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We4all:
Since men don't get pregnant, women should learn to say no if they can't harbor a child.

you know what, you right.

Men can always ejaculate into thier hands anyways

naija4life247:
And she was not careful enough to open her pusssy for the dicck. Uses orphan

shut up.

What of the useless man that left his responsibility

Maryofficial:
The cream. Thank you

technically it should brighten your skin. So you can try it

needanswer:
I don't personal insult people in my post, I wont start because of you.

You said it yourself, they dont go on strike.

I said in my post, let NARD strike on HO's behalf, while the HO's take turns at the A/E unit.

You dont CLEARLY know what ESSENTIALLY SERVICES ARE, that is why you didnt process my post without bias.

Police, army, fire service, phcn etc cannot go on strike the way medics do despite their poor welfare. If they ever attempt to do, they leave room for skeletal services.

Ho's and consultants are that vital skeletal services here in accident and emergency department but you what that too like NARD to be taken away from Nigerians.

Your logic is spot on!!!

@bolded makes no sense.

SO i don't know what essential services are abi?!LOL

Stop enabling abusive behavior from FG.

needanswer:
So it is no longer news that NARD are currently on strike over their unpaid salaries running 3 months.

They gave 60 days notice to the FG but as usual FG allowed the grace period to pass without doing anything tangible.

The NARD are clamouring for their unpaid salaries, increase of their hazard allowance from N5000 to 50% of their basic salary, integration of all NARD members to IPPIS, and a few minor ones.

Why FG is selfish?

FG is selfish because as usual they want to ONLY enjoy the spoils of Nigeria instead of an even distribution of wealth according to occupation across Nigeria. Corruption being a major issue here.

Why NARD is unreasonable?
NARD'S demands are not UNREASONABLE but to be clear their APPROACH is unreasonable. I list the reasons and suggestions in them about how to fix it.

1. HO's shouldn't be on a strike with NARD, NARD made them join. Some NARD members even claim they are part of them, despite them been on different programs. NARD are paid by IPPIS platform why HO's are paid by the FG directly. NARD even unlawfully deduct HO's salaries, to their displeasure. NARD dragged HO's into the strike cause HO's haven't been paid for 3 months.

HO's can easily be paid by the government but when they are eventually, NARD wont allow them resume in the hospitals because their demands MUST BE MET FIRST despite them running different programs. HO's program make them GENERAL PRACTITIONERS while NARD'S program make them SPECIALIST.

If NARD are paid first then the strike will be called off today even if HO's have not received their salaries, they will go back to work and tell the HO'S they are NEGOTIATING WITH FG ON THEIR BEHALF BUT THEY WILL BE BACK AT WORK BUT IF HO'S ARE PAID BEFORE THEM THEY WON'T ALLOW THEM RESUME.

These has been the routine, so HO's are just been used by NARD. The reason isn't far fetched, LET NIGERIANS FEEL THE STRIKE, that is NARD'S USUAL MOTTO. By that statement they mean let the poor who cannot afford PRIVATE CLINICS THAT NARD'S STILL OWN AND RUN SHOULD DIE LIKE FOULS, THEN WHEN VULNERABLE PEOPLE START DYING, THEN FG CAN RESPOND APPROPRIATELY. WELL PEOPLE HAVE STARTED DYING ALREADY, LET'S SEE HOW MANY WILL DIE BEFORE FG ACTS.

2. While Medicine is a job that REQUIRES pay when due it is also an ESSENTIAL SERVICE. What that mean is that NARD can go on strike for their demands which is justified but the hospitals should still be able to RESPOND ADEQUATELY TO ACCIDENTS AND EMERGENCY CASES ONLY. This can only be possible IF HO's work closely with the CONSULTANTS who both should not be on STRIKE but that is not the case in Nigeria, once NARD STRIKES the whole HOSPITAL PRACTICAL SHUTS DOWN.

Although doctors are on ground like the HO'S and consultants, no work will be done and this is terrible for an essential service. The worst part is state hospitals are not been owed but they have STARTED TO JOIN THE TERTIARY HOSPITALS TO STRIKE, IN A FORM OF SOLIDARITY!!!.

We have other essential services like the POLICE, MILITARY, FIRE SERVICE, AIRPORT AND SEA PORT WORKERS, PHCN WORKERS etc. JUST IMAGINE IF THIS GUYS OR ANYONE OF THEM GO ON COMPLETE STRIKE ACROSS NIGERIA, THAT WOULD BE A DISASTER!. The arm forces faces more hazard than the average citizen but while they complain, they know that can't ALL abandon their duty post and leave us all in insecurity, that's been REASONABLE TO THE POOR NIGERIANS THAT CANT AFFORD PRIVATE SECURITY.

