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patrick49000:
what do u mean?

You're too old for ALL of this

This person is 3 years short of 50! Imagine that, 50!

You didn't want to be rude but he was rude to you so next time meet his energy and ignore him. He's trying to lower your self esteem and make you feel like crap, don't let him. Treat him like you don't know if he even exists from now on.

Mindlog:
See attached.

You learn something new everyday... thanks

Mindlog:
His paraphilia is exhibitionism, his "high" was from the shock you experienced.

Ewww, exhibitionist? I didn't even think of that

I was talking this guy who knew I had a husband and kids. He kept bothering me but under the guise of friendship. So, I thought let me just kill time on him while at home alone with a new born.

One day we were chatting on video and this idiot just wiped out his junk. He saw the shock on my face, and he tried to gaslight me that it was normal, and mid speech with his thing out, spitting grammar to justify his actions, I just hung up and put the fool on block.

We met on a group chat and on there he acts like some responsible man. Some people are just shameful.

That child really vex me! Damn, she's lucky I'm not her mother because I'd beat that evil out of her

Premiumwriter:
taking all the worst possible case scenario just to make a point.

Quite pathetic.

She has not even proven if gambling was an addiction for the man and she's already calling it quit.

Lol. So, when the rule is reversed it's worse possible case. She didn't have to prove anything to you. She made it clear that he spends all his wages on betting. They had a plan to save money and he had nothing to show for it. Nothing saved and no wages because he gambled everything. But of course you have to find a way to blame the woman no matter what.

So, can you handle an alcoholic for a wife? Will you be strong and pray for her? Will you counsel her and support her to overcome her addiction?

Bunch of hypocrites

Your "girlfriend" is a yahoo prostitute
She is a fraudstar, she created competition and offered it to you at a giveaway price

Find your self respect young man and walk away now.

Lol. A simple, "I'm sorry" would have saved you unemployment in this buhari economy
I hope you're from a comfortable home because you obviously think very highly of yourself. Best of luck

Premiumwriter:
you talk too much trash.

First, no one is saying the woman should fix the man.

We are saying she should take his bullsh*t.

She got married and expected everything to be perfect.

The moment a single thing went wrong, she's already on her heels looking for a way out.

Seriously, if there's anyone who needs fixing, it should be the girl.

You found out your husband of barely 5 month is having a habit and instead of confronting him or discussing with him, you would rather take the cowards way out?

Who does that?

And here you are taking all the contributions of the thread out of context to prove a nonexistent silly point.

If your wife of 3 months finally showed you her alcohol addiction, and she is an embarrassing drunk, she abuses your neighbors, doesn't cook, or clean because of this addiction, and steals your peace. You are depressed, embarrassed, and stressed everyday. You go to work and return home to cook and clean and look after your small child while she is sleeping after drinking herself to a stupor. You have begged, pleaded, nagged, and she won't change.

Would you take her bullshit?

You guys act like peace at home is only for husbands and wives must suffer in order to be called good and virtuous wives. It's the double standards that's annoying asf!

I really hope you understand and take responsibility for all these really BAD financial decisions you made that got you to this point. You don't get to feel sorry for yourself and contemplate su*c*de. You bought innocent children into this world and you can NEVER abandon them in such a traumatic fashion. I wish you all the best with a new job. What have you been doing for the last 16 months? I really hope you won't just sitting at home and applying for jobs and just waiting?

Congratulations mama! God bless your new journey...

We can clearly conclude that this man was shot, who shot him is speculations. I refuse to FEED into the propaganda like I did in the war against Sadam Hussain and his "WEAPONS OF MASS DESTRUCTION"

Olaideolayemi:
This is a bad thought, marriage is an institution,where many problems, chanllenges arise, because he's a gambler now,you want to leave him.. It's very painful,You peoples doesn't like to face problem,all you want is sweet.. You better think we'll.. because to me is betrayer..when you do your marriage, you no say better or worst?Nawaa oooo..

Would you take your own advice if you were in the same predicament? Better and worse is through hardship that life throws at you and not hardship that your partner brings.

People with addictions are very hard to help, by sticking around and supporting them you will actually be enabling them.

She has to raise her child, work and bring home the money because her husband will not give her a dime, and on top of that struggle you want her to counsel, love, and respect someone who is breaking her heart and undermining her every effort??
Has marriage become a death sentence?
Is it not meant to be sweet and to be enjoyed?
People are only human beings and life is hard enough already without putting unreasonable demands on people.

loosingfaith519:
This comments is for your mother, sisters, girlfriends. You sound like a Gambler as well. Do you have any idea of my post before dishing out this ru.bbish?

You don't need a divorce... what you need is a new plan because your original plan will not work with a man who has a gambling addiction. Do you have a close relationship with your family? It's time to let them know about your struggle.

