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Family › Re: Husbands, Have You Noticed That Women Change After Wedding? by djon78(m): 2:52pm On Oct 30, 2019

CHoccolaTE:
First of all, forget long story most men are easy to manipulate. Even after due diligence they still get conned.
Secondly, yes you are right marriage is meant to be enjoyed that's why I wish many Nigerians would have sense and stop stigmatizing single women or divorced women and pushing them to stay in unhappy unions.

Yes some get coned but if its the one they can manage they do but if its the one they can't it gets broken.
There are things that can be tolerated but when one enters into ones unbearable, then everyone goes there way.
But its very wrong for one to enter marriage with a revenge mindset, its evil simple.

Single women or divorced women who is pushing them? Its there choice. Everyone have choices. When my sister was having issues with her husband, she wanted to quit, even the guy was tired. But I told them that there issue was redeemable, that they should exercise Patience. They listened and worked on themselves, under one year, everything became lovely again.

But if it wasn't redeemable then she would have quit. It was her call to make. Society will always be society, but ones happiness shouldn't be based on what society thinks.
Each person is meant to be happy and enjoy life.

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Family › Re: Husbands, Have You Noticed That Women Change After Wedding? by djon78(m): 2:07pm On Oct 30, 2019

CHoccolaTE:
Many men are actually in such marriages presently, even the so called observable ones.

Well it is men that didn't do there due diligence search very well, that end up with such type of women.
A well looking man don't end up with such.
And some that made such mistake, if its the one they can manage, they will, but if not. Everybody will answer him papa name.

Na so a distant cousin of mine married such, it didn't last up to 2 years he cancelled the marriage.
He was lucky to later get a good woman. Today they live happily in the US.
Abeg Marriage is meant to be enjoyed.

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Politics › Re: Atiku, PDP Loses Appeal At Supreme Court by djon78(m): 1:55pm On Oct 30, 2019

MobilityExpress:
God will punish anybody that shouts atikulation in 2023

But Buhari contested how many times?
Most of you joined politics in 2015

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Family › Re: Husbands, Have You Noticed That Women Change After Wedding? by djon78(m): 1:40pm On Oct 30, 2019

UjuJoan2:
So you think it's okay for men to treat women anyhow because they are 'offering her marriage' (you know what I mean by that)?

If a man carried the demeanor that he's doing his wife a favor for marrying her, how will the marriage turn out. We heard a man tell something similar to his wife on this forum, and started lamenting when she began to react.

That's why it's best for men not to treat marriage like some sort of prize. I also read on this forum how a man locked his girlfriend outside overnight, just to 'test' if she's a wife material. And when she acted docile and tearful, he praised her for it. Now tell me, what could be more evil than that?

Some women don't care how the marriage turns out. As far as they walk down the aisle even once, they are good.

A woman that allows herself to be treated anyhow is because of the way she kept herself. A woman of worth is valued.
There are quite a lot of women men don't treat like that but with love and care in fact with I beg to marry them.
Like I said wise guys don't near those kind of women na foolish ones does.
And it fits both of them.

Also There are many good marriages out there, its not everyone that's toxic. There are sensible men and women enjoying there marriages. So talking about toxic people is not my prerogative nor my concern.

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Family › Re: Husbands, Have You Noticed That Women Change After Wedding? by djon78(m): 1:23pm On Oct 30, 2019

CHoccolaTE:
In Nigeria being a woman who was married before is better than being old and never married so I don't think the women doing this care about the bolded part.

It's toxicity but toxic marriages are everywhere, Men cheating left and right with impunity and society defending them and claiming it's male nature.

Besides that issue of matreatment during courtship is not the only reason women change after marriage. It's just one of many.

Well she may not care, but the man definitely moves on because its better to move on than to be in Union with such a toxic mind.
Although Wise men avoid such women, its only foolish and unobservable ones that end up with such type.

