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sim37:
infants are very sensitive to change of formula, force feed the child until he get use to it, and when it's time to change again samething will happen. I will advise you give the child more water and little formula

don't give water to a baby less than 6 months

Winco foam is the best foam in Nigeria.

Grew up with it.

Used it in uni

Bought a mattress from my first salary with it

Hugomexis:
I had planned on taking my girl out for New Year celebrations on Jan 3rd.

I had already made arrangements involving the uber we'd take and the fun spots we'd visit on the D-day.

Because of how extravagant I could be with my money,I gave 79k to her to hold as part of the money we'd use for flexing.

On the said date we were to go out,I called her after I came back from church that she should start preparing so we could leave on time and visit as many places as possible.

This girl told me she had chores she was doing,that I should exercise patience.I waited for over two hours then called her.She told me she was still doing chores.

I was pissed and I lashed out to her that she knew we'd be going out today.Why didn't she do them earlier?Me that is taking her out,don't I have my projects to execute?

She started ranting and told me she's not going again then ended the call.This girl came down to my estate to return the money I gave her and left.My guy who was with me was shocked and beckoning on her to come back and straighten issues out yet she was adamant.

Imagine the stupid girl came down to my estate,knocked on my door to return my money.

'Chaii,Hugomexis you don suffer',I thought to myself.Na because I dey regularly spoil this girl with clothes,jewelleries and shoes cause all these things.

The thing with me is that whenever anyone returns my money in that fashion.I don't spend it.I give it out to people.

I gave my guy 15k out of it then later in the evening,I went to visit one woman who attends my catholic church (St.Leo's Ikeja).

This woman had seen me in the morning in church and begged me to do new year for her.I promised her that I would visit her.

I went to her place,gave her 20k for her and her kids.I also gave money to some of her neighbours who were around then I took to rest to donate to St.Vincent De Paul.

The next day,my girl called me to apologise but I didn't take her calls.She sents series of texts on whatsapp and sms but I ignored then later blocked her.

She came so many times to my place to apologise but I paid her no attention.

I sent her to the streets where she belongs.I'm an Alpha male who's spoilt for choice.

Why do i get the impression that @bolded never happened.

@red lettering, just makes you look insecure.

You were bragging about yourself for clout through the rest of the thread. I'll still type and forget this thread in 10mins max. You on the other hand are still ruminating and chewing the cud like goat on a matter that happened 3 months ago. The girl might have e ven married sef.

That is how we were busy minding the bussiness that pays us, and you came along to disturb us that a girl returned your money.

Uncle face front!!

Queenlovely:
God bless the CP.

When Fatai owoseni was Cp of Lagos, he did a lot.

My church raise money every month to bail some inmates from prison.

On June 18th we went to the women section and saw a lot of female inmates, Some of them want to put their children up for adoption but they want the right family.

One woman grabbed my hands when I was ministering, looked into my eyes and asked me to adopt her daughter.

I did, after all the necessary paperwork. Today the baby calls me mummy.

I would raise her as well as mine,

please what is the necessary paperwork?

Iamdemola1:
https://dailytrust.com/kano-bride-to-be-why-i-faked-my-kidnap

This girl needs to be smacked silly.

How indecisive can one be??

She be like agric fowl, adult body with the brwin of a child.

Cold feet?! more like frozen feet.

Op, please pamper your wife. Explain things to her

Take out your salary and put it in your wife's hand, ask her to divide it. Whatever she gives you,manage it.

Or be giving her 15k every 2 weeks instead of 25k per month.

baralatie:


see counter offer!

you missed one important prenup arrangement and it is only one female.nairalander that knows it

1. For every woman he looks at, or has an affair with. He must buy property worth x million naira or the equivalent purchasing power of that timeframe of my choosing.
2. For every child, he will carry the pregnancy for 3 months while she will carry for six months. Of he cannot, then she will terminate the child or he settles it.
4. If he fathers a child outside the marriage, she will sue for divorce forthwith and collect 70% of his networth as alimony


If he wants to be ridiculous, so can she

StacyO:
He thinks he is in Nigeria where he can misbehave.
They can only try that nonsense of dishing orders in Nigeria.


Team foreign babe and redpill geng come and carry una brother oo.


He don finally meet him match.


Next time, he'll tie wrapper and cook that food.






This news made my day.

