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OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Grandma did something like that. I'm closer to her than my biological parents.
Grandmother trying to match me with the daughter of her very good friend who also double as her neighbor.
Babe is sexually attractive, tall, big @ss & bwess. I thought she's older than me. I come dey see her as my elder sister sef & 4 dis reason i didn't make any move....i knw no say girls dey mature fast pass men.

When i look back, e dey pain me say i no sample d kpekus.

LoL, bad guy, it's the kpekus you miss that is paining you, that's not your grandma's Intention anyway.

paulolee:
mum tried same with one of her church girl because she is tired asking me about marriage plans and getting bored of hearing same excuse of me looking for the perfect one..
she asked me to visit and I saw the churchy looking kemi and mum said she is nice, wife material and we should be friends, I took her number n as time goes by, I realize dt it was match making tinz.
I jus deleted and blocked her line, assuming she get big ass I go tag along, chop n clean mouth..
but she jus jus dry, small boobs, no ass n jus dey like 2 bedroom flat...

Hahaha, you won't kill me with laugh. These parents are something else when it comes to their children relationship status.

By the way, you are one of the few people that made me open an account on Nairaland.

TMTR:

Both my parents called me back home one time that it was really urgent I be home ASAP, I went there only for them to introduce me to one girl

Make I no lie the girl fine Sha with mad curves,my spec but I just couldn't have anything to do with her just for the singular fact that my parents introduce me to her, call me childish or whatever,I just can't

Since then, my parents don't bother me about that issue again

LoL, I am on the same page with you on this one. I can't do anything with a girl my parents introduce to me. I don't want my family to orchestrate the relationship for me.

pharmagba:
Na my dad,
The Don of match making
Got is spot on on everyone except me.

Two years after NYSC I still decided to remaiin in the north. On visiting home after some discussion about marriage with my dad, he picked up his phone to call a lady to come over.
Before she arrived he briefed my on how good the lady is and I should talk to her. I knew him too well when he talks you don't argue.
The lady arrived in quick time and he told her to meet his very good son doing very well in his career. No body could paint me better. Had I been a lady I will have fallen from the encomium. Soon after he left us to discuss.
I found out that the lady was a nurse and her mum whom my dad knows had approached my dad to help secure her daughter a better job. To my dad what better job is there than to wife his beloved son. She even thought my dad calling her because of the job.
She was matured, intelligent and sincere My perfect spec. A beauty paragon with british accent. I still wonder till date how my dad knew my perfect spec
We shared some good moment together. We also laughed over it that she has been given the job of a wife.
Two things didn't make it work out one she said she had someone else and two she is a Muslim.
I freed her completely.

Your Dad is a legend bro, he got good eyes and great taste too. How I wish it works out but life goes on.

I am hoping to stay back after my NYSC too, I can't go back to that house again, only visit once in awhile.

People have choices.

But if love is madness, I don get my senses back.

People will just stay and put their life in trouble. All the way from Lagos, you didn't see any decent girl, you travelled all the way to kaduna only to end up with a girl that her ex is seeing as friend with benefits. When you said she do ask him for money, I was expecting money for house rent or one big money. The doctor is even sending 4k to her, nawao.

OP, I won't insult her because she is your wife neither do I have any sympathy for you. You saw the signs clearly, you know OKAFOR LAW, you know how crazy some girls are with their ex, which is evident with your woman, but you go ahead and marry her. Whom the gods want to destroy, they first made mad.

peepydelano:
You will later look for this girl but by then it’ll be too late.You think it’s easy to get a truly decent girl these days? Your eyes go soon clear, na small pikin still dy worry you

Marriage is beyond being decent in Christian encyclopedia. I can't possibly marry who I am not sexually attracted to, she is not my spec, I didn't say she is not good, but she is not my choice. Talking about me looking for her later.

PS: the beautiful ones are not yet born.

dawnomike:
Never experienced that cos my late dad would always say "...two things that I do not choose for my children are: their career and who to marry." Lest, you blame him for your misfortune in the future

Your Dad was an intelligent dude. Only you know what fascinates you. My mom told me she knows she won't be involve in my decision making, I told her I will keep her informed but she is not going to use me as a bond for her friendship, I am bigger than that. Even my auntie that trained me don't decide for me.

My mom have a friend, a very good one. The woman really like me because I am a boy and she doesn't have a male child, so she holds me in high esteem. She has five daughters, my senior, my age mate and my juniors.

Since I returned back from school after my final exam, the respect is becoming too much, my mom started complaining about me being single and her friend becoming more friendlier. Her third daughter just graduated too, and my mom is trying everything for two of us to date. Recently, the started chatting me up frequently and I discovered she is not my spec. She is this spiritual and religious Bible kind of girl and I am a liberal. When I told her that I am not spiritual nor religious, I can see the shock on her face.

