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I prefer to eat outside.
I get easily tired of my cooking, not that it isn't good. I just like variety of hand.


But i believe cooking at home Is cheaper, especially in bulk

Back in uni, i had to cook in bulk, especially when pocket money was dry

You guys are blinded by hate for freeze.

Apparently, the wife sued for divorce since 2012, but the courts didn't do anything about it and slept on the case for 9 years(probably because it's a woman suing) until the husband stepped in.

So are you saying that a woman should put het life on hold because our legal system is a joke?

How many people can sray celibate for 9 years.

A friend of mine had the same issue when she was seeking a divorce for her one year marriage. The lawyers basically treated her poorly or ignored her. She's happily remarried now

As a woman in Nigeria, it's very hard to sue for divorce except you have money or influence.

robbase:
I had similar problem last month. Its pile. Take daflon tablets, and anusol suppository and it would heal. Wish you a quick recovery

Na so

loopman:
You are either on a medication that has such as side effect or result of pressure on your internal hemorrhoid.

Whatever the case, see your doctor.

If you have hemorrhoids, I will recommend Daflon and anusol pessary or cream

are you a doctor? Please stop killing innocent people with your diagnosis.

joshjc:
Because we no longer plant trees in our compounds anymore, those who have trees in there compounds don't complain of heat

I have trees in my compound, and the heat is still terrible.
To add salt to injury,PHCN has been misbehaving

Leave him, but if he no gree.

Make him miserable while you are at it.

Just leave!!

He might be violent because he thinks you are his property.

Men like him feed off power, so try not to give a Bleep about him

The6thAustralia:
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The6thAustralia

InfernoNig:
This is toxic and abusive. The lady is heartless and wicked, if she can boil water for this purpose, I can only imagine how far she will go. Better quit the relationship to avoid you dying untimely. Don't die early cos me I won't bother typing RIP for you.

she needs to be arrested and jailed

Krismas:
Why didnt they give him anesthetics like say, Ketamine? b4 operation?

you can't give local anaesthesia to penis because it is an end organ with no collateral blood supply. Only one way in and out.

Ketamine isnt local anaesthesia.

Macsjebs:
Source: https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/weird-news/man-rushed-hospital-after-putting-23503698

this one is a normal thing here.

The things men do for konji

Ginaz:
Stop taking sides stupidly.

stop sounding so self righteous. It's disgusting.

Ginaz:
The issue has already been resolved they go their separate ways. Pray tell of what use is the endless banters for if not for validation? Do you keep flogging at a dead horse ? Doesn't it make you look stupid at the end ?

Pray not to have a man like Solomon all you want, but you should not strip bare your buttocks which is filled with poo of your own flaws you're blinded to see.

for people to move on. It is important to have CLOSURE.

One way is to air out their grievances. If flogging a dead horse is what is needed to move on, then so be it

Iamafinegirl:
I don’t keep screenshots of years ago like you because love forgives and don’t hold to offense of years
Where you have equally called me “demonic”, stupid, very stupid etc, in need of psychatric etc. But heaven witnesses those ones and you too you know so I am not bothered.
Did you tell them I don’t care but I wash your underwears? your boxers as I should for a husband? Your inner wears too regularly?

Did you tell them the day I said “what is my business”. You said you won’t eat the stew at home it’s affecting you and out of immediate concern. I said “how” and you squeezed your face like I was stressing you to answer or something n I was wondering why you should be angry I asked how. When you said it’s causing ulcer or stomach pain, I said ah ah is that why you squeezed your face like it’s a big deal to answer something that simple and you said “you don’t want me to have a different opinion” without you even telling me what the problem is first before u would see whether I had another viewpoint to share. Is it wrong to share viewpoints ?
I tire ooooo
At best I would have said ah...d stew has so much pepper like Dt? Or ah are you sure it’s the stew really causing it” or maybe it’s something else?
I was hurt so I said is it not out of care or love, I am asking you how stew is affecting you. Like if not for love care togetherness is it not just going to be “your business”?
The Person wey have ulcer still go dey chop fried akara and I was telling him in addition you have ulcer and you are eating fried things haba....who doesn’t know fried things increase ulcer too but me I don’t fight on opinions since he was enjoying it, I also didn’t stop him becuase if I did it would be fight ooo that I am stopping him from eating d akara.

Be telling stories fully pls. You have been lying to me from beginning of relationship and it’s sad you would still cover the full process of an event for you to feel good or to blame me as it would make you happy.
This is the same person who has never bothered about your health?

Those are the things uncle would see as arguement ooooo....haaa....I never knew comments simple so far it’s different from what he feels is an offense ooo.
The thing d weak me
All you picked from that discussion is that I said it’s “your business”. You refused to look at the whole story that lead to comment. You just pick something n hold to it as a way of avoiding the real problems and it’s toxic to be honest.

