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truthsayer009:
Berlin, spoke english a lot there and people communicated with me in english conveniently.

Yep, doesn't mean Berlin is English speaking. Berlin is multinational nothing more, definitely not English speaking

truthsayer009:
I don't know why you asked for only negatives but okay. For non-english speaking countries or cities: In germany, language is a barrier, while I was on the train I always had people stare at me in amusement, It was a non-english speaking area. I felt very uncomfortable most times.

In the UK it feels a lot better but they show sublte racism by not sitting close to you in a Bus, crossing over to the other side on the side ways in the night. Cost of living also depends if you are in the major city. Eating out is very expensive, you must know how to cook. Package delivery is terrible except for Amazon deliveries. So much depression in the winter because people hardly go out.
At the end, to me all this things are still minor.

Lol, there is no place in Germany that is English speaking.

Amb1045:
Expecting USA to sanction India soon.

That won't happen

1Sharon:
Both of you in a way since you're supposed to be a team. Where did she get the clothes or money to buy them from?
You said she loved to dress provocatively, so it's something you let slide for a while.


I understand it's not easy, as a 13 year old, she doesn't get it. As an adult, she probably gets it now, I do aswell. Think back to when you were 13, she thought she was grown because her curves were coming in. Young girls who were allowed to dress however and act however were the type to have boyfriends too early and get pregnant while still a teen.

Well the police seems to agree with you so they left, you're lucky it could have gone left, they could have kicked down the door accuse you of sexual assault.

Is the pic your daughter at 13?

I think U misunderstood the narrative. The police didn't leave cos they agreed with the mom. They left cos they didn't see what they could have done asper say na civil matter no be police matter. The little girl in question wasn't under any immediate danger more than freezing.
The other issue of how she got the money is easy. From the parents as pocket money

KanwuliaBaby:
Explain further please.
Highlight of whose parenting?
Na only me dey parent am? Im papa nor dey house?
Did you ever see me dress like an ashi on or off NL?

We don’t live in places like Ajegunle or “Banana Island” in this complex. This is a private residential area. We don’t have Alaye-Slayers roaming aimlessly around here in COBB COUNRRRRY!
Thank you!

Na for this kain neighborhood you wanno commit crime? You see anybarry dey waka with leg for hia? Before you reach here 50 neighbors don snap you with RING camera. CCTV nko? Plus where everyone is FREE to own a GUN? Kam try ya best luck!

Madam, this your comment is also uncalled for. I know people who grew up in Ajegunle, Munshi, Oshodi and it didn't affect their upbringing. Let's stop this stereotype.

1Sharon:
I'm sorry I'm your daughter is dressing provocatively at 13, isn't that a highlight of your parenting?

And what if she got raped while she was outside in just her underwear?

This you comment is way too low of U. But U say it cos U don't have a experience. Sorry but children learn things too from school, peer group and other means

Mindlog:
Nigerian parents who are convinced that hitting their children is part of nurturing them, are better off staying back in Nigeria where it is normalized and should not migrate to Countries that are strongly against such form of "disciplining" because those Countries' systems function without hitting children and we can't force them to accept the "Nigerian way'.....stay back in Nigeria, where childhood "brain resetting beatings" has produced Nigerian adults who are more respectful, more law-abiding, more hardworking, more empathetic, less tolerant of corrupt practices etc

I can assure you that Nigerian parents are not the only ones that discipline their children by using the cane or pain

KanwuliaExtra:
I personally went through a similar experience with one of my daughters.
She loved to dress provocatively at THIRTEEN!

One day she wore this::
I appealed to her nicely that it was 42 degrees outside and she had to change this outfit it I would drive her to school.

She refused and did not take her to school. I don’t know how she got to school.

When she returned, I told her she could not enter my house o. I RIPPED THE SKIRT OFF HER ARSE RIGHT THERE BY THE MAILBOX with only her UNDERWEAR on her and locked her OUT OF MY HOUSE. She stayed in the garage and told her she should only come in to use the bathroom.She called the police and told them I was freezing her outside.

OMO!


See SWAT TEAM for front of my house?

There were TEN of them in 6 police vehicles.
They told me I MUST LET HER INTO THE HOUSE. because it was too cold! I refused.
I told them it was her punishment for disobedience and she is locked out of my house for 4 hours.

I provided her with a space heater, some clothes, a pillow and blankets to SLEEP on the floor!

The police told me she had EVERY RIGHT to be inside the house. I told them to have me arrested if I was breaking any law.

