7victor:
Also, there was a Sunday that I had a minor disagreement with someone. She started cursing me. I didn't do anything but she started cursing me.

I wore my clothes and went to one church.

Immediately I entered the church, one pastor who was preaching looked at me and asked all the youths to stand up. He said "I cancel any curse placed on you by anyone"


I knew it was me he was talking about because he looked at me before he asked the youths to stand up. I was also a youth. That time I was an undergraduate.

When I returned home, the woman called me and began to apologise for cursing me. She said she had cancelled the curse immediately I left for church.


I later learnt that the pastor did not like calling only one person out for prophecy but like calling people in group whenever the prophecy is for one person because he said he didn't want to expose the person to some evil people whom he said had infiltrated his church.

Ghostwon6511:

What is your business in all of this ?
Mind your goddamn business!
Locate your own ancestral heritage. And do with your ancestral heritage, what you want.
Our Benin heritage is not your concern !
Your jealousy is just too much !

Ghostwon6511:

Fvck off, we Edos are not your father, go and locate your own ancestral heritage. Mind your business. Is this too hard to do ?

Ghostwon6511:


Blabla, my ancestral heritage will not fill your pockets, period. Now mind your business.

Beatswim:
when we talk about church now.. U will say we Christians follow daddy GOs sheeply and u will be making jest of Christians but see where u have led your family now... Now your wife is now pushing u to rob at th highway despite how comfortable you are.. Its a shame... Do u know some men dont make a quarter of what u make per month and their wives still give them peace... Do u wanna know why Pls join us we sheeples....my wife is a choirmember in church.. She belongs to 4 other departments in the church... She doesnt use earings.. Dont use trousers.. When i wake up.. I teach her the word of God.. When we wanna sleep we study the word of God... We go to vigils 4times in 7days per week.. And now leme ask u... How will such a woman turn out weird of a sudden... U better take hold of that marriage and return to Jesus.. Else if your wife sees an avenue to follow rich daddies she wont hesitate the way shess looking for money now oo..

Daboomb:


And l dont disagree with you that the disparity in living conditions in Nigeria is unfair.
But you must also agree with me that "enjoyment" is relative because it depends on what you consider valuable to you, which is also dependent on some factors which are unique to each of us.
I am not even praising Nigeria, l am just saying "I enjoy Nigeria and it is not as bad as people say"
You see somebody whose only prayer is to get out of Nigeria because he believes once he leaves Nigeria, he is made!
But you will agree that there are Dustbin pickers abroad, people who sleep on doorways of Companies once they close for the day! Peopel who sleep outside all year round and rummage through the Bins. That is abroad as well, right and that is also below basic standard of living?

Again, l repeat, l am not condemning abroad as bad. Stable electricity is good, steady water, good schools, etc.
All these thing smake abroad good.
BUT can you honesly say that people (not all Nigerians) dont enjoy these things in Nigeria as well?
I and many, many millions of Nigerians enjoy these things they enjoy abroad and many more. I wish more peopel will enjoy it as well but l cant control that, not in Nigeria, not abroad.

If you will, can you please even tell me ONE THING that many people abroad are enjoying, that l am not enjoying or that l cant enjoy here in Nigeria, that would make me to be very desperate, to want to try runningabroad in a dinghy, ove rthe mediterranean

That is where my logic comes in: If you have the money, there is nothing they enjoy abroad that you cant enjoy in Nigeria and there are even things you can enjoy in Nigeria that is nto allowed abroad.
I cited the example of building your house to any design that you like. That is one thing l encountered over there that pissed me off!
All houses in an Estate are exactly alike and that gives for a boring environment.
An arial view of where l live will bring smiles to (y/our) face, just looking at it.
Everyone gives a piece of their feelings and love to their buildings and its so colorful. I like that, maybe you dont appreciate it and l understand that.
We all have different things that we value!
Some dont value Artwork but l pay good money for Artworks and just admiring them gives me joy

Again, l have noticed that as we grow older, what we value also changes, the htings we prioritise also changes..
For most younger people on Nairaland, "just go abroad" is a fulfilment
Maybe l was like that some decades ago but now, it does not thrill me one bit (I still visit to see old friends who stayed -put and chill out when l want o be alone or just do financial issues)

But l value the "noise and chaotic nature" of Nigeria somehow. I value pumping music that shakes your internal organ on a Sunday evening. I love swimming and walking barechested on the Beach. I love seeing people like myself, l love roasted banana and those minor, minor things of life that l cant get when l am abroad.
And l made most of my money in Nigeria, not even abroad and l still continue to earn enough to keep my lifestyle and have good backup for a rainy day.
If you have a problem with my logic, just take it as "different" from yours and we are still good.
You enjoy your own abroad logic and l enjoy my own local, Nigerian logic, No need to fight over such a simple and mundane thing.
I wont force mine on you and you can keep yours, we are both doung good, right?

I think we are taking this discussion too far and it might get too personal. Guys should chill and let it lie or what do you think?

Daboomb:


Writing flawlessly is a gift you learn from an early age!
Those of us that went to proper Nursery, primary and grammar school dont see writing long essays as a problem because it is second nature to us. Our Parents spent a lot of money to give us sound education in proper Montessori Nursery and primary School and we are very proud of that.
I bet you never attended a Nursery School and started struggling to write English, very late in your adult life, that is why it looks so difficult to you but l assure you, if you read widely and practice, you can stil lbe better than me.
No need to go green with envy, leave my moniker out of your lexical worries.

stagger:


When you have money in Nigeria or indeed in Africa, 99% of these "issues" are taken care of.