As in ehn!!


Kick out the hobosexuals

That karen deserve tiri gbosa

Sleekfingers:
the beans we produce does not meet up with their standards.....they said, it contains some chemicals( pesticide of some sort) .....do you know that they do reject some of our smoked fish? A friend is into dried catfish, tilapia etc business.....his fish was rejected in netherland and france.....they were complaining about some chemical residues, the smoking process etc


from what i learnt so far is , we need to start doing things in the proper way.....why are they not rejecting similar things from kenya, cote d'ivoire, ghana, south africa?

we need to start doing things the proper way? More like we beed to start doing things the colonial master's way.

Nigeria should not be their dumping ground

Ngozi should tell EU that a lot of africans are lactose intolerant, especially to that thier GMO milk that is riddled with hormones and making their offspring want to be transgendered.

We don't want your milk abeg. We have kunu from killer herdsmen

TheUndercover:
You either pick someone who’s complacent, sits on the couch like a sloth, but caters to your emotional needs and is available all the time. Or you pick someone ambitious with a purpose that has no availability.

Pick your poison carefully. Because if you select an available man, you will eventually become repulsed by him.

But then DONT complain and find it unacceptable for a man to be working on his purpose and deliver a better future for the family that INCLUDES YOU as a whole. You don’t know what you want. Understand that. The moment we give you what you want, you flip flop like a dying fish to the other side.

Here’s some advice. Pick a man with NO availability. Because that's a man with purpose and ambition. He is the right selection. And his unavailability is a sacrifice. He is doing everything to build a better future.

And that should constitute a degree of sacrifice on YOUR part: For you not to be a nuisance and understand to control your emotional needs and support him.

No man wants to not be available. But that’s the sacrifice we make to secure our future. If you don’t like that, then find a sloth on the couch who watches netflix all day. Or find a guy who’s loaded with inheritance money but can’t iron his own shirt.

Pick and sacrifice.

Cc Lalasticlala Seun Farano

I'm not taking the credits for this post.

I'm picking the latter, then i find my happiness by myself.

Cannot stand the former.

peacefull:
Oh.... Sorry, this is very difficult to me
I need take time for understand very well.

Ladys made men to believe money can buy love?
You think women force men to have money and buy their love?

To me, money can't buy love. Money can't buy someone's heart.
Relationship is not all about money.
Love, respect, trust, understand etc.

I didn't blame anybody. But to me, seems like some peoples attacking her.
Everybody have own thinking, own opinion etc.
So don't need to attack her. She has her opinion. I have my opinion. You have your opinion

Broke guy?
If I'm not misunderstand, that meaning is someone who don't have enough money or something like that?
What wrong with it? If there had love between borke guy and lady, what is wrong about it?
They can make it together! Make money, make more strong love, make more strong bond etc.
That's soooo sweet! Very beautiful love!

Me and my husband started our relationship about 16years or 17years ago.
Both of us were not rich. Still now, we are not rich person. But still together.
Of course, sometimes really had hard time about money. We had very bad experience.
But still together! Because we know our relationship, our marriage is not all about money.

Sorry, if I'm misunderstanding you and if I wrote strange things.
I maybe didn't understand well.
I'm sorry.

I will read your comment again and try to understand what you wrote very well.
Thank you for taking your time!
I appreciate you!

This is a long-winded way of saying you shunned wealth

Toks2008:
Funmi i expect you to understand my pragmatism in this situation.

I ask again..giving this unfortunate circumstance, will you rather prefer the guy do crime to savage the situation? or dies of high BP? even if he gives the entire salary to the lady it will never be enough. So you all castigating me for opining that he sets up at least a food stuff business for her should contact the guy and help him with funds to take care of his family.

I rest my case.

of course it won't be enough.

Either he gets more of give his children away for adoption before they die of poverty in his house.

jaxxy:
Not praising his mediocrity bt haven’t seen husbands that take off and abandon their family when their wives give birth to triplets? This guy married a stupid gal with no job or ambition who gave birth to triplets. He must be a saint. Has he even done a DNA cos I don’t trust that gal 1 bit.

And so?

What if she dumped the children at his doorstep after they were born. Don't you know that mothers abandon children too?

Stop typing diarrhoea here!!

Toks2008:
As if im writing out of the blues.