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Family › Re: Appearances Are Deceptive: Meeting Old Classmate By Ademola Henry Adigun by djon78(m): 12:05pm On Oct 30, 2019

MiniImportation:
Bro you moved me to tears, that's one of the beauty of life, people that are made (I mean Really Made) not the likes of Mompha,Hushpuppy,Bnaira hardly appear Classy , the new money finish quickly while old money endure for ages. Am Humbled and Inspire

Word!!!!
People that show off most times are very empty. While those with real money don't show off.
Anybody that wants to go far in life should be low key

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Family › Re: Husbands, Have You Noticed That Women Change After Wedding? by djon78(m): 11:51am On Oct 30, 2019

CHoccolaTE:
This is a good point please ignore the pin heads critisizing you. Let's be realistic, women are under immense pressure in Nigeria to get married, even when they have not found the person they are compatible with, once they get to a certain age they start hearing insults about their singleness, insults like old cargo, evening newspaper, Shiloh customer, she get bad character that's why she never marry and so on.

These same women desperately bear all manner of rubbish in relationships just to escape pressure and insults and get married. It's not easy for them to just end relationships and go back to searching in old age so she bears crap treatment from the man but then gets married and starts to remember all the maltreatment and starts acting up in marriage.

I don't know of those attacking your post live overseas or if they don't ever leave their houses to know what happens in Nigeria

That's terrible toxicity!!
And then she unleashes it at the man
What if she married a man that doesn't send who has nothing to lose by ending the marriage nko?

Nawa for the way some women reason.
That attitude is not good.
If one carries revenge into marriage, how will that marriage turn out.

Even some men do something similar
But there own is complete emotional withdrawal. They don't send there wife, or even maltreat her.

Those who do these things have a way karma pays them back. Evil no good at all.

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Romance › Re: My Parent are ruining my happiness, won't allow me make my choice by djon78(m): 10:15pm On Oct 28, 2019

Kobicove:
It will do you a lot of good to listen to advise from your parents in this situation

Inter tribal marriages usually come with a lot of challenges

He is claiming love love, until his eyes go clear. Inter tribal marriages can be very challenging.

Politics › Re: Dele Momodu: Bola Tinubu And His Date With Destiny In 2023 by djon78(m): 6:55pm On Oct 26, 2019

Will the establishment be comfortable with Tinubu being President. They were not comfortable with MKO.

Everyone that has ruled Nigeria since 1999 were put there by the establishment without any exception.
There are people that says who rules this Nation, whether we like it or not.

Romance › Re: (Opinion) The Present-day Woman And Her Misplaced Priority In A Marriage. by djon78(m): 3:52pm On Oct 26, 2019

Good topic to debate, critically evaluate and ponder on
Is there really a solution from this post.

Family › Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by djon78(m): 9:56pm On Oct 25, 2019

Miarose:
@djon78,

I think u mean nigerian marriages not modern marriages. Why is childcare a taboo for our men? The benefits are so beneficial to every member of the family. Its a bonding activity for you and your wife and becomes less of a chore for her, you finish earlier with time for yourselves.your kids also bond with you and don't just see you as a provider, everyone is happy. love and marriage is soo easy if we all treat our partners the way we would like to be treated.
These are really the end times..

Like I said, a lot of men don't do domestic duty. They feel that, it brings room for ridicule from there wife or next he turns to erand boy. What most do is they pay for the services of nannies or get one from village. I have sisters married and none of there husbands do that. And all of them are professionals, with good paying jobs.

In fact our first daughter has 2 nannies, and oga pays for there services.

Some men still help, but it depends on the wife's attitude also. Some women will start belittling the man. And moreover most men focus on making money. That's the way they were raised.

But on the other hand, like I said women tend to overlook there husbands. And yes it's prevalent in many marriages.
Couples should support each other, man in easing the home run for the woman through the best way either by hiring nanny or helping out. Woman should have time for the husband, that way the issues are addressed, but if not so, they are opening doors for marital problem.
And this is a major problem in today's marriages. Its not something to hide.

