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Brown2Green:
How long did it take you to pack your ass together? 2 hours?

Most of the companies shaking the world are privately owned. Not setup by the government.
But how would you know?

Where you work that is if you are in employment is likely owned by a person and not the government.

Monies put in setting up unnecessary structures can be used in setting up companies and lives would be impacted positively. If you don't get this don't quote me again.

When I say you don't understand what you are on about.


Government creates the enabling environment, then individuals and companies build on that platform created.

What leads to development;

Availability of infrastructures like power, roads

Sound education to produce highly skilled workforce

Companies. Now leverage on infrastructures and pool of highly educated skilled workforce to create goods and services and continuously involved in Research and development to steadily push out new products to satisfy the markets.

Eg Google was a Post graduate thesis by Lary Page and his friend while studying for there post graduate decree in Stanford university

Yahoo was a PhD thesis by Jerry Yang while undergoing his postgraduate

Facebook was a discovery by a Harvard undergraduate called Mark zuckerberg. And very many other examples.


In Nigeria

Infrastructures; dilapidated, no new ones

Education; half baked degrees that can't generate the thought processes for development

Companies looking for quick fix because of government failing in its duties.


Caveat; If you fail to plan you have planned to fail. Nigeria failed to plan in the 70, 80s, and 90s when the population was smaller, now we are 200million and reaping what was sown in the past decades

Future warnings; analysts projects that Nigeria's population of 200million will double in the next 15 to 20 years. Nigeria that can't cater for 200million people presently, how will she cater for 400million people in the coming decades?


These is the future dangers facing this Nation.
But we have a very docile leadership hiding her head in the sand.
Better tell those in leadership positions to wake up to danger ahead instead of coming online to be calling church

Brown2Green:
How long did it take you to pack your ass together? 2 hours?

Most of the companies shaking the world are privately owned. Not setup by the government.
But how would you know?

Where you work that is if you are in employment is likely owned by a person and not the government.

Monies put in setting up unnecessary structures can be used in setting up companies and lives would be impacted positively. If you don't get this don't quote me again.

When I say you don't understand what you are on about.


Government creates the enabling environment, then individuals and companies build on that platform created.

What leads to development;

Availability of infrastructures like power, roads

Sound education to produce highly skilled workforce

Companies. Now leverage on infrastructures and pool of highly educated skilled workforce to create goods and services and continuously involved in Research and development to steadily push out new products to satisfy the markets.

Eg Google was a Post graduate thesis by Lary Page and his friend while studying for there post graduate decree in Stanford university

Yahoo was a PhD thesis by Jerry Yang while undergoing his postgraduate

Facebook was a discovery by a Harvard undergraduate called Mark zuckerberg. And very many other examples.


In Nigeria

Infrastructures; dilapidated, no new ones

Education; half baked degrees that can't generate the thought processes for development

Companies looking for quick fix because of government failing in its duties.


If you fail to plan you have planned to fail

Brown2Green:
Lol

The church doesn't have any role to play in national development you mean?
Go and do the dishes.

I will say it again your insinuation has no meaning.
Is it the church that sets the agenda for national development?

Then what is the role of government?
If government fails to set the pathway, you now call the church.

Go and check other developed Nations and see the way they developed.
Your argument is intellectually inferior and impotent. Its more like a mediocre dabbling into what he has no clue about.

So enough of me talking over this, before someone infects me with ignorance

Brown2Green:
I will have time to talk about the government another day. But for today, I am interested in talking about what religion has caused us.
It has caused more harm than good.

Religion is an hypocritical practice.. Everyone does what benefits them.

Talking about Christianity, the Missionaries brought it to Nigeria from the US, UK especially. They taught is one thing and we're now practicing another.
They displayed what can only be regarded as selflessness as Jesus and his disciples did. They left their high estate to come over to our Mosquito infested clime so we could be 'enlightened'.

The worst mistake anyone would ever make is make that annoying statement of ' the Church is not to be blame, or leave the church our of this'

The church has a huge share of blame.

A country that has more churches than companies has failed.
Even the bible says 'Faith without Work is Dead'

Oga go and pour your frustrations somewhere else. What you are insinuating holds no meaning.

Is the Church the reason Nigeria is not developed?

Capital no
So I can't get you.

anochuko01:
yeah he was. But i heard he ended up marrying a witch

Yeah he was destroyed by a bad wife

Brown2Green:
Ignorance just keeps looming over the head of Nigerians. Nonsense.

Japan doesn't pray
China doesn't pray

As well as other 1st generation countries.

In Nigeria,
We pray for food
We pray for job
We part for light
We pray for welfare

Now we have more churches than companies because church is the new MMB( Money Making Business)

What other way can pastors get such monies than through leveraging on the stupidity( conscious ignorance) of it's congregation?