The useless white cops left!
Imagine the embarrassment in front of ALL the neighbors? My husband was SPEECHLESS!

Madam, you guys are lucky it wasn't Ur husband mettling the punishment. The police may have handled it differently

Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

This is a non issue. Take madam outside house setting for the weekend and get Ur groove. MIL can take care of the children in those days U are away.
Verily Verily I say unto you. MIL would understand the jerk and run to her own house. Talking from experience, cos same advise I gave my cousin

teemac01:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7Owe-MxNu8

Thank you for the clip. It was educating, I had actually forgotten about that clip.
I still have another impression about the topic in question

Visasolution048:
If I talk now.. @drnoel go write long epistle for me...This is what I am talking about. Love and caring guy...

Na wah ooh. Your quoting my handle again, makes me wonder.
The thing I noticed if that you actually missed the whole point.
You can't use one for the other. So far you have commented on 3 topics while quoting my handle but all those topics are not related.
You can't use just 1 issue to judge a whole race of people or a whole gender. That action alone actually borders on bias.

For this topic itself. There are always bad eggs in a bunch. Besides Oga OP only told us his side of the story. There are two sides of coin to form a full story. We don't know what he might have put her thru or not. We can't judge based on his own side.
I won't say anymore here.

Visasolution048:
@drnoel
Come and give advice.....
Experience married man..

Lol, nobody knows it all and there is no wise old man.
But back to the topic in question.
There is no advice to give here cos you can't force a woman that wants to go to stay.
Go and listen to R. Kelly's song of the 90s "when a woman's fed up".
The lyrics of that song is your advice. It speaks the volume you need to listen to.
If you guys have kids then,.....live 4 your children.
Cos once madam has her leg halfway out the door.
Best you spare yourself the headache and heartache that would probably lead to early demise if you stop her.

teemac01:
but when trump warned them...them dey laugh am...lol...dem for still depend on russia.

Trump didn't warn anybody about anything. He was never a bone of Contention

Gentlerespect76:
Deliberately dashing one's feet against the stone, this is what EU leaders are doing by dreaming of boycotting or weaning themselves prematurely of Russian energy.

They have already started. Pls educate yourself before you jump into commenting.
They have attempted reducing dependence on Russian energy and still have more room for work.
Last checked their dependency on the following has been worked on as thus
Coal from 45% to 30 %
Diesel from 35% to 25%
Benzin from 30 % to 25%
Still lots of room for changes and time will tell

Visasolution048:
Na this avoidance of certain things wey una termed "ARCHAIC" na it make una marriages now no get definitions. With this archaic mentality, our fathers with nothing controlled and tamed our mothers.. Their marriages were successful... Because they created their boundaries as men..REAL MEN....

They had guts...Pussy nor dey control them...They know what a man is supposed to do...and they kept to that....

But the men with the sophisticated mentality done turn skirt finish...That's why una marriages these days nor dey last...

Can't you guys understand there is something wrong somewhere?? Una pattern of marriage is wrong... Create your boundaries as man...No be by taking plates or washing plates after eating makes you a caring husband...Live to your norms and standards...Archaic mentality...Yet una with the sophisticated mentality marriages now nor dey last past 2 years...

Pussies with dick everywhere...No wonder una go marry wife now...she go dey fvck around like prostitute...Una go marry wife wey go still dey share her number for social media...Men wey nor fit give stern rules...

Sophisticated..... In as much as una try..abnormal can never be normal..Una nor see how e dey show for the society..T...ARCHAIC mentality..

Pusssiiieeeeessss

Lol, a child has no say when adults are talking.
Our forefathers used to say and I quote, "what an elder sees and keeps quiet, a child would see and be screaming".
My young cousin who some time in the past got married came to the family meeting one day to complain to the elders about how his wife (newly married wife) had no respect for him and how unruly she was.
The elders in the meeting only asked him a few questions like this:
1) Does your wife greet you in the morning?
My cousin answered she does.
2) Does she still cook for you and you eat her food?
He said yes.
3) Does she refuse you sex?
He answered, she doesn't.
* Then one of my other cousins added, that the madam is even pregnant.
The elders refused his request of them visiting his house to settle anything cos there was nothing to settle as far and they were concerned.