I hope you understand this addiction because when he runs out of money he might expect you to "lend" him your money. Living with a gambler is a horrible life but because you are pregnant do you think you could survive the long game?

Hide your money, play it cool, ignore his money, don't stress yourself by fighting him because you could miscarriage, and just wait it out for a year?

You could save the 600k and then some in that time and when you're ready, you could just go and never look back. You really need to be smart and look for a solution instead of divorce. Who divorce or marriage help? You need a new plan for your life.

Jennyclay:
Whenever a man is on heat like a community dog, he can promise a lady heaven on earth. After the sex, for him to honor his promises it a big problem for him.

He must have promised her probably 2 million naira but only to give her just #370 after sex. We need her type in Nigeria, so that she can bite off the ears of those promise and fail men.

Serves the man the right. Next time he would learn to fulfill his promises.

Hard-core feminist my ass! Stop begging men and go enjoy your equality to make your own money

Your aboard must be Togo if you think her having $359 in her account is a lot of money. She's broke and she has an aboard boyfriend so allow her or let her go so she can find a better man

Error401:
you are simply ungreatful

I'm sorry, am I her? Why do you guys get personal on this forum instead of discussing the issue you attack the person. I am not ungrateful for your information

Help2020:
What will it take to help him? Don't be ungrateful.

We know nothing about their story. There's an obviously a reason she has for not helping any of them. We can't conclude that she's evil. What if they were horrible people to her... I'm just saying we don't know the full story and he's hateful for calling her names.

19blueofficial:
Hey guys, I want to ask for your candid advice. I met this guy online and I really like him, we haven't met yet but I believe he will. This month he'll gain admission in a polytechnic in Imo state and I'm about to write my external examinations this year. We agreed that we would meet each other at Imo state. My plan was to go to imsu so that we could see each other but where I really want to go to is a university in Lagos because I have things planned up for my life there. So should I choose between love or my dream? I need useful suggestions.

Follow your dream rather than be resentful if this relationship fails. Boys are plenty and they're everywhere. Just follow your dreams and everything else will come to you. If this relationship is serious then it could work long distance, you might bump into eachother further down the line when you're both ready to get married. If it was meant to be then it will be...

ZUBY77:
So after looking out for her, she made it and turned her back on him yet you want him to keep quiet and move on?
People sef.

She was a child and he was her uncle so he should have looked after her. She made what? What did she do to "make it?" I don't know her accomplishments unless you call getting married an accomplishment?

What a hateful man, that could be the reason she cut her losses. Imagine bragging that you looked after your niece, don't do things if you want pay back but do it because it's the right thing to do.

That's why I don't take people seriously anymore. I'm now the responder, I don't approach anyone, if you hit me up then I respond, and if you don't then I stay in my lane. People nowadays have some issues, they just want to disturb your peace because they lack peace.

All this new age gibberish... I'm fluid, I'm only attracted to souls and not bodies, I love the person not the gender. Abeg, pick your corner and STFU because we don't care!

You're prone to lying and cheating so doing the right thing will be alien to you. Do what you do best and lie! Lie to the baby mama, lie to the fiance and when the truth comes out, lie some more!

OGBEREIJEBU:
This is my Worst Christmas ever

Lost my job February this year and since then, life hasn't been same again for me and my family

I ventured into a business introduced to me by my cousin brother who was deported from Italy and lost the N1.5M I saved during my working days because the guy know people cashing out from the business but failed to learn the secret of the business and this led us to collectively lose #2M
Now I borrowed another #1.5M to continue with the business but have been encountering some logistics challenges but very hopeful to recover my lost investment next year by the Grace of God.
Today,I can't spend the Christmas together with my wife and 3 beautiful children because of money neither did I even send reasonable money for them to enjoy the season as usual, I have just been indoors since morning thinking about the sad situation

Merry Christmas to all the members of Nairaland

When I'm not mad? Why would anyone but my husband put me in that position.

Abeg, talk em, and turn around while I stretch myself by myself

I don't know about Ukraine but I would definitely fight for my country and religion. I would be willing to die for the safety of my sons and family. I would die for what I believe in. This has nothing to do with Feminism because I'm not a feminist but I love and believe in my religion and country.

Dbegining:
I agree with you.
Nobody is doing anything for nothing.

But, not only America is cashing out, oil producing countries such as Nigeria is also cashing out.

Arms selling countries are also cashing out.

But who among these countries have you seen donate any money to Ukraine?

The EU will aid and donate to the victims/refugees but the war is a financial cash cow so nobody will donate towards the war.

The Ukrainian refugees will be well looked after in comparison to any other refugees that have come through Europe. Common sense will prevail and everything will work itself out in the end.