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sowilli:
Money makes an Alpha male... period. People respect money. Money answereth all things. If you like get all the qualities above, if you can’t make money with it you are not any Alpha.

And you haven't seen men with money women play like a puppet.
Men that just use only money to attract women most times end up with gold diggers
Just yesterday a close friend was telling me of his close pal that married a woman and placed her on salary . He was working a very high paying job. The chick was a stunner/beautiful. Guy man later lost his high paying job. Chick went back to her people, that she will return when things turn around.

Money can't cover your inadequacies

And mind you even rich people can go through a down time. You may have plenty today but money is not constant

Even billionaires go bankrupt
Everyone needs money but money can't cover your weakness/inadequacies.
It must show one way or the other

In Nigeria we think it's just money money but most times money attract to you gold diggers, women with uncouth character, women on the lowest level of intelligence, who can't add any value to your life.


Had an oga/menror then whose wife was an Exxon Mobil top engineer. Dude was controlling all her money, in fact her salary account he controls it and decides how it will be used.
He had absolutely nothing. From her earnings he started a highly lucrative business. Today that man is worth 100s of millions, very big man. His wife's earnings no near half his own now.
He was my mentor through me a lot about relationship. A no nonsense man, still running his family excellently.
There is nothing like being with a smart woman that respects and adores you. It takes more than money to arrange that kind of package. You must be a real man not simp

isthatso:
saying I have an onsolete and backward mindset is not insulting? This is the problem with you people, you start something antagonise, then you cry foul when people respond. i didnt read the rest of yiour stuff.

Is obsolete and backward mindset same as a fool.

As for the rest of things you can't reply because you can't understand nor explain it. It's beyond your knowledge capacity.

You guys should leave the igbos alone
They are not your problem
There is a Nigeria that you guys have been ruling before you crying to be fixed while other nations are moving far ahead

And mentality and mindset from your types can't fix Nigeria.
Leave the igbo man alone.
Fixing Nigeria' should be una priority


QED finish

isthatso:
you are clearly a fool. Did i tell you i am the one thinking of OIl? the total amount of money we get from Oil is less that what South Africa spends on health alone. I am a yoruba man 40% of Nigeria's GDP comes from the SW, that is $160B, the total income from Oil is less than $50B..... you think I care about OIl? I am simply trying to educate you on the mindset of the people in power and why things became and arethe way they are.

First of all you are breaking the rule on nairaland by insulting my person. I never used derogatory, insulting or uncouth words on your person. All my reply has been civil.


Concerning all other things you wrote there, oil is the major source of income/foriegn exchange earnings for Nigeria and nothing else

In 2015/2016, when oil price went down drastically Nigeria entered into recession
.
The economy you attributed to your region, how much of it is based on foreign exchange earnings?
Ordinary yearly national budget of $20 billion dollars the FG can't fund it totally without borrowing because other sources of income generation for Nigeria like customs, Npa etc all fall below par.


The money you are attributing to your region all natural audio money.
It's is still backed by FGs earnings from oil.
Until you show me how your region is independent of money coming from FGs, your audio economy holds no proof

jimyjames:
Most of them haven't been to the south east to even know how south east looks like, they depend on social media propaganda from their Yoruba brothers

You dey mind them. Even the northerners understand the capability and capacity of igbos more than these guys.
They are the major problem of Nigeria.
We can get along with the North better than this people.

They don't know why igbos are in there region is just because of Nigerian factor. They think if there region wasn't in Nigeria that they will have the number of igbos they have residing over there.
It's simply Nigeria championed by the core North is the reason they have igbos in there region.
How many igbos are in Benin, Togo, Ghana?