ALL ESSENTIAL WORKERS IN NIGERIA ARE MANAGING INCLUDING NARD, NOTHING IS PERFECT BUT THEY MUST STILL GIVE SKELETAL SERVICES (not by NARD directly in this strike but HO's and Consultants)EVEN IF THEY DECIDE TO STRIKE AND NOT A COMPLETE SHUT DOWN.

3. Poor Nigerians are the ones suffering all this not EVEN FG the villian. 2 wrongs don't make a right. FG is clearly wrong but NARD are matching them for evil toe to toe. If this fight is truly about the SAFETY of Nigeria and the WELFARE of NARD, then NARD should allow HO's back to work WHILE they fight for HO's right and theirs. But if is SOLEY ABOUT MONEY they would continue to DRAG HO's who shouldn't strike in the first place based on their condition of service with the FG, making TERTIARY HOSPITALS USELESS cause consultants won't even lift a muscle.

This is the REALITY OF THE ONGOING STRIKE to NIGERIANS, other reports are one sided and biased.

Terminologies explained.

HO's mean HOUSE OFFICER(S), name you call the lowest ranked doctor in graduate training to become a General practitioner.

NARD mean NIGERIAN ASSOCIATION OF RESIDENT DOCTORS, name you call senior doctors in training to become SPECIALIST in a specific field of medicine.

Consultants are the most senior doctors, they have undergone the HO's stage and the Residency stage of NARD and are Specialist doctors in their field.

Seun

dominique

HOs more than anyone, deserve to join this particular strike. They have not been paid in 3 months and are being told to continue working.

Understand the scenario before typing.

Usually House officers don't strike,

But ever since there was a new policy to centralise housemanship, HOUSE OFFICERS have not been paid.

These people, do all the grunt work because they're the juniors, they undergo unreasonable work schedules. I remember being on 96Hr call without sleep during my housejob. Most teaching hospitals don't function well without house officers.

Then all of a sudden thier salaries are not paid country wide!! Shame on you.


Then that idiot minister had the gall to blunder on national TV that UK and US residents pay for thier program. He's very ignorant.

Soolmus:
Only issue I see here is extortion or bribery,

South needs far more security to keep bandits out so that we won't start having massive students kidnap

Good point.

Besides let's not forget that they are trying to prevent another ENDSARS

Which papaya and carrot?

The food? The oil? The powder? The cream? the soap?

@ Maryofficial Please clarify!!

What kind of lightening are you talking of?

fait10:
I'm very sure that 80% of blocking a guy receives from a girl is when the guy demand for sex and the girl is forming hard to get. There was a girl i met sometimes ago, one month into the relationship i started demanding for sex "when body no be firewood". The girl blocked me a day after. And this hungry girl in particular will come to my house in the morning and evening and eat and eat until she's satisfied. Two days after she unblocked me and said she want to come and visit me. I now told her frankly/angrily that if she's coming to fill up her hungry stomach without sex that she shouldn't bother coming. She didn't replied me. To my uptmost surprise 6 hours later i heard a knock on my door and it was her. Well she opened her cookie for me and after the whole thing i even felt i wasted my time pursuing this girl because the thing was an express way.


So i want to know our opinions/experiences if a girl has ever blocked you before when you demand for sex and how you overcomed the challenge and later slept with her.

Cc Lalasticlala

we know the 2nd half of your story is made up.

Continue o

nedekid:
Shatta bundle minister.
The doctors in the UK treating baba are paid their salaries and allowances as at when due ohh.

A number of them will be nigerian.

Mayniaa:
Continue to work without getting paid? Or what should they continue?

Yes, should they continue to work without getting paid?

Should they continue to risk thier lives to all sorts of diseases and risk bringing them to thier families for 5 thousand naira every month?

Should thier families continue to starve because they swore an oath ignorant people keep blackmailing them with?

Mayniaa:
Why did the doctors strike in the first place?
Weren't they working without pay for months?

so they should continue?

Each scenario is different.

If i am involved, try to get to the bottom of the matter, especially his point of view.

If it is caused by another person, try to offer objective advice.

If the above 2 fail, let him cool it off

masterfactor:
Beauty fade over time but the brain does not.

you clearly have not heard of alzheimer's or dementia.

