's ex and i can't hold back the tears.Debrief, you are such a beautiful woman at heart.A real rare gem May our God keep blessing you and your understanding Hubby to overflowing.

Thank God the man is changed now. Lucky him

Hi, Docs!

i cant imagine the pains the deceased families would be feeling now.Pls my God grant them succor and the fortitude to bear the loss.

Really a Sad One.I pray to God to grant the families of the sweet ones whose lives were cut short the Fortitude and courage to bear the loss.Cos i know its not a small thing.

wip7: Ministry of education will cost less than 700naira. If is going for undergraduate, she will need to get scratch card of her exam along and computer print out of the result and she will pay less than N700 at MED. Since Sept is far, she will need to pay her tuition fees first, send us the payment slip and we shall send her name to Turkish embassy and she can do the attestation in Abuja.

Thank You Mr Wip,I didn't know You would have the answer to my question.
I'm grateful.

Hi guys in EMU,I need you help. My cousin is going over to EMU in sept,Pls i want to know how you gus went about the ministry of Education stuff and how much it cost you in all
i await your reply

Boyloaf:
if d protest is to split d country am in! If for anytin else, count me out!

Thank u Brother.
Thats exactly what Nigeria needs,anything aside from that is a waste of time n resources

Bro does this lappy ve Bluetooth?
Waiting 4 ur reply

IIKOTECH:
@D_BestDoc

Thanks for the correction sis.

You can have it for 75k

0704-170-0149
0807-080-8558

www.iikotech.com

Thanks Bro
But pls can u send me the specification?
I'll be waiting 4 ur reply

IIKOTECH:
@D_BestDoc

Thanks for the correction sis.

You can have it for 75k

0704-170-0149
0807-080-8558

www.iikotech.com

Thanks Bro
But pls can u send me the specification?
I'll be waiting

[quote author=190_@ link=topic=825431.msg9767566#msg9767566 date=1323904714][size=18pt]FALLS FROM TREE [/size][/quote]190 always falling from trees.lol.Wetin u dey go find ontop tree sef cos everyday u dey fall like 20 times yet your spinal cord no dey damage.

IIKOTECH:
@D_BestDoc

No Bro
just have Toshiba Satellite L650 for now.
It is a Core i3 system. Let me know if you are interested.
Sorry I'm getting back late

IKOTECH i'm a Sis and not a Bro.lol
I learnt that it does not come with bluetooth.
How much will u give it out?

Pls do u ve Toshiba Satelite pro C650?If u do can i know the price it will go for?cos im interested

In my opinion, i think You discuss it over with your husband b4 taking any step.Then the two of you can sit her down and talk things over with her.I believe she would understand even if she might feel bad and confused at the break of the news.
But please whatever you do,dont fail to discuss the matter with ur hubby first.

This is a good initiative.
I am game.

@ Ifyalways,u've really done a good Job.May our good Lord bless u abudandantly 4 sacrificing ur time et all 2 c that this project becomes a reality.
Chukwu gozie gi

Don Waka:
but why are you so myopic in your thinking. go and check my profile and his. well na you sabi

Waiting for agoheugene to also tell me how myopic i am
lol

Wow 190 just typed in black.Whatever happened 2 ur Red

:oThese guys are really bad.Can u imagine i was charged N10,000 just for a police certificate?
I went 2 d State CID in PH Naija n i was told its 10grand,i actually thought they wanted 2 make some money out of me perhaps cos of the way i spoke n was dressed so i angrily left.called some1 2 chck how much it is in owerri and i was told N12000 lol,then i knew i had no choice

Don Waka:
Eugene, how is school today?
am in Nigeria now but will be around in 2nd week time

agoheugene:
Broooooooooo how is my Naija? My school has raised the Africa intake quota to 50 now and other Universities in Lithuania are also ready to admit students from Nigeria. So tell anyone around you about this opportunity

:oTot u guys are the same person.
Yeah one person wit disserent IDs lol