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Think4Myself:Tiwa Savage is a tatted-up single mom in her 40s. Even if that tape wasn't meant to be released, would you be comfortable knowing that your mother is having sex with different men to the point that she has a sextape with some guy because "it wasn't meant to be released"? If your answer is 'no' then why would you support something you wouldn't support for your loved ones? |
DonMoel:Women don't play those "chase me" games with men they truly want, only with men who they can afford to lose. I think it might actually be a (subconscious) shit test to gauge a man's frame or to see what they can get away with or maybe a power play as the "chased" party automatically has power over the relationship. If a woman wants a man, she wouldn't risk losing him to another woman; by playing games, in some cases the woman would even simp for the man. Relationship never start she don dey play games, just buy second pad.. (See the pic on the below comment) "When the desired is unavailable, the available becomes the desired." |
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Nezzjnr:I remember reading a thread on nairaland a few days ago where a guy was complaining about how his wife disrespects him because he doesn't have a job anymore (if I remember correctly..) There was this one lady who kept saying that she knows a woman who's the breadwinner of her house (which she also owns) and that if you see them you wouldn't even know she was the breadwinner. I think a guy replied her saying that she may not know but a man will know if he saw them. Another guy stated that just because things looks nice from outside doesn't mean things are also nice within closed doors. She didn't reply those guys (at least to my recollection) but I'm pretty sure that even if she did, it would probably be some talk about love and equality in the marriage, even though it's a known fact (amongst men at least) that when a (Nigerian) woman provides for you, contempt is not far behind. Sometimes when I see women defending certain things or not comprehending why men dislike certain things, I notice that some of them are not defending because of sisterhood, they simply don't know why that thing is bad or why men call out certain behaviours. They're so egocentric from a young age due to conditioning that simply seeing things from a man's perspective is an achievement. |
Donny”s story is closely related to mine - the love, efforts invested in the relationship,money, time and CAPSLOCKED:For the lips of of a loose woman drip with honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. - Proverbs 5: 3-4 With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him. All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life. - Proverbs 7: 21-23 |
luminouz:Oh. That woman that twerks on Instagram? Shebi she's still twerking as they're married? You're wife and possibly mother of your children will be shaking her buttocks for the attention and gratification of strangers on the Internet, your friends go dey watch am even save am for their phones. The children of all this Instagram models and thirst trap attention seekers on the Internet.. Their school life no go easy o. Especially male kids in secondary school when puberty is dawning and hormones are on the rise, your mates, seniors, juniors even some teachers go just dey watch person mother objectify and disgrace herself and family. |
SOZINN:They're obviously rationalising.. poorly.. Like a boxer, they dodge and weave through the blows of accountability, responsibility and (perhaps often) common sense. They will deflect, strawman, shame, resort to ad hominems no matter how illogical they may sound in the process because common sense be damned! A classic case of Blame-shifting. People who do this will ruin your life. Blame shifting--"People who ruin their lives have a tendency to blame other people when things go wrong." - Daniel G. Amen, MD. e.g. "I never thought I’d be the type to cheat, but you made me feel so unappreciated." *As a last resort, usually when they’ve been blatantly caught or called out for something they know they did wrong, they use a "Stink bomb" (they throw a completely unfounded, terrible accusation at you) By sucking you into these arguments, they are consuming your energy and watching you be progressively self-destructive, so they can use your reactions to prove their own points. (“Wow, look how bitter and angry you are!”) and that’s the whole point. The blame is now off of them, and now you’re the one in hot water. Now you readily find yourself fighting to win your case.You will feel compelled to but don’t. [*Source: themindsjournal.com] When you see people like this, do not J.A.D.E (Justify, Argue, Defend & Explain). You will feel compelled to but don’t. When you try to defend yourself against a false accusation, you legitimize it by even acknowledging it. The only way to respond to these tactics is to stand up and walk away. Just walk away. Silently. Serena Williams gets caught cheating during a match, when confronted she says "Men have done worse." Apparently the 'the sin of others also absolves you of your own sin'.. smh.. Matured on the outside, nigh infantile on the inside.