She doesn't wear trouser, no earrings nor necklace, a very decent girl by appearance of course, and that's the kind of girl I want. She is even complaining that I am too unstable because I am always traveling every now and then and she doesn't like it.

I am not ready for any relationship right now and I don't want any relationship that involves two families. I will get a girlfriend for myself whenever I am ready. So I told my mom to bury that thought, it won't happen and she said I am too stubborn and rebellious and radical, I smiled and said nothing.

So has your parents ever try to match make you with anyone before? Please share your experience.

RichProminent:
Maybe she's interested in u Heathrow44 u cause the fight btwn Demigod22 and Prettygirl200.Wotoporiously speaking!

Na Streetmovement fit cap this

LoL, the thing fear me o, I have not really exchange words or anything with her before. I only see the name on some threads.

This is sensitive and educative. But then if the vagina is not that healthy and one have to go through all this for disinfection, then I sincerely send my condolences to sons of Adam that see vagina eating as lunch.

Immediately a girl said I am sorry and started crying, I will run as far as Niger. She will still do that thing again.

I still remember Oyiza, my friends told me that she was cheating, when I confronted her, she knelt down and started crying and begging that she was dating only three of us and I am the only one she loves. I let her go and contacted the other two guys, we all went to her house and put her at the centre, then we asked her who she love most, she said she love all of us, we looked at her and started laughing, since you are now Jesus, you love all of us.

I am coming let me Google it.


My phone is showing me Eniola Badmus of Nollywood.

This phone is corrupted with virus, I think.

Let me check encyclopedia.

I am coming, it's loading............

You see why I don't agree with no sex relationship with girls? Most of them will come and be forming celibacy and no sex with you as a boyfriend but will go and be using sex gadgets.

Girls have done more harm to humanity than four Buhari put together.

I got my first official girlfriend at 13, we broke up when I was sixteen. Since then I have been in series of entanglement with girls. From ss1 till I graduated from University, I have never been single and I didn't lose focus over any girl.

My point is that there is no generally accepted age standard for relationship for any gender, but if the relationship involve sex then the two partners should be 18 above to avoid legal action when things go south.

Longest relationship that wasted my time lasted for two days. Since then I don't do relationship again, I prefer situationship.

Any advice I am about to give you now, forget it if you don't have money.

First of all, have a deep reflection about your life, think about your strength, what you want, how you want it, when you want and how you are going to get it.

Create time for yourself, alone time, that period you can revive your music listening pastime.

Give positive attitude to life, you just want to know that life is in stages, you have to pass every phase diligently. With time what you are going through now will be history as you will get more responsibility, tasks and challenge to deal with. Life don't always give us what we want, we only try to get what we want from it.

If you don't have money, then you should try and make some money before you do certain things, because without money, confidence and zeal to live life won't be there.

I have my own challenges too, I can't say I am winning because I am wise or intelligent, I believe destiny which I understand to be time in this context is giving me victory.

Prettygirl200:
What's with my name in your writeup everytime

Maybe you are mistaking me for someone else. I have not mentioned your name or anybody's name in my write up since I joined Nairaland, I only quote comment that interest me.

I normally see your name but we haven't even had a conversation before now.

RichProminent:
Heathrow44 na VictorUSA get ChoCho54 Prettygirl200 Beautygoddesss and Fcmb2022 Demigod22 Emgee Frozen70 now Sapphiere again. That guy na woman rapa.

LoL, this guy no get conscience. At least, feed person daughter for that day na, even some girls self no the try when it comes to spending guy's money. But this guy own too funny abeg.

By the power vested in me, I declared this Comrade as the brand ambassador of stingy men association.

Astrokid911:
woow and you don't feel bothered at all ,you must have a great circle of friends

Yeah, I have great friends and positive and healthy mindset about life. Around March, my Mom tried for me to date one of her friend's daughter, but I downplayed the whole thing. I told her I am not even ready for relationship, not to talk of the relationship that two families are involve. Personally, I enjoy my own company, watch movies, drink good wine, attend shows, rest, read books and chat with friends.

purehustle101:
That's how to leave your life in other to have peace. Nobody will tell you when you meet a wife material, just be sane enough to detect it. But in a mean time just dey bang dey go. Is only when you remove emotions from the opposite sex that's when a man starts enjoying life. Love na scam, we humans are just in for what will benefit us.

Yes, when it comes to issue of woman I don't put my heart and mind to it. I know that certainly this thing is just for the moment, so we just satisfy our curiosity and individual needs at the moment. Loving the right person shouldn't be this difficult, I know what I want in a woman. When I meet a woman that is intelligent, humane, resourceful, have sense of humor, productive and reliable. I will know that is my wife. Not all these girls that are making life so stressful for sons of Adam.

