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Dapcity007:
Until you learn that by nature;


Men are polygamous
Women are hypergamous

Then you can understand what it means for a man not to cheat , and for a woman not to cheat by keeping her Hypergamy in check

Men cheat because u ladies refuse to understand or acknowledge our nature of polygamy
Women cheat because they have to meet up with their Hypergamy


The solution LOVE from both parties these alone will destroy that polygamous instinct

Women should be submissive these alone keeps her Hypergamy in check

wonen are polygamous and hypergamous. Men are too emotional to accept that reality

StacyO:
Marriage isn't a do or die affair for people who claim to love each other.
Rather than deceive or trick someone into holy matrimony with a hidden intention of sleeping around,giving him another man's child and making it look like he's responsible.
Why don't you just quit at the first instance
Why not tell him you got pregnant out of wedlock?

If he truly loves you, he won't prosecute you for saying the truth.

Marriage is meant to be a bond between two people,not a community service.


That men started this ugly behavior doesn't mean we ladies should take it to the extreme.


Honestly,if your husband brings another man's child for you to train while you both are married. Divorce him(he isn't faithful at all). Trust me,he's most likely doing more cheating on you.

But,if he brings in a child for you to train cause,he got the child before you guys met. Pardon him(you were just another random girl in the street who caught his heart)


Here are some of the dangers associated with paternity fraud;;;;;;;;;;;;;;

1) Heartbreak---No doubt this is the very first disadvantage of lying to someone about his biological children.
All those years they've spent together as father and child. All the sweet memories gone in just 2mins.

It drives him into a deep state of irredeemable thoughts.
*this child who calls me daddy isn't mine* ?

He starts looking at them from a very different and strange angle.

During this process,trust me, he is totally drifting away from his human form.



2) Shock and psychological trauma--- Certainly, you know you won't feel alright the day another woman walks up to you and demand you give her,her child.
I mean,the thousand in one thoughts running through your mind would fill up the entire earth.

You'll most likely start with fever then fall into coma or develop chronic HBP(high blood pressure).

This is the same thing that happens to a man when you take away the little lovers in his life and bestows them on another man.


3) Division--- Your household,in-laws, children and happiness will be divided and cut short.
The hatred your kids will develop for each other when they eventually find out they're not related, should even change your mind about committing that act.

How about your family members who won't only see you as a failure of a daughter. A disgrace to womanhood and a total bad tape to the marriage world.


4) Suicide--- So many people have fragile hearts. Men act tough but,they're NOT tough when it comes to love.
He might not cry but,he is broken hearted.

Suicide is a thought that creeps in when you think the whole world is against you. When you feel no one cares about you,when you don't feel loved by any.
When you think everything have been taken away from you.

In this case,you've taken away this man's life even before it began.
He thought he would see his grandkids but,he's seeing his grave.

Then he thinks,why not just jump into it and end all this hatred against me.

5) Sudden DEATH--- Just like in the movies. Everyone dies but,only one will survive. Guess who/what that is??


Your story.
The story of a woman who betrayed her husband. The story of a woman who shared her body to every man outside her matrimonial home.
That would be your story.

You killed yourself.
You killed your husband.
You killed your kids.





But StacyO,

HOW DO I LET HIM KNOW THE CHILD DOESN'T BELONG TO HIM??

You now realize your mistakes,right?
The best method to use when you plan to break such an abominable news to someone is to use the connection you both have.

And that connection is the child.

Open up the news to the child first and make it a deep secret. Get the child into talking to his/her or their daddy.

Starting with how much they love him and how any decision he makes won't affect their love for him.
They should even advice him to divorce you so as to have peace of mind.

Discussions should be centered majorly on their unconditional love for him.

You as the perpetrator can exit the house for some time so as to give the man time to think.





MEN---- Try to understand that DNA test is very important in a marriage where trust is not found.
Paternity fraud is not a death sentence.

As a matter of fact,it is your key to freedom from an evil partner.

Cause trust me, whoever has the audacity to sleep and birth a child while married,can kill her husband and bring in her second lover.