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"Do not argue with a fool. They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience." - Mark Twain "Don't fight with a fool because onlookers won't be able to tell the difference." - Mark Twain The way of the fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. - Proverbs 12:15 Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil, but those who plan good have joy. - Proverbs 12:20 Wisdom builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. - Proverbs 14:1 Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. - Proverbs 14:7 |
Romanoff:Your comment doesn't have any merit, reason nor validity for being in this thread because: 1.) Let's assume this "cryptic pregnancy" scam was true, how many men out of 10 would be taking care of a "cryptic scam" child? Is it up to 5 out of 10 men? Incredibly unlikely. With a paternity fraud rate of 30% in Nigeria, what's the percentage of cryptic preg. scams in that rate? Hence the need for a DNA Test still stands. 2.) If the above point is the case then the child also wouldn't have the mother's DNA so the DNA test is actually good for both the man and woman because they'll know the child isn't theirs (unless you want to resort to the "They called you DADDY first" or "They're still your child" argument). 3.) Cryptic scam or no, why should the man take care of a child that isn't his blood? Did he get married to adopt someone else's child? 4.) This cryptic pregnancy (scam) sef, na always "I heard" or "I know someone that..", is it not a well known fact that unfaithful women would justify and rationalise anything most of the time to hide the truth. If na crypto pregnancy refer to No. 2, test both the man and woman.
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For the people concerned with women criticizing the initiative, here's an earlier comment of mine: People 'project' a lot. When person A sees or hears about person B doing something ignominious or immoral (e.g. cheating, physical abuse, manipulation, being provocative/promiscuous, entitled, etc.) and starts defending them, they very likely aren't doing so because "they just like defending nonsense". Person A 'associates' themselves mentally with person B because if both persons were switched, they (person A) would most likely do the same thing. So if person A criticises person B, they would be (subconsciously) giving themselves a psychological narrative that goes against themselves, and would have to acknowledge that they themselves possess the same immoral behaviour so person A will justify and rationalise the action(s)/behaviour of person B (often resorting to 'strawman' arguments which sometimes start with "So you're saying.."/ "So you're trying to say that.."/ "So what are you trying to say? That.." then proceeds to 'strawman' OR ad hominems/shame tactics) rather than hold them accountable in spite of how irrational they may sound in the process. "Birds of the same feather, something something.." This is important to know because what people 'read' in a situation, often says more about who they are than who the person in the situation being perceived are. This DNA promo should be shared across naija social media, to make more men aware and hopefully to also gather men to protect that DNA Lab and it's staff online from the (inevitable) shame mob. "Evil spreads when the righteous keeps quiet" |
Glycosunde:That's actually a really good point. It's like most females here are just rationalising.. If it were a thread about a man's F'up, you'll see more women here commenting with moxie. "Nigerian women have suffered oo." but you won't see the male variation of that comment here from a woman---solipsistic and egocentric---like a child, they put their needs first before others, or in this case, their 'mental health' before men's, defending their fellow children near oblivious to accountability.
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TearNinja001:Then when she starts showing her true colors during marriage because he didn't vet her properly, that's when he'll know that a woman rushing or pressuring you into marriage is a red flag. |
temi1290:For the lady criticizing the initiative, here's an earlier comment of mine: People 'project' a lot. When person A sees or hears about person B doing something ignominious or immoral (e.g. cheating, physical abuse, manipulation, being provocative/promiscuous, entitled, etc.) and starts defending them, they very likely aren't doing so because "they just like defending nonsense". Person A 'associates' themselves mentally with person B because if both persons were switched, they (person A) would most likely do the same thing. So if person A criticises person B, they would be (subconsciously) giving themselves a psychological narrative that goes against themselves, and would have to acknowledge that they themselves possess the same immoral behaviour so person A will justify and rationalise the action(s)/behaviour of person B (often resorting to 'strawman' arguments which sometimes start with "So you're saying.."/ "So you're trying to say that.."/ "So what are you trying to say? That.." then proceeds to 'strawman' OR ad hominems/shame tactics) rather than hold them accountable in spite of how irrational they may sound in the process. "Birds of the same feather, something something.." This is important to know because what people 'read' in a situation, often says more about who they are than who the person in the situation being perceived are. This DNA promo should be shared across naija social media, to make more men aware and hopefully to also gather men to protect that DNA Lab and it's staff online from the (inevitable) shame mob. "Evil spreads when the righteous keeps quiet" - Liu Kang, Advocate for Earthrealm and Redpill