Whazar:
Can you remember anything from your previous life?

In my previous life, I was a hunter, a great one at that. I don't like school I prefer going to farm. I was the good boy of the house and all that. I was born by a side chick not the wife. When I was about to die, I told my friends that I realize that I will love school in my next life, I will not kill any animal again, I don't want to go to farm again, but I will still be a good boy. The day I died was the day the new me was birthed.

As I am talking to you now, I don't do the hunting of animals again. In fact, I don't even eat meat, fish or anything that has blood and flesh. I can't stand where animal is being killed.

I love school more than anyone, while in University, I don't even go home for holidays, during holidays I will buy novels that will keep me busy. Don't mention farm to me, I am very scared of going to farm, I can stay in the village for two years and go farm only two times, that's how I hate farm. I am still the good boy of the family. I am still the last born like my previous life, I was born by a mistress not the wife. So many incidents that correlate, my behaviors, my skin and talk.

Sometimes, my paternal grandmother will look at me in my eyes and ask me; so you love me this much to come back and keep me company because you know your father is dying soon? I will be confused then I will remember that everyone says I love her so much in my previous life which I still do till her death.

Quality20:
I guess that's why many of them take alcohol to kill their conscience before engaging in it

Maybe, but the girls around me don't take alcohol. I make them really comfortable to do it with me and I don't make them feel less of themselves after the sex because I will lay there naked with them encouraging them with stories and telling them how beautiful their body is and all that. I have telepathic influence to easily convince people to do things.

Few years ago in school, I remembered an Igbo guy that sells close to my lodge. Anytime I am going or returning from lectures or rehearsal, this guy will be all smiling and greeting me generously, I didn't read any meaning to it.

After some time, he said when I am free he wants to talk to me. When we met he started asking me about my cream. I am light skin and naturally I have a great skin that seek attention because it's easily noticeable. I told him that I am using fressier Vaseline, he said he doesn't know that product.

We exchanged contact for me to send him the picture on WhatsApp, that gave the guy confidence to make bold step. He started telling me how he loves and respect me, how he wants to spoil me with money and all that trash. I told my friend about it as a joke, the guy jokingly disclosed it to my ex, girlfriend then, she arrange some guys from Man O war to warn the guy seriously. He was still disturbing me and begging me not to tell anyone about it until I led some guys to his shop one evening to have a thorough conversation with him and within that month he travelled. The next time I saw him, I have only one month to graduate.

This is what most Nigerian youths lack, the entrepreneurship zeal. We are gathering lot of degrees and certificate without the application of the knowledge. Just yesterday, a Master Degree holder was writing rubbish in his application letter.

In the next five years, if he strategize well, that business will grow into chain of food business that people will travel from Nigeria to go work for him and he will really make it hard. Food business is fast growing.

If you got a dream, a life driving goal, a purpose that will be useful to humanity and you find yourself in an environment that supports that goal, wasting time in the University won't worth it.

The words stingy and woman are synonyms.

Perhaps, the guy is just there for the pussy and nothing more. If he wants to be serious with the girl, he wouldn't be this carefree towards the relationship.

I had this experience, a girl will be singing I love you to me on Whatsapp and Facebook, she has a boyfriend whom I don't know, I don't need a prophet to tell me she fvck around. But I was completely understanding because we are just fvcking, nothing more. That kind of girl, is not my problem if she is fvcking others too.

Bestie, most times, is a coded name for side boyfriend and side chick. I am not totally comfortable with my girlfriend having male bestie and that's why when I am going close to a girl and I want something genuine with her, if she has a male bestie, I will speed up. I can't dictate for her, in summary, girls with male bestie are not my spec.

Although, some girls here will call me insecure but will still go and fvck their male bestie.

I love to be a friend before becoming a lover, if I don't fit into that shoe of a friend whom you can trust, communicate and spend time with, then what is the essence of the relationship?

Cheating is not a gender base attitude, it's an individual indiscipline, but logically, the way girls are going about it these days is alarming.

When I have sex with someone I like, I feel fulfilling and ecstatic that improve my mood aesthetics especially when she lay on my bed naked and gisting me about her goals, I really feel relishing.

As a proud African who holds African values, culture and religion in high esteem, I am so convinced and believe that there's reincarnation, I have seen scenarios and I am also a product of reincarnation.

I mistakenly sent a friend request to a girl last week and I cancelled it immediately because it was a mistake. I lost my Facebook account and I opened new Facebook account, so I have plenty people you may know and I sent request to many people and I noticed Cynthia was among them, I deleted it immediately and never sent back the request.