One of my former pastors used to say that there are demons that money can bind. I never knew the meaning until I started stepping into the realm of financial overflow.

Where my house in Abuja is, light has not blinked since Sunday last week. Most people cannot afford to pay rent there. I also have a house in an African country where I spend half the year and I pay the rent there in US dollars. Even the police in that area know that I am not the typical native they see everywhere. When they see me jogging or taking a walk past their checkpoint, they greet me with respect.

These are things that money can do and knowing my circumstances and how they have changed in 20 years, I can compare both sides and tell you categorically that with money, life in Naija can be paradise.

Money has an odour you cannot brush off. You do not even need to be as rich as Dangote to enjoy these things. Just make sure you have at least three to four income streams that bring you 6 figures a month and you are good to go.

sunnysunny69:
See as boob flat like Dunlop tyres, growing up dem don press those boobs tired.

juanjo2:
people now thank God for having a child outta wedlock... issorite

smith666999:
I want to see some one transforming from short to tall or tall to short

preacherz:


It shall never become
Never!!!!!
Not when 2019 is around d corner

Unless bubu has finally lost it.

oglalasioux:
God tells Adeboye things only he benefits from. Why can't he ask God why he always give Nigeria stupid leaders?

kengreatleads:
I give this testimony to the glory of God and to the shame of the devil. At the end of my university education; through its ups and downs, bitter and sweet moments, I eventually graduated with a third-class degree in computer science. At that point in my life I was overly disappointed, highly discouraged and even suicidal on my bad days because I knew what was happening in the labour market. Every employer wanted graduates with second class upper and above for the limited and highly coveted employment slots. And here I was, I didn’t even have a 2.2, even if employers wanted to reach out in grace.

I had given my life to Christ on campus, and my thirst for God had intensified during this period. To the glory of God, even with my third-class degree, I did not sit at home as I got a job immediately, which is a whole miracle-story on its own. This job came with great exposure and an intense learning curve for me as a fresh graduate and I embraced the job even though the pay was not fantastic. Those of us who were taken by the company were put through a training programme to initiate us into Business Intelligence and Data Warehousing industry. Time went by and I emerged as one of the brightest trainees through the programme. We were soon staffed and placed on projects for multinational companies. After a while, some of my colleagues started filling out applications and searching for bigger opportunities. They would repeatedly forward job links and vacancies to me as I was considered one of the best among my peers. I did not apply for any of those positions as I was always self-defeated because of my third-class university certificate and the devil held it high up in my face all the time. I continued to do my job diligently and also develop myself in my field.

On Mother’s Day in May 2015, Pastor Nomthi preached about the unmerited grace and favour Moses witnessed in the house of Pharaoh, when there was an order to kill every male child of the Israelites. She said that Moses was not only spared but was raised as a prince. I immediately keyed into this lesson of grace and I was full of faith. I applied for a job someone had recommended me for and I was offered the position on the spot with 100 percent increase with good pension and sumptuous packages.

I thought I had seen all. Before the resumption date I was given, I was invited for another job interview with one of the telecom giants in Nigeria. Through the interview process I had to compete with the best of the best and even more experienced applicants. At the end of the interview and test process which lasted several weeks, I came out top as the preferred candidate of all. Now my problem became choosing between the two offers as they were both fantastic and had good prospects. I sought the face of the Lord who had made all these happen, and eventually I had to turn down the Multi-national Telecom Giant’s offer. Now I am at my new job and I have even been given opportunities to travel to different countries on projects (I had never travelled out of Nigeria before this job).

A month ago, another job offer came through with take-home package closing in on about half a million which I had to turn down after wide consultation and seeking the face of the Lord. I also did not apply for this job; all these opportunities came by recommendation. A third-class graduate now turning down job offers from multinational companies – it can only be God and I am here to give back ALL the praise to HIM alone.

By Yomi Owolabi – Today’s Showers Vol 345 (Fountain of Life Church)

Source: http://amebojoint.com/2016/09/12/third-class-graduate-now-turning-job-offers-multinationals/

Badgers14:


Have you asked your wife privately about why she is feeling that way towards your family

That's a good starting point, then from her response then you can atleast hear from her.

I had a similar experience with my wife, she came to our house greeted my mom.. She said my mom didn't respond. My mom in return was upset that the lady i was marrying didn't greet her. Wahala

There was a bit cold reception between two of them for a while.. My wife thought my mom don't like her, my mom thought she was disrespectful. Then i know my mom don't have any issue with her and she in turn doesn't have any issues.. The only problem was the greeting stuff.

Now, i can't turn my back on my mother neither can i turn my back on my wife. So i had my wife buy a hollandaise and gave her telling her she was sorry, when they first met she was too overwhelmed that she contained her exciting too much, she thought she greeted her but the greetings didn't come out loud enough. She is a shy girl bla bla. My mom accepted the wrapper and that was the end of it.

The reason why i approached the situation like that was one, i don't know who was right and wrong.. I was there oo but i was talking with my dad. Asking my mom to accept that she was greeted and talk to my wife.. She wouldn't be too happy.. Infact that would be world war 3. So my wife had to bear the burden of accepting that she was at fault but not in a rude way so.. We are now a jolly happy family.

The reason why i told you mine story is to give you idea .

But first thing first.. Talk to your wife and find out her reason for feeling that way towards your family.

Good luck my brother.