Do they go anywhere?
No
Do they understand the scope of Nigeria?
No
They are the problem of Nigeria.

isthatso:
My friend, it is the misadventure of the ibo man and the inherent distrust that they generate that condemned all of us to slavery and derailed our development under the northern ruling class. That the Northern rulers since the end of the civil war are incompetent does not overshodow the Character of the. There xcan be no development without true federalism and fiscal autonomy but there wont be federalism and fiscal autonomy because of the legacies of the civil war. TWe are all condemned to a life of incompent rulers thatnks to your inability to resolve matters peacefully, thanks to your "my way or we bring the house down" mentality

The north did not control the south in any real way until the ibo man struck and they could not change the constitution without the south despite their supposed numerical advantage. The British left us a good system...what changed? The ibo man wanted to dominate everybody and staged a coup that brought in the military....military changed the rules of the game to keep the ibos in check including creating states to remove oil from ibo control and fiscal autonomy. That is the bane of Nigeria.

Like I said you have a very obsolete and backward mindset
You are only thinking oil oil oil.
The most successful countries on the earth today are they dependent on oil?

Western countries, the successful Asia Pacific countries. Do they even have natural resources?

Oil oil oil.....
This old backward mindset is reason Nigeria is where it is today.

isthatso:
My friend, it is the misadventure of the ibo man and the inherent distrust that they generate that all condemned all of us to slavery and derailed our development under the north. That the Northern rulers since the end of the civil war are incompetent does not overshodow the Character of the. There xcan be no development without true federalism and fiscal autonomy but there wont be federalism and fiscal autonomy because of the legacies of the civil war. TWe are all condemned to a life of incompent rulers thatnks to your inability to resolve matters peacefully, thanks to your "my way or we bring the house down" mentality

Dude you are very seriously, and highly delusional . So it's the igbo man thats stopping Nigeria from developing?

You are a totally confused being

jimyjames:
The success of a country is not based on land mass, and you think the Yoruba's and Hausa's don't need Igbo traders in Nigeria? My friend they do

Ask him what's the landmass of Singapore? Or the landmass of Israel compared to there neighbors surrounding them?
Abeg leave this people
They have not removed the pole from there eyes it's just speck on there neighbors eyes they can see.

isthatso:
and when you get this nation of your own where will you eat? The most disadvantaged region in terms of resources is the present day SE. your people cannot survive inside the SE, you dont have land, you have few resources and you will be evicted from the rest of Nigeria so you wont be able to do your trading and commerce like you are currently enjoying. Your biggest resource is your enterprise but you need the market provided by the rest of Nigeria to thrive. Personally I hope your wish is granted, your wahala is too much!!

it is typical that you dont think before you act, hence coup and civil war that left you worse than you were before. if you leave you will find history repeating itself that you end up worse than you were before your unstrategic emotion fuelled actions.

You keep on recycling same rhetoric.
Have you guys been able to manage Nigeria well?
There has been massive relocation abroad of the best bright minds in Nigeria like never before.

The igbo man is not your problem.
At least try and fix Nigeria to be a dream land.

But mbanu you won't do that just to be venting your frustrations on igbos.
Since after the war, has any igbo man ruled affairs of this nation?

Now take a good look at where Nigeria is presently in 2020!!!

Igbo this, igbo that
Fix Nigeria and shame the igbos
Not coming to be regurgitating old rhethorics
Fix Nigeria my friend that's the major issues facing you. This is 2020, and leave the igbos man alone, who never ran the affairs of Nigeria.

anonimi:
Why did casual sex not destroy the destiny of many VIPs and powerful people in different spheres of life?
Do you want a list


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Hello what happened to Bill Clinton, Bill Cosby, the famed Hollywood producer??

That someone is VIP or very rich doesn't mean he has great destiny. There is more to having great destiny. It's more about touching and affecting lives in one way or another. And those with great destinies know themselves.

Have you heard casual sex from people like Obama, George Bush? And very many others

luminouz:
Bla bla bla


Shût dafuq UP!!!

