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Emmaculate77:
It is not true that for a man not to have sex for a period of 1 year is a proof that he has a problem.
The same men who got married were once bachelors and some of them abstained from sex due to their belief and moral standards; and this requires a high self discipline. For your husband to be too concerned about his health, hence, refusing to use AC takes discipline and care, and this can be supported by the way he cares for your family; And most likely, he does not seek for sexual pleasure outside. Sex is good in marriage and it helps to bond the relationship, but people have their different ways of expressing love. But if you care much about your sexual satisfaction, I will suggest you guys meet a marriage counselor with a medical experience for for a little education. But on the whole, your husband is just fine.

Emmaculate77 post=84374102[b:
]It is not true that for a man not to have sex for a period of 1 year is a proof that he has a problem.
The same men who got married were once bachelors and some of them abstained from sex due to their belief and moral standards; and this requires a high self discipline. [/b]For your husband to be too concerned about his health, hence, refusing to use AC takes discipline and care, and this can be supported by the way he cares for your family; And most likely, he does not seek for sexual pleasure outside. Sex is good in marriage and it helps to bond the relationship, but people have their different ways of expressing love. But if you care much about your sexual satisfaction, I will suggest you guys meet a marriage counselor with a medical experience for for a little education. But on the whole, your husband is just fine.

dominique:
At least 95% of Nigerian ladies can cook, including slay queens, cooking is not a big deal. Davido chose Chioma because he's attracted to her not because of cooking.

iammo:
You know that this rat race and materialistic chase isnt even giving us true hapiness.. i sometimes wonder what happened to the good old love that doesnt require all this rules and laws.. i mean love that only require honesty

iammo:




Stupidity is when a man is looking at his wife's surname or employment history before marriage


what exactly is happening to this generation


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FreemanTJ:
My gf didnt know about the child until recently, and since that moment we haven't seen each other except talk on the phone. I and my wife didnt live together not just because of distance, it was one of the conditions I gave if I was to marry her. I didnt want to be around her.
Yes i agree my gf was wrong but guess what!!! her actions might be what is making me consider staying in the marriage and yes I did doubt the paternity because a relationship was never established, she was desperate to be married and I thought she was trying to tie me down with it.
It's okay for you to judge me. I agree I've been wrong and will do all in my power to mend my marriage but honestly cant guarantee forever and I have no intention of going back to the gf since she doesn't even want me either. All she ask when we talk if we are working on our marriage. She regrets her actions but according to her she had to do it else she would want to continue with the relationship but after revealing the truth to my wife, it will be impossible for her to continue the rship with me.

boninho:
Firstly, circumstances determine how teams adjust... Liverpool had the luxury to sit back because they already had a 3 goal cushion, it's pointless pressing, attacking knowing the opponents you're playing and you already 3goals up.
Concerning Chelsea, we are talking about Crystal palace, Burnley, Newcastle, Southampton, brighton...these are the past five games....palace, Newcastle and Brighton were played at home, Southampton have been abysmal so far....these are not games to start getting confident going to Etihad...it's good they are winning but come on, most of the opponents are no hopers....I mentioned Sheffield united, Leicester, Liverpool...3 opponents that have started the season well, Chelsea didnt win any...You mentioned Ajax, a team that had scored 4goals already then reduced to 9 men and Chelsea equalized around 70+mins, yet couldn't find one more goal at home for about 20mins left including added time.
Losing at Etihad doesn't mean all the good works done so far has no meaning but believe me Chelsea will be beaten at Etihad after Int'l break

boninho:
Chelsea has improved but they are not going to beat City at Etihad.....City is a different level....Chelsea has stabilized enough to beat the mid table guys sha but don't get excited. The likes of Tomori, Abraham, Mount haven't experienced the kind of pressure City will pose at Etihad....did they beat Sheffield, no...Leicester, no.... Liverpool, no....these are the people that have started excellently this season
City is wounded, they will 100% beat Chelsea after Int'l break...let's not lay too much expectations on Chelsea, they are still growing and evolving

Love892:
story. Everything isnt bible u hear? Faith n work go together.