But doesn't stop you from development.
Make you leave the Church alone.
If you want to develop, you will develop
It has nothing to do with Church
That you didn't develop
Is because you made the choice
So leave Church alone

missimelda01:
Hard men? lol
They can only scare foolish women. I can't be in a marriage where I fear my husband instead of respect him, and you don't gain respect by being hard

No problem, until you marry
We go see how far

missimelda01:
I hate insecure men Kai! Any small thing you feel like the women wants to overthrow you. I pray you find the woman who you can prove your masculine power to. I hope when you start begging her in the other room, you'd be bold enough to tell us.

There are many guys that really are like the guy you quoted. There wives cannot play those kind of nonsense play with them. Beg there wife for sex? Impossible

And I believe na hand wey man give woman.
When you show woman you like am too much, when a man is not firm, this kind of things does happen

But not for hard men

Goallllll!!!!!

Up Liverpool

From a Chelsea fan!!!!

I wonder how people were saying Tottenham when Liverpool played last year finals!!!

Up klop

I am so happy for them

VillagePipu:
This is why I said you should travel wide but na only Korea, Singapore and Taiwan you sabi.

In 2005, there was an earthquake in China. Before that time, there were series of tsunamis in Asia. That was America testing secret weapons that trigger seismic reaction and cause natural disasters. Go find out how many Chinese died that time. China is still far far behind, only ignorant people overestimate Chinese tech.

You are sitting in one shop in China saying Chinese youth are better than American youths. No wahala, you are correct sir.

Oh is that what your American education taught you? You are really ignorant

Go and read your secondary school geography!!
China and most Asian countries are sitting where earth template cross each other, called
Pacific ring of fire, which makes them prone to earthquake.
From Japan to Indonesia, to China to Philippines.

Don't come online and be spreading falsehood

nabiz:
Nigeria was bought by the British on the aggreement that at it expiration the foooolanis will take it. The contract expired some years ago and has now be taking over by the foooolanis. That is why one Aboki from the north will bold tell you that the oil in bagels belongs to the north

But southern Nigeria are the ones aiding and abetting many things going wrong due to serious division among its tribes. So the North always wins by the division, and from what I see, it is still so. And will continue like that.
The North will continue to bear rule and determine Nigeria's direction decades to come.

UKBobo:
99.99 of ni55ers will not spend the time to digest this magnificent opus. They will rather shaku their brain cells

Do they read?
Do they think?
Capital no!!!

The truth is that these lots will continue to be subservient for many years to come. Because they don't use there brains.
And politicians will continue to enslave and manipulate them because they are irredeemable.
Only God s help is there only hope

They think its all about wearing expensive suits, shoes and speaking Queen's English.
Majority of those guys are scammers.
They add no iota of value to there companies or to the economy.
No wonder they always hang around those in the corridors of power.

That's why I weep for this Nation.

bukatyne:
I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

Here comes a very wise woman that truly understands life. Not the other rubbish i was reading since. E go better for you!!!

Bossjakande:
DAT how most of u loose ur husband to younger girls who are ready to give d man wat he wants.as married woman why deny ur hubby sex.sex is food DAT keep a marriage going

Don't mind her
That's why our grand parents married more than one wives. How can a woman be making that kind of nonsense statement.
Regular sex is a legal right for a married woman to her husband.

UjuJoan2:
Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

What are you on about?
This is a married man you are talking to
He has every right to regular sex from his wife
It is her duty to do so
A woman manipulating her husband for sex is evil.

AmazonTopaz:
Story people have been interpreting your bible to suit their narratives since time Immemorial it is nothing new.
Every place has issues and problems but the one in Africa and the middleast is worse.

That is what the media has brainwashed you to believe. Those societies are not Eldorado
There are a lot of issues wrong with them.
Our major issue is bad and vision less leadership. And nothing more
Those societies are not even better than ours

AmazonTopaz:
Mutuality is subjective so you cannot authoritatively say same sex marriage is bad or don't you know some Christians support same sex unions?

Does the Bible affirm to same sex marriage?
Is is in line with the laws of God or even basic humanity.

These are the pointers to the things that show that human disintegration is at hand.
Even in Western societies you are pointing to, there are so many anomalies with it.
It is not Eldorado like some of you claim it to be. Those places are bedeviled with numerous issues
Decades to come we will see the results of all these things

AmazonTopaz:
So before religion came in how were the people of early times faring?
You do know that in some religions child marriage is moral,killing of twins is moral? Moral to convert your enemies wife, waging war and bloodshed is moral and so on.
Oga religion and morality are two different things your brain should be the one to code. Your humanity is the decider of that.

Like the humanists that condone same sex marriage abi?

femi4:
14 But when I saw that they were not really obeying the truth that is in the good news, I corrected Peter in front of everyone

In front of his fellow brethren and body of believers not in front of the whole Roman empire. Peter was trying to segregate from gentile believers and Paul corrected him before everyone.

Not social media, before people who have no regard or respect for God

sweetrace:
And the above is one of the problems with today’s Christianity. Greater works than Jesus is what Christians are called to. Paul was a Christian that was totally committed. The same level of commitment you’ve been called to.