My mum had twins in 1983 and she was still nursing a child barely 2years with another barely 4years making 4 troublesome babies yet she was still running her hairdressing business on a solo without any apprentice at that time.

I think i may have to stop responding to mentions on this matter again. As they say, desperate times call for desperate measures. Nobody prays for such a situation where a nursing mum of one will be expected to do any business simultaneously but as i wrote, maybe if that guy slums and dies of BP she will be forced to start something .

I rest my case.

that's 1983, not 2021.

Be pragmatic man!!

EndRape2:
My brother your wife should be the one regretting marrying you, 25, thousand to feed 5family, with expenses, like buying fuel, biscult for children and other things? Minus expenses let us say you are giving her like 15k for food, for family of five, and you have the guts to come on nairaland to seek advice, you are mean and wicked, go and look for another job, or get extra side hustle, also let your wife, look for somthibg doing, the entire 55k is not enough for family of 5, you still have the guts to say, you are saving out of it, and also giving your mum from it, are you normal like this, if I am your wife I will leave the money for you, I will not touch it, or ask you, I will allow you go to market your self with the money and use it to cook so you will know it is not enough for a week, hope you are using protection inorder not bring in another child into that malnourished home,
which kind dirty sex are you talking about, with children on ground that you can not feed your are very meant for saying you regreat marrying that woman that is suffering in your hands. Your are ranting your mother inlaw force you to marry, did she force you to have sex without condone will you allow an idiot impregnant your daughter and keep her at home, the mother inlaw did the right thing an average Mother will do, you better tell your wife to so family planning or you use condone, two of you should go look for money, and stop suffering those children, 55, thousand is not enough to take care of one child ,talkless of five family .


U are supposed to give her 50k then send 5k to your mum, and look for other hustle to give you money for personal use and savings.


And must you send money to your mum, for now, why not force your daddy to take care of his responsibilities why you take care of yours


Honestly you are wicked and suffering the woman and children with you.


Nonsense coming here to seek for advice that will finish you.

if the man doesn't step up, there's a 50- 70% chance he may lose one or more of those kids to the cruel hands of death. They may not make it to their 5th birthday

One child will become sick, refuse to eat and just waste away until they seek hospital admission that they clearly cannot afford.

I'm tired of seeing cases like Op.

Maybe he and his wife should consider giving out his children for adoption to childless couples who can afford them

Meself:
While do u call her stupid. It is the guy that is stupid for not putting his preek in check . Abeg no try dey this guy's shoes . Do u know what she is going thru? baby wan chop no money for milk pls so.

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U are a good a responsibile man. U took responsibility for ur kids and even married the stupid gal u call wife. The problem with most gals is they are very poor managers. Ur husband gives u his money and u can’t put it to good use, even if u notice it’s not enough u know he’s doing his best u should look for away to find solutions to ur family/hubbys financial issues bt instead she nags and complains and even threatens to live u with the kids. Is this not a stupid woman? A highly irresponsible gal turn wife??

Look bad company corrupts good manners, if u move with fools u will soon become a fool. Disassociate urself from that nonentity. Give her responsibilities to do. Set up a business if possible for her and monitor it because I know she’s useless. Atleast right now

Don’t give up hope yet. God will help u make right decisions regarding ur family. Cheers.

she's praising his mediocrity.

Nonsense!!

Acidosis:
Open a shop for a young mother with 3 toddlers? Why don't you just buy her a keke/tricycle to move passengers from Ogba to Ikeja?

The thing shock me too!

ghettochild:
Only the pussy is her contribution plus let's say she takes care of the kids....
This is a lesson to young men out there... don't marry a woman whose jobless or have no potential..
Na toto sweet OP to his present predicament oo

She has a full time job.

frozen70:
Don't let her madness lead you to early grave

Leave her to do her worst it's either she goes with the children or leave the children behind and go

You can't still to please her, never you can not

I pray she leaves the children and go, just move them to your mum

How does she want you to cope with that little salary yet contributes nothing

This time around be prepared for the worst, let the animal in you come out

She just want to make life unbearable for you

if she abandons the children for him, will you go to his house to help take care of them if he decides to toast you?