Came for the tea

englishmart:
My ex invited me for her wedding. I knew it was to spite me. But whatever be the case, I'm not attending even for $200,000 voucher.

What about you?

I will shamelessly attend o! In my Sunday best.

As a yoruba daughter of the soil, i cannot miss owambe!!

I will enjoy the party unapologetically.

Dance dance dance!!

Eat the rice, the small chops, the barbeque, the parfait, the cake, the dessert.

Even carry rice home sef!!

And ask for souvenir.

Even wish the bride and groom happy married life.


This is why attaining closure is good imwhen ending relationships.

DEMZEE:
How many of our great great great great grand mothers were domestically abused by their husbands

And how come the marriage institution was working then and it's not working now??

the same number of them.

Marriage worked because women had no option, and domestic violence was seen as the norm. Like human sacrifice and slavery.

Btw, you didn't answer my question

larryjonze:
my rhetorical question, Is it possible for a man to beat a woman that said nothing or do nothing.

except the man is mad, no sane man will just walk in on his wife and start beating her.
i think insubordination is why most victims as in ladies get beaten, even military shows mercy to male as long as you obey b4 complain.
however i say a big NO to domestic voilence.

it is very possible for a man to beat a woman that said nothing or do nothing

Btw, you didn't answer my question

Drgbemilaykee:
Even though am a lady, I think he's right, feminism always oppose to being submissive which might result to domestic violence

Really?

The part of him blaming feminism for the actions of men is appalling.

So men who grew up watching their fathers beat their mothers, it's feminism that caused it abi?

Nope.

I'm not a dog that goes back to it's vomit.

I break up with you and wish you the best in life

If you like, hammer to ELON MUSK Level.

Can't waste time regretting. I take it as a seed sown in his life.

Altrarecords:
Birth control has a 99% success rate dude

Anything is better than raw if you don't want babies

in theory, yes 99%, but people aren't perfect and it's easy to forget or miss pills — so in reality the pill is about 91% effective. That means about 9 out of 100 pill users get pregnant each year. Now our population is 205 million, now let us assume a quarter of them are of reproductive age, because our population is majority under 40 years of age.

So 50 million people having sex. 25 million men and women each.
According to statistics in2017, 85% of women know of birth control, but just 15% of the population were using it.

15% times 25million is equal to 3 million, 750 thousand women.

Out of this 3750000 women, 9% of them are likely to get pregnant on using birth control.

So the estimated number of women who could get pregnant on birth control alone is

9% times 3 million 750 thousand which is 337, 500 women.


So in essence, throughout nigeria, 337,500 women can get pregnant because of failure of their birth control method every year. That number is not small. Imagine a crowd with this population

In summary, it is easy to look at statistics and think that the numbers are small.

Nigeria is not small population wise.


So when i say it is common, this is what I mean.
So ehen I

The thing is this, when it comes to some things concerning healthcare, it is better to do it here in Nigeria.

The best surgery to do in Nigeria, as opposed to abroad is myomectomy(removal of fibriod).
Another surgery is removal of goitre.

The reason is simple.

Fibroids are more common in african women than whites. So nigerian surgeons have more success and experience with removing them.

If x is a nigerian woman staying abroad and she has fibroids, she should tell her doctor over there that she'll rather go home to do it, because it is cheaper and oyinbo doctors have less experience with this condition.(let's not forget about medical bias against black women too)

Foreigners may be able to remove the small ones, but for the ones as big as a human head, please come back home, and our gynaecologists will remove it with ease when most of them can't.

I am not saying that mistakes don't happen here, but being in the medical field here and experiencing it abroad, has opened my eyes to some things.



I pray that the lady and her sister get justice.

murphyrichy:
ok, Any idea of the cost of fertility test,?

it depends on what the problem is, and there are many tests, not just one

murphyrichy:
how much is the cost of it in a government hospital??

minimum of 2000 naira

Uyi168:
Very beautiful post.

Thank you

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

What on earth am I talking about?
What can 4000 naira prevent?

That amount, which is slightly less than the cost of a simple first date, can save you from misery and tears in future.

It's simple, if a man and woman like each other, and have decided to either go into a relationship with marriage in view or start having unprotected sex with each other. They owe it to themselves to each go to a government hospital together for a Genotype test before committing further.

The main Genotypes available are AA, which is the ideal Red blood heamoglobin Genotype, AS which is a carrier, the less common AC, SC, and the most painful of all, SS.