I am telling you of a man that was a phenomenon
A man who lived almost 2000years ago and is still influencing our world very well till today.
How many of today's Christians can suffer half of what that man went for the Gospel
And it still didn't deter him

Today everything is bread and butter Christianity
Ability to influence even one generation no be beans talk less of generations upon generations

Apina:
Shut the fvck up! There's nothing Godly about a serial molester

There is nothing godly about someone that uses f word. F word and God don't go together

femi4:
If your sister or someone close to you is involve, you won't spit that nonsense

Like I stated, if the case is true
Then the law should be brought hard against him.
Those that were molested should bring it to the law.
But Coming to social media is a no no

femi4:
you just did with your last post

I never in anyway condoned sin, I just stated the way Timi was going about it.

sweetrace:
Who ordained Paul in the Bible? Who trained him? Which theological school did he attend?

You want to compare Paul?
A man who lived almost 2000years ago, whose teachings are still guiding the church 2000 years later today.
Many Evangelical churches in North America, South America, Africa, Asia Pacific, Australia, New Zealand today are completely guided by teachings of St Paul
St Paul was a man beyond phenomenon.

NEIGHBOUR:
You are killing Jesus the second time with ur comments sir. Who will repair the several homes and hearts this pastor has broken? His story is everywhere. Goggle is ur friend.

If he did anything, there are ways to go about it.
Even if he molested people, then the law should be brought hard against him.

But for Timi, he is exposing himself to things beyond him. Shey Timi has children?
He should be very careful.
What of tomorrow, you begin to see the things
You condemned people about
Your own children exhibiting same.

I have seen men who condemned and judged people, only for there children to do worst things.
That's why I said he should be very careful.

femi4:
Na dem

Yes I am them
I am a Christian, a born, saved and sanctified by the blood of Jesus.

I don't condone sin. But from the kingdom I represent, we have our ways of doing things

Timi has to be very very careful
Even if the pastor did anything
Coming at it is not wise

Why I am saying so is because
Judging as a human being is seriously on the wrong side.
If you had evidence
Report him to higher spiritual authority


Why judging other people is very bad is because in judging other people we feel that we are perfect, that we can never do that same thing
But this is very wrong
That thing you are accusing someone of you can seriously fall into that same trap
As long as you are in the flesh
The only thing that keeps one from sinning is the Grace of God, because in our own power we are no match to sin
That's why apostle Paul said in his writing in

Galatians 6 King James Version (KJV)
6 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.


There must be meekness about calling out a brother. Follow other channels, meet Christian superiors that can call him to order.
But coming online is wrong.

linked:
Seeing many of the comments on this thread makes me shake my head. I mean, where are our manners and morals. It is sickening that many of the girls of this generation were raised by mothers who aren't good role models themselves, who lack good manners themselves and who left the training of their daughters to chance. So what we have are young girls who lack basic courtesy, common sense and are utterly self-centered. Many girls need training in human relations, cultural values, and etiquette. However only few would realize that they are a product of a failed home and work on themselves to become better persons for their own good and for the good of humanity at large.

The lady of discuss lacks common sense. Why not preempt your mother-in-law by just requesting to help. Say something like " ah mummy! let me help you sweep na?" There is a 99 percent chance that the mother-in-law would have declined her request. She will have most likely said "thank you, my daughter! you are our guest for today just relax". Case closed! She then maintains a good relationship with her in-laws and they see her in good light. This more productive approach would have made more sense. She would have shown her foresight, wisdom and good sense!

Why do you think many modern marriages are falling apart anyhow? Because majority of today's women have a lot of character deficiency. Any man must look very well before choosing a wife. Many character wise are nothing to write home about.

guru03:
I just remember a personal experience, I took my girlfriend to our house while I was cooking she was relaxing in my room and my dad was aware, chain my Dad was mad that day?

My girl i was planning to marry slept over in my parents house, she was served food, when she finished, she didn't remove plate, in the morning woke up did nothing.

My parents never ever agreed for me to marry her, they said she wasn't raised well.
And I warned her to behave herself, but she said she no send.

You may say that the elders are overbearing, but they are right. We have so many women today who say they no send, but if you look deeper you will see serious character deficiency.

Men umunwoke!!

Especially a man with money is hard to stick to one woman. It requires serious discipline.
If not, it will be coded runs until you are busted.
God help us,

DukeofNZ:
some of una de like yarn trash. dem never tell you say na only woman wey believe in her husband and marriage de return in multiple folds any good thing wey her husband do foram. from wetin de man talk here so, you supposed to see say her woman no too believe in her marriage again, so unless she makes up her mind to make things better nothing good wey de husband do now she go return not to talk of returning in multiple folds .

I was replying to the guy that was complaining whether it was only woman requires attention.
My reference was not to the op.


As for this story the man highlighted the origin of the whole issue which is; working his ass off which means having less time for his woman. And this particular issue is one of the reasons why many Unions are having problems today.
It is a know fact that average woman like attention just like an average man like sex. Women can go to any length to get this attention. Many women have affair not even because of sex but because of the desire for attention. And bad guys out there understand it and bed ignorant men's wives, because of having that understanding of what women want.