Be strong and move on. There is still time to birth a new bouncing love.


NB: Nairaland women bashers,this is not to support you in anyway oooo.
You are on your own.
I'm just saying my mind cause,this new trend is really pissing me off.



Ladies,what are your takes on paternity fraud?




Anyway,

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP INTO MARRIAGE.

@ bolded,
your solution to the problem is a dissapointment anddead on arrival. It shows a lack of responsibility and refusal to own up to your mistake. It is the act of someone who perpetually loves to play victim,is a covert narcissist and emotionally stunted

The woman should admit the wrong to her husband herself and ask for his forgive.

No such thing as hearing from God

Many of them hallucinate that voice

Jmw2kblogposts:
If you are not from a broken home it means your father is/was a simp and your mother ie lying or have lied to you all your life into believing that she is spotless.

All these incels from broken homes spewing nonsense here

Sorry but a number of these guys criticizing single moms were raised by one

Urfavouritegirl:
These are some of the major tests needed to be done by women trying to conceive.

You may not do all when you will discover what exactly the issue is.

1. Pelvic scan
2. Hormonal profile
3. HSG
4.Virgina swab
5. Hysteroscopy.

A lot Will message me and tell me all the test results said they are fine.

If I ask them which test have you done, they will say they have done pelvic scan twice.

Have you checked your hormones?(hormonal profile) NO.

Have you checked the tubes (HSG)? NO

Have you checked the inside of the uterus and Know how it is(hysteroscopy)? NO.

Have you checked if there is any infection (Virgina swab)? NO...

Please, amazing women, let us get understanding of what is wrong so as to get proper solutions.

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HealerH:
If they need money, they should go into business or undertake another career. Why undertake a career when you're certain the goal of this career is to save lives and not make money?

Wawu!!!


So we should kill ourselves for you and die for you. Even the hippocratic oath says we should take care of ourselves.

We are not jesus, neither are we superman.

In an airplane when cabin pressure drops you are advice to put a mask over yourself and save your life before others.

Latvin:
Such a sad state of affairs. Resident doctors constitute about 40% of Doctor population in the country so it has a huge impact.

FG has a duty to address their demands and meet them halfway. Surprisingly states like Abia, Imo and Borno are owing arrears, as much as 20 months in Abia for instance.

Long term, public medical care should be run like a proper business. Medical insurance schemes should be pursued vigorously to take care of access and operational funding. Govt to commit at least 10% of national budget over the next 15 years to Health to address part of the infrastructure gap.

many people are too poor to afford healthcare as it is. If it is privatised, oh well.

Use american Health care as an example.

Angrymode:
These doctors deserve what they are getting from our useless, senseless and wicked government for not acting when they were supposed to.

They missed it when they didn't go on strike during that lockdown period to press
home all their demands.

people were dying of COVID-19. And they did make these demands to the government during the lockdown.

Righteousness2:
You missed the most Valuable and Important lesson in the Evil Drug Business, which is all that Glitters is not gold. There is a reward of Eternal Destruction in Hell for all that Engage in such evil acts.

Having Said that, You have some Great lessons that could be applied to better our everyday life and Relationships.

Ode!!

Have you sold drugs before?

Antidotecasmir

Not every TB is with a cough. ALTHOUGH they are less common.

There's abdominal TB, spinal TB, genitourinary TB.

It could also be h. Pylori infection which is more likely.
Hope it's not stomach cancer too,(Hpylori infection increases the risk of one getting stomach cancers) do you get full easily after eating little?

Ask to See a gastroenterologist.

It is also possible that you are being reinfected somehow.

Also have you tried dietary modifications to ease your symptoms?

vineyardfarms:
These rubber stamp senators has loose screws in their head. Who is to be held responsible for the president medical trip to london?? For high cost of living? Kidnapping, rape, fulani herdsmen attack, high inflation, unemployment? Govt lack of plan, focus and wasteful spending? Looting? Who??

they are shameless.