Did you also tell that that for about a year in the relationship you earned 67-73% more than me and that was even roughly the one year you invited me to stay with you Or you suddenly forgot and decided to just be throwing blames on me or you forgot you did because you are feeling so bitter.
You got so angry you couldn’t manage your finances and you were angry I had better financial management because you give money to side chicks as I later learnt so you would get angry and started looking for ways I could lessen your original bills you were paying / had before I came sef like pay part of ur dstv etc. Tv I rarely watch. And the one I was doing was never enough, I would go market spend and write down my spending so u see everything and amount since you complain. When you started seeing I was making account on the cost you started saying I am altering the figures? Alter how much for what for God sake?
Why do you like fight so much like this.

He lovebombed you to accept the relationship. It is well

EmmyG98:
Both of you should be ashamed of yourself... do you even realize that you're making things worse, adding heat to anger
What I see here is an overly emotional man trying to get a woman who does not respect him or trying to fight for more respect... does not know how to manage his finances and holds on to grudges like a parasite, why do you ask us for advice sef...
There is gross misunderstanding between you too and I wonder how you'll cope after marriage and when the kids come, the woman will insist you enrol them to the most expensive school for quality and you're not even reasonable... trying to act like a man when you're not for a self-vindicative woman who does not even love you, she's just managing you.

Yes, tell us the truth about the condoms, the smoking and the drinking part

The kind woman sef, I fear you o... I fear you big time, you said 'you're not serious is not an insult' but what about beggarly and thief you call him... that's demeaning... if a woman you love so much to the point of asking your boss n colleagues to convince her even buying her pizza at night calls you a thief and beggar, it's similar to a sword piercing through your soul....
But she said he called her demonic, stupid
At what point did your love began to cool that you'll start acting like foolish children, you're both very immature and u want to enter marriage

Look, my dream n best wish is that you both get happy again, find that wisdom n maturity to fix the problems as a TEAM, learn from it, apologize and move on....

Shame on you both.... you're both at fault so you fix it or u seek help

God bless you my brother.

Ginaz:
She's very toxic herself . I can't come online and exchange words with someone I know offline let alone someone I went into relationship with . it would be a waste of time and energy.

She counters him word for word , wanting to have the last say. Solomon is kinda right about her arguing and she looks like someone who would do that till her last drop of blood.

Her energy for exchanging words and arguments is very pronounced for all to see. She's very petty , boxers isn't left out of her need to justify righteousness.
She's needs to GROW UP! As a woman, you should know when to talk and when to stay quiet. She runs her mouth like tap water.

Madam Lamafinegirl, money without class is useless. Show some decorum and stop with your show of shame cos ironically, you are exposing your own flaws the more you talk.

Solomon should stay away from you. He's faulty but your type of woman prolongs plenty talk.

of all the people to show decorum for, it the petty immature op bwambasolomon that cannot pay a bill without complaining like a woman.

Olorun ma jé!!

There are men that are worthy of respect and submission. Then there are male children like op.

Father lord, send his type far away from me and my loved ones.

Seunban

Nairaland

LordKO:
"Man no fit use financially stable woman do Shakara." That your crass statement does not hold true because financial stability neither cures greed and feeble-mindedness nor buy grit. So, being financially independent doesn't automatically make a woman or man gritty. Besides, having a job or business and an ability to scantly buy own toiletries doesn't automatically make one "financially independent."

There's nothing wrong with being a financially independent woman or aspiring to be one, but there's everything wrong when one's purpose of pursuing financial stability is to prove a point, like your mentality through your post connotes. It usually ends in tears when relating with aristocrats.

Meanwhile, only men who haven't conquered themselves will have a problem having a financially independent woman walk and work with them on their lead. Gritty women, regardless of their financial/social standing, aren't meant to be controlled in a relationship and won't condone such, and no sane man will take pleasure in controlling a woman. Only an insane woman, however, deserves to be controlled.

By the way, being on this new moniker doesn't stop you from being the person who's formerly "reb............" If you don't wish to be derided and debased, don't mete out the same to men or anyone, regardless of gender. Humbleness isn't a sign of weakness, just as arrogance isn't a sign of strength.

I agree

hisgrace090:
Because most financial stable women hardly accep their husband as the head of the family as you hardly see a humble rich lady.

you hardly see a rich humble person. Period!!

No gender deserves to be disrespected.

bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

you are obviously not ready to settle down and be a breadwinner and provider. Stay single abeg.

tommie1:
Since you're a doctor, I have a question:

Her period ended on December 18 and I had sex with her on January 3 (I suppose she was ovulating/had jus ovulated few days earlier) but this is the result of the pregnancy test she did on Feb 27 (7 weeks and six days) later:

Early cyesis < 6 weeks co-exist with uterine fibroids

Could I be the father considering the results says the pregnancy is less than six weeks even though I was with her almost eight weeks ago.

it's a possibility, but it is also unlikely.

The reason why i say it's a possibility is the uterine fibroids, it might impede scan results. It's also possible that she got her period wrong. It is usually calculated from when it starts, not when it ends.