Tomorrow he will write on nl frontpage my wife isn't respecting me, u will still quote bible

gerizzim:
Thot I was the only one dat captured it

mark2sunny:
This is the time you need God's direction. Maybe God is passing a message to you. Go to a quiet place over the weekend and wait on God. Wait until He speaks to you or give you a leading. Go to a place where you can spend quality time without distraction for 24 hours and beyond. Take what you receive as you final decision.

I know someone who was lead to someone, but because he didn't see so much love and acceptance from this lady from the beginning, he asked God for another person. The second person arrived and it was all fun and sex. She took in and marriage happened in less than 4 months. His wife fought his siblings on the same day they wedded. He went broke and both of them started suffering. Her family couldn't even support. They termed the guy lazy and mean.

He's tried divorcing her but she'll always emotionally hold him down. They have 3 kids so it's even more difficult. She brings him problems every now and then. They don't have peace. Most importantly, she doesn't love God like him.

Good things most times don't seem like it from the beginning. Someone can be nice to you to get you. Most ladies who don't seem to fall at your feet from the get go a great women. They'll spend the rest of their lives proving that to you. Secondly, what gives us peace and blessings don't usually look attractive.

Getting a divorce isn't straight forward when kids are involved. Stop everything now. Better loose your job and disappear for a while than go through with it. You are not very young to be experimenting marriage. Save up the 200k and return it back to her. They can keep whatever they have bought and use it when she finds another man.

A stitch in time saves nine

Obedience is better than sacrifice

You can't give peace in the midst of war

You can't give peace if you lack peace

pcguru1:
That used to elude me honestly, the dumping one I can understand, but yeah na peace of mind sure pass

pcguru1:
Interesting so with all the money, one can still have issues bothering them. I guess money can't buy happiness truly truly

almayda:
I have a trend...people with foresight are taking advantage of the "limited"opportunity that is spriging up left,right and center but people with no sight are busy complaining.I hope it doesn't take the second group eternity to gain sight.

Triniti:
Nigerian husbands needs to start doing more at home, raising kids is not as easy as most people see it. Guys don’t join the bandwagon, engage your wife from time to time and do things that makes them happy, love your wife’s with everything in you, there are many bad women out there, but don’t lump your wife as such when she’s sweating it out everyday in the home front, being the man of the house is not all about providing money. Giving birth and raising kids drains every aspiration and dreams most women had planned for their lives , don’t use your bad experience with slay queens to treat a good woman bad, y’all should try as much as possible to always put smiles in the faces of the mother of your kids

Merimental:
d Jokes on u OGa.

superSport is looking 4 proessional analyst, go n apply wit dis kind analysis.

GOOD LUCK wit d outcome.

YNWA.

PS

ME "hey Ref don't blow d whistle til we equalize n WIN D MATCH"

REF "Yes Boss"

Ynwa

thoollz:
The only person seeing reality. Last season they blew 9pts, this one is just 6pts And people think they're still going to win the trophy? They need to work on their away form. They play poorly away from home.

matkid:
history ko,mistory ni..............baba go sleep

thoollz:
The type that has been following since when Gerrard made the error to cost us the league or last season when we had the opportunity to lift it And we didn't. The season is still young, we'll find out when the season ends.

Angelfrost:
The thing is just tiring, to say the least...

Rubbiish:
O boy!
So going by majority of the comments by women on this thread, it is safe to say it is very risky to go for older women as they maybe willing to do anything just to get married. Hmm

KevinDein:
Sorry ma'am, you made an extremely unintelligent and unwise point. The post was clear. The more worrying thing however is that you are supposed to be some "sort" of a marriage counselor. Genuinely feel sorry for those that come to you for advice. (Just confirms my fears for so called marriage counselors in Nigeria anyways. Always felt they don't know what they are doing )

TooNoisy:
Family section!!! Where do you people even come from?