You can say what you like, the only thing saving you is God's grace. The day that grace expires. Your calamity will definitely come.

healthserve:
The Op doesn't understand women. Allow me say what many people won't see here nor understand cause they'll overlook it. The girl knew the Op had a relationship and knew it was a beautiful relationship. She had the sex all along your brother was thinking was free and out of altruistic ideals to kill his relationship/and to reduce the quality of his lovelife with his woman. She was deliverate from the get go who wanted to destroy another person's relationship because she was miserable. Women are their own worst enemies. I feel sorry for the Op causes it seems the secret is desperately trying to jump out of the bag

May God sfae us men from casual sex. Hardly a week goes by without girls offering assumably harmless sex to us . Fog how long shall we keep running. Tell me


Franchasng


Pansophist

Daddytime

Those casual sex they offer are poisoned challice to pervert your destiny, most especially if you have a great God given destiny.

Nothing destroys a man like a cheap available sex easily offered you. Nothing destroys destiny like it.
Many women out there are packaged from the pit of hell. That's why young men have to be very careful.

EmzyT:
Some humans are more Wicked than the Devil himself i swear, What do SOME men really want? See how this one just Lost a Precious Diamond while chasing Stones, Chaii..

As in eh. The guy has set himself backward but he doesn't know it yet.
He may never come across a decent woman again in his life time.
His only savior will be grace and mercy of God.

He sold his birthright for a meal of porridge.
And this is a very big warning to people.
Whenever good thing is coming your way, the devil will bring temptation to make you loose that good thing.
And from his narrative he thinks this is a laughing matter not knowing that forces that fight over our destinies wants to play lottery, baba ijebu, Kalou kalou with his destiny. And he is playing into there hands

His redemption starts with

1.tell your fiance the truth

2.never abort that baby

Every other thing depends on this two outcome on whether God will have mercy on your evil and wicked soul

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Thanks bro for your words of encouragement, you are very right ,I need peace not pressure and I believe that staying away from her will help me getting back on my feet again. Right now the pressure and insults is too much on me and she keeps reminding me about the money calling me stupid in the presence of my children , it hurt so bad

Actually life is teaching you some lesson and revealing to you the reality of life.

You acted foolishly in releasing money to your sister. You were not money wise.
So learn that important lesson.

Secondly it's not a must to look for job, you can learn other kinds of skills that can be giving you money to keep on living

Thirdly you must be strong and tough as a man. You sounded like a sucker/a weak man in women matters that's why you feel the way you are from your wife's treatment. Man be strong. Life is toughning you up.

You have to pick up yourself, get much wiser in life. Be strong. Toughen up Things will definitely turn around. Because only the strong will survive at the end of the struggle. So dont be a wimpy chicken, get up, pick up yourself, it will only get better.

jozee8:
I don't know the kind of technology that was used oo
But if you're are going to accept this then you should have no stress accepting the previous ratings, rankings and indexes

My own is what's really spectacular about this ranking.
The government should grow Nigeria's economy not looking for cheap ranking.
We have a rapidly growing population, universities are churning out graduates at a high rate with millions not sure of job.

The government should focus on the economy. The right things must be done. We have the population, workforce to build a huge thriving economy. Nigeria should by now have been a trillion dollars economy. That should be governments goal, not unnecessary ranking that allows us to teli ourselves lies instead of waking up to the reality facing us as a nation.

Prophet777:
The magnitude of a wedding ceremony does not determine the success of the wedding.

I could remember vividly how colourful was their wedding few years ago...

Yeah I remember. They said he wore a Tom Ford suit. How far now?
I still subscribe to the way of our elders
Simple, Low key, not too much noise.

Kendumazy:
Hmmmmmm. The wedding was better prepared for than the marriage. All the very best to them in their future relationships.

Let's handle your ebay/Amazon orders. Check my signature below for more.

I remembered there wedding with so much pump, class and ephysi. So how far now.

Marriage is so much more
But many people won't understand

bukatyne:
I was shocked a lot of posters think children should share same bed with their parents in a normal marriage.