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Most men will never admit the depth of their wives' stupidity. They agree that women are not terribly clever, but grant them "intuition" or instinct instead. And they like to call this a feminine instinct as opposed to that of an animal. Unfortunately, this famous feminine instinct is really nothing but a euphemism for statistical probability. Women interfere and give opinions about everything, and, since they are so stupid, they don't realize that they are making fools of themselves. According to the law of averages, their forecasts will be correct now and again. In any case, most of their predictions are negative or vague. Banalities such as: "It can only end in disaster," or "I'd steer clear of that, if I were you," or "Your so-called friends will only let you down in the end," are meaningless. Anyone would be safe making such generalizations. - Esther Vilar
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SOZINN:"Men fight for liberty and win it with hard knocks. Their children, brought up easy, let it slip away again, poor fools. And their grandchildren are once more slaves." |
Herculex03:Haaaa.. lwkmd Baba dey reason whether na Shao Khan talk am. No mind me o, I just put the name there as joke. |
CaveAdullam:Sex is one of the very few (or only) thing/s a woman can use to gain power over you. Control over sexual urges is not taught to male children to ensure the 'female power' stays intact. Many women will opt for a sex-hungry man over a disciplined man with self control because the latter is of no use to them. Some would even employ shame tactics (sometimes to mutual friends/acquaintances) in an attempt to demoralise the latter man---"So you're (he's) gay", "Are you (is he) even a 'real' man?", etc. "A man who has conquered his lust has conquered half his problems in this world." - Shao Kahn, Outworld President |
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Bennethchiso:You could check out Jobberman(.)com for jobs in your area, just polish your cv/resume real nice and submit to the jobs you're interested in. |
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ma373733:They don't really want equality, or rather, responsibility that comes with 'true' equality while losing their privileges in the process i.e. want to have their cake and eat it. There's a certain comment I often saw online that makes a bit more sense whenever I think about it; "They want the power of men, privileges of women and the accountability of children." Here's a comment by Jeshal basically about women not using their 'equal' opportunities in a 'non-patriarchal' society but instead seemingly still following their gender roles; Nordic/scandanavian societies( Denmark, Iceland, Norway, Finland) in Europe have removed all their Patriachal strongholds and traditional barrier via social re-engineering through government legislated Egalitarian policies like affirmative action, quota policies, inclusivity and diversity policies to narrow gender differences but the result after these was widen gender differences in terms of occupational choice leading to GENDER EQUALITY PARADOX greater than that of traditional and conservative Societies hence proving that BIOLOGY ( genetics) will always Trump PSYCHOLOGY ( social construct) https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://nordicparadox.se/%23:~:text%3DNima%2520Sanandaji%2520shows%2520that%2520the Esther Vilar also mentioned (in The Manipulated Man) that women would much rather stay at home and be housewives because it's actually easier than men's work, of course they also put up a facade about 'how hard and stressful it is/ ~motherhood is the hardest job in the world..' to project an image of 'hardworking wife' to their husbands while their husbands provide and take care of them. As for the boss thing, maybe it's 'Familiarity > comfort > contempt' with their husbands. Many women are akin to children in lots of ways--- if you spoil a child the child will lose respect for you and become contemptful towards you but if you take charge/draw a (hard) line with them, they'll be respectful. Probably ties with the '(many) women like bad boys' dynamic since lots of women consciously (or subconsciously) feel attracted to men who don't respect them (possibly due to a lack of [proper] parental figure during childhood) Or maybe it's 'preselection' which could also be a sign of 'herd mentality/ lack of individualism' in those women. |
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Martinez39s:Na the S.I.G.N language you dey hear about be that na (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Never being wrong). |
CaveAdullam:The bolded part is a somewhat common (maybe cliché) response. Adult film actress mia khalifa used it to garner sympathy and attention during (one of) her lie streak. She claimed the adult film industry was so traumatizing for her despite still using her adult film name to make money. Funny enough, the entirety of your comment I quoted is emotional manipulation. A matured person who has been enlightened of their mistakes will take full accountability for their actions---blame shifting to external factors like other people is a sign of immaturity, manipulation and abusive behaviour still lingering in that person. They're aware of their 'mental issues' but not aware enough seek help or work on it? Lol, abusive, victim-playing people like using that 'mental issue' one (saw a girl on Dr. Phil use that exact same one, with the 'tears' and everything). "You may not be responsible for your upbringing or the way people treated you, but you ARE responsible for how you treat others." |
stevesawo:That woman in the picture is the "good girl" he's referring to? Lol. As soon as I saw the picture I was like "bruh". |