So now it is okay for a woman to marry a man she doesn't love, then she starts misbehaving after marriage and if the man leaves, the woman can go around town boasting of being married before. What kind of people are you guys?

Do you even know there are kids involved here? What do you take marriage for? A train ride you can boast of when you feel like leaving? Like seriously? What caliber of women are typing this rubbish??

TooNoisy:
Oh no!!! Did you just type the bolded part. Like a wise woman, will tolerate a man that clearly doesn't love or value her, just to get married and hope to revenge after marriage? Like that is what a wise woman would do??

Let me educate you a bit - that is not what a wise woman will do. A wise woman will walk out of the relationship knowing that it will only get worse after marriage.

Please young ladies, you need to know your self worth, you need to value yourself so that men can value you. If you have no self worth, then men will only take advantage of you. There are some ladies that those stupid boys will never approach or try nonsense with - because they know they are women of substance and these women have self esteem. You are also responsible for how you are treated. If the same guy that is treating you like rubbish is probably worshiping another lady - you need to ask yourself why you are being treated that way. It is because he knows you will accept anything!!!

TooNoisy:
Oh how I miss the Nairaland Family section. I read some of these posts and I just wonder how some of the people behind these monikers reason. This is not about supporting whatever a woman does because you are a woman but it's simply about being reasonable.

Please read the bolded again. So, if a man is treating a woman badly in a relationship, to the extent that resentment starts building in and the woman now hates the man, you are proposing that she goes ahead to marry that same man that she hates? Did you marry some you hate? So let me summarise your post:

1. A young lady with a bright future should continue dating a man who obviously doesn't love or value her.
2. It gets so bad that she gets fed-up and begins to resents the man and even hates him
3. So with 1 & 2 above, you propose she goes ahead and tries her best to marry the man because of societal pressure or virginity
4. When she gets married, she now begins to act crazy in revenge

What you typed is a joke. Young ladies, if a man is treating you like trash in a relationship, it wouldn't get better in marriage. Marriage is for a lifetime and you don't want to be unhappy in your marriage. Just walk out of the relationship and you will find a better man. There are good men out there who will surely locate you.

Ximenez:
Exactly what i have been thinking. Maybe it's more of a psychological thing. Same thing happened against Liverpool too, conceding two goals via set pieces. But i believe things will definitely improve once we have more experienced players like Kante and Rudiger back. But i definitely don't envy this Man U team, a team that Lingard, young and Fred and others can get into. The Victory in Paris was even more sweet than this that it earned Ole his contract, i believe he has bought himself some time once again.

Acidosis:
That's why you shouldn't take them and their words seriously. It is better to marry SATAN, than end up with bad in-laws. Take your time to know your in-laws and why they're separated.

Acidosis:
Take the recommendations on the first page from immature boyfriends and girlfriends at your own peril.

Better move on with your life if she's not going to talk or act.


You would be a very stup!d person to marry someone you have little or no information about her background and family.

Marriage is not a joke. Don't open this kind of thread on romance section again.

crackhaus:
You might actually be going about this all wrong, no pun intended.

Shouldn't you be counselling women to grow some cojonés and self-confidence along with a healthy dose of self-esteem, which will stop them from marrying jerks, only to turn around and pay the jerk back after getting married to him?

You're making a case for and glorifying emotional/psychological disorders without knowing it. What else would make a human being choose to stay with another just because they are nursing a plan to hurt them back? This is classic psychopath behavior.

It's like telling a faithful man to forgive and marry his fiancée who has been round the block & back, and when he begins cheating on her after marriage, you probably gonna say 'she had it coming'.
Really?

CHoccolaTE:
Wo, just as there are men that exact revenge on wives during marriage for reasons best known to them there are also women. It goes both ways.

And I insist than many men get conned easily, women are talented manipulators. Even if he leaves her after marriage she won't care cos she can now boast of being married before.