One thing I have learnt from this forum is that people speak from what they have been exposed to.

A baby is not meant to sleep with adults on same bed. That's why we have baby crib. Children sleep in there own room.
That's how I was raised up.
But majority of those people criticizing the op were exposed to different upbringing. Some were raised in one room.
The man is right to have grievance, his wife doesn't even understand. And if it's not handled well, worse scenario will come up.

TruthSpeaker:
What a mad comment. His wife is struggling really hard to bond with the young kids by insisting they all sleep in the same bed with him? Common sense seems to be evading your brain. It is very wrong for either of the kids to share the same bed with the couple all night. You sound like someone that grew up in a face me, I face you Lagos set up so you probably witness sex at an early age.

Alpha male, real male, true husband to you means a man that sleeps with his wife and 2 children all night in the same bed all year round bah? Your mumuhood nah carry come abeg, I now understand.

What sounds silly is the fact that you are not getting it that those kids have no business sleeping in the bed with their parents.

Poor you, you should rather be recommending both kids get accustomed to sleeping in their bed and cot respectively and in the assigned rooms. 8 years old should sleep in a different room, while the 7 months old should share the same room but not bed (instead remain in the baby cot).

He shouldn’t complain of lack of sex with his wife right, he should rather go get a side chick or hook up with prostitutes bah? He didn’t buy a queen size bed to accommodate the family at night, rather he bought it to enjoy it with his wife. He also spent money buying both a cot and another bed and he doesn’t live in a self contained one room accommodation. What age do you consider to be age of grace? The kids should keep sleeping with the couple till then become adolescents bah?

You are the one that need to earn common sense to get his point of view and understand his wife isn’t handling the issue correctly. The excessive and unnecessary bond she thinks she is building with the children to the detriment of her husband is insane. Kids should not be accustomed to sleeping in the same bed with their parents.

With Indomie brain, how can you identify a real man?


All your trash talk only proves you can’t even effectively take charge of your own home because you fail to ever identify the problems on ground. With ordinary common sense which you lack, you could make life more joyful and happy. Calling his wife to order will resolve the issue.

Step up your brain and avoid insulting someone who only presented his problem and asked for people’s opinion.

Very true only those that grew up in face me I face you have this kind of mentality.
In the home I grew up in babies have there cribs, children have there own room while daddy and mummy have there own room.
Everyone must respect there own space.

ImaIma1:
Let your wife train your baby to sleep in his/her own bed right from the hospital. That's how to nip it in the bud.

I wonder why many people were criticizing and insulting the op. A baby right from time is meant to sleep in his/her crib.
All this sleeping with children isn't right.
Those supporting it are primitive.
Husband and wife must have there time to themselves. Bringing a child into the mix is wrong. children should learn how to stay in there space and be independent.

I personally will not tolerate that. There must be space and it's meant to be respected.

Candiesramah:
It's this your wife that will kill you. It's like once some of you men get married, you trade your sense of reasoning along the way. Just imagine the nonsense you defended. What was wrong in your mum requesting an addition in your wedding guest list? Would that your wife have rejected it if it had come from her mother? She should be happy she got a good mother-in-law willing to make things work out, else, she would have been shown what's like to have issues with mothers-in-law. I don't blame her sha, it's you I blame.

Men the thing tire me. The wife has no reason to disrespect his mother. It's an aberration.
The op allowed it from the beginning, he should have called his wife to order.
Imagine the issue on the wedding.
It's her sons wedding, she has a right for her guests to be on the list.

This issue always arises in today's marriages, but a man is meant to draw line in the sand right from beginning.
It should have been :
Wife never insult, quarell my mom, then mum don't make trouble with my wife, respect her for me. You protect your wife but on no account should she disrespect your mom, then when your mom falls out of line, deal with it not your wife openly showing disdain for your mom.

Shebi you guys have a son now, when the time comes, your sons wife will repay back her attitude. Karma doesn't make mistakes at all

ubunja:
I tell you. He played himself letting the heart control him. Kings and Princes have never married for love. For reasons such as these. Love will fvck your life up.