Buhari will travel to london and might still meet a nigerian doctor there. Mtcheeew!!

jumpmasta:
The way you open your mouth to vomit rubbish confirms how useless You are . You can never attain what those Drs have attained .

Trust me!! Many doctors abroad cannot do what nigerian healthworkers are doing. They will run back to thier country in maximum of 6 months, unless the pay is really good. Because passion for medicine starts to die from medical school, especially from clinical years.

Abaman001:
Oh thank goodness u re a medical Dr. It means u understands the importance of saving ones life. The news says, the FG has met with virtually every request u presented except those directly under States Government. So the question now is why are you guys still striking that will warrant the Senate committee to say the doctors should be held responsible should people lose their love ones? In as much as I acknowledged the fact that the FG has failed the citizens in all sphere of life, but in a time like this, those who are trained to saves lives should trade with empathy when issue of downing tools are ordered by the body guarding ur jobs.....

the federal government is lying through thier teeth, they have always been lying, my hazard allowance is still 5k.

5k hazard allowance is 60k a year. If i contract, HIV, or hepatitis B or COVID-19 or any other dangerous disease out there and NEED to be admitted, 60k cannot cover my hospital fees in a public hospital. on top of that i will be putting my elderly parents with comorbities at risk. Many doctors are also ill from thier line of work. Many are hypertensive, diabetic and so on.

I am asthmatic, so if i contract COVID-19 during the of duty, my chances of dying is higher than others and my family will be left to suffer and nairalnders like you will only type RIP and forget that i existed in a few hours.

My lecturers and colleagues that died of COVID-19, none of thier families have received life insurance benefits. We even had to donate out of our pocket for a houseofficer who died of COVID-19 in luth.

His was the breadwinner for his widowed mother and sending his siblings through school.

Please stop telling us to have empathy, our empathy has finished since june last year. We are tired. This whole thing is affecting our mental state. Many resident doctors cannot afford to take thier children to good schools unless they send them to the schools of thier teaching hospitals where school fees is subsidized or have to work 2 extra jobs to meet up school fees even eith the rigors of residency.

It is because of issues like this i told myself that residency is not worth it in Nigeria. I will rather quit medicine and keep my certificate to open a boutique or cosmetics shop in Eko market and trade than to write those witchcraft exams callled primaries and enter a residency program where i will be bullied by my seniors and patients like you that will be blackmailing me to work for free.

rotadeco27:
Are general hospitals not on strike ? Medical officers are part of NARD.

Nope.

Resident doctors who are undergoing training to become consultants, are part of NARD, not medical officers who are not in a residency program.

The only disadvantage is that you might not find the kind of specialist to see your father in a general hospital, and bedspace might be an issue.

Soulseeker01 what's your father on admission for? What is his condition so that i can give you some suggestions?

Soulseeker01:
My father has been at FEDERAL MEDICAL CENTER EBUTE META i hav been paying for admission N5500 per day yet no doctor to attend to him, am afraid i might loose him soon.....

take him to a general hospital with a referral

Abaman001:
We make Mockeries of everything here in Nigeria, you are saying this bcus you don't know what its mean to have a sick love one in a public hospital without Haven a doctor to attain to....we joke with everything here, for the fact you are healthy you won't understand what sick people at public hospital are going through...

I understand, i am a doctor, and i lost 2 relatives due to 'doctors' strikes' in the past. So yes i know what it is like.

But the real people who should be held responsible is your government, not us. If the doctors don't strike, no one will be able to do thier best in a public hospital. Nurses will not stop ' being rude'(i wonder why they(JOHESU) haven't even joined sef, they will most likely start when government has promised to settle doctors) You don't want someone who is not happy or adequately paid to treat you and your family. The average healthworker who you see in the hospital feels trapped here, they know they have better options, but most likely are trapped by family responsibility, or one thing or the other. Comments like yours saddens us the more

Even though I am not on strike, i am feeling the effects in my place of work. Workload had doubled for me. Cases that are above the center where i work, that would have been referred, are being sent back to us because higher centers are either overwhelmed, or teaching hospitals are closed.