Ndi ara!!

mercyymai:
Come to look at it, the Nigeria we are now, everything is costly o. Apart from the fact that she should understand that your source of income is not more 55k and try to bear with u pending the time. She care for a triplet and so the cost for baby food in a month will be more than 5k, diapers for triplet too will be more than 5k too. So let's assume she spend 12k on the children alone for a month. Bros unless u dey buy foodstuff at home, 8k can not be enough for house upkeep.

I will advice, one the babu are of age, advice her to go look for Job at least her salary will help take care of her personal needs and some little things in the house.

You too Sir, u need to work hard more. Get a side business. 55k can never be enough for the family of 2 not to talk family of 5. Becos sending children to sch is now very expensive. Ur triplet will start sch very soon and I hope ur 55k can not send them to a good sch.

Lastly you need Jesus in your home. His presence in a home give peace.

if she looks for a job, eho will care for the triplets?

jaxxy:
U are a good a responsibile man. U took responsibility for ur kids and even married the stupid gal u call wife. The problem with most gals is they are very poor managers. Ur husband gives u his money and u can’t put it to good use, even if u notice it’s not enough u know he’s doing his best u should look for away to find solutions to ur family/hubbys financial issues bt instead she nags and complains and even threatens to live u with the kids. Is this not a stupid woman? A highly irresponsible gal turn wife??

Look bad company corrupts good manners, if u move with fools u will soon become a fool. Disassociate urself from that nonentity. Give her responsibilities to do. Set up a business if possible for her and monitor it because I know she’s useless. Atleast right now

Don’t give up hope yet. God will help u make right decisions regarding ur family. Cheers.

Stop applauding his bare minimum.

He should step up and look for a side hustle, or let him sit at home and take care of the triplets and let his wife look for work.

Dickson178:
you're the cause of all this shit ,why did you pay her for the first time. what you should do is to sit her down and ask her what to do , okay,you can open a shop for her to sell ,or get her a job , there's no regrets of marrying her .

TRIPLETS!!! TRIPLETS!!!

Toks2008:
If you can't see sense in my post. Then believe whatever you want if that will make you feel cool. If you tell me a simple food stuff business in a small shop is not good enough for a mother of triplets then i can only wonder which planet you are from.

I grew up in a very difficult situation and i have seen ladies real time give birth in the morning and went back to business in the evening. I am not here to argue with anyone.

Cheers and have a great day.

To triplets?

Oga Toks, be realistic.

AfroKnight:
Thank you.

Honestly, he is better off without that wife.

I’m also surprised his mother in-law is watching her daughter struggle without lending a hand for the sake of her grandchildren.

OP has terrible in-laws. Imagine if he had to pay rent. He is better off without that wife who makes life difficult with her useless nagging. A man needs peace of mind to live long.

It is actually not their responsibility to help him.

CanadianNaija:
Drop money for what? So that they can relax and born the next set of triplets?

Actions have consequences, when he survives this one he will learn through experience and also teach others.
I for one don't believe in rewarding bad behaviour, its easy to shout I love you up and down. After knacks without precaution comes children, he should carry his cross.

Gbam

Acidosis:
What's your mother doing to alleviate the situation?

Did his mom and siblings impregnate the girl?

They have their lives and struggle too.


Let mama enjoy her old age in peace.

But Op should reduce the amount he gives his mom to 5k.

Elliot2:
OK, plus nagging! I have taken care of babies myself and I know the stress involved. In my school of thought, taking responsibility means avoiding the act that leads to this.

I agree.

Normally I would be pro abortion, until i heard it's triplets.

It is well

nifemi25:
During your courtship, you should have known whom your wife to be is,, you would have noticed some nagging in her, just that you didn't focused on it....even do you gave your salary to her, am sure she won't still be satisfied...just pray God help you

she has 3x every right to nag o!!

Amotolongbo:
https://dailypost.ng/2021/03/15/many-hospitalized-as-strange-disease-hits-kano/?amp&__twitter_impression=true

Food poisoning.

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

Are you based in lagos?

dealslip:
You are heartless, you obviously don't know what it takes to care of a child let alone three. It's draining especially when you live in Nigeria and you get little or no support. She is obviously frustrated being a first time mother of three and could be suffering from post partum depression. 25k is nothing. Think about how much diapers cost first for three children in a month plus baby milk, obviously she can breastfeed three babies at the same time.
Do you know that woman won't get enough rest at night feeding babies through the night. Parenting isn't an easy job.

he should change to cloth napkins. It will save diaper money.