I said modern marriages concerning Nigeria.

Family › Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by djon78(m): 4:58pm On Oct 25, 2019

The main issue is that in modern marriages balance has to be made.
In running the home, a house help or nanny will be needed. Since most men don't do domestic duty, although some do.

But on the other hand its wrong for a woman to neglect a man by giving all attention to the children. This pushes a lot of men into the arms of other women.

Though I am not supporting your husband, but, the truth is that successful marriage is a work. Many couples stop working on there marriage, which is just between the two couples excluding children.
When this is not done, the marriage is already developing crack. That's why many marriages are folding up, you began to question why getting married in the first place.

But there are couples that are still getting it right, having fabulous and wonderful relationships between them, still good friends, and companion. And honestly I believe this should be the goal of every marriage, but if not, then na scam and deception then.

Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 3:58pm On Oct 24, 2019

grandstar:
We lack comparative advantage in rice production.

it's like telling a very fat man to engage in Sprint competition. He can partake but he'll never win.

But use him in shot put and you have a winner.

You're better off importing the things you lack comparative advantage in.

The guy was complaining of high import duty. So actually they import but government charges high import duty to discourage import and encourage local production.

Talking about comparative advantage but we have local producers, how will they be protected. So they should go out of business. All over the world, wise government protect local industries because there success means employment availability and better taxes. So government is very right.

The government has been right in putting high import duty on these imported goods,

These are part of ways that we get to diversify our economy. You build comparative advantage. It doesn't come overnight or just drop from the skies, you work for it, toil for it, sweat for it, to get there so government is right.

Education › Re: My Experience Teaching In Zaria by djon78(m): 9:27pm On Oct 23, 2019

LadySarah:
You need to be saved first.Onye ara!!
You should be Thankful that You are still alive.
You are one of Those giving Igbos a bad name in the north.
ITK

I have never seen such crap
He is even claiming intellectual
Even in the east, you may even be suspended
Teaching small children about gay marriage
Gay nonsense is totally outlawed in Nigeria
He wants to corrupt young minds
Nonsense

Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 5:56pm On Oct 23, 2019

RICHOLAC:
Yes. I also heard Innoson Group and some others have looked in the direction of large Rice production using world class machineries. We will get used to our products over time and just like you said, foreign investors would step in.

See brother mi
Agribusiness is a multi billion dollars business
More lucrative than any other commodities
And it require plenty money
Last year I was in the east for two months
I heard Coscharis invested over 200million dollar's in agriculture
Some couple of weeks ago he commissioned his mill in Anambra
He built mechanized irrigation system

That's the thing with big men
They have eyes for opportunity
They keep on taking advantage
And getting richer
Our population is rapidly expanding
Anyone that keys into agriculture now will rip huge gain in the future
Even me I am setting up investment in agriculture too
Looking for best way to attract funding or giving my partners equity

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 5:43pm On Oct 23, 2019

larryking540:
Bro how much is minimum wage? then ask urself if Wat u just type make sense,,,, keep on deceiving urself that local rice is more nutritional than the foreign rice,,,,

enjoy ur local rice and visit hospital for Appendix check up by January 1st

Lie my Dad eats Abakaliki Rice which is much healthier and nutritious than foreign Rice. Nigerian Rice is much healthier
Ask nutritionists
Most of those foreign Rice are trash nutrition Wise
The foreign Rice that's nutritious are those high end imported Rice they sell in big supermarkets
That's the one many big men buy
Or high end restaurants like some Chinese restaurants also sell those expensive foreign Rice, when you eat those ones your body will even testify that you ate quality healthy food but na money make am
The ordinary man can't afford them

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 5:34pm On Oct 23, 2019

grandstar:
The government is the cause of the smuggling. The import duty is a merciless 60% hence the smuggling.

Yes the import duty should be high
To discourage import and encourage local production
Government is Right

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 5:33pm On Oct 23, 2019

grandstar:
The government is the cause of the smuggling. The import duty is a merciless 60% hence the smuggling.