A person with genotype SS is referred to commonly as a sickler because most of the time, the person is ill in the hospital for a significant amount of their life. A number of sickle cell sufferers die before their 5th birthday. The rest struggle to adulthood. Being a sickler as an adult comes with its own set of problems that not many people know.

Nobody likes to be sick. Now imagine being sick because of something your parents could have prevented.

If a couple both have AS or AC genotype, every pregnancy owned by the couple has a 25% chance of having a child with Genotype SS or SC. This means that either some or all of thier children might be affected, none at all, or they might become carriers. If gambling with unborn children is your cup of tea, don't mind me, Stop reading here.

Does sickle cell have a cure? Yes, it does.

But this is a classic example where prevention is always better than cure. I will not use medicine to explain it to you, but simple mathematics..

Paul and Paulina are in love and want to marry and have children. They give you the good news and you advice them to go for premarital screening, part of which is genotype.

Let's assume that the cost is 2000 naira per person, for 2 people, the total is 4000 naira. Now with the increasing depreciation of our currency, it will be safe to assume that a simple genotype test costs $10.

The results are out, but unfortunately, both Paul and Paulina are AS. They now have 3 options.
1. Cry about it and call off the relationship, while promising to remain friends.
2. They have invested so much in this relationship. They can still have a happy life together, but they are not willing to take the risk. So they have decided to have a childfree marriage(without children)

3. Take the chance and continue the relationship, seeing where it goes, and hope for the best when children come. (We strongly advise against this)


Many people unknowingly choose the 3rd option.

But DrFunmisticglow, you said there was a cure.
Please be patient !!!

So Paul and Paulina chose option 3 and are expecting a baby, they know there's a chance the child might have the SS genotype, is there anything they can do? Can they know what the Genotype is before the child is born?

Yes. There's a test one can do by collecting a blood sample from the unborn baby in the womb and find out it's genotype, it is usually dome in the 2nd trimester of pregnancy. The couple can then choose to abort the pregnancy if the foetus is SS. Only a few big private labs perform this test in the country. The only public place i know is sickle cell foundation opposite LUTH in lagos. As of 2 years ago, the cost of that test was 300 thousand naira. Now factor in the depreciating naira today, it wouldn't be wrong to say that for each child they want to have. Paul and Paulina have to budget about $1000 for this prenatal screening. That is not the same as $10.

The cure for sickle cell is a procedure called a bone marrow transplant. A relative of the child will donate his/ her bone marrow to the child. It has a 90% success rate.It is presently not done in Nigeria or if it is, it is still in the early stages. It has to be done in the first few months of a baby's life.
Many people choose to travel to countries like India, turkey and Rome for this procedure. As of 3 years ago, the cost of the procedure and the six months hospital stay was about 25 million, not including travel expenses and other miscallenous like visa application and so on.
But in our present economy, Budget 30- 55 million naira

How many of us can afford it?

Or they can choose to see their child suffer, while also suufering financially, emotionally, mentally, the stress if it all will eat away at the romantic bonds that they once shared.

I didn't even talk about how it affects the person, because that is a separate thread. We all know someone with this disease.


So I'll ask again.

Couldn't 4000 naira have prevented all this?

Is your love, truly worth this pain?

Know your genotype today?

Reex12:
threatening to breakup, is your gf ur life? if she cant understand that ur a father now you can walkaway from her and still meet another and fall in love, she can cheat on you,break ur heart and the relationship will end, shes only being insecure if you'll go back to ur babaymama, but you have to assure how that what you guys have is bond
BUT WOE

the mother of your child should come first if your gf doesnt accept her then she can leave, you have a child to care for now..if she cant understand how will the relationship work

I'll advise her to walk away sef. If not, hell do the same to her

Pochettino:
We women deserve this treatment

speak for yourself.

If you are a woman instead of an XY hiding behind a female monicker

Japhet04:
Pls guys I need your advice, I'm currently in a serious dilemma, I'm currently camping here in zamfara tsafe camp, I am unsure of whether or not I should stay, this state is predominantly dominated by hausa-fulani, will I succeed in business in this state? Or should I just redeploy to a state that I'm more acclimatized to in the south west or east? Is security an issue here as a southerner who cannot speak the language.

Pls I need speedy replies because I'm almost about to submit my medical report, is redeploying the right thing to do in this situation?

P.S I studied law, I have not gone for law school.

redeploy

Lamanii22:
I know best milk is the best and all but thing is I'm going to resume work.... Formula will have to fill in for me...

What of expressing?
Or using cup and spoon