If during average call, i see like 7-8 emergencies and admit 5, now since the strike, I would see like 16- 20 emergencies and admit like 12.

So please call your government to order.

Uncle, fingers are not equal.
Some may have painless periods, why some have such painful cramps that may require hospitalisation. Some bleed for 2 to 3 days, while others bleed for more than a week.

Some people have light flow,While some have the floodgates of heaven down there, that they may require blood transfusions once in a while. Yes it sucks. But let women deal with it the way thwy know how.

Jmw2kblogposts:
This thread is actually for those ones who complain about it everytime, because i know of girls at 16 and even younger who don't even act like something is on with them when they are experiencing their flows and yet your 23 years old girlfriend want to you use this same experience to defraud you of your resources??!
This just shows that most of these hoes either lie or ridiculously exergerate it to get to simps!

If they don't like the idea of going through whatever they go through to compliment the only essense of their womanhood then they can as well go and remove their wombs to stop the supposed pain for all i care!
Oh wait i forgot, most of them are even broke ass hoes so they can't even afford it LMAOOOO!

TRP IS GOLDEN!!

NewSoul:
Funny thing is some of you ladies call a guy short when actually the guy is taller than you that is calling him short. Why is that?

there can be only one refrigerator and deep freezer in the relationship.

Pur children need to have height advantage

ogashman:
long distance relationship is for those with low sexual libido.

if u have high sexual urge, pls don't try long distance relationship, because u must always be tempted to pour something somewhere when presented with the opportunity.

pour 'something' on the ground na

happiness32:
Bello doesn't have your time. He is busy fixing roads and carrying out projects in Kogi

let him go and fix that hospital in kogi State where snakes chase patients and nurses go to river to fetch water.

Oluboh:
Lol nice caption.
Tinubu should just support Yahaya Bello for Presidency.
We are only interested in the younger generation now

someone that cannot govern kogi State should be president.

People are truly dumb

I thought Alba means white in latin

fergie001:
SOURCE




Antoine Griezmann


Mia: April 8. 2016
Amaro: April 8. 2019
Alba: April 8. 2021

bestabigaelever:
Well, my boyfriend doesn't have money
I like him because he gives me peace of mind
Being with him, talking on the phone, I always feel that peace and sincerely, it scares me

that peace of mind is key

I like my boyfriend, because i feel safe with him. he's kind, dependable, trustworthy. He knows what it is to love honor and respect someone.
He's also smart and funny.

Adinije:
This woman's stupidity and shamelessness is pre-installed. At 32, she is playing victim card.

If someone can control you to the point of breaking your sim, then you don't have any sense of self-worth.

And she is even calling on International bodies to join the fight , The world all over. Kai. Olodo personified

pray you are never the victim of dating a narcissist

pocohantas:
Ishi, ladies like this need to stop playing victim. A man that made a woman in her 30s abort a child and still wanted her to abort a second time. Yet she insisted on keeping the baby.

Women like this need to start taking responsibility for their actions.

She really should have done family planning after aborting the first pregnancy.

she is taking responsibility by raisng the child and not dumping it into a pit latrine, besides it wasn't her ejaculate that resulted into a child.

Why would you advice a woman of 35+ who is nearing the end of her reproductive career to abort a 2nd pregnancy that may be her last?

She did apologize and admit to being wrong in the video. She probably just wants the child to have a father in her life.

In the country the man is staying, that man would have been in trouble already. If she took all this story to the holland embassy, the man might be deported.

SenecaTheYonger:
It was round and had a middle hole, like the cap of a penis but white and round. I almost fainted.

really?!

SenecaTheYonger:
When she bent over in doggy position, I could see her cervix. I felt nothing through out the whole time we spent together.

Ladies please practice Kegel. It cost zero Naira and the benefits are much.

what did the cervix look like?

obembet:
I don't really like short guy.... I won't be comfortable with him

they are good as friends, but my preference is tall guys.