Yes the import duty should be high
To discourage import and encourage local production

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 5:30pm On Oct 23, 2019

RTSC:
If all those Rice was produced in Nigeria.
Imagine the money that would flow to the people.

So many countries are eating from our foolishness.

No more.

You get the drift
This is the major reason for underdevelopment and poverty in Africa
We use our scarce foreign earnings to enrich other countries

Do they know how much dollars CBN uses weekly to maintain Naira rate stability
If Naira is not defended
It will lose value
Because we are an importing Nation, importing almost everything Nigerian importers will be seeking dollars to buy goods at the international markets
To get dollars they exchange it with Naira
And because Naira is chasing the dollar. It depreciates

In addition our borders are too porous due to land connection
Benin republic then imports through there ocean and smuggle into Nigeria
Which is double wickedness
Even government loose revenue on top

Government should keep the closure till indefinite simple
Its total bleed for the economy
Until our neighbours go get sense.

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 5:14pm On Oct 23, 2019

Ishilove:
By buying local rice at 18,000?

The price will definitely go up before it stabilizes.
It is expected
Demand and supply at work here

When gsm started in Nigeria
Lines were expensive
But when glo came in, they crashed the price,
Competition will crash the price

See ishi I have criticized this government
But on this one they got it right

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 4:12pm On Oct 23, 2019

RICHOLAC:
How i so wished that we could look deep into our local contents and give them a face lift. We have all it takes to leverage on this recent turnout: minister of Agriculture should take action and get better Rice seeds for our farmers, local farmers at all levels should be encouraged with enough finance massively and also monitored to ensure proper utilisation of this fund. Nigeria should'nt just be best known on only religous matters, we can up our game as a nation if we really want_ God bless Nigeria.

Actually this border closure will create demand for local Rice
The demand will attract more investor's
Plenty producers will have to innovate and improve on there Rice quality and pricing to attract customers

The consumers are better off

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 3:55pm On Oct 23, 2019

odave:
No one is disputing that fact. What I mean is the Nigerian comsumers. The government did the right but it's hitting hard on us consumers too. No need to pretend here. I will miss those rice

Start training your taste buds to made in Nigeria rice then.

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Politics › Re: Nigeria’s Border Closure Hits Hard On India, Thailand Others by djon78(m): 3:52pm On Oct 23, 2019

Na only people only people that doesn't understand global business that will be criticising this border closure.

Buhari got it right.
Honestly its good to be a strong and tough leader
Let's start focusing on made in Nigeria products
It will attract many players
Competition will cause indigenous companies to innovate and improve
Improved products can compete in international markets
We export
Gets better for Nigeria

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Family › Re: Sometimes I Regret Marrying My Wife by djon78(m): 2:47pm On Oct 23, 2019

Dpharisee:
I did the same thing, called her family that I was sending her back. They called her and I gave them my condition for continuing with the marriage and the consequences of violating the terms of the agreement, now she control her emotions better.
I even went to court to start divorce proceedings but stopped midway.
I was like a sissy in the marriage for long until I woke up one day and decided to take full control of my house.

Her family were shocked by my sudden change, she attacked me and I gave her serious 'controlled' beating, by controlled beating I mean she pushed me to the wall but physically I was very angry and vibrating but in my heart I was loving her but had to show her my strength as a man and to let her understand how it felt inflicting harm on our maids.
Never beat a woman, but if it's the last option only do it when you are not reacting in anger but pretending to be angry.
She tried to blackmail me into apologizing but I never did, for sometime now she has been abiding by the tenets of the agreement and I try to encourage her, watch her mood changes and how to keep it in check, it has not been easy but it's better now.

Honestly they can be ogbanje!!!
But a man must be in total control right from beginning

Women don't do this with werey type of men
They only do this to simp and weak men

So men don't be a simp
Right from beginning let her know you be werey
If she try anyhow
She go see anyhow
And you won't see the kind of nonsense op was going through
Never let love block your brain

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Politics › Re: Fashola: Stop Praying All The Time, Get To Work by djon78(m): 6:08pm On Oct 22, 2019

mrvitalis:
We have all the condition that breeds innovation ...which is problems what else do u need u want to be innovation when u are relaxed ?