Also likely she might have been taking postinor which can mess with the timing of the period. If you slept with her on jan 3, she might have ovulated again which would make the pregnancy yours.

Let her do another scan and come clean about who else she slept with, if she did at all.

tommie1:
Since you're a doctor, I have a question:

Her period ended on December 18 and I had sex with her on January 3 (I suppose she was ovulating/had jus ovulated few days earlier) but this is the result of the pregnancy test she did on Feb 27 (7 weeks and six days) later:

Early cyesis < 6 weeks co-exist with uterine fibroids

Could I be the father considering the results says the pregnancy is less than six weeks even though I was with her almost eight weeks ago.

it's a possibility, but it is also unlikely.

The reason why i say it's a possibility is the uterine fibroids, it might impede scan results. It's also possible that she got her period wrong. It is usually calculated from when it starts, not when it ends.

Let her do another scan and come clean about who else she slept with, if she did at all.

Sixfeetbelle:
Actually, they don't.

Turns out a lot of people are quite ignorant of this little information.

Even the women.

yes it does. Except for abstinence, every contraceptive has a failure rate, even postinor.

Gamer999:
But you gave her money for postinor, she confirmed that she bought it, also confirmed that she took it. Final verdict; you can't be responsible for her pregnancy. Only 3 things could have happened. 1}she lied that she bought the drug whereas she use it to buy data. 2}another guy got her pregnant. 3} na immaculate conception

God bless Sony interactive entertainment ;God bless the United States ;God bless Nigeria ;God bless Kogi state; God bless the good people of Okene

i hope you know that postinor can fail.

SporaD8:
Alternatives to Cow meat ;
1 FISH The sea provide us in abundance and fish-farming is not a new word. Mind you fishes are rich source of Omega 3.
2 Poultry Chicken and Turkey are white meat, clean, sweet and highly nutritious. What's more? Their eggs are readily available and rich in protein.
3 PORK Another alternative for non- Muslim.
4 GOAT/404 These ones don't need introduction! Infact my mouth are watering already.
5 SNAKE This is Specially reserve for Lalasticlala as he is also the major supplier.
6 Please add yours

shrimps, crab and shellfish.
Catfish.

Please, where can one get pepper snail, or catfish, or bushmeat, or shrimp or crab.

There are other alternatives than fulani herdsmen, cancer causing redmeat.

Anybody that eats redmeat as of now is nothing more than a cannibal. You are eating the innocent blood of all farmers and Southerners killed by fulani herdsmen.

Where are niger delta militants when you need them?. They should block petrol and diesel from going to the north. They should also block palmoil and crayfish from going to the north. Sebi they want to play with blindness and goitre. Also block salt and other goods from lagos ports from going to the north.

Craze pass craze.

Erums:
Where is funmisticqueen?

Rest in peace vivi!

You will be missed greatly.

drake99:
I met this girl few weeks ago through a friend, we became friends, I wanted it sexually but she kept telling me that she has something about her that scares uninformed men away

she said her vagina looks different, I told her that I've seen such before, we laughed over it, she visited me today, as things were going on via pre-intimacy, I undressed her and saw a penis kinda thing below, the clitoris is longer than a normal clit I've been seeing, out of fear my erection was lost, she felt bad but I cant help it

I've not seen such thing before, anyone with such experience?

she should go to the hospital and get it checked

vhuqnl:
All hospitals training and employing quacks should be shut too. Ndi auxiliaries. Killers

I agree

This is a very good move by lagos State. If you know the harm all those pharmacists and chemists posing as doctors have caused to the general population, every hospital is filled with them.

They should keep it up

Victorian, find peace in the bosom of the lord!!

Your smile and laughter, your cheerful spirit will be missed.

You were a hard-working woman, who went after what she wanted, lived a just life, kind to strangers and neighbors, that was you vivi.

The students you taught, the careers you helped start. The stories you had to share.

I toast to your life, to the lives you touched for the better when alive.

Cheers to being in a better place!! Cheers, because your struggle is over.!!

I watched in horror as what was supposed to be a condolence thread, where we grieve Victorian and celebrate her life well lived, became a trolling center because one nonentitiy decided to make it all about her

How miserable do you have to be pocohantas to desecrate this thread with insensitive comments? Once was not enough for you, but you just had to go on, deeper into the quagmire of your narcissism, just to justify yourself, . If you had nothing better to stay, then you should have used your idle opposable thumbs for something better.

She is gone!!! Pocohantas!!! You just couldn't let her enjoy the spotlight one last time could you? Even in death??

Let us grieve her in peace.

Let us honor her memory, and the life she lived online,whether they trolled her or not was inconsequential. THERE ARE NO ENEMIES IN DEATH.

People on this thread who have decided to give her insensitive word salad prevalence on this thread. You are just as bad. You should have starved her of attention. Which is no less than what she deserves. This is all I'll say on this topic.