Harry could have had any nice white girl from England or any nice woman of royal lineage. But what did he choose? A divorced hoe acting on TV doing all manner of shiit. Second hand goods. Leftovers of another man. Smh. And it has cost him a lot.

Another red flag was Megan's bad relationship with her father. MAJOR RED FLAG. Any girl having daddy issues is a No No as a wife. You don't wife up a woman like that.

He was lost since his mother's death. Megan took advantage of that.
I even heard he hates the royal family. He is even rejecting his allowance from the royal family but rather focus on his own personal finance and the fortune/inheritance Diana left for him .

Megan really took advantage of him, he was very vulnerable.

vickydankal:
Your future wife should forever remain grateful to your parent for raising such a gentle man. But that’s the only truth. A wife had the capacity to turn your day upside down your her actions or body language. Treat us well, then we will start preparing your day from 5am if you know what I mean.

We nurture, incubate and multiply. Whatever given to us good, bad and ugly will receive press down, shaking together, running over will be returned to you.

Word dey here!!!!
If you want good, you sow it into your woman. Especially if you have a good woman.

Platini7:
Please check my posts well on this thread. What ended 10 years ago was me commenting and flirting with those girls online. I never said i stopped using the fake account. I changed numerous phones but i still had that account. Actually created many of them in the beggining......but this was the only one i have the password offhead (lost the other accounts when i couldn't remember the passwords). And i signed in to the account as recently as last week. I go there to browse facebook and read news, i don't flirt there anymore. I left those 10 years ago.

Her main annoyance is that she claims that the friend was her best friend. That's why she says she heartbroken

This is what happens when you marry people without deep roots. Something that happened ten years ago and she wants to divorce you.

She doesn't have deep roots. Maybe you married looks, classy etc. Which doesn't sustain marriage.
Deed has already been done. You will have to device a strategy on how to deal with a woman like that. She has a western mindset.
Your only mistake was retaining that facebook account

Toxay:
Please can you explain how your holy generation and our older generation that was raised in the right way has made this country an enviable and good country.

This same generation you are talking about ran this country into penury through alarming corruption and institutional failure but yet our generation that listens to Naira marley is only the corrupt one.


Your post is very irrational and all this disciplinary methods are not effective and are quite useless,all of you guys are a bunch of hypocritical people who criticize some like Naira marley but yet glorify corrupt politicians and businessmen, these are people that actually determine the fate of our country but who cares?


Most of you guys are as corrupt as anyone can be and even the ones who are a little different are too cowardly to protest and stand against the real vices in our society but find it easy to attack people that are already in a negative social outlook such as rappers and celebrities.


I am not a fan of Naira marley but you guys,I mean the older generation are not qualified to criticize any generation.
Just keep quiet and put your heads down

Just look at the tone and how very uncouth your speech. are we quarreling? I just laid my views. Haba
The generation you are talking about is my father's generation, but they are millions of miles better than your generation and are qualified to criticize any generation.

Moreover talking about generation, it's the duty of parents to ensure there children get better. And some parents are doing it right and there children will go on to stand out when there time comes let those emulating naira Marley continue. After all Dangote has a generation he belongs to which some of his mates are touts but he has made something useful out of his life.

WriterX:
i have taught a lot and a cane and flogging are two things i dont do , flogging is for punishing a child not correcting nor making the child understand the need to change.
people quote religious basis for moral upbringing whilst leaving the social basis out of the picture.
they are going to flog the hell out of here and a month, two or three she is going to go back.
sit , take a day off , takd your child out sit and talk with him , tell him about life , the good the bad and the ugly .

sadly most parents think their duties to a child ends at been able to cater for their physical well being alone.

Story the reason we have a very corrupt generation today is because many parents don't flog there children, even in many schools today you dear not flog your students.