Necessity is the mother of inventions

First of all quality education goes a long way in creating the mindset for innovation.
Nigeria's quality of education doesn't breed those kind of mindset

You were talking being an employer of labour
Its not about being relaxed
It starts from a mindset

You talked about problems
All the problems bedeviling this Nation which tangible solutions have been created?
Give me examples of solutions created
I mentioned basic electricity
Or basic refinery and petroleum problem that even backward Nations have solved
And you are talking of being relaxed

Politics › Re: Fashola: Stop Praying All The Time, Get To Work by djon78(m): 5:49pm On Oct 22, 2019

mrvitalis:
Problem creates innovation for those who are smart enough

With the problems that abound in Nigeria of the average Nigerian is innovative u would know

We have few innovative people ...Nigerians are good at doing what they are told to do ...nothing more

If u are an employer of labour u would know this

Nigerians are innovative
When exposed to the factor conditions that will breed innovation
That's why they do well in developed advanced countries where the tools are available
But here, the environment is programmed to kill innovation

Romance › Re: Met In University Of Abuja: Pre-wedding Shoot Will Melt Your Heart Today by djon78(m): 5:40pm On Oct 22, 2019

PheelzAlmighty:
Honestly, it's not about the money. I just don't see how it makes the marriage work or help the bonding

You are right bro with your submission
It adds no iota of value to the marriage.
Most times its to please women
They are the ones that always want it

Politics › Re: Fashola: Stop Praying All The Time, Get To Work by djon78(m): 5:30pm On Oct 22, 2019

mrvitalis:
When they say Nigerians are lazy we mean intellectually lazy ...they work hard not smart

This is 2019 smart rules

And does the system create avenue for creativity, innovation and outside the box system.

If you don't know, present day Nigeria is at the level of development the developed world were in the early 1990s. When ordinary basic electricity we can't have basic steady light when other developing Nations have 100s of thousands of megawatts generation of power.

Politics › Re: Fashola: Stop Praying All The Time, Get To Work by djon78(m): 5:24pm On Oct 22, 2019

Karleb:
How about we stop praying and start working?

Where is the work?
Have you not heard latest data, Nigeria has 25million jobless citizens. These are those that willingly want to work but no job.
.
So where is the job?

Family › Re: My Wife Said I Want To Kill Her With House Cleaning Task by djon78(m): 5:19pm On Oct 22, 2019

Many men ain't domesticated
That's the major problem
You can't keep your house clean
And you come online to make noise

Keeping ones home clean shouldn't be left to spouse no matter what.
On top you no get money to hire a cleaner
And you want to suffer a pregnant woman

There's nothing you can do except to clean your home during weekend when free
Since you don't have money to hire a cleaner

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Politics › Re: Fashola: Stop Praying All The Time, Get To Work by djon78(m): 4:53pm On Oct 22, 2019

fowlyansh181:
nigerians emphasizes a lot on prayer and leaves work.

A very big fat lie. Expose the same Nigerians to US, UK, Canada etc and you see them work there socks off

The main problem is that government are not helping at all. Politicians have failed us. Where is the work?
Over 25million Nigerians are jobless. They want job but none.

I

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Romance › Re: Kenyans Rent Out Their Wives To Tourists Because Of Hard Times by djon78(m): 5:15pm On Oct 21, 2019

jamesversion:
True, I haven't travelled wide. But I ain't trading a beautiful white woman for a beautiful black woman. Not on this earth.

NB: I neva knew Lupita Nyongo won Oscar because of her beauty, tut it was due to her acting performance. Wat do I know sef.

Not attracted to white women at all, black is so beautiful to me. So to each man his own. But Hollywood praised lupita for her unique black beauty and color.

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