To say the truth, I was also newly married then and I didn't understand that decision at that time. I asked my dad why they decided not to go cos the said woman was a spitfire, a torn in our flesh and we disliked her.
My dad only answered me then, and I quote "a new bride is like a fresh wine. It bites and unsettles the stomach but very sweet to drink. It takes time to get used to". I pressed him for more details and he refused to say more.
Your inexperience speaks volumes in your writing above. You can never understand it till you gain experience and for you to do that, you should have lived with a woman you have wedded for a few years.
Good luck

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

U can't force a woman to stay. Let her go if that is what she wants. This life is too short. Only love those that love you

Nova1988:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpW3yn0d0mE





I personally never in my life thought I would agree with Trump, but he's absolutely right.

Because we now see the outcome of those actions nothing more

Author267:
The west are losing it alreadyyy
The table is changing
Everybody eyes are opening
The earlier we know the truth the better it is for us
And what pains me most is Africans instead of us to unite and fight our common enemies we instead fight ourselves
We all need to wake up

This reminds me of one of our books
Africans in bondage
Its available on amazon

What the hell are U ranting

gaspology:
It's easier said than done. It's painful what Nigerian women turn to become once you take her abroad. Many men have committed suicide, murder owing to frustrations caused by these daughters of Eve. Better she is back here alive than come packaged in casket. She's crying because she's jobless upon being a pest

U need to be sure of your story before coming here to comment. If U follow those stories well, you will see the men ain't saints

Romanoff:
She's safe from breast cancer at least.

Probably why she cut them

iamogunlowo:
Man spends heavily for his side chick.



https://mobile.twitter.com/JustKingss/status/1503360294629826567

Lol, hilarious really.
The man na wise ass. He bought the million naira house for side chick and people are screeming.
Go and check the deeds to the house. Would probably be in his name so meaning, he bought the house for himself for his side chick. Major difference people

FloatingSeed:
Thanks chief. I've cut of communications for now and I won't get in touch until you reach out

Ofcos U meant until she reaches out. Me, I have done my part to advise you. Nothing more from my side for now

SeunWedsLinda:
you're a big fool. You lack in depth knowledge of the situation yet you bring up a foolish analogy to further consolidate your tomfoolery. GO AND READ! typical black man that never cares to read. Zelensky is a fool like you

Bow U bring the issue of Ipob to a clear discuss.
Too bad for you. The insults won't make you point and your ignorance is a pain.
Good luck with your stupidity

Exkandayee:
You're fuucckin ignorant doc... I've seen it many occasions with my fuucckin eyes so shut The Bleep up and use eyes listen

Thank you for your insults, though it won't make you right. I doubt I have seen any of such with you own eyes cos if you have, you won't be that ignorant about it.
Ofcos you can't compare what you may have seen in bestiality porns to what that video portrayed. They are not th samething.

seguno2:
They may not be illegal per se, maybe just that she is unaware of what she is entitled to in the European system.

Yes, true. You could also be right. Nigerian men tend to prefer keeping their women ignorant of the advantages they have with the system. One man once told me that if you let the woman know she will use it against you one day
You can imagine my surprise at the statement

FERNANDEZISBACK:
They all look cute..love their hair and outfit..
Simple and great..

Nothing special

EmmyBlogs:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nEWRNhXd0Fg

https://hgsmediaplus.com/2022/03/15/2-men-struggles-to-carry-plus-sized-lady-on-a-bike/

It's her dress. She wore the wrong dress for the bike ride

jerseyboy:
Igbo Amaka
Best of luck guys.

What does Igbo amaka have anything to do with the news in question?

MrHighSea:
Travelling to Abuja na money.
If they eventually return to Spain, the man go don relocate.

Na to start farming ASAP, if not to chop go be problem.

Lol, he can relocate all he wants. As long as he is in Spain, if he registers his new address. His location will pop up on the computer and he will be found. There is no place to escape to unless he doesn't register at his municipal, which by the way is illegal. He must register.
That story is fake, am surprised U people believe it.

wwwihy:
https://thenationonlineng.net/uk-suspends-student-work-visa-applications-in-nigeria/

The UK has never valued Nigeria

Kingpin1000:
Wake up from your slumber. The world is now divided, what you call mainstream media is now western propaganda and what you call fake news is eastern propaganda.

The fact that U didn't post your link shows that it's fake news or U are a Russian spy

seunny4lif:
Ukrainian Special forces said if he come to Ukraine, they will kill him yet Kadyrov not only came to Ukraine but he came to Kyiv and same day Russia special force killed 2 senior SBU officers

Are U sure this one is not propaganda? There is no news like this on all mainstream media and even in the other 3rd grade ones. Post Ur link so we can all get updated. It was Ukraine that killed 2 russian generals, senior military personnel in Putin's army