I was raised in a generation where my papa, mama, even in school we were thoroughly disciplined and these things ingrained in me discipline and responsibility.

Moreover Parents nowadays are chasing money, they don't stay around there children to monitor, discipline and advice them.

We never see anything, this is just the beginning. But there are parents that are still raising good kids today.

This woman's daughters cause is not yet lost, they can still remove those foolishness from her. Flogging is part of it and then lovingly reaching out to her with the right counsel will help drive the foolishness from her.
In fact in future, the girl will use that template on her kids. It works.

ItooWorWor:
Oga forget that thing, if carry go Mushin you go love Lagos oo!

Jewessgratitude:
Well? Not my fault you could not cope with the high brow axis of Ikoyi. Its not meant for everyone.

Well people have different preferences in life. One can choose peace, serenity over abnormal traffic congestion and stress filled living

tunary:
But lag is very good for business nah as a result of her population

And you think people are not making insane money in other parts of Nigeria?
If you know the kind of money people are making in other cities with less stress and better enjoyment of life.

Jewessgratitude:
You prolly lived in those ajegunle area.
Talking about Ikoyi golden gate area.
Kuramo Lodge Eco hotels Vi
Or is it Amadu bello way, silverbird gallery or Awolowo road Bacchus lounge. Or Kuramo Beach?

I still can not trade any of these for those dull places you mentioned. Ok? Deal with it!

Story and what's so special about those places you mentioned?
Lived in highbrow ikoyi axis for some couple of years before I relocated to Abuja 2 years ago and I am truly enjoying this lovely City. No mad traffic etc.
Can never live in Lagos again.

Moreover even economically, Abuja controls every policy that runs this nation and once you find your way around here you see you have great leverage over Lagos and it's stress related life

Hisduchess:
Yea the world is a global village but the wickedness that people exudes now is just much,just imagine this one now.if you know the background of your would-be spouse it solves 1001 issues concerning marriage. Some of the problems people face generally are oftentimes root related but we keep on shouting love asikwa love asighi. My daddy will often tell I and my sister that if we like we should decide to marry from the end of the world that he must go and ask first about the immediate family of our would-be spouse.that iju ase in igboland for instance shows that background is important in marriage.Love matters but it is very quick to disappear in an unconducive environment. Marry from your village,state or tribe even religion sef it helps solves mall small matters first.i have my values as an Igbo lady and a Yoruba lady or Hausa lady has their own values too and so are the men too.I will align easily with my Igbo in-laws easier than a Yoruba in-laws, there are exceptions anyway shaa.anyway we all have preferences and choices but I just said my mind.

I totally agree with you and your dads views especially the iju ase tradition. It saves a lot of troubles.
This modern generation will be shouting Love but many can't maintain marriages.

The ancient pathways laid out by the elders, are still the safest paths to follow.

Truth370:
What are you going to say about Russian ship supplying fuel to Iran? Can you hide a ship? Abeg reason the USA can only take measure if any of their Allies do business with sanctioned countries. Russia has been the country sustaining Venezuela and China USA can't do nothing other than that. What have the USA done to Turkey for buying weapons from Russia?

How much is this Russian economy you are talking about, ordinary state of California in US has a bigger economy than Russia.
Even Russian dey chop there own sanction. Ordinary UK sanctioned them with all there billionaires that used London as second residence. All of them chop sanction

linearity:
The truth is, any foreign country have the right to sanction another, it is just that US influence is so vast, therefore their sanction hurts more.

By PMB closing our border to Ghana and the other border countries, that is Nigeria sanctioning these countries...By saying Nigeria will not important foreign rice, that is also sanction.

The only thing Nigeria can’t afford to do, bit US does is....if they sanction country A....Country B will cut ties with country A within the letters of that sanction, this way they don’t get monies they actual from such dealings with country A get frozen in US banks and since most international trades are done in dollars, most countries have to fall in line.

This is someone that understands the operations of international trade.