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This is the scariest thing I've heard this year

Tired01100534:
i can’t moreover who will I be discussing all these things with?
I hate gossip that’s why I’m pained right now

I got nothing for ya then! Jst ignore her

I'm here waiting for the money to return.

KiNg0G:
I have peace, just so sad your parents, especially your mother didn't teach you the true africa culture.

coming here to spit trash,


Even a new born baby in the different village in nigeria knows the HEAD OF FISH OR BUSH MEAT IS FOR THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE.

except he gives a permission to someone to eat it, it could be his sons.

this is how our africa culture gets lost.

what a shame.

Wow. OK... thanks

KiNg0G:
you are from the swamp then, REAL AFRICAN CULTURES DON'T DO THINGS LIKE THIS...or better go ask your father.

I personally don't like head of fish, to avoid stuffs like this we don't use it to cook the soup...we throw it away.


because I can't be there and she be eating the head, it's an ABOMINATION.

How has my simple comment invoked insults from you?

May you find peace.

In my culture it is an offense to serve your husband the head of any animal. The head is eaten by old women because they enjoy it, and the poor because they can only afford it. Men get the big meat such as the leg etc. While I was reading this I was disgusted lol. I learnt a lot from you op... thanks

bepositive11:
With comments like these, I wonder who is more toxic — Nigerian men or Nigerian women?

All you toxic Nigerian men and women deserve each other. I'm so tired of reading all this rubbish

So because you don't want to be with an unemployed woman, you'll just use her and dump her? With no regard for the damage you'll cause her?

Which working class lady in her right mind will date a human being like you??

I wonder how people have become so toxic!!

Nairaland is the home of depressed, oppressed, and frustrated people. People don't even need data to login and pour out their frustration. It's a therapy session everyday on here, and when they finally heal, they deactivate and create a new moniker. Rinse and repeat

Times have changed lol!

Girls use to look for a tall, dark, handsome and rich men.

Now boys are looking for young, beautiful, and rich women.

It's the same confusion and reality will teach you that it doesn't work like that for All.

Those girls settled for short, ugly and rich men or tall, handsome, and broke men. The same fate awaits these new age boys

You shouldn't hijack other people's day...

Because these women want to leave and want him to cover her lawyer's bill too lol! They want takeaway too, a house and an allowance all coming out of these men's pockets. I'm just assuming though

Small brats on the loose

Flahyuq:
U gerrit Comrade

"They don't have money"

You could just stop there. No need for the rest because she doesn't even have the thing he is looking for.

Flahyuq:
How can someone be so daft??
For God sake,How??
Okay while coming back home tonight,i bought 8 pieces of egg,I told my girl that came to spend d weekend with me to fry 4 eggs for dinner and boil 4 for breakfast tomorrow
Now she has boiled d ones i told her to fry and fried d ones i told her to boil


I'm tired
I'm calling off d relationship tonight

You did well... let her think about her actions and then call her on Wednesday to apologise and make up

Starere:
he’s just a year older than I am. Omo, you really understand me, you’ve said everything on my mind, this is exactly my worry. My clock ticks, I’m having serious cold feet because of that. I am so scared. Since I’ve been with him I’ve never given a chance to other guys, I don’t even want to think about being with other guys because it’ll break him and I love him too much to do that to him. I’m just caught in a “God help” situation. I really love this guy, I can’t imagine giving a chance or to be with someone else

If you genuinely love your boyfriend and you are certain that you guys will get married then you should wait for him. It will take time for you to find a man who you'll get to know and love (another 2 years) unless you marry the first available man (who you won't know or love but because you want to be married)

You're 24 and you're clock is a nowhere near ticking anything. You could give yourself and your relationship 4 years to run it's course. You should find a job and settle into your career path and then when you're 28 you'll be an asset in your relationship.

You should learn from other people's mistakes, here on nl you'll see threads where women got married for the sake of getting married, and after some kids their husband is cheating, and acting up, and they're stuck because they didn't invest in themselves.

You will see these same people who are watching your clock ask you "why didn't you work, why won't you an asset blah blah."

If you want to be with someone else all together and you don't see a future with your current boyfriend, then break it off and go out there and look. Reality is you could be looking for the next 2/3 years if you're looking for love and not just the "Mrs" title.

If you want to play the field and have some freedom and exercise your hoe phase then own it and do that but don't confuse yourself.

Senomii:
And why is it paining you, maybe I'd eventually suck ur husband's or son's dick
Next time no quote me cap nonsense

Lol. I'm glad you're comfortable with your agenda. We don't need to fight though there's enough men in the world for both of us

Senomii:
Crazy mad women everywhere you go, no wonder all our brothers are getting frustrated and turning gay, if I unfortunately lose my mind cos of these lunatics, maybe I'll also vex and turn gay

Lol. If you want to suck D then do it... you don't need to explain yourself

After I washed, iron my outfit, creamed my body, sprayed perfume, got dressed

It's a hard pass for me!

A lame red pillar in the wild

Does that mean you've never had a committed relationship?

Plot twist: Op is incapable of fathering a child and this boy is not his son

If she couldn't clean her environment for herself then she won't do it for your sake. People show you who they are and it's your job to believe them.

She is comfortable in a dirty environment, she'll pretend for you for a year, then she'll become comfortable, so could you live in a dirty house?. Now imagine 2 or 3 kids in the mix, and decide for yourself if you can live with that.

Her husband felt embarrassed when she told him he's on live... he shared an intimate moment and showed his vulnerability and when she told him he's on live, you see his emotions change. She ruined the moment by recording it and forming savior wife! Not impressive at all!

Lostchild:
If western women is as cold hearted as Nigeria women, then all yahoo boyz will go broke. In fact, yahoo business would have been null

Lol. So you guys would defraud and rob "warm hearted women" no wonder your women are cold hearted since they have to deal with you guys. Look at the example you gave on the fate of being warm hearted to a Nigerian man, he'll rob and defraud you!

So many words but not 1 original thought, and I haven't learnt anything new. Because you can write doesn't necessarily make you a writer.

Some people are in refugee camps, starving, some have lost everything in fires and floods but they don't take their own lives, instead they are fighting to live. Suicide isn't linked to lack or struggles but a mental health problem.

This woman has really tried for her kids. Don't block him just give him your response and keep it moving. I say don't block because he might bring a better offer to the table when you reject this one. Keep all doors open because you don't know what God has in store for you.

I don't think you have any evidence that your husband is cheating. I do think that you have checked out of this marriage and you've been looking for any excuse to leave and this woman he took on at work is the perfect excuse.

The reason your husband won't give you an explanation might be because he knows this too and he is giving you your excuse to leave.

You seem like the type of woman who uses the fact that her husband single handedly provides her every need as *He controls everything* and if he didn't pay all her bills then he would be an irresponsible husband. The man can't win!

You could ask yourself did you ever love this man or was he just a good meal ticket?

Since you're ready to fend for yourself and I'm sure you've romanticized the whole process but reality might check you. You already know what to do to survive so do those things (learn to drive, find a job, exercise and reflect)

I would say you gotta do some deep reflection. You've covered his faults but now it's time to reflect on the only faults that matters to you and that's your own fault.

Start a journal and be honest with yourself. After every pity party you have, reflect on your contribution and take away the valuable lessons.



Be ready for any curveball that might come. Set boundaries and co parent in a healthy environment. Protect your children's mental health.

I wish you all the best.

You slept with the woman who took her ex. The same woman has now slept with her current man and you think she'll thank you